SO Upset About IOIs From Neighbour

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July 10, 2020

Rundown: 32 years old, 6’1, 193lbs, Lifting 4 to 5 times a week, 11% BF (lean/athletic build)

Sidebar: NMMNG, WISNIFG, RM (#1 & #2), Book of Pook, 48 Laws of Power, and working on The Way of The Superior Man. I am also subscribed to Rian Stone & Rich Coopers YouTube channels.

Relationship: SO 28 years old (plated for 9 months prior, LTR for almost three in half years now)

Hi there.

I have been hitting the sidebar for almost a year and a half now, even though I have much, much more work to do. I have been journaling on a regular basis (week to week/monthly) to review my individual progress within myself. I have made sure that STFU has been my best friend once I discovered the main /r/marriedredpill sub a year and a half back. I came for the usual BS that most guys do here, which is basically becoming a beta male plow horse who continues to become unfuckable.

I would like some feedback on a situation that I was involved in last weekend, as I noticed my SOs hamster has been going off all week…

As most of you know, this past weekend was a long weekend (North America). For the fact that we had a holiday on Wednesday (Canada Day), it made me have a shorter week work-wise even though it has been like that because of this whole pandemic issue.

Anyways, we had new neighbours move into the house next-door back in January/February. For fun, let’s call them Jack & Jill (early 30s, married couple). I have got to know both of them on a pretty friendly level where whenever I bump into them outside, I will have a casual conversation. Part of this was because I have been forcing myself (for over 6 months now) to be social with whoever I bump into once I leave my house (part of my MAP).

When I ran into Jill at the end of last week (Thursday), we chatted for a few minutes before I had to head out do some errands and she mentioned to me that they were having a small get together on Saturday night with a couple of our other neighbours and a few of their close friends. She wanted to invite me and the SO. I agreed and said it would be fun to get out and meet some new people. Jill insisted on my number so she could text me the details, even though I told her to just give me a date/time when it was on Saturday night.

The next day, Jill started texting me a lot asking if there were any kinds of alcohol I wanted, what kind of food I wanted to eat, basically, just a bunch of random BS questions. Whatever - texting is for logistics and I end up responding by telling her that we would see you and Jack tomorrow night. My SO was pretty excited for the get together since we were getting out of the house to enjoy a fun evening.

Once we arrive at Jack & Jill's place, it started to become obvious to me that Jill was giving me lots of IOIs; especially, when she was touching my biceps, lower back, and really trying to extend/have long conversations with me. At first, I thought she was just being friendly, but it became clear that she seemed interested in me when she was touching my arms and saying how she wished Jack worked out and ate better. Even though I was being social with everyone who was there, it didn’t take long for Jill to find her way to get close to me, or even move aside her friend while we were eating dinner to sit next to me.

My SO definitely noticed the IOIs and made a comment to me later on in the evening (at home) that Jill was hitting on me. This got worse after Jill sent me a text the following day (Sunday), which she said: “It was so great having you over! We will have to do these get-togethers more often! ;)”. When she saw that text, she went absolute ape even though I just STFUed the entire time. The thing is, my SO has been hamstring on her all week. She even tried to make a fight about buying Comet and bathroom cleaner into the fact that Jill was flirting with me. I did make a joke that I was thinking about renting out the spare room to Jill if she and Jack didn’t work out, which left me with a good laugh.

For you experienced mrp men, what’s the best way to deal with your SO/wife/girlfriend who is constantly harping on the same issue over and over again. I’m just STFUing and throwing in the odd chirp and joke, but she has been referencing Jill on a daily basis at this point that it’s just laughable. Any thoughts or feedback on what I can add to the arsenal?

Thanks, guys.

EDIT: Thanks for all of the feedback & entertaining comments, guys! I will keep in mind everything that was mentioned here. Thank you all for taking out the time.

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Title SO Upset About IOIs From Neighbour
Author SamHighway
Upvotes 24
Comments 29
Date 10 July 2020 02:27 AM UTC (10 months ago)
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[–]BobbyPeruRed Beret49 points50 points  (5 children) | Copy

A running hamster is good. It should always be running to a degree due to passive dread - this is natural.

A hamster running off the wheels is not good. Just add in a little comfort, combined with Agree & amplify

Don’t think of a running hamster as a bad thing... just learn to control it.

[–]resolutions3167 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

Best comment

[–]AlohaMaui80817 points18 points  (1 child) | Copy

If you've been at MRP for 18 months, then by now you should be well established into Gaming your SO.

You've already been doing AM and A&A, which apparently is not the exit her hamster is looking for right now, or she doesn't buy your shit because you aren't authentic. So stop eating paint and try something else:

STFU, and

Anytime she brings up Jill, initiate sex with your SO.

Then and there, on the spot, and don't do it like a pussy.

STFU and escalate like crazy physically.

Whether or not you get the sex, obviously maintain OI and your amusement at the whole situation.

