(First, let me make it clear that asking this question is absolutely not an attempt to "blame" women for anything - I'm probably a feminist - I believe in equality between genders, freedom in life and being able to be yourself regardless even if it doesn't fit in gender boxes. My reasoning to ask this question is merely to cut myself some slack and maybe try harder in improving myself.)
Hypergamy as meaning dating up in general attractiveness, not only socio-economic status.
My own experiences makes it seem like women are in general pickier then men, and rather be alone then date someone average. Could be confirmation bias though.
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The "evidence" I have myself is:
Men online who keeps saying women are pickier over and over
The evolutionary psychology-theories: 1, because you need many women and just a few/a single man to create enough children in a tribe, village etc, + the price of pregnancy, evolution has made women pickier - 2, men have always done more dangerous tasks through out human evolution and are instinctually seen as having less inherent worth, and must prove themselves. I was told online about a test however where a person had to choose between what order they saved a man and a woman: men always choosed saving the woman first, women choosed roughly 50/50 between the genders, proving this wrong.
Personal observations (confirmation bias? As well as fear, as no one likes to think making relationship is harder than it seems)
That's it...
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So I initially ignored this post thinking you were trolling and sent it to a friend who isn't as well versed in RP like me. Our discussions led me to comment back on you maybe in the hopes you could potentially understand gaps in your logic and come off with your high horse. I also hope those who are recovering from RP will read this.
First of all, from evolutionary theory and mate selection theory, female hypergamy is based off the resources and status ONLY provided by the male, while the opposite of that is termed male hypogamy, which is based on her looks and fertility. This was true for those societies where women had no role in deciding their suitors and men dominated most resources and wealth I.e patriarchy.
There is no point in adding "looks" ( this itself is stupid if you're going to take it objectively, we all have seen the hot girlfriend/wife with a conventionally unattractive guy in popular culture) , intelligence, hobbies and social skills.
With this logic you're making it seem that the guy in relationship is always somehow above average or inherently superior than his girlfriend (even if in reality he might not perceive her to be), thus eventually looking down on women in general who happen to be in relationships.
You're also making a logical gap of women who are single are "picky" doing out of so and so factor. You're making an assumption that women "need" to be in a relationship, if they aren't, then there's something wrong with them. (Giving you benefit of doubt, it's likely coming because you're judging yourself and your worth based off whether you're in relationship or not).
Even the men above the elite 1% marry women who are within the same social class or have similar level of status. People like being with people who are similar. Period. Nothing deep about that.
Whether you realise it or not, the RP ideology has been so ingrained in your mind that you have developed this double edge sword towards women. If you're not rich and she's trying to date you due to X reason, it's because of HPeRgaMy you're so badly trying to mold in as a self fulfilling prophecy.
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Thank you very much for that deeply thought through reply, which I've read carefully. I believe you're right about me. I couldn't see these errors before but now I can, so thank you for that. I will reflect on my views and the ways that RP still affects me, and save your post as a reminder.
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I've seen enough evidence of Peterson lying when talking about psychology with seemingly an agenda to make men resent women that I refuse to listen to him talking about anything.
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I'm not criticizing Peterson for having different opinions - that is fine - but for lying about research. I recommend you give the subreddit Enoughpetersonspam a try - people there has produced a long list of examples of Peterson lying about research.
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hypergamy is a scientific FACT . This sub is blind to the world lool . For the record i had plastic surgery and went from being treated like a cunt to women falling over themselves to flirt with me , most women ive met if attracted to you will cheat on their partner .
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It's often claimed that it's very hard or even impossible to say what's "natural" human behavior. But if we looked at hunter-gatherer tribes that still exists, my understanding is that they're often monogamous and most men ends up with a partner.
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