Shower thought: men tell us we’re stupid for not vetting chumps hard enough & blame our pOoR cHoIcEs & not men’s behaviour....but once we start getting wiser to men’s lies & vetting them harder they call us stuck up, superficial & paranoid.

BasieSkanks · 2020-07-08T11:56:27+00:00

“Women are allowed to have standards as long as those standards don’t exclude me.” - Men

BraveAndStunningTERF · 2020-07-08T13:25:24+00:00

male logic: "vet all men it's ur fault if ur taken advantage of, but also don't vet me so I can take advantage of you :)"

neonfairylights · 2020-07-08T10:56:21+00:00

True. And they complain about women being picky and go on and on about how hard being a man on dating apps is because they don't get matches. They want women to be picky, but they want picky women to pick them. But these women know better and that's why they're mad lmao.

modernmedusaa · 2020-07-08T09:06:49+00:00

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thepastamancer · 2020-07-08T09:36:10+00:00

It doesnt matter what we do, this type of man will find a way for us to be wrong so he can place himself in a morally or intellectually superior position, at least in his own mind. It's not about what's real, its about his ego. Pay him no mind, since uninformed opinions like that are about as valuable as a prolapsed anus.

Pasdepromesses · 2020-07-08T09:01:56+00:00

At least they make it easy for us to weed the misogynists out.

gcthrowaway2019 · 2020-07-08T14:38:51+00:00

Preach. I've had a similar shower thought about sexual assault too. Men blame survivors for not speaking up, but when we do, they blame us for the assault taking place to begin with.

NorthrnSwede · 2020-07-08T09:44:24+00:00

It's almost like they just hate women. 🤔

Liz_Lemondrop · 2020-07-08T14:43:54+00:00

"I want a younger woman because they don't have as much baggage" - translated: I want a woman who isn't wise enough to recognize my crimson flags, boring personality, and overall incompetence.

gcthrowaway2019 · 2020-07-08T11:07:05+00:00

More of what we already knew...dudes, we can't choose better AND settle. It's either one or the other.

Avoiding_existence · 2020-07-08T14:44:49+00:00

They want to keep women in the dark about the true nature of LVM. They want to trick us into believing that only a few men are bad, so we can't stop entertaining men "just because of a few bad apples".

They want us to always be available for them; being wise to the BS makes it harder to take advantage of us, which is what LVM want to do at the end of the day. So they have to keep us in the dark, in a constant state or second-guessing ourselves and giving LVM "a chance".

OrchidLion · 2020-07-08T15:07:06+00:00

This is why I'm learning to take nothing they say seriously.

Disregard males, acquire finances.

InayahDaneen · 2020-07-08T15:36:19+00:00

Don’t forget when they call us “gold diggers” for not wanting to end up being “a single mom on welfare line”. Yet at the same time these are the men who complain about “single moms being on welfare for not choosing a proper man in the first place.”

ChocoBananza · 2020-07-08T11:56:23+00:00

And yes, it’s the same men.

Hedy__Lamarr · 2020-07-08T16:46:19+00:00

This kind of bullshit, hypocritical logic is repeatedly used by men to justify their actions, thoughts and beliefs about women and sex.

- Women who sleep with too many men are whores and undesirable for relationships no matter how long it happened. Men should try to sleep with as many women as possible. I guess they all just use the same pool of whores to achieve this duality?

- Women who don't sleep with a man within the first 3 dates are prudes and wasting men's time. Women who sleep with too many men or too quickly are whores (see above). Women should always stop at 2 dates if they're not willing to give it up on the very next date or just give it up and be considering a whore forever.

- Women: shallow and have too many standards. Men: Mental laundry list of physical requirements that no single women could possibly possess while they themselves look like an orc from Lord of the Rings.

2020-07-08T16:34:37+00:00

Marry early because you don't know any better and then get divorced later when you wise up?

AWALT! DIVORCE R*PE!!

Wait until you know yourself better and have a stable life and can take time to make informed choices in dating/relationships?

