I know these concepts are in the sidebar. I'm just in the heat of the moment and need a refresher.
I've been dating S for awhile. She's a great girl - all of the typical qualities that TRP looks for in potential LTRs. She has slowly earned more of my commitment and I've done a great job of managing her.
Last night S and I were hanging. The conversation turned toward our relationship. She danced around the idea of marriage so I pedaled her to actually say it. Then I looked her in the eyes and calmly stated "I don't want to get married, at least not for a long time." We have briefly discussed this before, so I thought she already knew this. Although perhaps my communication about this issue has been subpar in the past.
She immediately broke down crying. I hugged her but did not say anything else. After a few minutes she got her stuff and left. Right before she walked out I asked, "Are you sure you want to leave?" She answered yes, so I said okay and let her go. Then I lifted for awhile to clear my mind.
She called me this morning. I was doing something so I waited until I finished to call her back. She was crying, very upset, but I mostly listened to her. She spouted things like "You shattered my dreams," "Why are you still in this relationship if you have different goals than me," all of that stuff. I stayed calm and barely answered her. She ultimately agreed to meet in person tonight and talk about things.
Tbh I dont care if she dumps me or sticks around. I like her alot - heck maybe I even love her - but I've always understood that she may decide to leave me for one reason or another. I've accepted this since before I even met her. I'm not desperate for pussy, and I dont need a woman's emotional support because I complete myself. So I'm going into this intercation with an open mind, open heart, and zero expectations.
This is the first time I've experienced something like this since I took up TRP a few years ago. I need some advice. How should I handle our intraction tonight? And in the long term, how should I continue to manage her if she sticks around?