How to tell bro to move on from imaginary pussy

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May 16, 2020

My bro went on exchange and got a girl. Dope shit, he was travelling the continent and had pussy on demand. I was proud when he told me he almost had a threesome at the request of his girl.

Now he's back due to Covid and he's still in a "long distance relationship". One side of me really wants to tell him she just wanted to have fun with him while she was on exchange, do drugs and get loose. And that now that he is back its time to let go and focus on real pussy. But another side wants to let it play out and have him figure it out himself because I don't want to step boundaries.

I would go for the latter option 99% of the time but I really love the guy, he's a long time homie.

Can u teach someone the pill or does one have to find it himself?

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Title How to tell bro to move on from imaginary pussy
Author amphix339
Upvotes 110
Comments 41
Date 16 May 2020 09:39 AM UTC (11 months ago)
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[–]1DullIntroduction141 points142 points  (6 children) | Copy

You can't redpill people who do not want it. At best it will be ineffective, at worst it will backfire on you.

Lead by example, show that what you're doing is effective.

[–]y0ussefhesham48 points49 points  (2 children) | Copy

Can confirm. Tried to redpill blue pilled idiots, never fucking works.

[–]RP_utiliser51 points52 points  (1 child) | Copy

Makes u look autistic too

[–]jackandjill225 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

Best answer. I've literally watched dumhshit playout over a period of months with friends. & Then after it was over & done with my friend & I had a conversation in which then knew I was aware the entire time.

We almost always agree even if I told them they wouldn't have listened/payed attention. Not everyone can learn from second-hand experience. It's a skill, unfortunately.

[–]zeitdruck0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

How would you lead by example in this case?

[–]1DullIntroduction0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Having a well-adjusted life, and spin plates while people enter dysfunctional relationships, in this case LDR.

[–]DerpJungler33 points34 points  (2 children) | Copy

IMO, give him some space for now.

This may sound like pussy shit but I know for a fact that people crave attention, validation and most importantly, company, during a lockdown.

They might have some fun online chats which could be good for his mental health.

However, I'm assuming that it will take a long time before he sees her again, so the best possible solution for him is to seek for new prospects once he's able to go out again and keep or drop the "long-distance" thing.

OFC long-distance is a myth and there's like 0.0001% it works. But for now, having someone to talk to is not bad.

My advice would be to search for short-distance plates once hes able to go out.

[–]amphix339[S] 7 points8 points  (1 child) | Copy

Lockdowns lifted where we are

[–]LethalShade2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Where are you from?

[–]rosesmellikepoopoo13 points14 points  (0 children) | Copy

You can't teach him shit, he's gunna end up resenting you and looking at you as a misogynistic fag if you start forcing this shit at him, don't talk about the red pill. Ever.

[–]spartan_samurai7 points8 points  (1 child) | Copy

Some people need to burn their hands in the fire couple of times before they learn that playing with fire can be extremely dangerous.

[–]Noodlesoupe211 points12 points  (3 children) | Copy

Who cares? He can't get out and get pussy in quarantine anyways so why should he not have an ldr to pass the time?

[–]alphapple5 points6 points  (2 children) | Copy

I'm surprised you don't think people are going out regardless and smashing over tinder

[–]Noodlesoupe24 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

I’m sure they are but maybe OPs brother can handle not fucking for a month while a deadly virus is going around?

[–]Pluglord0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Tinder, social circles, social media.... The guys with game or smv will always have their share of play play.

[–]akihonj14 points15 points  (5 children) | Copy

You can tell him about red pill of course, but then you can also lead the horse to water.

The fact is this, you will be wasting your time and energy as long as he thinks it's all golden, he isn't going to listen to you or at best will just laugh and tell you how messed up your thinking is

Better to just tell him what you think and leave it there, tell him you think it was a fun thing for her, that's how some women are that she knew nothing was going to come of it and played him. That he can't or won't see it and move on is down to him.

Leave it settle, led the information sink in and work its way through him, in soon enough time he'll be coming back to you telling you how you were right, how he's such a fool to have not seen it first and how burned he is by it all.

At that point you can start red pilling him but only when he's ready to accept it, otherwise your just shouting at the wind.

[–]Aznarog12 points13 points  (4 children) | Copy

What is the first rule of the red pill?

[–]Epicoslander24 points25 points  (0 children) | Copy

You don't talk about the red pill

[–]rnsbrum10 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy

You don't talk about the red pill

[–]Ill_mumble_that2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Don't be a simp

[–]akihonj1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I don't know nor do I care, I know that men will only listen when they've sunk enough of their time and energy into a relationship that is going nowhere and been burned enough by their fantasies that they wake up or have a need to wake up and see the objective reality of the world.

[–]babybopp3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy


Not your business if he wants to swallow the blue pill.

