Do you think this is good reason to hard next Fiancee?

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June 20, 2020
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I ended up in emergency few days ago with a serious health issue. Instead of talking/coming to see me my gf hung out with her friend instead. Tried calling her and she wouldn't answer. Eventually answered and said she ran out of data on her phone. I let it slide.

Two days later I had some time off work to heal and was free to talk in the afternoon. She chose instead to go hang out with that same friend and barely talked to me all day.

I sent her a text asking her to tell me the name of the health issue I had and she couldn't even tell me (I had told her few times). I mean, that is something you would want to know, if your bf/gf had a health issue. I told her it was evident she doesn't care and she started trying to gaslight so I bailed out.


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Title Do you think this is good reason to hard next Fiancee?
Author CuckNoMore2
Upvotes 258
Comments 145
Date 20 June 2020 03:27 AM UTC (10 months ago)
Subreddit askTRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/696188
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[–][deleted] 416 points417 points  (6 children) | Copy

Bro, my girl would be in tears if she heard I was in the hospital and would be by my side the moment she heard.

Hard hard hard next. Dump her. Drop her.

[–]TacoMedic114 points115 points  (1 child) | Copy

I almost lost my cat a few months ago, thought he’d run out the door. My girl ubered 30 mins to my place to help me look without me even asking/expecting it and she was crying when we couldn’t find him. She hates my cat with a passion, but she was sad for me. We’d only been a label for like 4 months at that point.

If I was in an emergency, she would drop everything for me, and I her. I feel like that’s the bare minimum expectation for a relationship.

This isn’t exclusive to TRP either. You could have asked this very same question in the main relationship subs dominated by women and they would also tell you that this is dump worthy. If that isn’t a good enough reason, I don’t know what is.

[–]babybopp34 points35 points  (0 children) | Copy

Am curious about this “friend”. She probably used that opportunity to ride another dick knowing very well OP was indisposed. I found out the hard way that being indisposed is the easiest way for a girl to cheat.

[–]acoltismypassport24 points25 points  (0 children) | Copy

This. I don't even know how OP can ask this question. This is literally a no-brainer, and not even necessarily a relationship issue. If someone very close to you was this distant after you were hospitalised, it's fair to say they don't give a fuck about you.

[–]Snowboard185 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

This. She don’t give a fuck about you anymore. Just imagine what being married to her would be like.

[–]ChadTheWaiter1006 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

absofuckinglutley.

[–]Caper67212 points213 points  (12 children) | Copy

It's a huge red flag. I've dealt with a similar situation with someone in the past that I thought was on the right track to be a newly promoted LTR until something like this happened.

Your girl should be like a female wolf. You obviously lead but shes there beside you to have your back and protect your throat in times of danger.

This behaviour your finance demonstrated sounds a lot like someone who only shows up when it benefits her. To be honest, I was incredibly surprised to read that this behaviour came from a "fiance". Bad enough if it was a girl friend or FWB but jesus... A woman you plan to attach your life and possessions to by paper, goes and hangs with her girls and lies that her data is out while you're in the hospital? All I can say bro is that I hope it was a cheap ring.

[–][deleted] 55 points56 points  (10 children) | Copy

Its not the ring I'm worried about. I'm sure she will try to hurt my reputation now

[–]Caper6772 points73 points  (0 children) | Copy

If so then even more reason to be clear of her.

You could be jesus or satan it doesn't matter, women will make you out to be the devil but at the end of the day it doesn't matter. You can't control anything but your own actions and how you react to other people.

The next girl you snag will know that your ex fiance is full of shit when you're plowing her brains out and being that masculine rock she craves.

[–]Tambamwham12 points13 points  (0 children) | Copy

Then sue her

[–]longjeep20052 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

The people who truly care about you will support you for dumping her from your life

[–]Ill_mumble_that1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy

Your first mistake was considering marriage.

Unless she is 10x richer than you. Then yeah.

[–]-Fender-8 points9 points  (2 children) | Copy

Exactly. Never sign a contract when the other party benefits from breaking it.

[–]Ill_mumble_that3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy

Its such a fucked up 1 sided thing.

If they don't break it, they benefit. If they do break it, they benefit.

What does the man benefit whether he breaks it or not? He doesn't benefit either way unless the woman is substantially wealthier than him.

