Rundown: 32 years old, 6’1, 193lbs, Lifting 4 to 5 times a week, 11% BF (lean/athletic build)
Sidebar: NMMNG, WISNIFG, RM (#1 & #2), Book of Pook, 48 Laws of Power, and working on The Way of The Superior Man. I am also subscribed to Rian Stone & Rich Coopers YouTube channels.
Relationship: SO 28 years old (plated for 9 months prior, LTR for almost three in half years now)
I have been hitting the sidebar for almost a year and a half now, even though I have much, much more work to do. I have been journaling on a regular basis (week to week/monthly) to review my individual progress within myself. I have made sure that STFU has been my best friend once I discovered the main /r/marriedredpill sub a year and a half back. I came for the usual BS that most guys do here, which is basically becoming a beta male plow horse who continues to become unfuckable.
I would like some feedback on a situation that I was involved in last weekend, as I noticed my SOs hamster has been going off all week…
As most of you know, this past weekend was a long weekend (North America). For the fact that we had a holiday on Wednesday (Canada Day), it made me have a shorter week work-wise even though it has been like that because of this whole pandemic issue.
Anyways, we had new neighbours move into the house next-door back in January/February. For fun, let’s call them Jack & Jill (early 30s, married couple). I have got to know both of them on a pretty friendly level where whenever I bump into them outside, I will have a casual conversation. Part of this was because I have been forcing myself (for over 6 months now) to be social with whoever I bump into once I leave my house (part of my MAP).
When I ran into Jill at the end of last week (Thursday), we chatted for a few minutes before I had to head out do some errands and she mentioned to me that they were having a small get together on Saturday night with a couple of our other neighbours and a few of their close friends. She wanted to invite me and the SO. I agreed and said it would be fun to get out and meet some new people. Jill insisted on my number so she could text me the details, even though I told her to just give me a date/time when it was on Saturday night.
The next day, Jill started texting me a lot asking if there were any kinds of alcohol I wanted, what kind of food I wanted to eat, basically, just a bunch of random BS questions. Whatever - texting is for logistics and I end up responding by telling her that we would see you and Jack tomorrow night. My SO was pretty excited for the get together since we were getting out of the house to enjoy a fun evening.
Once we arrive at Jack & Jill's place, it started to become obvious to me that Jill was giving me lots of IOIs; especially, when she was touching my biceps, lower back, and really trying to extend/have long conversations with me. At first, I thought she was just being friendly, but it became clear that she seemed interested in me when she was touching my arms and saying how she wished Jack worked out and ate better. Even though I was being social with everyone who was there, it didn’t take long for Jill to find her way to get close to me, or even move aside her friend while we were eating dinner to sit next to me.
My SO definitely noticed the IOIs and made a comment to me later on in the evening (at home) that Jill was hitting on me. This got worse after Jill sent me a text the following day (Sunday), which she said: “It was so great having you over! We will have to do these get-togethers more often! ;)”. When she saw that text, she went absolute ape even though I just STFUed the entire time. The thing is, my SO has been hamstring on her all week. She even tried to make a fight about buying Comet and bathroom cleaner into the fact that Jill was flirting with me. I did make a joke that I was thinking about renting out the spare room to Jill if she and Jack didn’t work out, which left me with a good laugh.
For you experienced mrp men, what’s the best way to deal with your SO/wife/girlfriend who is constantly harping on the same issue over and over again. I’m just STFUing and throwing in the odd chirp and joke, but she has been referencing Jill on a daily basis at this point that it’s just laughable. Any thoughts or feedback on what I can add to the arsenal?
EDIT: Thanks for all of the feedback & entertaining comments, guys! I will keep in mind everything that was mentioned here. Thank you all for taking out the time.