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How having a good father helped me..

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PurpleLemon4de
August 13, 2020
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My father is a complete alpha male. He worked his ass off coming from a third world country riddled with civil war. It was so bad that at times he had to eat grass to survive. He came to America and got a scholarship, worked his way up a high position in a popular airline company. Needless to say, he knows how the world works and didn’t take shit from ANYONE. He is a gym rat who is tall and has a booming voice, if he talks you will sit down and listen. He has a keen eye for bullshit and is the reason why I already had a majority of these red pill concepts buried deep in my mind, he is an authoritative male who set an example for my life. If my grades were slipping, he would sit down and teach me the subjects himself. He forced me to join a sport since I was a child. I go to the gym with him on occasion and having good physique is now a priority because HE SET THE EXAMPLE. He’s the type of man who would drop my mom without blinking if there was any infidelity. No exceptions. Many times my mother would feed me bluepill nonsense about how you must be a nice guy and wait for a girl to come, my father overheard and shut it the fuck down. A lot the things I’ve read on this subreddit he had already taught me, I just couldn’t put it in words. Please, father your damn son. It’s a difference between a life of misery and one of happiness. The red pill is dying at an accelerated rate. Don’t abandon your sons, teach them the way of life and they’ll remember you forever.


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Title How having a good father helped me..
Author PurpleLemon4de
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Date 13 August 2020 11:58 PM UTC (6 months ago)
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[–]lovatoariana224 points225 points  (11 children) | Copy

Everybody needs a father like this

[–][deleted]  (10 children) | Copy

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[–]babybopp26 points27 points  (9 children) | Copy

Only country that I can think of is Zimbabwe. They were starving so much they ate grass and rats.

[–]disgruntledearthling16 points17 points  (2 children) | Copy

There are a few other African countries that might qualify. South Sudan for one. I has a gf from there - the whole family was affected in some way

[–]odaklanan_insan4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

It could very well be Syria.

Civil war? Check Hunger? Check Refugee? Check

Also, middle eastern people tend to be very smart so, it makes sense that his father climbed up the stairs in his new society quickly.

Not saying Westerners are any less smart but survival instincts can make an-already-smart man very competetive when they kick in.

[–]bindedbyhell2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Guys you dont have to be in fucking nigeria or zimbabwe to eat grass to survive im pretty sure anyone thats about to die from hunger will start munching down grass

[–]Gorillaz_Inc12 points13 points  (2 children) | Copy

That's what happens when you kick out all the productive white farmers.

[–]Ouroborross2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

There were none in south Sudan, it's riddled with strife due to tribalism.

It's me versus you because you're different then multiply that with race, religion, ethnicity, political idealogy, social class. Then multiple that with herd mentality.

It's how conflicts are bred and will continue to do so.

Thus the song "we didn't start the fire".

[–][deleted]  (2 children) | Copy

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[–]mickackou6 points7 points  (1 child) | Copy

When you got Nothing to eat, you sure find ways...

[–]TeamLitten133 points134 points  (39 children) | Copy

Well my father was a hard worker, it’s just he was in depression and died 4 years ago when I was 13. It’s been hard and I honestly don’t know how to function in this society sometimes. Be grateful man, I wish my father was happy and still here. I also really need help on how to be a man because I’m really struggling. Shit’s hard

[–]Keith_Valentine87 points88 points  (30 children) | Copy

Whats wrong bro? Youre here so you are already ahead of tons of people at a young age, thats a great start.

[–]TeamLitten25 points26 points  (27 children) | Copy

I’m hella drunk right now but I gotta be honest. I’m hella awkward and insecure about all kind of things. Before the party I’m at I thought all about how I’m so awkward and insecure and that no one would ever date me. I’ll respond back tomorrow when I’m not drunk

[–]_-resonance-_27 points28 points  (26 children) | Copy

sounds like you are drinking to fit in. save that for the bitches on your yacht.

don’t play society’s fucking “Life card” they are trying to hand you. Getting fucked up is part of that.