[–]falconiawillfall6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

But you're overlooking the power of love man. Love can carry a marriage through all hardships! /s

[–]W_O_M_B_A_T1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Its not the ring I'm worried about. I'm sure she will try to hurt my reputation now.

Character Assassination is almost impossible to get ahead of once someone decides to engage in it. Unfortunately most people are credulous fuckers and don't want to think that their friends and family might have a hidden agenda behind spilling secrets, even though they often do.

You may have to start preemptively fighting dirty here and nuke this one from orbit, by poisoning the well. This all depends on how much you're willing to tolerate feeling like kind of a gossipy douchebag.

Write a list of the people you truly value as friends. Might also include your presumptive parents-in-law as well as your own parents.

Remember you're just giving them certain facts and it's

Then call those people, tell them about the hospital incident, and the one a few days later, and ask them for their advice on if you should go through with the marriage. Most are likely to agree that her behavior indicates she doesn't give a shit. Her parents, of course, are likely to either try to defend her behavior or else just audibly roll their eyes and tell you it's hardly the first time she's been a selfish brat and you have to just deal with it.

This may take a couple hours and you're going to have to repeat yourself a bunch of times.

Then, once you've done that. Immediately call her and break up. Tell her the wedding is off and she needs to pack up her shit. You're cancelling everything.

So, when she calls those people later with her crocodile tears and sob- stories about how blindsided she was and how in love she claims to be, it'll sound like bizarre vapid garbage considering her previous behavior. Which it is. Probably the second or third person will ask her, then what the hell happened when her intended was in the hospital.

[–]alikebabay13 points14 points  (0 children) | Copy

I love your female wolf analogy. I might be looking for that in a woman.

[–][deleted] 64 points65 points  (18 children) | Copy

Out of data...I’d ask her for proof of that when a phone runs out of data there is 100% a trail. Reconnect fees, late fees, warnings etc cost of normal bill the past three months versus her most recent(extreme I know)

Was this life or death when you were in the hospital?

If it was ...I personally feel that would be grounds to terminate the relationship. If she gives that little a fuck about you right now can you imagine after being married with kids?

I’m a bit trigger happy when it comes to blowing up my relationships. So definitely see if I’m in line with others. I have a feeling I will be.

[–]day2right22 points23 points  (0 children) | Copy

Would be a next from me as well.

[–][deleted] 38 points39 points  (12 children) | Copy

I ask for proof but it was just gaslighting e.g you have trust issues, don't be possessive, etc etc

Not life or death but serious enough.

Thank you for the input.

[–][deleted] 91 points92 points  (4 children) | Copy

you’re dealing with an extremely manipulative person. It’s not possessive or trust. It’s proving something that you think she lying about. If she wasn’t lying she’d instantly produce a receipt. Man my blood is boiling for you right now.

This chick is the type who will divorce rape you. Be careful man. Best of luck.

[–][deleted] 65 points66 points  (3 children) | Copy

thanks brother. I'm out and won't go back

[–]Red_Raze13 points14 points  (0 children) | Copy

Good luck homie. It's gonna get worse before it gets better. Stay hard.

[–]TacoMedic5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

Good luck dude.

When it gets hard over the next few mo the and you’re tempted to reconnect, just imagine her not even showing up to the hospital if you had cancer.

She’ll never be good enough for you.

[–]RedDeAngelo2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Can you post an update how you managed to deal with it, it will help others who are in similar situations as you.

Thanks.

[–]ChadTheWaiter1006 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

I wouldn’t even ask for proof. You know the answer in your gut. If she doesn’t answer your calls or return them within 10 minutes that’s a wrap.

These days, not having service, not receiving a call, is not a viable excuse. Back in early 2000s, shit like that really happened, but this day in age; it just doesn’t happen.

[–]Tambamwham3 points4 points  (2 children) | Copy

No... you LET her gaslight you. Only weak men let themselves get gaslighted. And yes you should have already ended it.

[–]clickherebaby0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

100%.

[–]Tambamwham0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Any time a woman your with crosses ANY line... the absolute correct response is to drop her on the on the spot. If there is a chance of reconciliation, this is even the best route for that too. Break it down and put it on HER to build it back up. To earn you back. You can’t gaslight someone who has shown they aren’t scared to lose you and you can’t lie to avoid consequences that have already been served.

[–]recursoinominado0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Bro, is 100% chance she lied about that too.

That's a classic female move.

