At the launch of my drunk captain phase, my wife had a potentially serious medical complication during her pregnancy, and she wanted to use a course of treatment that I thought was too risky and I was strongly opposed to. I insisted that she not go through with it, but she decided to anyways, and basically said 'fuck you, it's my body.' For purposes of this question, assume we are both professionals qualified to have a strong opinion in this area. I felt helpless and angry that my wife and child were being endangered, and there was nothing I could do- I had zero input.
I laid out the scientific evidence and argued hard, but never supported her emotionally. I realize that I was aggressive, and fragile when I should have been empathetically assertive. Also, it is her body, and I really didn't have any rights here culturally or legally, despite being the father. But is there anything I am missing about how I could have handled this type of situation better? I feel like the same dynamic keeps playing out in my life, and I keep making the same mistakes.