How to win friends and influence people - finding a balance

bruiser18 · 2020-06-02T22:50:45+00:00

That book is trash, I would not recommend it. It's good if you want to learn how to be a manipulative sycophant.

The problem with it is that it is written from the viewpoint that others are the prize, not you. When dealing with women, you are the prize, not them.

Noodlesoupe2 · 2020-06-02T22:54:42+00:00

It’s good for getting people to like you superficially but Not for building value as a person

failed_singingcareer · 2020-06-03T01:25:10+00:00

Have genuine interest in people and what they like, and what they like to talk about. Doing that can go a long way and will give you power make them subconsciously reciprocate favors in your advantage all because you paid a little attention to them. It’s a little cycle.

The book can be powerful when applied in the appropriate context. Don’t be an ass kisser, or you’ll give them too much power. But, don’t be a shut-in, or no one will care about you and you will not even be in their radar.

Give them the right amount of attention and they’re yours. Relationships in work, friendships, gf’s, etc

Flattering is advantgeous

hackslash_ · 2020-06-03T14:32:49+00:00

People saying the book is manipulative have not embodies what it says in context. It explains multiple times you have to say compliments you mean. Flattery does not work. The book is about what people enjoy in another person, this in no way makes you sick up to others but turns you into a better you

Title	How to win friends and influence people - finding a balance
Author	bruiser18
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Comments	7
Date	June 2, 2020 10:01 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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