[–]ay-fuh-q0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

When they insist on trust issues and not to be possessive, this is a shaming tactic to get you to back off. This girl has been cheating on you for so long.... and you put a ring on that finger.

[–]clickherebaby0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

You asked for proof lmao. Id straight up tell that bitch to get the fuck outta my place. Reading this post just affirms im a man in that respect.

"Im out of data." I might even slap the bitch

[–][deleted] 8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

What's even the point in asking proof? She values this friend a lot more than him... i'd say break up and move on

[–]alphabachelor6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

I’d ask her for proof

No need to ask. All the proof is in her behavior. Hard next and never look back.

[–]Adonique4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

It’s 2020.. the excuse of having no data is like telling someone you can’t find a restroom. She could have used public / wifi or even a hotspot connection from her friends phone. It’s laughable how that is even an excuse in this day and age. Is it really difficult to connect for 5 mins to check and reply messages and inform that data is out so she can’t reply immediately?

[–]DucardthaDon1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

It's so laughable it's bad, unless you're really young and poor the no data excuse is extremely bad. Most people with a job, decent finances etc... Has some form of a contract even a 12 month rolling which is what I have.(not tied to a phone) They usually workout cheaper than a top-up/credit account and comes with unlimited calls, texts as most communications goes through WhatsApp, facetime etc....

Honestly reading this OP you need to be asking serious questions as none of this adds up. Said it already best dump her.

[–]BluzzKill34 points35 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yeah hard next

[–]akihonj26 points27 points  (0 children) | Copy

Fucking hard next this one. Why are you questioning it, when her friends have more concern from her than you get.

Let me ask you this question, if the situation were the other way around would she expect you to be there with her, would she expect you to drop your friends for her.

If your answer is yes then the next question is this, what would she do if you did what she did. If your answer was kick off and probably dump you, then you have your answer.

I assure you many will say she was scared and worried and didn't want to show it, many will say ask for proof about the data bs. Why bother, you aren't married to her, she isn't a cheating wife and you already have the proof you need.

You only invest as much energy into a relationship as the other person, otherwise it's you doing all of the work to make something when in fact all your actually doing is making yourself a doormat. Stop putting more than they are, understand that as long as you invest more than she does she gets to stay in her pedestal and you get to wonder why your being used.

[–]RPmatrix48 points49 points  (3 children) | Copy

"fiancee????"

Bro, stop kidding yourself, you're in hospital and she doesn't CARE!

It's a crazy world and Right Now the last thing you want is to get married, have kids etc Especially with some thot

FFS smarten the fuck up.

[–]jackandjill222 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

Seriously

[–]RPmatrix0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

yes, seriously

[–]keepusernamesecret1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

She’s on test run for Life Partner and failing

[–]QawL22 points23 points  (6 children) | Copy

She should've been a plate instead of fiancee

[–]masmiester9 points10 points  (2 children) | Copy

Right.... I'm wondering how she got that far....

[–]2319Skew4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

OP is blue and/or sex is amazing

[–]aesky1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

or sex is scarce*

[–]andAutomator7 points8 points  (2 children) | Copy

In so many ways, this. How the hell did OP not see the red flags?

[–]CasaDeFranco5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

Once you put a ring or commit, sometimes the work that keeps a relationship alive just stops. That said, a more intelligent woman would have waited until after the wedding or the kid.

[–]_the_shape_0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

We don’t know how long they dated (ie he vetted her) before slipping on that ring (which is a mistake anyway - I digress)

We also don’t know how throughly he vetted or how good of an eye he has to discern between solid and poor character (and this tends to largely come from the amount of experience a man has with women)

[–]SeasonedRP21 points22 points  (2 children) | Copy

One positive aspect of all this is that you got to see her true character before marrying her. Just think of how she'd react if you were married and experienced an unplanned serious health issue or job loss. I've experienced women like her. They are fun when everything is going great, but if anything happens, they become cold and distant. Your instinct to hard next her is the right decision here. The analogy to a female wolf made by another commenter is a good one. That's the kind of woman you want.

[–]1Terminal-Psychosis4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

Biggest reason for divorce is when the man gets sick, especially loses his job. Or even one or the other.

Tons of women just completely lose interest. This case is pretty extreme though, not even a visit to the hospital and ghosting him on the phone, at the first hint of trouble....

Defo not wife material in any way.

