My (26F) husband (31M) is not interested in going out of his way to pleasure me if he gets nothing in return. I would very much like to be pursued more during sex, but it seems sex only happens when I pursue him or if he gets something out of it. Sometimes I will just give him a BJ and want nothing in return. It would be really nice to the favor to be reciprocated every once in a while. I would really like for my husband to make me orgasm without be having to do anything to him. So for example. My husband is out of commission right now due to a surgery. I am wanting to have sex with him, but feel like he won't want to pleasure just me because he cannot get anything out of it. I guess ultimately I want to be pursued and feel valuable enough for him to want to pleasure me without anything in return, but I just feel like I'm not worth it to him to waste his energy on that. I want my pleasure to make him happy. :/