[–]TeamLitten3 points4 points  (25 children) | Copy

I know but I feel like I’ve fucked up a lot already. I’m pretty smart but I didn’t try hard enough in high school. Social interaction confuses me. I’m just a fuck up who’s drunk with my friend’s family. I feel like I’m such a fuck up atm. I could’ve done so much more in high school but I just didn’t. I’m a fuck up

[–]Logangon29 points30 points  (2 children) | Copy

Listen man, years ago I thought I’d never be “successful”/happy with life. I had a lot of problems and it took me a while to figure out what I wanted from life. I did shit in high school, got arrested after high school and was on probation for a year. Lost a lot of friends and eventually got some new ones. Worked shit barely above minimum wage jobs for years because no one would hire me. I never qualified for scholarships or anything, still drive a beater. I have a medical condition that has put me in the hospital 4 times. Man I’ve been broke as hell trying to pay for my medical bills, and probation/court costs. Took me years to pay all that shit off. Never had much guidance/help with anything, but that’s a good thing believe it or not. You learn a lot of lessons that way. Life is always gonna throw you a curve ball, and everyone fucks up along the way, it’s all about how you respond to your situation. You’re gonna have times in your life where nothing is going right and the odds are stacked against you. You can get through it, and it will make the good times that much better. Fuck the past, you are in control of your own future. What’s done is done. Come up with some goals, and work towards them. Find out what your version of “success” is, not necessarily what you think society or your family thinks. Times gonna go by no matter what you do, all I ask is that you do your best to improve your life. Don’t beat yourself up. I don’t know what you’re going through, good luck

[–]TeamLitten9 points10 points  (1 child) | Copy

Thank you for this man. I kind of feel embarrassed but also relieved at the same time that 95% of my drunk feelings, or whatever you call them, brought me here. I was just in a bad place last night. I’m always trying to get better and improve myself but sometimes that sadly causes me to become insecure in myself. I gotta work on that.

[–]_-resonance-_4 points5 points  (10 children) | Copy

oh, well at least you’ve got that stuff figured out, then.

[–]TeamLitten0 points1 point  (9 children) | Copy

Read my edit if you see it

[–]a_SaintOfSyn6 points7 points  (8 children) | Copy

I was kinda a fuck up too. I got only D's my senior year. Forreal tho you gotta stop drinking like that its not healthy. You're 17 you're still young. You can go to community college, find a career/degree you would enjoy and work your ass off and transfer, it's not too late. You also gotta find something you love do for fun either athletic or artistic. Added bonus if you can monetize a hobby. Build yourself up and confidence will come naturally. People start to come to you or at least become intrigued. It's gonna be hard. I know I am no position to understand/know how you feel but your struggle will mean nothing if you do not pick yourself up. Please find things to be positive about like friends and remaining family. Self-respect is key.

[–]TeamLitten2 points3 points  (7 children) | Copy

I’m probably gonna go to community college because I have no idea what I wanna do. Im at a 92.5/100 gpa which is about a 3.7 but I feel like I could’ve done better. I know it sound like I’m bragging but I’m really not. I focused too much on being social even though I’m still really bad at it. I wanted to be popular so bad but I know that doesn’t matter. I could’ve done so much more. Now I’m just in my feels and ready to go to sleep. I feel so alone atm

[–]a_SaintOfSyn5 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy

Take pride in that shit, that's a fantastic gpa. You can always do better but remember your situation can always become worse so use that to push yourself.

[–]WhiteGhosts5 points6 points  (2 children) | Copy

That's your mistake: wanting to be something else so much that you forgot who you are. Calm down you're young af. Life's a rollercoaster shit happens

[–]Keith_Valentine1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Duuuuuuude. Relax, its ok, youre super young. Plenty of time to figure shit out. Dont use negative self talk, if you arent on your own team, thats a problem.

Keep it simple.

[–]armenian_UwUcide4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

Hey, at least you’re not eating grass like OP’s father. Have some faith, keep trucking forward and look forward to the hard lessons that’ll give you that steel frame and mold you into a man.

Embrace your awkwardness until you’re socially influential. As long as you’re not dead, you have another day to look forward to. Keep going.

