LTR cheated with a guy who has a GF - let his GF know?

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June 22, 2020
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Hey all!

Shit happens, I got played. I picked up my shit in the middle of the day when she wasn’t home and just vanished out of her life, blocked her on everything and left her with an expensive lease and half furnished apartment. She is probably freaking the fuck out. Haven’t talked to her at all!

The dude she cheated with has amazing game, I read their convos, good on him! The only thing is, he has a LTR and she doesn’t know. From the messages I read seems like he cares about her and has been with her for a while.

The only advice I would need here is - do I let his GF know that he’s been banging the slut known as my ex? I feel it’s a moral thing to do and I would want for her to have told me if she found out first.

Let me know your thoughts!


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Title LTR cheated with a guy who has a GF - let his GF know?
Author moonlight_rider
Upvotes 253
Comments 244
Date 22 June 2020 05:55 AM UTC (10 months ago)
Subreddit askTRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/698461
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/hdmftu/ltr_cheated_with_a_guy_who_has_a_gf_let_his_gf/
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[–]RevolutionRose602 points603 points  (33 children) | Copy

A dude randomly called me once and told me that my LTR was at his apartment for last three days and he had been nutting her hard. The way she was lying to me on phone was disgusting to him so he found my number and called me to break up with her. She had basically gone to another city for work for a month and was in this dudes apartment through tinder within first week there.

I thanked the guy for letting me know, broke up with her without any drama. He kicked her out after he had his fun.

Both of us always meet up for a drink when I visit his city. I'll always be thankful to him for bailing a mate out

Edit: Keep your misogyny out pls. This is to let OP know how this superb guy helped me. She apparently had excellent taste in men

[–]Jgalayd98 points99 points  (0 children) | Copy

Now that's a real Eskimo brother

[–]Snowaey197 points198 points  (2 children) | Copy

Real ass nigga🙏

[–][deleted] 23 points24 points  (0 children) | Copy

fa sho

[–]huey76415 points16 points  (0 children) | Copy

What a fucking bro

[–]jrr6415sun55 points56 points  (2 children) | Copy

It doesn’t always work out like this though

[–]RevolutionRose43 points44 points  (0 children) | Copy

Almost never. But be like him

[–]Alzatorus7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

True that! I'm about to post a comment.

[–]Bleu_Cheese_Pursuits54 points55 points  (0 children) | Copy

Don't hate the player, hate the game. But then play the game.

[–]ShittySoftwar350 points51 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yeah, do this

[–]Senior EndorsedMattyAnon27 points28 points  (1 child) | Copy

Both of us always meet up for a drink when I visit his city

Haha that's great!

[–]RevolutionRose12 points13 points  (0 children) | Copy

She had good taste in men, lets give her that

[–]HelloDearWorld22316 points17 points  (0 children) | Copy

What a bro

[–]Velebit10 points11 points  (6 children) | Copy

Nutting her? You mean she was actually having a random man from tinder finish inside her?

[–]RevolutionRose16 points17 points  (5 children) | Copy

Yeah I guess. Good Riddance

[–]Velebit5 points6 points  (4 children) | Copy

That is a high risk taker. Can you please describe what is she like? What are her priorities in life, what is her work, what is her friends circle like, what she most spends time thinking about, is she religious, does she want kids, is she a nervous or chill type, impulsive or calculating, homebody or out type etc

[–]depressedfuckboi2 points3 points  (3 children) | Copy

Without ever meeting her I can answer this. Priorities? Have fun. Work? Bartender or perhaps call center. Friends? Like minded women with some dudes sprinkled in. Think about? Idk I'm not a mind reader. I'd imagine excuses to cover her tracks of her devious ways lol. Religious? Outwardly would appear so. Actions state otherwise. Wants kids when she eventually settles down. Chill type. Cool calm and collected. Until it's time to answer to the consequences of her actions. Then she's a wreck. Trying to win you back she's also a wreck. Impulsive? Absolutely. Hence the unprotected cheating. But calculating when it comes time to cover her tracks or lie to you. Out body on the weekends. Home body on weekdays.

How'd I do op?

[–]MickyWulla2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Not OP but sounds just like her, you did petty good!

[–]jamiestarza1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Take my award. But but......but I'm nOt LiKE thE oTHeR gIRls she says

[–]depressedfuckboi0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Thanks bro. But yeah exactly. Your comment sums it up.

[–]strainer1237 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

Nice, I was living with this girl that cheated on me, she spent a whole week in this guys apartment, I found out and kicked her out of my apt, and he kicked her out of his, she came crawling to me and I pretended I didn't even know her, it hurt to get played but it was pretty funny to get back at her, she went to live with her mom or grandma last time I heard of her.

[–]ASTRA-LUX8 points9 points  (6 children) | Copy

And you wonder why the majority of men don't feel like marrying anymore. Can't make a wife out of a whore. The garbage SJW infected media indoctrinates that is completely natural to monkey branch and fuck around with as many as they want. Actions and Consequences.

That said, you handled the situation like a boss. I salute you.

