The example is clear in the bible . Husbands are to love their wife like Christ loves the church. So yes, the husband should lead like christ leads, but let us be practical.

Does that mean the church gets to do what it wants? No

Does that mean the church can lead? No

Does that mean the respect and admiration the church should have for the things seen and unseen of the leader should go unappreciated? No

Should the church disrespect its leader with other churches around? No

Should the church go have church's night out with other churches? No

Should the church give its attention to other false leaders on the internet and completely act like everything is ok while the leader acts like the plow horse ? (Social media diva and typical husband role) No

Are you getting my drift? Society is full of weak men being bashed over their head by other weak men telling them to lead, sacrifice, give, and so forth like Christ.....I see why, HE is perfect. He gave the perfect example..... but when he rebuked and put his followers in line, he did it like he has a sack.... Jesus Christ loved (past tense for human form) hard. Like a man. Those who wouldn't hear him, he simply moved on from.....because He knew ultimately his love sacrifice would cover all at the end.

If we are going to emphasize husbands to be Christ like, we must emphasize the wife be church like. I mean, it's pretty clear throughout the bible....but, what is church like?.... well it depends on how you view the church and from what era.

In many cases , it is loving, caring, honoring, repectful, etc..... pretty much the church is being christ like, following the leader, duh...make sense.

But then again there are so many examples of the "church" just being rebellious, idolatry loving, disobedient, self consumed, "independent" etc...being very not Christ like....

So I suggest, if you are going to look at the husband to be Christ like, then we have to look at the wife as being church like which is Christ like.

Here is the thing, some guys are married to a very selfish narcissistic immature girl who loves the attention she gets online and doesnt appreciate the attention she gets from her poor postured donkey at home..( yeah I know, his fault, always his fault)..... but if he keeps loving, sacrificing, and so on, , isn't he causing more harm then good? She wont get it, and after 7 years with 2 kids she might just fall out of love and find another "Christ leader".....

It is not that easy in our times to be men. To be the husbands, leaders, the Christ like figure and think it will all be ok. Then again, if we take that role serious, almost literally, to be christ like, you ultimately do have to get crucified....

I think young men need to heed ALL the warnings before getting married. Many didn't have a clue what that entailed...especially with the church pushing it with no clear bounderies for all parties involved in our modern times of free attention and no reprocausin.

Pray to see , what you must see, not what you want to see.....

Edit: I posted this on Christian marriage sub.... as you guess it. they took it down . Twice. " your post is not Christian like"......I posted it as a main post and a response to a typical "soy lancelot white knight's" post proclaiming men must man up and blame themselves for not leading like christ and having the poor wife/church floating aimlessly through her life ....

Edit#2: I was permanently banned from the christian marriage sub... I guess my post really hit a nerve. The "great falling away" continues.... keep seeking truth and see this world for what it is, not what you have it be.