[–]SeasonedRP2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Many of them view us as trained monkeys, designed to serve and entertain, and as soon as something changes for the worse, even temporarily, they lose interest.

[–]AngTheEphemeral17 points18 points  (1 child) | Copy

Wait, voice and data aren't synonymous? You can run out of data and still make calls / texts. What kind of shitty prepaid plan is she supposedly on?

[–]TreatonOCE5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

No such thing. In Australia anyway. Unlimited calls/msg's is very standard. Only thing plans change with is Internet data.

[–]l1ght-11 points12 points  (0 children) | Copy

The feminine energy is supposed to be caring & helping you get back to perfect health, so you can continue to “hunt” & provide.

How’s she going to look after the children if she cannot even care for you.

[–]gediwer12 points13 points  (0 children) | Copy

I think you need to pull off the hardest next of the century

[–]drevenx1318 points19 points  (2 children) | Copy

I had a similar issue. You’re doomed. Once a man shows a moment of weakness like that, and given the way she reacted, you can’t win this. Hard next her asap. Trust me bro I have been there before and know how it ends.

[–][deleted] 6 points7 points  (1 child) | Copy

How's this a moment of weakness?

But hard next anyway

[–]moroots9 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy

she doesn't care about you at all

let that sink in and then makeyour decision

[–]Jcahill2698 points9 points  (1 child) | Copy

Anyone else think she was probably fucking someone else?

[–]ay-fuh-q1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Not probably. Definitely. And, based on this post, it's been going on a long time. So long, in fact, that OP being in the hospital just made it a simple "free pass" to not get caught. She was too busy swallowing cum to care about her bitch of a fiance.

[–]MonxtahDramux8 points9 points  (3 children) | Copy

Bro, the medium is the message.

  1. My ex "playfully" splashed water on me and said HBD two days before my birthday.

  2. I got an offer with the biggest pay ever and she was indifferent - her response was, she doesn't like to focus on someone else's business.

Again, the medium is the message.

There are good ones and there are bad ones.

It seems you've gotten yourself a bad one.

Take your attention and commitment somewhere else where it will be appreciated. And if there's none, spend it on yourself and watch you rise!

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

What does "the medium is the message" mean?

[–]flipthecatjack2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

How they act is the truest form of communication, not what they say.

This is generally true of both men and women, though with a woman’s propensity to communicate covertly, it’s especially important to pay attention to her actions when trying to understand what a woman is communicating to you.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

OK, right, rule one of the rational male.

[–]tyrantgrey6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

Bruh. Get rid of her.

[–]Workout_Ham6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

Run just f****** run away from her. What's going to happen if you're in a serious accident and your paralyzed now This woman supposed to take care of you. What she's going to take care of is your bank account and then leave you high and dry

[–]2319Skew6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

It shouldn't be a IF but a how to next.

My recommendation would be go cold. Do not be hostile but if you are living together then find a place to move out to. If you are not then just pack her shit in a box. Call her up. Meet her at a coffee place. Give her that box and say "I don't think we can be together anymore. I wish you the best."

Walk away. No tears. No emotions. No negotiations or pleading. Just execute it like you're reading out loud a shopping list.

If she has a key, make sure you get it back. Delete her from all social media. Block her number. Your fiancée is dead. You are not a medium.

[–]brianmcg3215 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

Next

[–]MikeAlphaGolf3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

File this in the category of: If you have to ask you already know the answer.

[–][deleted] 7 points8 points  (1 child) | Copy

Was in a similar situation. My gf got food poisonied.

I cared about her, walked out to get medicine and stuff to do the best I can for her.
Then the poison infected me as well. I felt like dying, much more worse then her (not gonna go in details lol).
Instead of helping me, she just slept and did not do much for me.

And some point she recovered, but I was still sick. Really damn sick. I asked her to drive me to the pharmarcy, but she really did not wanted to go. She did not want to help me. I forced her to help me, because I literally felt that I am going to die.

Now she is my exgf. It hurts, but I know what's best for me.

[–]2319Skew2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Good on you man.

[–]dtyler864 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

No offense, as TRP can be harsh, but I think this is just the tip of the iceberg with her. Also, who is this friend? Is it a girl? Lots of questions here.

My LTR, about to be fiancée, insisted to be by my side after 3/4 months of dating despite my insistent pleas NOT to come to my apartment since I had the highly contagious norovirus. She came anyway, she got it, and we were both trading turns vomiting in my bathroom for the weekend. Cool story right? Anyway, she sounds selfish and I’d probably pass... definitely pass.