[–]1HurricaneHugues5 points6 points  (4 children) | Copy

What started all of this is the oversexualising that's ao prominent in western culture. There is no more modesty. Girls walking around with their ass cheeks hanging at the bottom of their shorts in public like it's nothing

"If you want to destroy any nation without war, make adultery and nudity common in its younger generations" - Salaaddin Ayuubi

[–]RevolutionRose2 points3 points  (3 children) | Copy

I did not share this experience to make you entitled for a misogynist rant making statements about all women in general. And quoting some primitive Aladdin was certainly not the idea.

Keep the misogyny to yourself, this is about letting OP know how a regular bloke saved me. As for her, she had excellent taste in men.

[–]1HurricaneHugues1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

Lookup who Salaaddin Ayuubi is

[–]RevolutionRose1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Salaaddin Ayuubi

I know, but he is speaking 1000 years ago from a war zone?? Times have changed and thought process on women from that time do not hold in todays time according to me. To each his own I guess ?

[–]1HurricaneHugues2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

What has changed in the thought process on women? Do you not realize what sub you are on? The irony.

[–]NeuroBoss312 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

💯

[–]Velebit0 points1 point  (4 children) | Copy

I am gathering info about personality profiles of different sorts. Can you describe that woman that cheated on you? What did she do in life, what were her priorities, did she plan to have kids, was she religious, tidy, extraverted, sociable, what was she brought up like, had both parents etc? This info is key yet nobody likes to talk about any of this.

[–]RevolutionRose0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy

Sent you a personal message

[–]electricspresident0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Would like to know the same if that's okay.

In addition were there any behaviors on your side that might have to those events? Thanks

[–]HornFinical0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Me three , I’m also curious !

[–]dani098106 points107 points  (6 children) | Copy

Post his text so we can see his “field report”.

For science We need to see this A+ game

[–]WhoThisDude41 points42 points  (3 children) | Copy

Wondering what this guy considers good game

[–]dani09831 points32 points  (2 children) | Copy

Exactly. He was bragging about it. Let’s see how he fucked your girl.

[–]1HurricaneHugues2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

Lmao

[–]dani0986 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

But let’s be honest though. OP‘s girlfriend is probably a four, OP is probably a six and the other dude is probably a seven.

[–]i-am-the-prize15 points16 points  (0 children) | Copy

hell yeah, we may find he's on here too...

[–]Valyarian1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

here for this aswell

[–]lil-sparky101 points102 points  (0 children) | Copy

Please update if you do. I wanna hear how this all unfolds.

[–]absolutelynp52 points53 points  (0 children) | Copy

share the convos

[–]slamdgti244 points245 points  (12 children) | Copy

I guess you have to decide if you want the additional drama. Dude doesn’t deserve to have a happy Ltr if he’s actively willing to wreck other relationships. Actions have consequences

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[–]DerpJungler132 points133 points  (1 child) | Copy

Just go all in and bang his LTR while you're on it

[–]ThrowawayYAYAY200249 points50 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yes, and then send pics to that guy.

Every action has a reaction, but you should always make sure that the buck stops with you.

[–]dzkkne15 points16 points  (0 children) | Copy

Just do it then and see if it was right. Good lesson for the future.

[–]slamdgti47 points48 points  (1 child) | Copy

I’d say go for it if there isn’t any backlash. I feel like she has the right to know her bf actions directly affected your relationship. Your ex is the more guilty party but she should know her relationship is a lie. Not sure of the TRP rules on this situation though

[–]holyshocker28 points29 points  (0 children) | Copy

Trp implies that she already knows. Her bf has amazing game after all. According to rp the gf is most likely more attracted to him from the dread and preselection. I know though that women want a man who can cheat not one who does. Unless he is indeed good enough to not lose.

[–]ogpine03257 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

Why don't you just bang his ltr

[–]agjrpsl11 points12 points  (0 children) | Copy

She has a right to know dude. You should let her know .

[–]officer-maggot2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

yeah, do it.

[–]gediwer118 points119 points  (6 children) | Copy

Bang his gf as revenge too

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[–]teabagabeartrap48 points49 points  (1 child) | Copy

and second: I hope you are fine! Even if you manage it as well as you sound to be managing... sometimes it gets you a shitty feeling... Even world class boxers take a punch some times... just keep training!

[–]ASTRA-LUX5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

Good for you. Be the better man.

You deserve better!

[–]teabagabeartrap5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

I like it, that you are this calm. Perfect decision.

I wouldn't do it as revenge or such bullshit... Only if she is very hot and you think that she wants revenge and will do things to you, that she never did to him...

Low effort on your side, maybe high short term reward...

[–]ShizzleMayne0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Dooooo it!!

[–]secureMPC28 points29 points  (0 children) | Copy

From reading your comments in this thread it's pretty clear you already know what you wanna do. It fucking hurts to be cheated on, no matter how 'hard' and 'alpha' you are. If I were you I would tell this guys girlfriend. She deserves to know what kind of man she is with. There are a million single girls out there, to go after another mans girls just shows how much a guy lacks integrity and character.

[–]gorytoglory68 points69 points  (3 children) | Copy

Steal his gf. eye for an eye

[–]thatbadrogue255 points56 points  (0 children) | Copy

instructions unclear, LTR missing an eye

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[–]Vofz38 points39 points  (2 children) | Copy

I would do it, who cares fuck it.

