You already know the answer.
If I have to make three or four scrolls on my phone to get the whole story of why we should convince you that you're just overreacting and imagining things, you're in the wrong sub.
An HVM with a genuine interest in you will be consistent. There will be no mixed signals. No lame excuses. You don't have to rack your brain to try and understand him and justify his behaviors.
You already know in your gut when something is off.
One of the lessons I've learned in life; as women we always second guess ourselves. That leaves room for pickmes and LVMs in our lives to tell us to make us doubt ourselves. For manipulators and narcissists to impress their will upon us.
Learn to trust yourself and your instincts, and think about your situations logically instead of just going with the flow. Ask, "why am I feeling this way? Who is making me feel this way? Is this man bringing a net positive or a negative in my life? Why is his behavior that way? If I communicate this will he adjust or am I seeing the same patterns in his behavior? Will staying with him be good for me in the long run?"
Emphasis on the long run. We are playing the long game here over at FDS. We have to make hard choices so we can benefit IN THE LONG RUN. Physically. Mentally. Emotionally. Financially.
Learn to trust yourself in these decisions because YOU ultimately know what's best for you. Not your mom. Not your girlfriends. Not strangers on the internet.
We can be emotional with love and romance but we always have to implement critical thinking for ourselves.
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