Man defends girlfriend, she flips out and becomes terrified of him

leftajar · 2020-06-30T20:42:27+00:00

That post and the comments are a microcosm of how fucked and unnatural society has become.

First, his GF. She is so insanely privileged as to have been shielded from even the concept of violence her entire life. The West is so prosperous, so safe, that the violence required to maintain the system is effectively below the conscious awareness of your average female. She can pretend it doesn't exist because she's not aware of it. I guarantee you some low-rent bitch from the ghetto wouldn't react this way.

Second, the comments. Everyone pretending he has some kind of violence problem? Look at these soft, waste-of-space soyboys implying that he has some kind of psychological problem for handling business.

Yes, biology is important, but never underestimate the impact of a lifetime of brainwashing.

LLL3peat · 2020-06-30T20:03:59+00:00

She liked the idea of a bug strong man but didn’t know what her army vet man was capable of. She sees the tire iron window smash and the guy walking away as situation ended, but boyfriend stepped in and taught the guy a lesson. Gf is scared that big strong man will do that to her if they get into an altercation.

Nothing he/she could do to fix it. Sounds like she wanted an idea to get out of the relationship/engagement but didn’t have a reason to. Now she does. She thinks he’ll flip and do the same to her. Who really knows what the internet story proved. That’s it when you get away from the mans perspective. She wanted out. She’s not yours, it’s only your turn

bottled_butts · 2020-06-30T21:21:18+00:00

Reading all those pussy redditors comments is nauseating.

Weak soyboy men and pearl clutching karens willing to give up their life or a loved ones life for some pacifist virtue signal. Disgusting trash people.

Laying_PipeNYC · 2020-07-01T00:14:42+00:00

I’m the guy. I’m not really in like..the greatest of spaces mentally but I’ll answer some questions. I’ll clear a few things up here.

The headbutting thing is ridiculous. Dirty boxers headbutt for a reason. Early wrestlers and strikers utilized a shit ton of headbutt’s in early MMA. Wanderlei Silva lost a fight I believe because he refused to stop hitting a man with his open wound bearing head. They are effective, particularly when clinching and grappling on the feet. They don’t signify some inner rage. I’m not an angry guy. My issues lie more along the lines of depression and anxiety. I didn’t have any free limbs and I really didn’t want to get hit with a fucking tire iron so I hit him with my head.

BluzzKill · 2020-06-30T20:14:24+00:00

I'm not sure I understand this totally but have seen it before. I know of a guy that was engaged to a young lady out walking after a date when 3 armed men come to rob them. The guy pulls his own legal firearm and smokes all 3 going jon wik skill level.

Girl immediately starts treating him like a monster and dumps him.

I think it's a manifestation of wanting to avoid reality of violence which is why women are more apt to be blissfully ignorant of risk even though they are less capable of dealing with the risk.

In the particular case OP mentioned I'd wonder how much the boy friend started or encouraged the road rage which is a red flag for a smart woman. Claims not to have. After an in depth read I believe the boyfriend did not cause any of the problem at all.

OttoVonBismark71 · 2020-06-30T21:06:32+00:00

Dude this is the real world. Not everything is going to match up perfectly with red pill theories. Yes women generally like more dominant men. However, some are going to be scared of them. Watching your boyfriend essentially disable someone else is pretty traumatic. Just because it could be a turn on to some women doesn't mean it will be to all. Some women might go the other way. You know that women are illogical. This is a good lesson that not every single thing about TRP will be true in all cases. They are just generalisations. Again, this is the real world, not some forum online.

dusara217 · 2020-06-30T20:01:56+00:00

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Filmguy000 · 2020-06-30T23:11:16+00:00

Yeah it isn't that cut and dry. All women like dominant men. But not all women like violent men. I have witnessed this type of thing myself.