[–]btc7772 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

This may sound somewhat harsh to your ears, but your "fiance" isn't worth a penny. Hard next.

[–]prettyawsm1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Gf? Fiancee? Can you evaluate do you live together or how long you've been together. I mean dude this ain't serious don't even bother texting her anymore.

[–]athrowaway-9001[🍰] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Definitely. Trust your gut and you've already acknowledged the red flags. Drop your losses and see this as a bullet dodged.

[–]DucardthaDon1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

It's not even a hard next, finish it with her today and be done, move on. For all you know she could've been fucking someone else at the time.

[–]zachthrowaway3001 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

that hurts brah. i think you need to next her.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Hard next, its hard but you just need to do it now before it gets much worse...

[–]ShittySoftwar31 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

First of all why did you even try to put a ring on it? Second of all in answer to your question, I'm willing to bet this female friend is male.

[–]BusterVadge1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Hard next. One more thing, you should be minimizing your weaknesses like they're no big deal and maximizing your strengths.

But... she's your fiancee and she should be by your side good times and bad. You can do much better. Some women will run at the slightest sign of weakness. These are not good, loyal women.

[–]IXseed1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yeaaaaaaa don't marry this woman. Remember people tend to change for the worst after marriage.

Now don't just hard next her but demote her. Call off the engagement but don't tell her why (even tho I'm sure she'll get why) and open the relationship up.

[–]Monkitail1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Only American women are this shitty. Outsource your relationshipa

[–]-Siptah1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Next that bitch. Anyone who shows you they don’t give a fuck about you doesn’t give a fuck about you.

[–]SpinPlates1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

LMAO what!?

She couldn't even tell you the condition you had? Please dump her for your future self.

[–]cracksniffer6661 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

God I'm trying not to be a dick.. but are you fucking retarded?

Move on dude

[–]idevastate1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

You see the movie Get Out? Apply the title.

[–]Black JesusDerekMorganBAU1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Time to call it off and/or cheat cause she doesn't give a fuck about you.

[–]Narcofunk1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Why are you even asking this question when you clearly know the answer. Man up, you know what's the right thing to do. Don't be her bitch.

[–]seducter1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Fucked up how these seemingly little things give you a glimpse into her reality. My ex got drunk one night and wanted to “prank” her ex. She knew his number off by heart, so I asked if she knew mine and she didn’t.

I ended it with her after she called the cops on me for storing stuff at my place that she had asked me to because she wanted it out of her dad’s place. Now suddenly I was “keeping it from her.”

I say bail.

[–]NeDictu1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

How old are you? This sounds like some 19/20 year old bullshit. You both sound too immature to be talking about marriage. That's your answer

[–]HumbleTrees1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Dude your girl doesn't give a fuck about you. Makes me wonder why she agreed to marry you though.

As a baseline for normal, here's my recent story. Ended up in hospital about 6 weeks ago for a single day and my girl (not even fiancé) was texting me the whole time to see how I was. For about a week or two after she was constantly mindful of the issue and was great about the whole thing. Told me how worried she was and how received it's not more serious. She saw me in some real fucking pain but not bitch about it.

That's what normal looks like. In my opinion you're better off finding someone that cares about you more.

[–]lolomotif121 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

She don't care about you, period. Hard next.

[–]RomulusTurbo1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

What a cunt!

[–]Gawernator1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Ghost this chick lol wtf. My GF would be in tears running to the hospital if I had anything happen

[–]yallapapi1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Bruh how is this even a question. You went to ER and she ignored you? Where is your self respect?

[–]desiba131 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

When you next her (which isn’t even questionable, I would 100%)... just remember she did this, not you.

You know this one is boarder line crazy (they all are at some level) but this one is literally showing you (focus on her actions and not words) and trying to turn things around to make you sound insecure.

Don’t ignore the signs, these little red flags turn into burning houses later on down the road.

Good luck.

[–]L2diy1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yes

[–]Scheme001 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

You dodged a bullet. This girl doesn’t give a F about you. Just herself. Don’t be butt hurt when she’s dating someone new, because she will never truly give a F about them either!