But who knows, if his game is as good as you say, she'll probably stay with him lol

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[–]second-last-mohican24 points25 points  (0 children) | Copy

Upvote to tell her, fuck that guy, he made his bed now has to lie in it.. he didn't think twice about fucking your life up.

[–]nixon99345 points46 points  (3 children) | Copy

Why not.Let the gf know and then just ignore them all continue with your life.

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[–]I_LOVE_CHIPS9 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy

Something similar happened to me and I almost got a false accusation.

[–]depressedfuckboi0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

That's what I'd do in that situation. You'll do better bro. Sorry this happened to you. Her loss my man.

[–]xnesteax26 points27 points  (4 children) | Copy

Props to you for taking this hard hit like a man.

If this happened to me I would completely lose my faith in LTRs

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[–]WeddingCrasher917 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

meow

[–]WeddingCrasher913 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy

but really what happened? Did you break frame and showed weakness at some point? Or was she just a plain slut?

Cab you share points showing how this guy had good game? Would appreciate it.

[–]HJGamer2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Doesn’t have to be that he did anything wrong. It’s branching

[–]throwitdownman118 points119 points  (32 children) | Copy

Objectively it comes across as being petty - like you’re bitter that your ex and her bf hooked up. She may also hamster a reason to stay, even after knowing about it. Doesn’t do much for you or your reputation, besides being therapeutic.

However, if I was in your shoes, I’d tell her. It’s better for my sanity.

[–]Vofz132 points133 points  (12 children) | Copy

"like you’re bitter that your ex and her bf hooked up"

Lmao so what? Is he supposed to feel nothing just because he's redpilled?

[–]Giagle29 points30 points  (0 children) | Copy

Exactly

[–]hmsthinkingmeat10 points11 points  (2 children) | Copy

No LTR no problems.

The other dude has 2 mental bitches to contend with now.

You win.

[–]antariusz3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy

Eh, all bitches are mental... Sounds like the other dude has 2 bitches, and OP has none and he's jealous.

[–]hmsthinkingmeat2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

To quote the philosopher Bob Marley - "No woman, no cry".

To extrapolate out from that using an Einsteinian model, you would therefore deduce that "more woman = more cry".

Therefore in a balanced Newtonian framework, 0 girl = 0 pain, 2 girls = 2 lots of pain.

So in a Bobby Fischer pincer movement, 0 girl wins, 2 girls means Queen cuts off Kings cock in 2 moves after first removing bishops helmet with her rook.

CheckCockMate

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[–]CasaDeFranco48 points49 points  (0 children) | Copy

If he's a player, let him learn the rules of the game.

He cannot respect his relationship nor that or others, let him learn a lesson here.

TRP is morally flexible, but if it were me; I'd tie up the loose end and nuke his life then move on.

Most men would do far worse, you're being charitable.

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

”I want to do the moral thing”

is just you rationalizing a bad decision.

You’re done with this situation. Wash your hands and move on.

[–]DiskKiller22 points3 points  (3 children) | Copy

If the guy is a true player, he'll, sadly, turn this to his advantage. Not sure it makes sense to be the white knight here... unless you're looking to bed his girlfriend in return.

[–]ebaymasochist0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

But there’s genuine “I want to do the moral thing” motive behind it as well. As someone said above actions have consequences and I know if I was on the other side, I would totally want the other person to tell me.

If you really want to do what's right, don't just drop this all at once on the woman, since you don't know what kind of state she will be in when reading it. You are going to fuck up her whole day, week, month, whatever depending on how much she already knows and cares about this.

Someone did some similar shit to me about my ex that I was with for five years and even though we were already broken up and she didn't cheat it still fucked me up for a while and was not the way to find out. I could have done something stupid because it was already a pretty bad week and just added so much more on top.

[–]BePrivateGirl-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

Don’t lie to yourself. If a close friend had a LTR and was getting some ass on the side would you be investing all this emotional bullshit on what the “moral” thing to do is?

No.

There are only loses here. What if you tell the girlfriend and she starts sucking this other dudes dick harder to keep his attention.

This is some basic ass pettiness.

[–]Adonique-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

I think just let bygones be bygones. You already blocked and ghosted your girl. He probably knew he was making her cheat on you so why still try be a “nice guy” to anyone involved in that shitty situation.

[–]thatbadrogue21 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Hamstering is good though, he could harbor feelings for her, build on the relationship despite his cheating or w/e and then she dumps him and breaks him.

[–]2niczar0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Objectively it comes across as being petty

Not condoning doing it, but what's the drawback to appearing petty to anyone involved here?

[–]DucardthaDon8 points9 points  (3 children) | Copy

left her with an expensive lease

Fanfuckingtastic you had the balls to move out and did not wait around for her to talk you out of it.

Now the most important part, are you legally tied to anything in the apartment? Is your name on the lease? Bills? Tax? Etc...if so, not so good....

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[–]Tiway221 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

She was paying for everything?

[–]Bleu_Cheese_Pursuits1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

It doesn't matter who paid for what if everything is in his name, provided his state doesn't recognize common law marriage.

