For context: she’s a plate I have been seeing for a few months, but in the past we have occasionally hung out and done activities together outside the bedroom. It’s recently become clear to me that she has some serious issues and is definitely BPD, so I need to cut ties ASAP.

Yesterday, I tried to end it nicely by saying “you’re a sweet girl but we just aren’t meant for each other.” I picked a public coffee shop in the unlikely event of getting slapped with a fake rape/abuse charge if I did it at her place. She went crazy, started crying and screaming (in public with others staring), and so I talked her down since I thought she might call the cops. She said “we are meant to be together forever” even went as far as to say “don’t try anything like that again, I know where you work.”

What should I do? Has anyone else been in a situation like this? I’ve considered going full beta, but I’m not sure if going to work here.