[–]IBETITALL4201 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

FIANCEE? THAT'S EUPHEISM FOR BEING A FAGGOT. DON'T EVER GET MARRIED, SAVE YOURSELF THE TROUBLE AND READ THE FUCKING SIDE BAR YOU FUCKING. WE DON'T GET MARRIED IN THIS SUBREDDIT, OR IN THE RED PILL UNIVERSE THE FUCK.

[–]r3art2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

You are her bitch, she is the redpilled one in the relationship.

[–]1Terminal-Psychosis1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

She isn't even redpilled, just doesn't care about him. They were going to get MARRIED.

TRP doesn't mean be an asshole to your mate. A RP man would have visited his fiance in the hospital, at LEAST talked to her on the phone.

[–]McLovinReturns0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

So many better options. If she ain't by your side when you're at your lows she doesn't deserve to be there during your highs. Find a woman who respects you as a man and has that undying passion to be by your side. Hard next this one and avoid that chaos. Good luck my friend

[–]MarylandLion0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Yeah this is an immediate dump brother. Your girl should over react to you being in the hospital, not under react.

[–]lestrenched0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I need to know what happened after you dropped her

[–]NPcChad0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Brothers always come here and tell THEIR side of story just to get the answers they want. Anyway you could be right. What's the health issue you had ? And why she would lie to you about her data ? Why would she chose to be with her friend and not you in hospital? I mean she could atleast come to see you and leave after a while. This behavior speaks ignorance and the way you describe it she seems far away from you, is that YOUR fiancée ? If you find yourself alone in those times, you better be alone all the time, don't expect someone to be there for you when they genuinely don't care about you.

[–]elbananerozoy0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Im sorry to hear this man. Just dump her and move on. You Can't trust this women with a shared life path

[–]Odysseus1260 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Yes I actually went to the hospital yesterday for my appendix, and my girlfriend dropped everything to come see me. I do think your girlfriend not coming to see you is an absolute deal breaker, especially because she was just hanging out with friends or whatever

[–]RomulusTurbo0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

If you want the ring back just tell her you wanted to have it altered to add more stones, then ghost her bitch ass. Good riddance!

[–]Tiway220 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

NEXT NEXT NEXT! There is no fucking way my gf wouldn’t drop whatever it is she was doing and RUSH to the hospital if I was in there for an emergency.

She lacks empathy, or care, or whatever it doesn’t matter. You’re a king and she’s not worthy of being your queen.

[–]-Fender-0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Guaranteed that she was fucking someone else everytime she claimed to be spending time with her "friend".

[–]Boogaboogabrother0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

So many replies already, but it happened to me. I had a possible case of meningitis, the bitch didn’t even google what it was (inflammation of brain tissue = death in days). She didn’t even realize how serious it was until weeks later after it was said and done.

Thank the heavens it happened, though it sucked, it had saved me a world of hurt.

Hard next!!! As hard as you can!

[–]QuietRulrOfEvrything0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

You did the right thing by nexting her. Too many warning signs and red flags to ignore. She sounds like a flake, a cheat, an indifferent chick only concerned with their own well-being (read selfish) or any combination of the three. All in all, obviously not someone you'd want to have in your life as friend, much less a toxic girlfriend or a spouse.

[–]cluelessguitarist0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Wow, i would ghost her

[–]ViolentInteger0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

How the fuck are you even asking this question?

[–]WIA20XX0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Get the ring back.

[–]deville050 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

And you made her your fiancee? Nigga , you planning to be her financier!

You dont even need TRP for this.. Even twoX will sort this for you

[–]Aspanu240 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Ya sounds like 100% bullshit to me from an outside guy looking in. Hard to see it for what it is when it’s happening to you, but sounds like she’s potentially hanging out with another dude if she’s being weird like that in my experience

[–]Lachsi0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Ditch the bitch

[–]Maxofwarcraft0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Dude, a girl like that needs to be dropped faster than a face mask when COVID-19 is eradicated.

[–]rn78890 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

You need to fuck her friend. Hard next.

[–]amrit21chandi0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

A fiancee not being by your side at time of need is no fiancee. If she was your GF I'd say demote to plate but a fiancee or wife doing that? Cut off all connections to that person.

[–]washyoass0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

If you’re asking, then you already know the answer. Hard next. Don’t look back.

[–]Harambe4400 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

she was probably getting her cervix destroyed by Trey while you were in the hospital.

