I was falsely accused of rape on March 2019 after a ONS in February 2019. (3 weeks later after we had sex)
Met her at a University party. She was 22/23 I was 19. She had cuts on her arms. She was actually kinda cute, a little chubby and was pleasant.
Bought her a drink some time later, we divided to walk back to her place. Went to her place, had sex once and then took a Uber home.
red flags I missed:
- cuts on her arms. Big and deep. Overlooked them. 2)before she left, she was very intense with her friends. Almost like she was arguing.
- texted her- “had a great night last night” she never responded back.
Me and her kept chatting. A girl I fucked messaged me about her possibly having chlamydia. I messaged all the girls around that time I was sexually active with (3 or 4). All of them said thank you.
This girl didn’t. She kept pestering me with the results. I told her it takes 2 weeks. Later that night she sends me a message “why did you remove the condom the second time”.
In the morning police come to my place. My mother is crying. UK police tell me I’ve been falsely accused of rape. Wait 4 hours in the cell. After being interviewed, the woman asks me if I removed the condom during sex the second time. I never did. I never had sex with her the second time. Only had sex once and put the condom half way through.
My life was ruined. University decided to place campus restrictions on me. Can only be on eight from 9am to 9pm. The university councillor (fuck him) treated me like I really rapped her. Made me feel awful. I really hated it.
Her friends know about me. I see them sometimes around campus. I feel weird. Almost like an outcast. I feel like I don’t deserve to be there.
My parents treated me shitty also in the beginning. They treated me like I did something wrong. A friend of mine hates me now after he found out. Won’t talk to me anymore.
She kinda ruined my life. I really can’t be with girls anymore. I’m 20 atm about to finish my second year and have plans to be a charted accountant (CPA for u American folk).
I didn’t know it would be this bad. Nothing happened after the police station. No charges pressed. Except psych charges.
Almost think about what I could have done different. Almost reevaluating everything. Even one year later.
Maybe she had a boyfriend? Maybe I fucked her badly? Maybe I am a bad person... I honestly don’t know what to think anymore. I am kinda fucked.
It’s been one year. I have gotten better. Won’t have to see her around next year (my final year)- she graduated.
Furthermore I also think she got her friend to accuse me of harassing an underage girl in the shop. Really got to me. Campus security (not police) treated me quite badly. Asked me to give them my name, said no. Idk if they knew I studied there. Went there the next day to explain my situation. He said he already filed the report and “wouldn’t worry too much if I was you”.
And here we have it boys. Still fucked. Still in my head. I have no frame anymore. Always second guessing myself. People made me think it was my fault.
I dated a few cutters before, never knew they would fucking accuse me of rape.
For the record, I’m decently looking. Fairly handsome. Keep in good shape. No model or anything.
TL:TR/ FALSLY ACCUSED AT THE AGE OF 19 OF RAPE BY A GIRL AND HER LIES. WHAT CAN I DO TO MOVE ON? ITS BEEN OVER ONE YEAR, CANT TRUST ANY FEMALE