YOU HIT THE WALL, RODE THE CAROUSEL WITH CHADS IN YOUR 20S AND NOW YOU WANT TO SETTLE DOWN?!

foh scrotes

RadarFemef · 2020-07-08T16:35:08+00:00

If we vet men harshly and refuse most of them, and the worst thing they do is call us stuck up, it’s an absolute win

SslimReaperr · 2020-07-08T16:50:56+00:00

Men are extreme laughable hypocrites.

Men will say its a woman’s fault for not being more careful and wary around men. And then they’ll say women are too scared & cautious to hit on now.

tiavarga · 2020-07-08T16:17:32+00:00

Yeah, why do the work to be a better man when you can blame women and call them picky? SMH

sweetpotatocupcake · 2020-07-08T20:08:11+00:00

Women: Gives in depth personal account of her own experiences with dating abusive, lazy, entitled men in her dating experiences and how they have affected her physical, mental, and emotional health

Any guy within a 1000mile radius: "What types of guys have YOU been dating?" "He wasn't a man he was a BOY" "Not all men".

SunflowerinVirgo0903 · 2020-07-08T15:24:43+00:00

Constantly moving the goal post.

MacDurce · 2020-07-08T16:32:09+00:00

“Why do you have to question everything i do” because you behave in evasive and suspicious ways that cause me to need to question you. If you’re doing nothing wrong those questions should be easy to answer

misskansast · 2020-07-08T15:21:49+00:00

I was thinking this same thing a few weeks ago. They complain we hit a wall after 30 and can’t get a man to commit or have kids (so the woman does it alone) yet - we are too picky or we run them off or we all are whores and ride the dick carousel too long. What if the man leaves and is just a POS or stuck to his moms ovaries?

Some men need to keep other men accountable- not all women are after sucking you dry for life and not all women are super picky. But don’t act like men are the greatest thing in the world!

Side note: I’m pretty sure it’s been proven that the first human on earth was a woman (actually in my Human Sexuality class they explain how every embryo starts as a female - but that another discussion that men wouldn’t begin to understand because it revolves around a woman not used as a sex doll)

muffy2008 · 2020-07-08T15:38:00+00:00

I had someone call me a femcel for posting here. Lol. I told them only on Reddit can you be a slut and a femcel at the same time. 🤦🏻‍♀️

Newwavesupport3657 · 2020-07-08T17:59:11+00:00

Anything that holds a mirror to men’s behavior they don’t want to hear. Women are society’s scape goats.

daisy_0720 · 2020-07-08T19:43:28+00:00

Sooo, they want us to vet and have standards... until we meet them, then we should be immediately DTF, and if we're not, we're prudes with trust issues. Sounds legit.

BabyGothQ · 2020-07-08T20:44:48+00:00

I’m honestly at that point where all I can respond with is: just say you hate women and keep it moving.

FaginRagette · 2020-07-08T15:32:32+00:00

Men are good at manipulation and avoiding accountability at all costs ...but so are very little kids so. They ought to be treated like toddlers if they're going to act like them.

Asbelowsoaboveme · 2020-07-08T15:12:37+00:00

It’s the Madonna/whore complex rearing it’s ugly head, again. Misogynist men think that once a woman is in the “whore” box, she has to stay there forever and isn’t allowed to make better decisions or learn from her mistakes. They want “madonnas” to vet hard to maintain their “purity” (for their future male owner) while they expect “whores” to be community sex objects. Objectification and dehumanization all around.

ElectricTopsyLove · 2020-07-08T18:22:00+00:00

based queen 🙌🙌🙌

Killer_Bhree · 2020-07-08T18:46:45+00:00

Exactly! Mind-boggling Logic

GrapeJuiceEnthusiast · 2020-07-09T08:12:37+00:00

Men: Women complain about men being bad because their standards are low. They need to just learn to recognise bad men and go for the good ones!!!!!!

Women: create FDS to teach women how to do this

Men: THIS IS HATE SPEECH!!!!!!111

FlamingDragonQueen · 2020-07-08T16:25:55+00:00

Why can’t people down voting just move past the post !!! I’m seeing this post go from 700 to 620 which is so frustrating