hello! been in a relationship with a red pill man for a few months.
I am super feminine and sweet to him - cook for him, take care of him, always open to sex, nurturing, respectful and I let him lead.
he is super alpha (he's everything Ive always asked for in a man, regarding his qualities) and I like our relationship dynamic, apart from some red flags:
- he doesnt seem very interested in my personal life/family and doesnt ask questions;
- he prefers having unprotected sex even though I get painful UTIs from it;
- then only asks if I feel better because he wants to have sex when we meet. ¬¬
- he often gets mad at me if I 'dont behave', but doesnt see the issue in doing the same things himself
- it seems he is super dependent on peer approval and if I make him embarrassed in front of his friends, he lashes out at me;
- he really wants to have kids in the near future (within the next year), and talks about it all the time - but doesnt want marriage, & doesnt know anything about my family apart from what I voluntarily tell him;
- I saw notifications from multiple girls on his phone, he explained to me what they were but refused to show me the messages.
Now I'm considering breaking up, because all of that just built up and the condom issue is the worst for me. I hate being anxious the whole month waiting for my period. I dont know if he has STIs, and I dont want to get pregnant. Im pretty sure he isn't cheating (the coronavirus social distancing helps) but I still have to get to know him better in order to TRUST that he is faithful and we can switch to birth control without STI risk.
When I told him that, he said i was being ridiculous and shaming him for enjoying sex. I said I resent him for not considering using protection even though it causes me so much harm (utis, anxiety, stress). He says if I got pregnant he would actually be happy about it, but he 'masters the pull out method'
The positive side is hat he is super affectionate when we are together, consistently tries to please me, we have fun and share values. He was a bit crass at first, rough on the edges, but is getting sweeter and closer to me with time.
What are your thoughts?
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