There is one key ingredient to becoming the fucking slayer that you know you can be, and it's not talked about that often on this sub. I honestly think this is the true foundation for developing an abundance mentality, IDGAF attitude, and developing outcome independence. The ingredient is to first and foremost fix your mental health.

From what I have seen on AskTRP, there are a ton of guys that are having or have had problems with their mental health. I know not everybody here is depressed, anxious, etc, but I do believe that every guy will face at least one mental health problem in their time here on earth. I also think it's important to talk about in this community because the real world generally does not give a fuck if a male is depressed or going through a rough patch. I know it's shitty that no one cares but thats just the nature of being a man.

Being in a good mental state is also the foundation for the holy trinity of kicking life's ass, abundance mentality, IDGAF attitude, and outcome independence. If you are in a good place mentally abundance comes almost naturally, even for the guys that have no clue trp exists. If you're a happy and content guy, then you don't need any girl(s) in your life to feel good, you only want them in your life because they bring value to it.

Deep depression runs in my family, me and my brothers are literally the only three males in my family that aren't alcoholics. Suicide seems to be a reoccurring theme in my family also. So, I have had my fair share of shitty depressed periods in my life, and I have noticed a very clear difference in my levels of abundance mentality, IDGAF attitude, and outcome independence, when in a good place mentally versus a bad place. Even before I found trp, abundance just came naturally when I was happy with my life. I didn't care if a girl was losing interest in me because my life was great. Who needs them anyway? I would think to myself. On the other side, when I went through those tough periods in my life, I felt like I needed a girl. I would get needy as fuck and dry up their pussy insanely fast. I would also try to talk to them about my issues, bad fucking move. Remember brothers, girls don't give a fuck about your mental health, they just want a strong man.

Now how do we fix this problem? Here are a few things that helped me get out of those holes and fix my depression problem almost permanently.

  1. Lifting - Probably the single most helpful thing for me personally.
  2. Running - Gets me out of my own head and into the clearest mental state, like meditation.
  3. Therapy - If you need to talk to someone, a male therapist or a male friend who understands.
  4. A Mindset Shift - This might sound like a bunch of bullshit to you but it helped me a fuckton. Instead of fearing sinking back into depression when you're in a good place, learn to enjoy being sad. Yes, you read that right, enjoy being sad because it's part of life. If you never felt sad then you'd never appreciate how good it feels to be happy. It's the Yin and Yang of life, the duality of our existence. So when I feel depression creeping back in to my mind, I simply let it in instead of pushing it away. I realized that when you allow yourself to fully feel the sadness, it goes away almost instantly because it has no power over you. It's like bullying in school, when a kid doesn't give a fuck that kids call him short or fat, they usually stop.

Lessons learned-

  • First and foremost, fix your mental state.
  • A good mental state naturally creates an Abundance mentality, IDGAF Attitude, and Outcome Independence.
  • Find out what things help you get to a good mental state and put them into practice.