Not sure how active this sub is but stumbled upon alttrp after feeling like so much of trp can be generalized to the gay world too. As a 41 yo I'm just now getting to a place where I am interacting with dates with a more mature mindsets. Meaning, not spinning as many plates, not disillusioning myself into thinking a plate is gonna be a special part of my life. Also, making emotional space to actually have something real with a deserving guy. It's a lonely thing if I don't focus on my interests, but really investing in myself because I want a different mind, has been a good motivator, whereas before it was so I could have the best hookups. Physically, i'm in some of the best shape of my life. Finding more plates is easy, but being my own garden and encountering someone of worth to feed from it, has been what I've lacked and craved. It's a cool ride tho. Just wanted to share. Anyone feel me?