I'm 42, had sex with a 20 yr old Sat, now ghosted

This is going to be long. I'm not going to pull any punches here.

We quickly developed a strong rapport and she was soon texting me and snapping me selfies all the time. This went on everyday all last week. At first they were quite innocent but gradually became sexier and sexier.

This wasn't here first game by a Longshot. Smooth operator detected.

She agrees and comes over about midnight.

All good so far.

She did the required "Ok but I'm not going to have sex with you" every female does which I just said that's fine.

Bit of a weak response, but whatever. Could do worse.

When these bitches act like they're the hottest shit since plutonium, never treat them like they're any kind of remotely hot shit.

"You're saying you're thinking about fucking me. Stop perving, FFS I just wanted a beer and some company."

The other option is to ignore this shit test completely.

Basically as soon as she gets there we start making out.

I think your push-pull game wasn't strong here.

You're not getting her to do things to qualify herself to you first. Nobody enjoys a competition where other people act like you being the champion and getting the prize is a foregone conclusion. What's the challenge in that?

Eventually all of our clothes are off except her thong. When I go to take that off she gives me a soft no.

She's getting bored and uncertain about your level of leadership, dominance, and abundance, because you're charging in, firing all cylinders. There's no polarity.

She suspects you might be basic. She suspects other women don't want to fuck you, which is why you're treating her like she's the best shit and following her around, instead of making her work harder for it.

But whatever, she's still horny, she came out here, and you look/smell OK physically, you're not a complete trainwreck so what the hell.

I just said ok lets go to bed then.

Improve how you deal with Last Minute Resistance. You need to freeze her out and go do something else for a bit.

Suggestion- just grin without a word, head out to the kitchen, grab another drink. Then sit down on the couch and say, "do a dance for me."

We start spooning to go to sleep and a while later she's backing up on me and ends up taking her underwear off herself and we have sex in basically every position imaginable.

Read "The Sex God Method" by Daniel Rose, if you haven't already.

Women want you to make them submit themselves to you mentally and emotionally. Nobody cares about what positions you're in.

I'm not seeing a lot of the former going on from your description, here.

You think it was great because you're personally getting your own fantasy fulfilled and your ego stroked just by the fact that you're boning a much younger, hotter woman than you're used to. So you just kind of acted like a kid at a fireworks show, not like the guy running the show.

I think she put on a brave show for you because most women have serious neuroses about a man not orgasming or losing his erection, once they agree to have sex. Why? I think that's because historically it's not completely unknown for guys to toss them off the bed, go apeshit, and kick the shit out of them in response to losing it. So they haven't forgotten a million years of evolutionary history.

But this doesn't mean she was having a great time at this point.

The next morning she gets up and leaves. I kiss her goodbye.

Acted a bit needy instead of playfully getting her to qualify herself more before she left. Train's going downhill pretty fast at this point. You're starting to get anxious about rejection, instead of saying, well that was fun, don't let the door hit you on the way out. Maybe call you again if I remember.

Life is good.

In hindsight it seems it definitely wasn't and she was eager to just grab her shit and GTFO at that point.

This is like you fucking a woman on a first date who turns out to be 10 years older and 20kg heavier than her photos and selfies she sent. Also has a whiny attitude and is fairly stupid. Yeah sure you'll bone if you have nothing better to do that night and you're horny enough. Then she tells you once you're both naked that she doesn't like blowjobs. You're not going to consider it your proudest moment. Definitely not going to ask for a second meeting if you have any self-respect as a man.

Here's where things go sideways.

Probably went sideways earlier that night when you didn't make her do things to earn your respect and affections, and your push-pull wasn't on point. Just my personal theory.

A few hours after she left I texted her and asked her if she was going back home or staying in town another night.

This was fairly bland, nonspecific, and lacked leadership. You're trying to fit yourself into her plans, not demanding she work around your busy schedule like a high value man. "Read, I'm boring and I planned nothing this entire weekend, on the off chance that you might come over to see me a second time."

I was going to try to hook up a second date. She simply replied with a short "IDK yet".

At this point, anything she says that's less than: "you want me to jump? OK how high?" should be construed as "hard pass."

The response to an I.O.D. like this is to message one of your other plates, or go do something to further your mission. Then hit her up a couple weeks later.

Acting like IODs are something that is at all worth investing attention in or pursuing, will only earn you a landslide of additional disinterest.

I said ok well if you stay in town you should come stay with me again

This is you treating her like the prize, chasing, after she had already given you a strong IOD which you seemed to completely not process at that point. You knew the words but you didn't understand the contextual language.

This shows aside from being ignorant of the situation you have a lack of other options besides her.

This is breaking one of the most basic TRP rules which is you should never be afraid to lose a woman, or at the very least never be afraid to disregard her for a few weeks and approach multiple others.

to which she replied "Probably not. I'll probably just stay with fuck my friend if I do". Because he's not needy.

Fixed that.

You made her spell it out for you in 1st grade English.

So now I'm like WTF

You've been a bit slow on the pickup since last night. See: kid at a fireworks show, afraid it's going to end soon.

The entire day she doesn't send me a single text or snap..the first day since I started talking to her she hasn't done so.

Oh my! You poor, lonely little boy. Whatever shall you do?

Something more productive than mentally masturbating about any single given woman's lack of interest, that's what.

So finally at 9pm I texted her "Are you ok? You've been pretty quiet today?"

You went full-retard needy.

Never go full-retard.

to which she responded with a simple "Yep" and that's all. I responded to that with "Are you sure? You seem pissed." to which she never replied.