[–]slip-down0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Do a test. Soft next her. Meaning you pay less attention to her and make her come to you for that hit of dopamine. She's your fiance, she already has you secured in her mind. Remove that by keeping yourself occupied with other things. Put up a wall of mystery. This will make her ponder. She'll feel like your punishing her. Do everything in your power to make it clear that you're not. That you're just doing you. She will pass the test if she does a 180.

I don't know the whole power dynamic in your relationship. Sounds like she should be completely a next.

Edit. Just saw you bailed out...keep your word brother.

[–]beachbbqlover0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

She's not a GF, she's a plate, and she's treating you as such. There's no romance, and no love in that.

Where I'd say your loss is is that she's also lying to you, which basically suggests there isn't even respect. And on that note, I'd leave.

[–]Ivabighairy10 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Fiancee?

Not hardly. You're her beta bitch tampon. Hit the sidebar.

[–]mrmaskfawkes0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

This is a serious question as you asked a fellow guy, what was the condition?

Edit) Nah man I'd leave that, if it was as serious as you said next.

[–]JustArtist80 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

You are an ATM for her dude

[–]Nergaal0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

you are not even in the gutter yet and she is dumping you. you have poor taste in upgrading women to "fiance" status

[–]throwitdownman0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Why do people even post these, surely it’s a troll. You literally spelt it out how she’s treating you worse than dirt. And you brush it off with ‘I let it slide’.

The fuck is your logic at. You should probably go back to school/stay in school, cus girl problems are not the issue, your brain capacity is low. Stay off drugs.

[–]CSLOBO0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I would be upset. If my LTR was in the hospital I wouldn’t be out with friends having a good time knowing something is wrong with her, I’d drop whatever I was doing and get there.

I’d next too.

[–]Goatcheese12300 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Two simple words. Dump her.

She's not worth it.

[–]Elprez910 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

She's cheating bro

[–]_-resonance-_0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

This same exact thing happened to me but I married her. Found out she was cheating one month into marriage, if not sooner. Divorce took 1.5yr; included custody negotiations.

Get out. Thank GOD.

[–]DiggerNicks130 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

First, hopefully you're doing all right health wise. Second, listen to your mind. The same.mind that made you post here. You know the answer already. Find a way to get out of that relationship. Because that is an absolute deal breaker.

[–]OpenComparison0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

She's throwing HUGE GIGANTIC red flags. You know what your gut is telling you, thats why you asked her that question about the health issue. She thinks she can manipulate you and get away with it. Hold frame, stand your ground, and be a man. Imagine this was another scenario: you were on your death bed, you got cancer, or anything else what would she do then? You know the answer to your question, so do it.

[–]ThrowawayYAYAY20020 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

You're not far off telling this woman that you "will take her in sickness and in health", and here she is not giving a single fuck about you or your health.

Call it a day. Yeah, it will crush her and cause shockwaves throughout your family/circle/life, but this woman would have left you the minute you started having problems had you married.

Thanks your lucky stars that you fell ill and saw her true colours.

[–]ay-fuh-q0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I ended up in emergency few days ago with a serious health issue. Instead of talking/coming to see me my gf hung out with her friend instead.

Probably the guy she's usually fucking.

Tried calling her and she wouldn't answer. Eventually answered and said she ran out of data on her phone. I let it slide.

Typical MO of cheating. Don't answer then blame battery/data.

Two days later I had some time off work to heal and was free to talk in the afternoon. She chose instead to go hang out with that same friend and barely talked to me all day.

You're being intentionally vague. This friend... he has a dick, right? Goes in her mouth every chance they get?

I sent her a text asking her to tell me the name of the health issue I had and she couldn't even tell me (I had told her few times). I mean, that is something you would want to know, if your bf/gf had a health issue. I told her it was evident she doesn't care and she started trying to gaslight so I bailed out.

You've been her bitch for so long, you being in the hospital was just a free pass to guzzle some cum without getting caught.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Give us an update if you can. Curious how she reacts when you leave her dirty ass.

[–]comcain0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Hard next. I call this a Black Flag, you wave that flag to pull a bitch out of the race.

What a hoe.

[–]fillorkill6620 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Fuck YES. Please hard next her, her behavior has warranted nothing but a hard next.

Also, please provide an update in the future.

[–]420BJsGamble0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Fuck her one more time then dump her

[–]gopalvinay-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

Hold your emotions , don’t call her or text for few days and let her notice, speck out your problems. And if she failed to notice or call, hope that was a cheap Ring 🙌🏼



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