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Growing mature as a gay man

by vorgriff | May 27, 2020 | altTRP

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Not sure how active this sub is but stumbled upon alttrp after feeling like so much of trp can be generalized to the gay world too. As a 41 yo I'm just now getting to a place where I am interacting with dates with a more mature mindsets. Meaning, not spinning as many plates, not disillusioning myself into thinking a plate is gonna be a special part of my life. Also, making emotional space to actually have something real with a deserving guy. It's a lonely thing if I don't focus on my interests, but really investing in myself because I want a different mind, has been a good motivator, whereas before it was so I could have the best hookups. Physically, i'm in some of the best shape of my life. Finding more plates is easy, but being my own garden and encountering someone of worth to feed from it, has been what I've lacked and craved. It's a cool ride tho. Just wanted to share. Anyone feel me?


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Title Growing mature as a gay man
Author vorgriff
Upvotes 5
Comments 3
Date 27 May 2020 10:53 AM UTC (2 months ago)
Subreddit altTRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/668031
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/altTRP/comments/grhjh6/growing_mature_as_a_gay_man/
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[–]secaedelcielo1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

I get it. I'm not physically fit lol, but the other stuff resonates. I'm turning 30 in a few months and I can't get away from guys who claim to want something stable, yet truly want FWB and are too ashamed or too stupid to admit love isn't at the forefront for them. My last boyfriend was hyper sexual and it was so boring. It was hard to do anything I wanted because everything boiled down to his selfish needs. If I could find a partner more on my level, it would be great. Alas…

[–]vorgriff[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Indeed. the FWB have their place indeed, but when I want more...they don't cut it. Can't expect a goldfish to climb a tree

[–]shannondoah_gaynsfw0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

It's interesting to see how stability focused this place is...I asked around elsewhere about my predicament (was afraid that I was going to remain lonely forever etc) and then they told that get a career+fitness+a stable place to stay (where I am from and in my particular situation) 26 years is too young for it.



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