[–]Versace-Bandit24 points25 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yeee, fuck his shit up

Just try to minimize your involvement. You don’t want to be part of this drama between him and his gf.

[–]wanker717133 points34 points  (0 children) | Copy

I feel it’s a moral thing to do

If you're coming here to moralize, you've come to the wrong place.

I would want for her to have told me if she found out first

If you don't think you can let it go, tell her. The quicker this shit is off your mind the better.

[–]ntkstudy445 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy

In my opinion this sounds more like a female move than an alpha one

[–]DigitalDragonSlayer5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

Why should they be happy?

Blow it up. But I’m a sucker for chaos

[–]beachbbqlover12 points13 points  (1 child) | Copy

Bitch move IMHO.

You just found out she's not LTR material and is only a plate at best.

Telling them causes drama. I mean, you do you, but what matters here is how you adjust to reality.

[–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

Word. It's a sign that you ain't lived much if you have time for unnecessary drama.

[–]aDrunkenWhaler35 points36 points  (5 children) | Copy

Not telling her is the best revenge.

  1. The guy will continue his relationship all while always knowing she might find out. This adds constant stress to his life and you having indirect power over him.

  2. He might keep fucking your ex. This will drag on for a time, and eventually your ex will ask for more commitment from him. She will double down on wanting him to justify her cheating was the right thing to do. She will not get it, but will keep at it losing valuable time from her prime years. She might even tell on his girl herself, in a desperate atempt to win him over, unleashing chaos.

  3. He might break it off with your ex just to remove drama from his life, in which case your ex will be abandoned by both and left feeling like the slut she is.

  4. You can always drop the bomb anonymously to his girl if you feel like it a few years down the line, when they will be even more invested (maybe married).

  5. After some time he might leave his girl for your ex. They will have a shit relationship, with a lot of drama and both never trusting each other. She will lose good years of her prime life.

  6. Telling will make them break up, and he'll keep banging your ex. He won't suffer much because he still has pussy, and she'll be ok because she has dick and attention. The relationship will die down because there is no more 'taboo' factor, and will look for something else. They won't suffer much because they'll use each other as cushions.

  7. What telling only does is make you feel good for hurting them back. They will hurt, but will reset in no time. In a sense, you're forcing them to end a chapter of bad decions, learn from their mistakes and sort their life out. Not telling will not only hurt, but create damage and suffering in the long.

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[–]WildTravel2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yes and no. Re 6, yea he still might be banging your ex, but maybe his original one will bounce. Now he has 1 to fuck, and not 2 to spin plates (assuming he doesn't have any others of course).

I'd simply think about it from that angle - would I want someone to tell me if that happened to me? Fuck yes, immediately so that I can break up with that slut. Likewise, I'd assume the same for the other person and tell them too.

[–]cowarrior11 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

If i were you, i wont say a shit! I will move on and fuck other chicks. As points mentioned above, saying to his gf will make you feel good but if your intention is to watch them get hurt and burn then I wont say a shit. Probably throw a bomb if him and his gf get engaged or so

[–]ebaymasochist1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

This is the most Machiavellian shit I have ever read on here. Impressive.

[–]silvereddi2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

This. Especially number 6. Only tell his gf if you plan on fucking her. Otherwise this will just turn against you again in every way

[–]drevenx1310 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy

Don’t. You’re winning big time if you don’t. I admire the cold heart of a man who has his eyes open. You left on your terms, you have the upper hand now. Anything else is just trouble.

[–]Crixusgannicus3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Revenge is a dish best served cold....

Revenge is also best served in multiple courses....

[–]sowhattwenty204 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

My first comment would be to trot out the old chestnut that the red pill is based on what are essentially “amoral” observations, most rooted evolutionary psychology. So, you shouldn’t be on this message board if you’re seeking moral advice.

If you really want to be a red pill mofo here, chalk this loss up to hypergamy, or the simple fact that you let yourself into an LTR, which is a purple pill move. A man without options has no room to maneuver, to paraphrase Rollo in some way I think.

Also, ask yourself who would you really be doing this act of “service” for? Is it actually out of pure concern for your ex, or are you hoping this will make you feel better and save face?

Do you want this new guy coming after you? You speak in admiration of his game, now you want to mess with his new girl? He could be trying to monkey-branch himself.

Up to you, but I’d let sleeping dogs lie. Learn from the experience. Take it like a man and get comfortable with the emotional pain. Turn that energy into growth and focus on your purpose/passions. Red pill men know it’s always “just your turn,” especially with 9/10s in their 20s without kids.

[–]Sonny_Luna0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Great post. Very sensible.

I love the insight about the underlying motivations for snitching. Makes total sense to me.

[–]Velebit3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Don't be a coward and silent to injustice. You are allowing that guy to do whatever the fuck he wants because you are afraid of confortation. This is why she went for him.

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[–][deleted] 12 points13 points  (8 children) | Copy

Then you have too much time on your hands and not enough goals that you’ve set for yourself if you’re worried about whether you should tell some other random slut about her boyfriend’s “infidelity”. You know nothing about their relationship. Just as easily as your girl fucked another guy his girl may very well be doing the same thing. They may even have an open relationship for fuck sake.You think telling her makes you righteous and a “good guy”? Get over yourself and your overinflated ego.

