The patriarchy is the conspiracy theory that men some how managed to bypass their competitive, "warlike nature" (so it is said) long enough to establish world domination and beat women into submission, or some variation thereof.

Of course it's not true. Anyone who is aware of male disposability knows it's false. If there really were a patriarchy, it would be women, not men, who do the dangerous tasks that might be lethal. If it were a patriarchy, you'd see a lot more female roofers.

But the patriarchy is extremely valuable to feminism because the patriarchy grants them justification for requesting special privileges, the patriarchy fairy says it's OK to be entitled and to be a sexist, because hey! Men have been dominating women for years - smash the patriarchy!

So what happened?

I think the amount of effort required to raise an offspring would have been enormous, especially as primates swinging from trees. If you were female, you would require others to do a lot of tasks for you, because you could not do them yourself.

For this reason, I believe we evolved to kind of "serve" women. This wasn't anyone's fault, it's just biology. In a species such as ours, the female would be more valuable to the cause of procreation than the male would. Not only because their part takes 9 months, but children require milk after they are born. If women die, so do the children. No baby bottles yet.

So we set up a society in which women were sheltered, couldn't own property, couldn't do much of anything. The women were sheltered as much as possible and given menial tasks because their primary function was baby machine.

The males evolved to ensure the women were kept safe, provided for and cared for. Some Christians actually have a word for this. They call it "providers instinct".

And it is. Seeing a woman cry is very hard. We really are built to take care of them. A suffering woman is a really difficult thing to be around, but a suffering man is a fucking loser.

Unfortunately, if we make procreation (including the care and feeding of children) priority #1, and center our entire society around it, men will be disposable. That's just the way it works.

I think a lot of women have difficulty coming to terms with male disposability because it implies that some how, it's their fault (when really it was just biology) and because the conspiracy theory of a patriarchy is considered a fact.

You can go back to when women couldn't own property as "proof" the patriarchy is, or at least was real. All you have to do is omit 1/2 the story, and it's very believable. The patriarchy looks real, if you tell the story a certain way.

I also think some women might.feel guilty, even though they have no reason to. We were all caught up in it.

That's a man's job...

There was a time when the phrase "that's mens work" was popular. It was believed that certain tasks could only be done by men.

I believe this was part of being disposable. How does one convince a young man to dispose of himself and take part in this? Use pride, tell him it's a man's job to <x,y,z> give returning soldiers a parade to celebrate their "heroic" willingness to dispose of themselves.

Phrases such as "man up" are almost always about taking responsibility for something, accepting the blame for something or taking the hit for something. Phrases like "real men don't need ..." are usually about convincing a guy to do without something, so the others have more. Being a "real man" means you punish yourself in some way for the benefit of others.

Incidently, you ever notice how women don't like "nice guys" romantically, but are perfectly happy being friends with him? Perhaps the reason women like, but don't actually go for "nice guys" is because they know that nice guys are more likely to give up their resources for the group.

WWII

Then WWII happened and we were all reminded that these men's jobs weren't really male, that women could in fact go to factories and build bombers. That "men's work" is really a myth for the most part.

Closing

There never was a patriarchy. Feminism was never about equality. There are other, more plausible explanations that don't involve blaming anyone for anything.

Unrecognized guilt is perhaps the biggest obstacle to getting feminists to see it. We don't need to "fight" feminism, just shine a light on it and remind the women involved that if it really was their belief in equality and human rights that attracted them to feminism, those same beliefs should repel them from feminism.

Biology, and centering our entire society around maintaining children is what created male disposability. It truly isn't womens fault and anyone can be forgiven for buying into feminist propaganda, it's everywhere and you need feel no shame if you were once one yourself. Just pat yourself on the back for seeing it, and leaving it in the past.

Indeed congratulate yourself!