[–]TeamLitten1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

You’re right and thank you for this. I was in some weird drunk feels last night so I’m really happy that I ended up going online to you guys instead of embarrassing myself in front of others. I just gotta have faith that everything’s gonna work out, I just gotta keep moving

[–]Afraid of WomenCormandragon1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy

I know you posted this a bit ago, but there is hope and I wanna tell you why I think so.

I graduated high school and moved out of my parents house immediately. They were both alcoholics and I've been no contact since, I told them both not until they have an AA chip to show me and it's been 7 years.

I then got married at 19 because I was so fucking lonely I just had to feel something, and managed to find a decent looking girl who felt the same way. Obviously a recipe for disaster. I really was happy at first, but then that depression came back because women can't fill a hole (that's our job giggity) it's up to us to fill our own gaps and shortcomings. It's no wonder she asked for a divorce, I was a shadow of myself. I wasn't trying for anything and I didn't have any goals to strive for. I dropped out of college three separate times from ages 18-22. I couldn't focus.

For an entire year after the divorce I worked two full time jobs and drank myself to sleep every night. I buried myself so I didn't have to feel, and it didn't help.

Then one day I realized, I was fucking depressed. Never thought I had depression, but I took some quizzes and talked to a Dr. and yeah it was pretty bad. I thought well I'm making good money, I live in a good house, I'm a good looking guy, why the fuck am I depressed?

It was because I didn't have a purpose. Our bodies and minds are smart, if you don't need to do something then our base instincts are to not do it and conserve energy. Then, once you procrastinate or avoid something it reinforces the stigma in your brain that it is a bad thing and is to be avoided - making the anxiety and depression worse.

Now I'm 25, I've been divorced 3 years and I'm 2 semesters away from finishing my Bachelor's. I work full time to support myself while going to classes full-time double majoring in Math and Computer Science. The trick is to pick a thing, any thing that has any element of challenge to it. Do it.

Is it hard? Good. - Jocko Willinks

By doing something challenging it shows your mind and shows yourself that you are strong and capable. It doesn't matter what level you start at. It can be to take a walk around the block every morning, write a page in a journal every day, draw one thing every day, anything! Also never make the mistake of thinking a step isn't worth your time. ANY step forward towards anything is better than staying in one place.

The second law of thermodynamics talks about entropy. Entropy is a concept that all order in this universe, without some input of energy to maintain it, will descend to chaos. This is true EVERYWHERE in our universe, and is why the universe will eventually die billions of years down the road. How can you add energy into a system that includes everything to reduce the decay? But more importantly it applies to every bit of human interaction. If you aren't moving forward, the world is and leaving you behind. Don't find a purpose, create one for yourself because the world is literally a giant playground and you can do what you want.

[–]TeamLitten0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

At this very moment I have no idea what I want or what I wanna do. Which I know is completely fine since I still have 1 more year of high school and then I’m going to community college. I also liked what you said about challenging yourself. It reminded me of working out and how I’ve finally gotten to the point where I can flip a 450 lbs. tire multiple times while only weighing 140lbs. I also love writing but haven’t gotten an idea of what to write about yet. At the time of writing that whole comment I was a sad, very drunk, mess. I’m better now, thanks for reminding me that hope is always there

Edit: though I also want to mention that I can’t exactly get Nofap right. That shit is really my only addiction

[–]Afraid of WomenCormandragon1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

There's a good challenge I've heard that might be worth trying: https://www.chriswinfield.com/morning-pages/

I'm glad you're feeling in a better headspace man. Honestly not knowing what you want to do is okay, nobody ever knows what they want to do. You just have to constantly take a step forward in any direction other than back or you'll lose yourself to depression. If you haven't yet, I highly recommend checking out Dr. Jordan Peterson on YouTube. Joe Rogan did some really good in-depth interviews with him if you want to get a quick deep dive

[–]TeamLitten0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

That challenge sounds interesting, and yeah I’ll check the interviews out

[–]Schultzie980 points1 point  (4 children) | Copy

Wasted high school? Go to community college the first two years, kill it with a 4.0 and transfer into a great college with an awesome scholarship. You're already unsatisfied with where you're at, and it's good that you're recognizing this so young. Time to figure out what your path is

[–]TeamLitten0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy

That’s actually my plan since I’m still undecided. You see I’m not bad at school by any means. I have around a 3.7-3.8 so I’m doing pretty good. However, not to brag but I got that by sleeping through classes, minimal studying, and sometimes even cheating. I know for a fact that I could’ve done way better if I wasn’t lazy and I actually put in the effort

[–]Schultzie981 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

You sound very much like me. I graduated with about a 3.8 gpa in high school while putting basically 0 effort.