I already gave you the answer to this “dilemma” of yours in the first response anyway. 1) Focus on yourself 2) Crush your goals But you clearly have none. Because if you did, you wouldn’t have time to be worrying about two people who YOU DONT EVEN FUCKING KNOW

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[–]ev3rynightfireworks28 points29 points  (3 children) | Copy

This dudes delusional. Everyone has 10 minutes to devote. Get her number then create a fake and message her. Then, move on with your life. You can still be on your goals and do this

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[–]ev3rynightfireworks3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

It’s not; how many people are in open relationships, like 1-2% of the population? My suggestion leaves room for plausible deniability which basically leads to the same outcome.

[–]WildTravel2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Imagine if OP didn't find out his GF was a slut and was cheating on him, but the other guy's chick found out. Wouldn't you want to know somebody is disrespecting you behind your back? You're saying he's overthinking but what's up with you assuming open relationship on their end? Who gives a fuck, OP just wants to send a message and move on. I'd do it.

[–][deleted] -1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

This guy is saying the truth and much kinder than I would have.

You really don't gain anything, you really only lose the longer you care about it.

As the other guy said, you have no idea how the other couple live, they might get your message, all laugh at you together and have a threesome.

[–]Ivabighairy10 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

A comment worth saving (I did).

[–]VipKyle0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Found the guy who nutted OPs ltr ;)

[–]packers24889 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy

I did the same thing 😂. Felt great because the guy moved across the country to live with her right after I found out. Last I heard she dumped his ass right after moving. I’d say go for it, as long as you aren’t 5’2 130 lbs and he is 6’5 240

[–]BlueGlacier211 points12 points  (0 children) | Copy

I don’t see how it would benefit you or why you care at all. Move on and let this unfold naturally

[–]thatbadrogue211 points12 points  (0 children) | Copy

spite is fun as fuck- it's super toxic, and it's lame as shit. Fuck that bitch though, let her know. Chances are he cares for his LTR more than you cared for yours since you actually asked instead of just abstaining from doing it. It's gonna be hard to plead case, but you should consider learning how to fake feelings. Be sure to inform us how the revenge sex was though- Chicks are more spiteful than dudes and she'll probably do EVERYTHING she refused to do with him for you...usually on tape. Considering you read the texts, I assume you're an iCloud pussy and paid for her phone bill which led to text history. Dumb bitch couldn't use snap- rookie move.

Bring proof or he wins.

[–]red__Man8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

Just move on kiddo, his LTR may like him even more if you tell her that he cucked you

[–]MrAnderzon10 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy

Iron Rule of Tomasi: never move in with a women you don’t plan on marrying within 6 months

If you snitch it will increase her attraction towards him.

Move on and work on abundance.

TRP is amorality

[–]ev3rynightfireworks2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

I’d do it, then just deny it. Tell her to leave you alone or you’ll get a restraining order or some shit. Say you didn’t do it, who the fuck would trust him to not be bangin other hoes?

[–]Black JesusDerekMorganBAU2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Nigga at times like these think Nike - Just Do It.

[–]ZZ3xhZz2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

None of your business. leave it alone. You'll just create more drama for all including yourself. Get out while you're ahead.

[–]bestsparkyalive2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Honestly I would send a message and let nature run it’s course. Don’t let this slide.

[–]DerpJungler2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

It's an asshole thing to do but do it. It will make you feel better but only if you manage the fire that it will cause.

[–]trwawyrnd2 points3 points  (6 children) | Copy

I'm not sure if you mentioned it before but, did he know she had a boyfriend? We know he has game and an LTR, but perhaps he was looking to upgrade and found a suitable match in your girl. I'd say if he knew then you should tell his girl because he is most responsible for the situation. if he didn't, then it's your girl's fault for not being a loyal LTR.

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[–]Sqtlol2 points3 points  (4 children) | Copy

I know this probably isn’t the right thing to do at the moment, but would you mind sharing some of their convos to highlight his game? (I don’t condone what he did, but rather how he did it could learn a lot of people here something)

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[–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

Do it.

[–]aesky4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

the dude knew to watch her actions not her words cos if she wanst interested she would just ignore or block him

do share the whole convo tho

[–]electricspresident0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Thanks for sharing but if you could say really quick as to

-how good looking he is, better or lesser than you -how did they meet? As in if your gf hopped on tinder then its likely you were getting weak in the ltr

Sorry for the gutting bro, that shit must have been happening in your own apartment. Fuck.

Never living with a chick. Fuck that shit.

[–]Brushyourteethm82 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

There isn't a right or wrong answer.

TRP is at it's core an amoral study of intersexual dynamics.

If you have strong feelings about it either way then you are having strong feelings about something outside of yourself and out of your control - so what's the point.

Concentrate on learning what you can from it and then drop it and move on.

[–]Sonny_Luna-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

Fucking THANK you. Emotional resilience is paramount.

[–]hittincervix2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

You gota grab those screen shots and send em to yourself so you can present exhibit A.

Being readpilled does not mean you're a drone. If for nothing more than your mental health spill the lipton.