[–]travlingsomewhere2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

Why are you worried about his dating life and plates? Focus on you.

When this is over he may be able to take a trip and have a girl to hook up with. Doesn’t sound bad to me.

I don’t understand why it’s bothering you so much. Best thing is just to let it play out.

[–]lovehighmusic0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

He said their long time homies, what’s wrong with wanting the best for your bro’s? It’s not wrong or beta to care about others that are close to you. Some of you take this sub too far and sound like straight up shit friends lmao

Not saying he should interfere but it’s okay to care

[–]travlingsomewhere0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

How is this wanting the best for your bro? Sounds to me this dude is low key jealous lol

I’m not saying it’s wrong or beta but If your friend is happy and has some pussy on lock across the world why not just let him have that. He may be planning to revisit. Seems kinda selfish to try to tell him “cut her off bro so we can go to the bar and get local chicks”.

I usually don’t even post on this sub cuz I think the same thing. Lots of kid here take it too far with the “tough love” shit but I felt like OP was getting in his friends business too much. Just my opinion.

[–]superomar133 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Let it play out. You can't really judge the girls intentions. Girls are fully reactive to the guy and for all you know, it may have STARTED as her having fun on exchange and getting loose, and turned into something much more intimate and passionate for her.

Obviously the long distance isn't going to work and she's MAYBE talking to other guys on the side too. But during this pandemic, it's nice to have something positive to look to when in quarantine. Whatever you tell him, he won't listen as his emotions are invested. Let it play out, let him get burned, and let him learn like a man.

Best thing you can do is after he gets burned, lead him towards the pimp life and away from cynicism.

[–]2319Skew3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Nothing beats experience

[–]IXseed2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Let him get dug.

You gotta go through some shit to learn some shit. If you try and come between it now you're just gonna come off like an asshole. Now, if/when he gets played and you told him he WILL remember that and will come to you next time shit hits the fan, but it's best to let friends fuck up and learn on their own when it's not gonna fuck em up to badly.

[–]Poopybuttholeman12 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Why can’t he have an LDR and local plates on the side here?

Sex means different things to men and women - act accordingly.

I have three girls in seperate countries who I talk to, one of which I consider an LTR or more accurately, LTR worthy, as I’m still letting her prove that to me.

Two girls that I can get with locally, and an ex I could call up if absolutely desperate.

Simply make him understand that sex is not what it is to men as it is to women.

Make him realise that sacrificing his local sex life is A) not going to do him any favours in getting her and B) is not something that he should feel bad about if he is genuinely interested in committing/commuting and dating her in the future as an LTR.

Or, let him realise the hard way

[–]theunconquored2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

"How to tell"

Tell him. You don't need internet strangers to figure out a way to open your mouth and say what you want to say.

Unless....theres a part of you thinking that it really isn't any of your fucking business. People need to come to this on their own.

I have two close guy friends who are very deep into the RP. One found it completely on his own and we realized it pretty quickly in the way we talked about women.

The other had a copy of "The Rational Male" anonymously left on the hood of his car, and a year later, seemed to be picking up steam.

Be an example.

[–]vileoat1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

It's none of your buisness, dude

[–]RivenHalf1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Why is it your business lol let him live his life. Stop thinking you have all the answers. You don't.

[–]dublinmeantime0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Not sure how to cross link, but read this. It is a general answer to your specific question.

[–]when_its_too_late0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Like Jesus asked the blind man what he wants, you can't give someone something they don't want.

[–]IBETITALL4200 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

i find it hard to be friends with blue pilled motherfuckers in the long run

[–]theredsperg0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

don't be the teacher to those who don't want teaching.
let them learn those lessons alone

[–]Senior EndorsedMattyAnon0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Can u teach someone the pill or does one have to find it himself?

He won't listen.....

If he DOES listen, you're the guy who killed his dream girl disney relationship only-chance-at-happiness and he'll always hate you.

Just nod and smile.

[–]Nergaal0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I think you can play the middle and say stuff like "are you sure she is what you think you need?" If you choose to do something, be VERY NONagressive about it. It's gonna backfire you VERY badly if you encounter any pushback.

[–]Meloxian0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

If it were me I’d give him shit for it until he gets the message, that doesn’t mean bully him, but occasionally give him some shit.

At the end of the day you can’t make a dude redpill though, so when he inevitably gets defensive just smirk, shrug and walk away. He’s gotta learn on his own.

[–]Livecrazyjoe0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Can u teach someone the pill or does one have to find it himself?

Give him ideas but dont preach. You cant force someone to believe how you believe. Give him some advice and let it play out.

[–]hatefulreason-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

he can be long distance for 1 month. after that, take him to the strip club, see how he behaves, if he wants to stay loyal to his LDR leave him be, if not, buy him a hooker

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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