I had a very bad teacher for an honors algebra class during my sophomore year. 33% of the class failed so I pretty much gave up since I was so far behind. Retook it as a 6 week summer class at a different school and put in effort that I'd never put in before. I ended up being about a week ahead of where the rest of the class was and completely aced it.

Unfortunately, I didn't learn the lesson and continued with minimal effort for the rest of high school and college. I only now have that drive again, going into my last year of college.

If you know for a fact that you could way better, challenge yourself to see just how well you can do.

[–]TeamLitten0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Dude I had the same exact experience for honors algebra sophomore year. My teacher was the actually devil. It was the only class I ever got a D in. She would constantly belittle me, call me an idiot/stupid/etc. I usually try not to hate anyone, but that woman can burn in the pits of hell. You’re right though, I wanna see how far I can go if I put in max effort. Also, good luck on your last year in college

[–]Schultzie980 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Haha that sucks man. My dad had to come in for a parent-teacher meeting since I was failing. This teacher actually graded the homework instead of if you're doing it which was the first time that happened for a math class I took. So she basically told my dad I wasn't doing my homework. I was, I just had no clue what the fuck was going on lol. Had like a 20% on every homework assignment which tanked my grade further.

Good luck with your stuff too

[–]TeamLitten1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

A lot of things are wrong. I honestly really just wanna cry and let it all out right now. I’m awkward, scared, and not good at all. My social skills are bad, I’ve never even been close to talking with a girl romantically. At least I have a good group of bros. Anyway, I just feel lost and damaged in a way

[–]TeamLitten0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I think I just feel very alone on the inside

[–]olKoozii28 points29 points  (1 child) | Copy

Sorry for your loss, brother.

I’ve been re-reading “King, Warrior, Magician, and Lover”- today i remember reading about how a man.. “is in control of his realm, he has inner consistency, calmness, he is stern with a gentle hand, compassionate, yet directive..”

Hope this helps a little, be well.

[–]TeamLitten2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Thank you bro, I’ll respond to you more tomorrow because I’m hella drunk right now

[–]jbg7182 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

My father died when I was 17 now it’s been almost 11 years he was also depressed I always wished I had someone to teach me how to be a man my father was Ana lohanale before depression and alcoholism took his life over until it killed him I have no family and the little family I have turned their back on my mother and I not sure why. Hopefully you have someone you can go to to look up to but this sub has really helped me learn a lot of lessons on how to be a man along with my own mistakes

[–]PrometheusRisesIN4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

If it's some help to you read "The Way of Superior Man". Atleast you will have a sense of how to become a man.

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[–]TeamLitten1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

Thank you man. I apologize about everything last night. I was in my drunk feels so I’m happy I came here instead of making a fool out of myself in front of other people in real life. I do have a lot of uncle’s and cousins so I’ll try hanging out with them more. I’ll remember to not be a pussy and I’ll keep pushing forward with my mind in academics and my body in exercising. Thank you

[–]NotExcited1221 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Hey man, I know how it is to feel socially off. I once took a test that caused me to sit down and study for 4 months and I barely talked to anyone during it. Afterwards I had to think about social interactions, it didn’t come naturally anymore. Whoever you can talk to, just do it. You will only get better thru practice, talk to your family about stupid shit if needed.

[–]swaggyquack55 points56 points  (2 children) | Copy

dudes without good fathers tend to be lazy

[–]kittenluver28 points29 points  (0 children) | Copy

I’ve had a huge issue with being lazy growing up, can confirm

[–]Standgrounding14 points15 points  (0 children) | Copy

This. Confirming from experience

[–]HanzoKC41 points42 points  (0 children) | Copy

My father is the same. Immigrant from 3rd world. Came to the states for a better life. He set the example for hard work for me. However he never was one to gym, workout, or at least follow a diet. Maybe other things where a priority.