[–]brinkleybuzz2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Don't do it. Your problem is with her, not him. If she didn't bang this guy, it probably would have been someone else.

Look at it this way. The thot that used to be your girl is his problem now. Lick your wounds, learn the right lessons and move on.

[–]bumbuff2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Tell her in a neutral tone and move on. Don't oversell it, she can do what she wants with the info.

[–]Tambamwham2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Ofcourse you let her know. She deserves the basic respect to make choices about her own life based on truth.

[–]KidBrody772 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Absolutely! Ask yourself this....if you were being cheated on would you want to know? Ok, well there's your answer. It's not complicated.

I have no respect for liars - male or female. And that's all a cheater is - a liar. Best case scenario his lies cause someone a lot of emotional pain. Worst case scenario his lies puts her health and possibly life in danger by exposing her to STDs without her consent or knowledge. And not just AIDS. How'd you like to get lifelong incurable genital herpes from your boyfriend or girlfriend cheating on you and then giving it to you? That right there would be cause for justifiable homicide in my opinion.

[–]BetterCallSaulsa9 points10 points  (6 children) | Copy

A bro who steals girls in committed relationships deserves nothing. He took property from you so you have every right to take his property from him. I say pull the pin on the grenade. Tell her the next time they plan to fuck if you have any contact information on her. If you can somehow remain anonymous that would be perfect. Best to have proof like a photo of his car at her place or vice versa and screenshots of their texts so she for sure knows it’s him.

[–]Sonny_Luna1 point2 points  (5 children) | Copy

Spoken like a true victim. You’re a pussy. You’re also stupid for thinking telling the girl will cause her to leave him. The guy has her sewn up. You wouldn’t know anything about that, though.

[–]BetterCallSaulsa2 points3 points  (4 children) | Copy

Well you know what they say, ‘you are what you eat’ 😁

Clearly you don’t know the difference between an LTR and a plate. Go back to the white knight side of reddit soyboy.

[–]Sonny_Luna0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy

White knight? You wanna save the girl from her cheating boyfriend, which I’m against, and you call me the white knight?

You’re a pussy.

[–]BetterCallSaulsa1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

Save? The fuck you high on bro 🤣🤣🤣 I wouldn’t give 2 shits about some bitch unless it’s a revenge fucking. If a bro wrongs you and takes your property you don’t get even, you one up them. I’m all for emotionally breaking a bitch then revenge fucking her to get back at a traitor to the cause.

[–]Sonny_Luna-1 points0 points  (1 child) | Copy

You wanna snitch on a guy for cheating on his girlfriend.

You are a social justice warrior. You are a feminist.

[–]BetterCallSaulsa1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Eww don’t even lump me in with those faggots who think women aren’t just objects for our amusement are you as slow mentally as your comment response time 😂😂😂

[–]McLovinReturns1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

Tell him and maybe some sparks fly and you fuck his LTR. Not as revenge, but simply as a free Fuck. Stay good my friend and keep grinding

[–]Sonny_Luna0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

You’re stupid for thinking the girl will leave the guy for cheating on her.

If OP snitches nobody wins and nobody loses. All it does is causes sad feelings for the girl who got cheated on. She won’t break up with her boyfriend anyway. So what’s the point, other than being a spiteful, emotional pussy?

[–]McLovinReturns1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Lol it doesn't matter, he's never going to see these people again and can move on. My view on it is to might as well and see if he can get one ass tap before he goes out cause why not. If it's too much for him than he doesnt have to. Pussy is pussy

[–]2redhawkes[🍰] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Tebra MYOB and don't hide your butthurtness behind the 'moral' code. Fuck other hoes. It's not the guy, it's your ex that allowed it. If it wasn't him, some other dick would've done it.

Vet better before you LTR sluts. Keep her ghosted forever.

[–]drv120211 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Let her know. Why should you be the only one getting your life destroyed. You shouldn't feel guilty over this.

[–]nexther1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

You did the right thing. Cheats get HARD NEXTED. Do you let her know? It depends on how convincing you are... do you evidence, cause if she doesn’t believe you... you might have trouble

Alpha move: go and hook up with her...

[–]Zapche1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Drop the hammer on Chad chaddington

[–]TravisScottNL1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Tell him or fuck his girl or do both

[–]soulure1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Would you want to know? There's your answer.

[–]mrmaskfawkes1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Uh Yeah,

dude you burned a bridge already add some c4 to it and tell her. She will appreciate it, dude gets his and your ex is left with a wreck from cheating on you. To be honest I'd have pizza and a cold one ready after a day like that. That is a thorough way to leave an ex who cheated on you.

[–]SocialCupcake1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Avoid DRAMA in your life. Do not CREATE drama. Stress, drama, baggage leads to poor health. Drama happens, but dear God, don't CREATE more. It follows you forever.

Affairs, bankruptcy, car accidents, meteor showers. Things will happen. But don't go out there making more of it.

Future GFs will find out about your past drama (whether justified or not) and judge you on your actions with it.

Were you Petty and vindictive? Forgiving? Or just walk away and ask yourself why YOU didn't see her character traits?

