So my gf and I have been together for almost two years, and things between us are okay for the most part. I love that my gf and I have the same values, and want a future together. Lately though, things between her and I have made things feel (to me) like we’re friends. We can’t have sex right now, mainly because of COVID-19 (we live separately), plus there are physical issues that make having sex in the car really rough (plus the police being everywhere in the place I live makes finding spots hard), so our sex life is nonexistent, which is fine by me and In itself has no bearing on this feeling I’ve been having.

My main issue is that my gf simply isn’t affectionate in the way I’ve expressed I need. She doesn’t seem as excited to touch or kiss me anymore, and isn’t as affectionate as she used to be. When she is, it’s stuff like “I miss you”, which is very nice, don’t get me wrong, but her lack of words and minimal interest when touching or trying to be cute are making me feel like things are platonic between us. If I felt my gf had given up altogether id simply end the relationship, but she still texts me a lot, just mainly with random memes that I’d send my friends or she’d send hers. She’ll ask me to Skype often, but once we’re done a show shell want to sleep. I don’t want you to think any of this is necessarily bad, but just that our relationship is hitting it’s stride in the companionship department but not the romantic way I need from a partner. I’ve tried my best to make things romantic between us,but my gf just doesn’t seem interested because it’s over Skype or she’s afraid of being found in my car, which is valid for sure, but the lack of sadness or interest once again is getting to me. We talk a fair amount, but I’m honestly tired of trying to spark anything romantic and feel that I already do a lot in the relationship. Between paying for all of our dates, planning them, driving to get my gf from her place over an hour away, to being the one who’s emotionally vulnerable and open most of the time, I don’t really want to be the one to start this conversation. I understand that the honeymoon phase has ended and things won’t be the same as they were before, but I still feel really lonely in this relationship & don’t feel like my gf is anything besides my friend right now. I obviously want that to change, because the future we want together is something worth working towards in my eyes.

The two years I spent on TRP have definitely made me feel like my interpretations of relationships are skewed, so I don’t know if my feelings here are valid or if I’m an ass thinking like this, and I’m 100% aware that I have a ton of blame to take in this issue alongside my gf, but I wanted to get your takes on this and what you’d do, if anything.

TL;DR lack of romance in my relationship that has been strained by covid has me wondering how to help bring a spark back into it