I wouldn’t say my father is an alpha. But he is a good father.

[–]seedster578 points79 points  (3 children) | Copy

Majority of white American males are beta because white women have them wrapped around their fingers. I come from a non European background and half the advice here dealing with women was common sense to me growing up. Boys and girls are totally different.

[–]KingOfPomerania15 points16 points  (1 child) | Copy

White women have them wrapped around their fingers because the guys let them. I'm British and "happy wife, happy life" is definitely the prevailing motto around here too. I'm lucky that I too am from a non-European background which is a lot more red pilled on gender. Men know what makes a man and what makes him attractive and do it, rather than taking the approach of "submit to your woman/all women in the hope that it will get you laid (spoiler: it doesn't!)".

[–]seedster53 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Dont you date utter those words out loud. Some social justice warrior will be at your throat.

[–][deleted] 38 points39 points  (0 children) | Copy

Damn sounds like a massive advantage. My dad is an emotional, self-victimizing alcoholic, leaving my mom to be the decision maker, strong, emotionless figure in my house, which in turn left me completely confused. I had no guide despite having a male in the house. I was a porn-addicted, instant gratifying pussy before TRP. Still have a lot to learn and incorporate but Im getting there. Definitely starting to love the journey and taking personal accountability, becoming emotionally solid and ignoring these hoes who dont deserve it.

[–]ias1858 points59 points  (4 children) | Copy

I am an immigrant coming from a third world country and working my ass off. Hopefully, other things will follow as to what your dad has become. It's a great thing to have such a role model to look up to!

[–]-Acta-Non-Verba-36 points37 points  (3 children) | Copy

I am, and I did. I now have a Masters in Engineering, and two handsome, smart little boys that I parent actively. We acually just got back from soccer.

You will have to work hard. Some years will be rough. But it will be worth it.

[–]ias1812 points13 points  (2 children) | Copy

Thanks for the heads up. Funny thing is that my defense is in 8 days, and I will be getting my Masters in Engineering. The last two years haven't been the most pleasant or easy in any way, but I am embracing the grind.

I am glad you achieved what you've been looking for.

[–]-Acta-Non-Verba-4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

Congrats! What area? I did Nuclear.

[–]Keith_Valentine15 points16 points  (0 children) | Copy

I was thinking the other day, its ironic that solid rp men can make great fathers but are far less likely to have children. That cooks my noodle a bit.

My dad was straight alpha with no reading or trying required, hes just a big, tough mother fucker. Back in the day he had a bad tooth and he had his buddy rip it out with pliers when he was drunk, broke the tooth and it got all fucked up. He was wild, then my mom slowly whittled him down over the years. Good in some ways, bad in some.

[–]mynameisTrashman76 points77 points  (2 children) | Copy

Being an alpha male is not enough for being a good father.

You also need to be a parent, be there for your son, teach him and lead him through life, give him validation and courage. In my opinion at least.

[–]ByakkoVN18 points19 points  (1 child) | Copy

OP said his father is an alpha male AND a parent.

[–]mynameisTrashman8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yeah not trying to contradict his words. I am just point this out based on my experience.

[–]IndianaBW12 points13 points  (0 children) | Copy

Nothing brings me more of a genuine smile than seeing a father genuinely engaged with his son out in public - at a park together, grocery store, tossing the ball. The value of this relationship in a child and young man's life can not have a price tag put on it.

A bit discouraging that's basic fatherhood is an honorable virtue these days, but.

[–]zino19313 points14 points  (2 children) | Copy

Please, father your damn son. It’s a difference between a life of misery and one of happiness.

Father yourself first. If you are a weak man, a man filled with pain, trapped in his life- your son will see it and know - this is not a life worth living.

The red pill was killed by boomers - a generation of entitled arseholes that took the title of head of the household and shat on it. Expecting respect without being respectful. Expecting results while not achieving nothing in their life. They were the first of the decline. A generation that rode the state into the ground - setting expectation of what the state has to do, and how little responsability the average person can get away with. Gen X just amplified that and millenials just finalized the process.