Will you be just as forgiving or unforgiving with your next GF or future wife? These are things HEALTHY people look for in a mate. Past behavior predicts future behavior.

Would a top10 Alpha who owned a yacht with models on it go be a petty white Knight and get back at his gf? Probably not, he's too busy moving forward. You have youth, time and health on your side, don't waste it.

Is there some huge gap of fatherless dudes today? Whose dad didn't tell them this?

[–]psychoduckly1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Do what amuses you. It would be a service to her. Further, you may get to bang her.

Your job is to take care of YOU and not some *bro" who is an interloper.

[–]GameOfBimbos4201 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Do it destroy his fucking life. In business you take no prisoners

[–]2niczar2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Main reason not to do it: a strong person would just move on and learn from the experience; you want to see yourself as strong but then you may not actually be.

Main reason to do it: it could help you not feel as helpless. Victims of attacks who fight back, even unsuccessfully, experience less trauma than those who don't.

In short, if you can easily get over it and laugh about it, it's better to move on; if you can't it's better to exert some revenge to keep some semblance of control. Just don't lie to yourself: you may not be as strong as you wish you were, or you may just be more attracted to the drama than need some consolation prize.

[–]therichguywithabs1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I wouldn't, if the guy is in your social circle, you'd have some leverage on him and you don't know that will maybe pay back one day. Focus on yourself and leave all this shit behind you, her loss bro.

Also you'll maybe regret telling her after it does nothing to their relationship (which is what you're looking for by telling her), you'll only come out as the drama and reverge seeking guy, which doesn't help you in any way

[–]vadimdavidov0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Fuck it up for him, my man. 100%. Try meet /w his girlfriend also. You can flip this around for yourself

[–]DoctorObby0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

Wait at least 24 hrs before you make a decision

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[–]DadBod2ChadBod1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Provide her with proof when you tell her

[–]johnnygun-0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

There's a thousand pornos with this motif.. go show the girl proof then fuck her til her brain explodes.

[–]zachthrowaway3000 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

good job on the way you acted man.

[–]flatox0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

This isn't a question for other people, this is a question for yourself.

Would you want her to tell you? Then go ahead and do it. Just know that it might bring more unecessary drama into your life.

[–]DiskKiller20 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

See this as a chance to bang her. Make sure your text game is extremely tight, no long convos about your feelings.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I think you should (with proof aswell so it's a success) and I admire the way you handle it man. Keep moving forward.

[–]zlodej870 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Detach from your ex and that guy and focus your attention and energy on improving yourself and getting a better girl. Revenge is for the weak.

[–]Elprez910 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Mate you did the right thing. Don't waste energy on any of them. You can hold your head up high on this one.

[–]spartan_samurai0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

If you want more drama then go for it. His LTR will eventually find out about his adulterous lifestyle someday by you or someone else.

It's like someone stole your bike, are you gonna knock on that person's door and damage his bike or will you purchase new one but with better locks this time so it's not easy to steal.

[–]elbananerozoy0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Update When you decide What to do

[–]warthundersfw0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Nothing wro with getti back at the guy

[–]Herdsengineers0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

My opinion - have an abundant mentality and forgo thoughts of banging the dude's girl. That's just getting you more mixed into the whole thing. There are endless numbers of girls. Go find a new one that isn't related to this.

As for telling the other chick - one don't feel obligated. Not your monkeys, not your circus. Not telling also helps keep you separated from the situation in the future. Also, not your relationship, and you owe this girl nothing. If you do tell, keep short and sweet. "hey - you don't know me, but i found out your BF was banging my GF on the side. i thought you should know." then attached whatever proof you have, and send the message. then block all involved and move on. the key is to move on and not get wrapped up in some kind of issue with the three of them.

the best revenge is moving on and living well.

[–]yes_kid0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I would definitely do it.

[–]JediKnight910 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Regardless of any ego or vengeance, I think telling his gf is the right thing to do. He has been trying to make a fool out of both of ya

[–]NPcChad0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I would fuck his girl and tell her nothin, it's a triple kill here.

[–]Forsaken43210 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Its one thing to have a plate beside your ltr. But doing this with a girl in a ltr is a ass move. Tell his gf and get some satisfying revenge. It will be very sweet.

[–]HaroldTFinch0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

It's not worth the time to go hunting some chick down to let her know. If the guy tells your ex he has a LTR he is confident enough it doesn't matter to him and you look bitter making the effort to stick it to him. It would be different if you knew her and could make the comment in passing because you thought they were so open about relationships...

[–]Alzatorus0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

It depends on how you do it. I was the one being cheated on, but I let the guy know that she was with someone. He didn't know, felt bad, invited me out for a drink and then continued to bang her. Fair play to him, but just make sure that you have really cut ties and don't give a fuck. His LTR is going to take it badly, either way, and she won't believe you without evidence. However, she definitely deserves to know. Personally, I would play the game and go balls deep on the LTR, with the shared ethos of ''fuck them'' - She will ask you a million and one questions, but play your cards right and winning her over is pretty much a dead cert.

[–]lonewolfsrise0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Yes

[–]binrobinro0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Sure. Send her some of their conversations, too. (You did forward them to yourself, didn't you?)

