Hello everyone! I've been trying my hand at online dating and noticed something that has helped me to vett people I'm messaging!
I have a lot of traditionally nerdy hobbies, which I've recently made much less prominent in my profile as I was attracting the wrong men as a result. Often, these men compliment me or otherwise praise me for having an interest or opinion they share.
One recent example is someone saying: "Wow, thank you for liking dungeons and dragons!"
I asked them "Why thank you?" and they responded:
"You don’t know how many people I know that don’t like 'nerd games'"
I've gone on dates with men who have done this kind of thing, and they tend to end up being shy and lacking in confidence. They are usually insecure about their own hobbies and interests, rather than owning it. They also tend to get clingy after only a single meeting, and are so concerned with doing something I won't like, they don't take the lead.
It also shows that they feel I'm inherently superior to other women for having this interest, which I definitely am not.
Anyway, keep an eye out and if you see something like this in someone you're talking to, take it as a warning.
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