Back in the day there was an attractive couple that was part of our group of friends. He was a good looking "CHAD" type but pretty cool dude. His girlfriend was a hot as fuck asian girl that was pretty submissive to him. They were together for over six years. But one night we went bar hopping and some random dude was walking through a crowd and pushed the girlfriend hard and she fell and hit her head on a wall pretty hard (she started bleeding). The dude (pusher) saw it and said "bitch was in my way". So her boyfriend saw all this and his inner ghetto came out and he beat the living shit out of the dude and yelled with intense rage. We all pulled him away and the guy looked like a damn pizza on the sidewalk. Well, apparently seeing her boyfriend's reaction scared her too much and she dumped him the next week. Supposedly this wasn't a pattern on his part either, but it goes to show you.

TiredOfBeingMediocre · 2020-07-01T00:30:40+00:00

My man should’ve left this dumb bitch when she said that she’s scared of him and thinking about leaving her. Balls in her court if he stays with her. Comments on the post are mind boggling to me, he did the right thing.

InformalCriticism · 2020-07-01T00:43:12+00:00

You're probably missing the 50,000ft view. Dude is a vet. May have a whole host of problems and she was actively looking for a way to get away long prior to this seemingly isolated incident. Women will stay in relationships with men they don't actually like just biding their time and cultivating orbiters until one becomes a perceptibly higher branch. Either because her current man's branch is "falling" - and she can grab onto the first one that passes - or, a branch orbiting has finally grown higher than before and it's still within her "reach".

hopelesshotel · 2020-07-01T00:22:19+00:00

maybe she wanted to leave him for a minute and is just using this as an excuse

Tambamwham · 2020-07-01T01:59:03+00:00

I’d make it clear that I handled it exactly how it should have been handled and I’d do it again. And then I’d wish her luck and be on my way.

vadimdavidov · 2020-06-30T23:50:14+00:00

This man is 100% in the right, and those blue pilled retards in the comments of that post are living in a delusional bubble. The world is violent at its core. And is only getting more violent. I hope her next boyfriend is incapable of defending her and she experiences the consequences of this.

noPTSDformePlease · 2020-06-30T23:30:47+00:00

she has seen, for the first time in her life, the truth about human nature and our modern society: it is built out of violence.

human nature is a scary thing. we are the most violent mother fuckers in the known universe.

yadigggggggggg · 2020-07-01T03:06:26+00:00

I agree with tc, she wanted an excuse to leave.

kittenssavedmylife · 2020-07-01T06:43:01+00:00

The second someone in that thread mentioned that shooting guns was an intently violent hobby I noped the fuck out.

What the fuck is society lately? We've gone completely off the rails

Ratchets-N-Wrenches · 2020-07-01T07:33:31+00:00

Holy fuck reading through the comments.

You did show restraint, from your description at least, I have always been taught (ironically from my mother.a single mom, and my sensei a very tiny scary lady) that the only reasonable actions to take once fighting is on the table (like now) would be to cause the most damage in the least amount of time. In your situation my training and upbringing would have told me to permanently disable and/or possibly kill this man, you just whacked him in the face a few times and threw him to the side in timeout.

Your girlfriend is ungrateful and her family is Awful, sounds like a bunch of fucking snowflakes that you should walk away from, gf included.

juliusstreicher · 2020-07-01T10:29:52+00:00

Some demon possessed freak grabbed a heavy metal bar, focuses on her window, and smashes it. BF defends her...and he's the animal???

Her head is fucked. Why do chicks with fucked heads do dumb stuff? Dunno, and never will. Their HEADS ARE FUCKED!!!!!

OTOH, she may be traumatized.

Now, WHY did she break it off with him? BECAUSE HE IS FUCKING LUCKY! HE LEADS A CHARMED LIFE! Some dudes fall in an oil pit and come up smelling like roses.

IXseed · 2020-07-01T15:39:00+00:00

See the thing is that women do want a man that they believe is capable of being dangerous and defending them, that's true. However they also want to have the idea that they can some CONTROL over the danger. That's the catch 22. They want your manhood but they want to control it, and controlled manhood isn't control. So for a LTR you need to balance it.