I know I would appreciate it.

[–]TxnyMontana0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Go for it, but don't get involved in drama.

[–]brianmcg3210 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Yes. Always let the other betrayed know.

[–]kellykebab0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Yes.

[–]subaruguy140 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Only interfere if you have a game plan to fuck her and she’s hot.

[–]PreEntertain0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

No. You fuck her.

[–]sloanriley0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Definitely tell her

[–]Kidterrific0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

The best revenge is to live well. If you truly don't give a shit about her, leave it alone and move on.

Shows her you give less of a fuck and will really burn more if you're apathetic. Going to ruin a stranger's relationship is you just being butthurt.

That's just me.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Infidelity should never be rewarded in any functioning society by any metric.

You should absolutely tell her and make sure she sees the proof so there is no reasonable doubt in her mind.

But for all you know she may already know and not really care. Depends how good his game is.

[–]ilikedbt0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

ask yourself if doing so will actually improve anything in your life, or if its resentment driving you to do it.

[–]Naked-fox0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Let her know bro. Cheaters are trash and she deserves to know her bf is trash. Do the right thing

[–]cocaineandfatbitches0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Can we get an update?

[–]Musicgoon-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

I'm not above being petty TBH. That being said I would go with a different tactic. His current girlfriend might be Dick-whipped. So you could narc him out, she could stay, and your girlfriend could to. Then you look weak.

In this situation I would game and bang other chicks. Then send a pic of your cock in another girl's or several goes mouths. (Black out the eyes for anonymity). Tell your ex thanks for giving you the opportunity to find someone better.

Then move on. Billions of potential plates out there.

[–]Standgrounding0 points1 point  (4 children) | Copy

Leaving her with expensive lease and half furnished apartment... Well played. You shit on her and buried her hopes deep underground. That by itself is some sweet revenge.

Also, its her and entirely her responsibility not to cheat. Id say dont snitch out that dude but instead make friends with him and learn game from him. Use him as learning resource.

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[–]Senior Contributoradam-l2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

This, it was.your ex's full responsibility. Women are the gategeepers of sex.

That said, if fucking up his relationship will make you feel just a bit better, why not? It's not so much a matter of ethics towards his LTR, it's a matter of doing what makes you happy.

[–]Sonny_Luna1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Ok. If you can’t do that can you just forget about being a spiteful little anklebiter and don’t snitch?

[–]Standgrounding0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I see that.

Whenever I want to avenge anyone like bullies I always inspect. Maybe I can use them for learning and shit and maybe they even end up friends with me. And then in the end I sabotage the friendship / snitch them out / whatever if I dont deem them worthy.

Postpone the bad things. Do the good things now.

[–]macrian0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I would let her know yes. Especially if you had screen caps or something regarding your LTRs fuck up

[–]PrometheusRisesIN0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy

Can you share screenshots of their convo?

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[–]PrometheusRisesIN0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Just a ques. How did you define their game as amazing? And good than yours?

[–]Valyarian0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Can you explain how his game was amazing?

[–]cydestiny-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

Go and we will meet at the end of the path, then you know what the sidebar is about.

Seriously, why are you stir up in this drama in the first place, I'm pretty sure your freaking inner man gut has warned you not one time but multiple time before you LTR-ed her. You ignore the fucking red flags so?

Now you want to put the blame on the guy and your LTR? You should be one responsible for all these shit.

[–]BiasedBavarian-1 points0 points  (2 children) | Copy

Move on. Don’t go out like a pussy. For all you know, they might have an open relationship.

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[–]Sonny_Luna1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

It’s none of your business, pussy. You lost. And that’s fine. But get over it. Learn from the guy who fucked your girl. You need to learn how to do what he does: fuck randoms while you have a loyal chick at home waiting for you.

[–]IXseed-3 points-2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Not your job. Stop trying to blow up another dude's spot because you got played

[–]Senior EndorsedMattyAnon-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

seems like he cares about her

Well, clearly not very much.

The only advice I would need here is - do I let his GF know that he’s been banging the slut known as my ex?

Meh, why bother? Nothing good will come of it. What's your motive here? I think it's more about revenge than concern for this girl's feelings.

[–]yourgirlfriendsdad-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

Dont blow up this guys thing. That would be an insecure and jealous move and it would let your ltr know that you care what she does. You did the right thing taking your things and downgrading her back to hoe status.

[–]E9er-2 points-1 points  (0 children) | Copy

you sound butthurt... she hurt me, let me hurt the guy who is fucking my territory! oneitis 101

[–]Sonny_Luna-2 points-1 points  (2 children) | Copy

What a fucking pussy ass post. This sub is absolutely dominated by pussies.

Take your L and be better in the future. You should have been the one fucking someone else’s girl. Now you wanna snitch on him just because he got over on you?

Fucking pussy.

[–]ASTRA-LUX4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

You fucking piece of shit incel lol

Men with integrity, especially red pilled, don't go around fucking someone else's woman. Fuck off with that lowlife advice back to incel.is

[–]Sonny_Luna-2 points-1 points  (0 children) | Copy

lol

I’m fucking your girl but I’m the incel?

You inexperienced pussy. Suck my dick, faggot.



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