If she blatantly tells you to stop with a Hard No, either laugh it off and leave like any other rejection for sex, or if you must DEER, tell her "oh, ok, I thought you were looking for extra attention, so I'm giving it to you." And then leave the room and do something productive.

What your SO does and what you do (more importantly) will tell you a lot about where her 1000ft rope is and where you are, and you should know enough by now to work from there.

Even if she really doesn't like you initiating I bet she stops bitching to you about Jill

And if you fuck, and she keeps bringing it up anyway, welp, guess you've given her a new code for "Fuck Me Now, Mr. Highway"

The real question you should be asking is, "why do I care so much that my SO's hamster has decided to spin on the shiny new Jill wheel I bought for her maze last week?"

Stop giving so many fucks and go about your business.

[–]HornsOfApathyMod / Red Beret11 points12 points  (0 children) | Copy

You've already been doing AM and A&A, which apparently is not the exit her hamster is looking for right now, or she doesn't buy your shit because you aren't authentic.


We know OP likes the attention. Cool, that's not bad. It's cool to have some rando wife flirt/hit on you. Its fun. He didn't say anything to the contrary, so at least he's not bullshutting us here. Good.

OPs woman however reads through him and knows he likes it - but he is incongruently giving her AA and AM reponses. I never use AA. Its just not congruent to who I am.

Anytime she brings up Jill, initiate sex with your SO.

This is what I'd do. So what if Jill makes me horny? I'm a man who likes women.

[–]resolutions31624 points25 points  (1 child) | Copy

Prediction for this thread:

OP: “Hey everyone, I’ve been working out and owning my shit for a while and now women are hitting on me.”

Some Random Dude: “BRO, the fact that you enjoy pussy or notice the actions of any other human being is somehow a sign of an internal mental failing on your part. I will hold you to an impossible standard in order to call you a faggot and make myself feel good.”

Making your wife jealous by being attractive enough to receive unsought for IPIs is literally the whole point of MRP.

AA, provide comfort, initiate. She secretly likes it.

Congrats. The end.

[–][deleted] 10 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy

Some Random Dude: “BRO, the fact that you enjoy pussy or notice the actions of any other human being is somehow a sign of an internal mental failing on your part. I will hold you to an impossible standard in order to call you a faggot and make myself feel good.”

It’s like someone picked the heart shaped padlock on my unicorn diary.

[–]SBIIIRed Fucking Commando16 points17 points  (2 children) | Copy

Jack and Jill went up a hill,

Jack thought it was forever,

Jack fell down,

And broke his cock,

And Jill left him for a guy she met at CrossFit.

[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red15 points16 points  (1 child) | Copy



[–]InChargeManRed Beret16 points17 points  (0 children) | Copy

Do you still lift with buttplugs in?

[–]InChargeManRed Beret6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

The bubbles means it's working.

[–]ChokingDownRPRed Beret10 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy

Next time she brings up Jill, you should AM and pressure flip that she seems obsessed with Jill, offer to set them up on a date together.

I love it when I see my wife's hamster spinning so hard. It's fun.

[–]WolfofAllStreetz3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

My wife would of said to bang Jill but shitting where you sleep isn’t a good idea either.

[–]dll1423 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Make sure you balance dread with comfort. If you want my advice, what ever you do, don't fuck or get jammed up with the neighbor somehow just because you don't shit where you eat. Even if you could do something as wild as spin it into a three way, just don't do it with a neighbor.

Do what you think you should do, but don't blow up your marriage / LTR if you're generally happy and you're already living the life you want.

[–]RStonePT6 points7 points  (2 children) | Copy

Tell her to shut up or you'll fuck her.

[–]JDRoedellRed Beret0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Ha! Who downvoted this?

[–]RStonePT4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Someone who thought I was being edgy or didn't think it was helpful.

[–]screechhaterRed Beret1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I would keep the fucking hammer down on diet and exercise.

The hamster is spinning and the verbalization of it is “fear runneth over”

Lots of the advice excluded the info of addressing it with your type of personality. I’m a smart ass, so I’m naturally going to AA AM. When I grow quiet, there’s a real problem

As to tell you what to do ? How fucking excited were you ? Does your SO do the same ?

Part of the work here is to be honest with yourself Kind of like the “anal loving Poster boy of the save a ho foundation” realizing some shit to change in his direction (in the main sub)

My advice ? Keep up the dread. Non fucking stop. Time the comments and escalate as much as you want. Life can get real fucking mundane in a hurry when the SO lets herself go, or doesn’t have to fuck because there is no competition

[–]weakandsensitive1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Which one would you rather be fucking?

[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

They are Mormons.

[–]HornsOfApathyMod / Red Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

This conclusion is definitely drawn from experience.

[–]eddielovett-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

Invite Jill over to have wine with you and your SO so that your SO can see that she’s a nice woman. Then fuck them both if you can.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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