[–]solor845 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy

So those alpha males among millenials, that actually used their hardship and grow in all aspects of their lives, are being preferred by all women. It is up to alpha millenials to choose quality women that deserve them and set the example for the rest. Hardship make you a real man. Overcome it and the world will give you anything you want. Cry about it or find shortcuts and you'll live an easy and unhappy life.

[–]zino1931 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Why? Why owe anything to a society that didn't and still doesn't have a place for you?

I personally make sure to not pay anything into the system - Gen xs need to reep the poverty of the system they pushed all their lifes. I have developing countries where to grow my kids. Countries that apreciate capitalism, that appreciate hard work and that appreciate men settling down, and growing roots in a comunity.

The simple fact that in the west, you have local politicians and media encouraging looters to destroy your property and steal makes those societies are insane. And the fact that there were's 200 000 people in each of the protesting cities absolutely crushing BLM the next day - means those societies are dead and deserve their fate. If you are a father living in the US now, and don't plan on moving your family - you deserve everything you get and what happens to your son/daughter. You are not protecting them, you are not offering them a future, you are just a fool thinking you have any say in your political system

[–]krayono7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

My father is a beta cuck. Only recently have I learned how to “man up.”

[–]mighty_object8 points9 points  (2 children) | Copy

My dad divorced my mom, but didn't do it gracefully at all. Lot's of fighting when i was a young teen. He then fed me with his hatred & guilt for years afterwards. I hate him for that. But I am on my own path now

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Curious, How was it not conducted gracefully

[–]mighty_object3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

After they divorced they fought a lot and blamed each other in front of us (me and sis), and dad moved away (he first cheated and latter married a coworker). He left me with an emotionally wrecked mom and sister. He kept regurarly coming to the house because of the guilt, but they kept on fighting. I was 12 when they divorced. As i mature, i realize that his actions (and moms) contributed to a whole lot of my suffering, and it's very difficult to let go of the blame and anger sometimes. Kids should not be seeing those scenes, there is no excuse

[–]ThatNights5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

Same, I'm only 16 but honestly half of my success(age wise) up until now wouldnt have been possible if my dad wasnt a good example to me, my dad and to little extent my late uncle, raised in the countryside of a shithole 3rd world country he worked hard and brought their siblings and parents from poverty to being financially comfortable, he was the first of his 6 siblings to go to college and later paid for the education of the rest after he started working, Plus hes alpha as fuck, Teached me lots of stuff but I think the best thing he did was enforce the "winner" mentality, onto me and my brother, thanks pops.

[–]adomuzas3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

My father is "red pill" except when things got worse he couldn't control himself and took it out on me. I grew up being scared of authority. 8 years after I left, I can still feel the effects subconciously, lack of frame, trying to be invisible in groups, depression. My brother is much younger than me and he is still with him. It makes me so angry seeing him going same path as me. Scared of simple things like putting the TV remote in the wrong place. All I can do now is change myself and set the example for my brother so when he becomes an adult I can teach him true values of a man.

[–]Ash_thearcher5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

Things have become too unbalanced from how they used to be in the nuclear family. Your dad being a hardass was a given, so the mother saying “be nice...” was to balance out the scale. Just hearing her say it by herself doesn’t make sense, but in the context of the parental package deal, it was crucial. Your father teaches you how to be a strong confident man, and your mother’s job is to add “but be a good person and don’t be a complete asshole” into the mix.

However, for many of us with either soft fathers or no fathers at all, the mother is still teaching the same lesson that it is her natural responsibility to teach. It’s just that the strong father is missing, so it’s a one-sided, broken record of a lesson in parenting. Whereas in the past, the “be nice” lesson for mom was crucial to being a civilized human capable of participating in society, nowadays without fathers, it’s the only lesson we get.

[–]NeverLace4 points5 points  (2 children) | Copy

Men need patriarchs to look up to. Women need matriarchs to look up to. Glad youve found yours.

