Been around for 3-4 years posted a lot but mostly in TRP. Pretty comfortable with my knowledge. Worked through most side bar items in TRP, not as many in MRP.
Something that has escaped me all this time is what place does anger(as well as timing on showing it) have in a TRP/MRP/Alpha man’s life?
Of course, we don’t want to get but hurt over little things. Of course, shit tests need to be passed with an attitude of not giving a shit. Early on, reading Rational Male I got the impression a man should never show anger. Getting into 48 laws of power, getting emotional causes you to lose power. Considering stoicism and Marcus Aurelius, there’s a lot of reasons to not be or at least never show anger.
But through reading, experience, conversations with men and women, even my own experience with people that I look up to, it seems like there’s definitely a place for anger, albeit minimal.
Women often communicate their lizard brains are turned on by an angry man. But obviously out of control, dangerous, or weak(angry about little things aka butt hurt) anger in a man isn’t attractive. I’ve even seen/read about women getting turned on by a man yelling angrily at them, prob for a type of disobedience where she knows she was wrong and knows he’s trying to protect her. Similar to the way a dad might yell at a child for doing something dangerous(not because he is in a state of disliking them but rather in a state of hating their choices which could have brought harm to something he loves dearly.)
I can guess that at the least a sort of righteous anger that is directed at something that is attacking a woman or her children can be a positive experience for her, as long as it’s few and far between and controlled. Although my mind also goes to the confident silent alpha that knows he can destroy the little dweeb that grazed his woman’s ass in a club and doesn’t need to get angry or make threats.
I haven’t run across anything or anyone that describes the acceptable nuance here and really drawn the line.
Any books, articles, posts I’ve missed? Can someone give me some advanced thoughts that has found the answer to this question?
After thought: something that helps me work through concepts and kill my latent blue pill tendencies is flipping the scene. So doing that, I imagine an angry woman and how I would react to that. Out of control and crazy bitch is obviously weird and at times can cause a fight or flight trigger in me. But there’s definitely something I could see as attractive in a woman that is expressing the right type of anger. There’s a type of confidence you can see when you compare the difference between a controlled woman expressing anger and making coherent statements vs a crazy bitch flailing her arms around and screeching.