His girl isn't freaking out over his violence but over the fact that she had no CONTROL over the violence. She was powerless so she wants to distance from everyone involved including her bf because in her mind had the bf not been their, there would had not been an altercation. She'll be back.

Laying_PipeNYC · 2020-07-05T13:32:24+00:00

Things have cleared up a bit. Figure I’d give you fellows a little update.

We are very much broken up. I had a great weekend with a group of formerly mutual friends ( they all cut her off after this ) and learned a lot about her actual motivations.

Some background on my ex. She’s a florist. A high end luxury upper crusty florist. She’s a solid 8/10, 5’0 100 pounds and natural blonde. Great body, great face but super WASPish. Before this she was pushing to have children immediately after we got married. Mostly because of how women with children are perceived in her industry/social circles. It’s a power move.

Unfortunately part of her gig is regularly attending elaborate functions with her partner ( me ). Unknown to me she’s normally asked about me virtually the entirety of these events. I’m very large and very scarred. I’m also pretty well known in our community due to my service. This has apparently been eating at her for a few years. She’s making big moves professionally and putting together beautiful displays only to spend the entirety of her professional schmoozing time talking about her man. Similar story at family events. Everyone was focused on me and not Isla.

She never addressed it with me. She spoke about it behind my back with friends and I’m assuming at least her family. The road rage event was just to much apparently. She knew she would never hear the end of it and took it as an opportunity to exit without seeming like a cunt.

It is what it is. I’ve withdrawn all support. She no longer has a vehicle, a place to live outside of her parents/sisters. Oh and I came in her best friends mouth last night.

I may be ugly and mean but I now understand my value and worth much better.

zyk0s · 2020-06-30T20:45:15+00:00

From the way he writes, it seems the guy behaved as the standard beta up to that point. And there lies the problem.

Had he always been eager to get into fights, she would have known what sets him off, and predicted that incident since it would have been congruent with his past behavior. However, if he was always soft with her, seeing a "sweet guy" beat someone viciously can be a terrifying experience. She didn't think he was capable of that and realized she didn't know him at all. Could he do this to her? What else is he capable of?

Women like dangerous men, but they all have a threshold for that danger (otherwise there would be no society) and she probably did not know how much her bf exceeded that threshold. This should be a warning to display a certain kind of honesty with the women you're with: don't pretend to be tougher than you are (it eventually comes out, unless you're just doing it for a ONS) and don't be a beta for years and think you can one day "act alpha" and she'll fall in line. You want to be mysterious, but to a certain extent predictable.

dusara217 · 2020-06-30T19:52:43+00:00

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BurntYams · 2020-07-01T02:54:03+00:00

There’s this thing I read somewhere that women like the idea of having a “bad boy” boyfriend. Tattoo‘s, leather, motorcycle, etc.

They want him to look and act like a bad boy, but wouldn’t dare get into a relationship with someone who murdered 3 people and is on the run.

I think this kinda applies here. She liked the idea of having a big mean dude as a boyfriend that could defend her, but when seeing it with her own eyes, she is now scared of it.

MachiavellianDogma · 2020-07-01T05:02:51+00:00

She keeps reiterating that I was smiling the whole time and seemed to be happy to hurt him.

Bruh reading comprehension isn't everyone's best skill. This right here is why she left.

Cearball · 2020-07-01T14:17:20+00:00

Did this post get taken down?

I can't find it in the sub.

Laying_PipeNYC · 2020-07-02T13:00:27+00:00

And now she’s trying to steal my dogs.

dunmer_say_the_nword · 2020-07-04T20:26:12+00:00

She saw what would happen to the guy she's currently fucking on the side if word ever got out, or at least what she thinks would happen. Now she needs to retreat as quickly as possible.

Crespius66 · 2020-07-06T02:43:52+00:00

It happens a lot

Title	Man defends girlfriend, she flips out and becomes terrified of him
Author	dusara217
Upvotes	100
Comments	103
Date	June 30, 2020 7:49 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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