[–]TheMF-J1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

I think women desperately need fathers, too. Father figures provide entirely different support than Mothers do. Mothers love is unconditional. Father’s love is earned through quality time/bonding

[–]notadaddy7 points8 points  (1 child) | Copy

The first memories I have of my parents is my dad beating my mom, as I got a lil older then me, then my brothers and sisters whenever he would get mad, and my mom would take it out on us when dad was gone...And mom was a religious nut making me praise Jesus while me and my siblings were raised by terrorists...so god damn if I can’t believe what I just read really exists.

[–]Odd_String2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Get some therapy. Your old man was a bad example of men using their God given strength productively.

[–]Apocalyptic_Aykrix3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy

My dad is totally feminine delta, I had no father figure when I was a kid, I was weird, insecure, fat ass nerd and dweeb until 16 I got into NoFap and Red Pill stuffs.

Many of the online masculine figures were my father figures: Elliott Hulse, Victor Pride, ...

Now I am 18 and I has pretty much transformed into a new guy, who often holds his alpha mentality anywhere I go and continue to push himself shatter through these fucking layers of modern slavery system.

I has learned to live life without too much attachments, having more knowledge, and learned to pull some girls, been improving my physique and health and implementing new practices that lead me towards my goals constantly. I am very happy.

Hence, you were lucky for having an alpha father like that. I am grateful for you.

[–]-Anon13-3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Your journey is only beginning.

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[–]Gorillaz_Inc2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

Are you sure he is your true biological father? Remember: Mama's Baby, Daddy's Maybe.

[–]RedGille3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy

probably no accident that your father was not born in the West.

the rest of us, not so lucky.

[–]PurpleLemon4de[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I’m thankful for that, he’s been through more in life than anyone I know, and yet would never dare make any excuses for not being successful

[–]ToraChan234 points5 points  (3 children) | Copy

Many times my mother would feed me bluepill nonsense about how you must be a nice guy and wait for a girl to come

What I don't understand is why women give advice that go directly contrary to the reality that even THEY lived through.

Given how you described your father, I guarantee that he didn't use this advice to get your mom, and she knows this... yet gives you this bullshit advice ANYWAY knowing that the opposite approach worked to get HER.

Does she think the way your father got her was invalid, or wrong? If she thinks that way, then SHE is the fucked up person in that equation for responding positively to an approach she thinks is wrong/invalid. If she doesn't think your father's approach was wrong/invalid, what is her motive for giving advice opposite to what she knows works?

[–]TheMF-J4 points5 points  (2 children) | Copy

They think more along the lines of like “just because I was wooed by “””all the wrong things””” in my husband doesn’t mean my daughter doesn’t deserve better”.

Not realizing that all those very masculine traits were exactly what she was biologically attracted to. People usually want what they think is best for their kids, not what their kids actually want

[–]ToraChan232 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

Not realizing that all those very masculine traits were exactly what she was biologically attracted to.

Exactly. Which is why I don't understand their inclination to label the things they were attracted to "all the wrong things".

It is extremely telling that she knew what worked on her, yet tells her son the opposite and believes in her mind that this is what would be the best for her son.

[–]Endorsed ContributorSKRedPill1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I don't think they do this consciously. I believe it's because their emotional ROM can only think, perceive and act like a woman in the matter of relationships. Plus the maternal ROM is by nature designed to act as the exact opposite of sexual ROM, while subconsciously competing for attention with the other woman in her son's life. Maybe there's also a subconscious protective instinct to stop her child from having sex before he's old enough to have outgrown her. A mother is always tossed between the need for her son to be her good little boy while the other side of her wishes he'd man up. I also speculate that this is her inherent betaization tendency at work.

When it's not all this, it's a massive cognitive clash between her logical conscious mind, social feel good apparently logical statements and her unconscious instinct.

Very often it's all these happening at once (the emotional mind can parallel feel, unlike the thinking mind which is linear).

Or to put it simply, a woman's head and her body are two different objects.

When you pay attention to what they say, all women feed Blue pills most of the time. But their behaviours are seldom anything but redpilled (they get oneitis badly too, but leaving that...).

[–]dorballom092 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

+++++ this.

