Had been on three dates with a 29M, seemingly HVM, stable job, the works. I said I was looking for a serious relationship, he fed it right back to me. On the third date, he tried to get me to come back to his house. I politely refused, and he put up a huge fuss. He made physical moves on me in his car, started feeling me up, and I shot him down firmly, saying I wasn't interested in hooking up. He said he really wanted to have sex that night to "see if we were sexually compatible." I said I wasn't interested in having casual sex and reaffirmed that I was looking to date more seriously.

This dude lays it on thick. Says he is also looking to date seriously but wanted to "enjoy the experience" and "ensure we were a good match in bed" and that "how could we be sure we were a match without seeing our chemistry?" I said that it was nice, but that nothing he could say would change my mind and that I wasn't going to have sex with him tonight. He asked if I would have sex with him the next time, and I said honestly, I take a long time to warm up and I would only do so when I felt comfortable. He continued to try to convince me right up until he dropped me off, saying that "I could trust him."

Yesterday, I received a text from him, essentially explaining he has been dating another woman who he has discovered he has a "better connection with and is more sexually confident" and was going to choose her since "he wasn't sure if we were compatible or not yet," and that he "hoped I understood that he didn't want to date two women at the same time for a long period of time."

Right. So he wanted to sexually sample us like Baskin Robins, pick his favourite one in bed and make his choice based on that. He didn't even try to get to know me as a person before getting in my pants- so much for connection! The other poor lass probably hasn't a clue. Ladies, this is why you vet- they'll say ANYTHING to bang you!