I got a father who held a high post within government but didnt taught me shit. Left our family to marry his second wife. Our relation was mainly about monthly money and once in a while visit/phone call. Me and me brother didnt had a strong father figure in out life. We had to learn a lot of boy stuffs by ourselves. So nowdays whenever Im with some younger cousin, I try my best to be friendly with them. So that they know they have a big brother they can talk to, ask help for if they fk up or in danger in anyways.

[–]Endorsed ContributorSKRedPill2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Mothers can't teach sons on being authentically masculine. It's just not written in their firmware.

Time and again all women as a rule, do exactly this.

But it also goes to show that men are only forged by going far beyond their comfort zone.

[–]Sallac1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

I'm starting to think with the lack of good father figures, men could do with a "finishing school" that teaches them RP stuff. I mean we have this forum and other online resources, but learning from that is much harder then learning from example like you did. Someone like you could consider making a career out of turning boys into men.

[–]TheMF-J0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Sign up for Big Brother initiatives where you live, guys. Best way to help young fatherless men

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

A strong father figure is important. I strive to be like him

[–]devil3631 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I wish i had a father like this. My father was a deadbeat loser and my mom took me and fucked off when i was young. Being raised by a single mom wqs rough, no male figure in my life to teqch me how to be a man. I still have daddy issues to this day even though ive adopted the red pill mindset.

Anyway, if you’re going to father a child, make sure you are going to fight tooth and nail to be there to actually fucking father him/her, or dont fucking bother bringing the child into this world.

[–]3deddie1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Wish I had a dad like this. Instead of some "the place isn't clean in this corner of the room so need are some beatings". Fuck that nigger. Hope he gets in a car crash with great 0partial recovery soon.

[–]PurpleLemon4de[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

edit the n word out before this sub gets banned 👀

[–]bandraboyz0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

The best thing TRP teaches you is NOT how to get girls but how to be a leader.

[–]SH4TPOSTER0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I already have a father like this, and we have had similar circumstances happen to both of us, I understand what you mean

[–]jlwip0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Elliott Hulse, is that you?

[–]grg10320 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

The number one socio-economic factor that has the biggest impact on future success (e.g. graduating college, having a good career, good/healthy life) is having a two parent household.

[–]cafeitalia0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Not only sons but daughters as well. A dad has to teach to all their children the cores of life and make sure they are strong, don't take bullshit from anybody and not blue pilled.

[–]shredgnarrr0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

3rd Generation Italian American and damn proud of what my ancestors did

[–]orangevoodoo0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I have a hard time internalizing a lot of these red pill ideas as I never had a father or any type of male figure in my life growing up. It's fucked me up a lot. I'm slowly starting to see the RP light and modify my life, but damn having a strong male role model would have helped my life a lot.

[–]roxroxane0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

You are really a lucky guy to have a father like that, I have an example just the opposite, my father always taught me to put women on a pedestal and that they are the weaker sex and we should never face them, however, from experience I saw that this is not exactly how women work, until I met TRP that I became what I am today, I am forever grateful!

[–]mgtowthroww0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Too bad mothers are trying to prevent kids from seeing their father's by making false allegations

[–]Ahrny0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

You know what's horrible now? There are women who would always try to stop this at all cost.

[–]jewishsupremacist88-1 points0 points  (1 child) | Copy

boomer men are the worst. most of these guys had easy lives and didnt have to deal with the nonsense we have to deal with

[–]-Anon13-13 points14 points  (0 children) | Copy

Do yourself a favor and erase your victimhood mentality.

[–]ReyneWoods-1 points0 points  (2 children) | Copy

Curious to note you are a self-proclaimed psychopath who seeks therapy. I'd be careful with making your dad's opinions into dogmas.

[–]PurpleLemon4de[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Bet you get off on lookin through profiles. Gets ya real hard doesn’t it

[–]BitsAndBobs304-3 points-2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Your father is a human-cow hybrid that can digest plant fiber unlike humans?

[–]TheMF-J2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

We can digest plants just fine. But unlike cuisine vegetables, grass has virtually no nutrients. Calories we can’t access, no nutrients, no point.

Probably better in the short term than starving to death if you’re fighting for your life escaping war, though. My grandma ate flowers and potato peels from dumpsters while running from the Russians. It ain’t spinach but it’s something



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