Hello TRP, Any advise for 33 year old Virgin. Its like burning volcano in my mind.

redbarone · 2018-12-16T14:25:51+00:00

If you're 33 and haven't had sex before, pay for it. Pay double or triple if you have to. It's your own fault you haven't had it yet, so it's up to you to break the cycle one way or another.

K04free · 2018-12-16T14:53:08+00:00

Your post history shows that you don’t lift. Start lifting.

NewReligionIsMySong · 2018-12-16T17:56:58+00:00

I was always friendzoned

"Have confidence" does not mean "have the confidence to talk to her", it means "have the confidence to call her on her bullshit"

I would hope that you learned how to say "no" at your job. Learn how to apply that to women, learn how and when to say "no" to them.

When you talk to women, are you telling them what you think they wanted to hear instead of whatever you actually think? Being a little abrasive is a turn on, but it's also something that you'll probably screw up a few times. Accept that you will fail sometimes, and start grinding.

empatheticapathetic · 2018-12-16T15:24:22+00:00

I paid for an escort at 25. Removed that burning self hatred and I could actually start moving forward with life.

ReaperX44 · 2018-12-16T13:47:56+00:00

You're looking at this all wrong. Have a purpose. Do something and try to be somebody. Women should just be a nice addition in to your life but not your main goal. Women tends to gravitate to men with that "big dick energy". And do yourself a favor and read The Art of not Giving a Fuck and the go from there.

hrm0894 · 2018-12-16T21:16:31+00:00

Just an FYI, a Fleshlight feels a million times better than pussy. You're not missing out on anything special. But since you're a virgin I'd imagine it's eating you up. Go fuck an escort to see for yourself how overrated sex is.

trpppp123 · 2018-12-16T15:28:05+00:00

Sounds like you've got a lot of work to do. Join a gym, learn some fashion and get some fitted clothing once you have some muscle, start other hobbies that require you to be social, starting reading about and practicing some pua.

In the meanwhile, get some hookers to learn how to have sex and get out of your head about it because you've got a long journey ahead of you

Rollo_Mayhem3 · 2018-12-16T19:36:42+00:00

You like to travel, travel to holland or thailand and drop 1k fucking a ton of hookers

Prysefighter · 2018-12-16T20:44:19+00:00

Get ripped

HumptyDumptyFellHard · 2018-12-16T17:15:54+00:00

How’s yours physique? If it’s not up to par, hit that that gym. That will increase your SMV drastically.

hazaraMoghul · 2018-12-16T16:01:48+00:00

Phase one: Improve your look.

Buy a fit chino
Buy a fit shirt
Buy a leather belt and shoes

Rock these shits.

Game:

Do not masturbate for 5 days
Go and say HELLO, how are you to everyone. EVERYONE..Do not expect a reply
Slowly approach ugly girls, then approach 5 or 6s.

Keep doing this. Out of 50 approach if one likes you, then you killed the game.

macheagle · 2018-12-16T19:22:59+00:00

OP, you sound like many fellow bros that I know from a past life so I can empathize. You mentioned you have traveled. Have you been to parts of Asia or Europe where hookers are straight up legal, abundantly available, and well regulated? Like Hong Kong, Singapore, Amsterdam, etc. If you ever come to HK, drop me a PM and I’ll personally bring you to a good one. Someone once did that for me as well years ago and I appreciated that. Just passing it along.

Any chance you can move? Relocate. Are you and Asian guy in the US? If so, that’s another ballgame to play. Asian masculinity is another sub here you might wanna check out if so. Location matters a ton because instead of learning English/French/Spanish, your native English in Asia or other countries is already by default a boost, and actually knowing some with Cantonese/Mandarin/Japanese etc will be a big bonus on top of all that for your game. Location location location, if possible. I moved out from the US and to Asia, as an ABC male, years ago and it was the difference of day and night. You can change yourself to fit with what’s expected of your environment and the social norms of your location, or you can simply change your location so that you don’t have to “change” yourself.

If this is not an option, then be sure to lift and bulk up. I would advise against learning piano - I’m a concert pianist from the S.F. Conservatory of Music and it did nothing to improve my SMV. However it did improve my discipline and mindset, though more for work. Classical piano is perhaps the least sexy of all genres and instruments for the average person - instead I would recommend guitar and jazz, but those will take a bit of time. Work on them gradually and steadily if you do. Then, use them as opportunities to perform in recitals locally. It’s a great way to meet people and they will often come to you to chat you up if you’re any good.

Last but not least, do these not in hopes to score but to better yourself. TRP is about being at the max of your potential.

Again, if you find yourself in Hong Kong, PM me. We’ll go what we call “commercial” where it is all legal and fun. Take care brother.

Whisper · 2018-12-17T08:20:38+00:00

The fact that you are 33 doesn't make what you need to do any different than anyone else.

Read, learn, practice.

mccaigbro69 · 2018-12-16T13:47:26+00:00

Good morning Sir,

My first bit of advice would be to get a gym membership and get into a routine to achieve some gains and stick to it. It seems to me that you are lacking in confidence. It happens to almost everyone, so don’t this as criticism.

If you commit to the gym you will see gains and with the gains come confidence. If you’re mug isn’t great looking, do what you can to make everything else as attractive as possible and the confidence will follow.

Now to the virginity part, I can’t explain or try to relate with you on this front, but I would say stop trying so hard to make it happen. It always seems that you get something you want when you aren’t seeking it. My uncle was a very successful patent attorney (retired now) and when I heard his story it baffled me at first. He only dated two women. One for 7 years in his thirties before they broke up and then my aunt in his younger 50’s who he is now married to. He is STILL a virgin and he is fine with it. He hustled his whole life and never had time for a social life and has more money and knowledge than he knows what to do with. He is a very successful person in life and has never had sex and he claims he never probably will. Aside from not giving a shit about pussy, he is one of the more red pilled individuals I know in terms of world/life outlook.

I mention him because it is a wild circumstance, but to also let you know that where you are in your sexual life isn’t unheard of.

In short, focus on yourself. The pussy will come eventually if you do that and also keep putting yourself in spots to find the women, but you need to find yourself and your mission and enjoy what comes along with the ride of achieving it.

At least that’s my opinion.

Jsieijejeieokkd · 2018-12-16T18:45:34+00:00

Hooker

HopeFarmer · 2018-12-16T16:17:46+00:00

Obviously lifting and working out is a good idea and you need to start. That will provide consistent benefits over time. More immediately, you can get a real haircut, focus on grooming, and learn to dress well. There are a bunch of posts about this stuff on TRP. Don't overthink it. Just get it done. Also curate your social media and online presence. Any channel of interacting with the world has potential and will affect how you are perceived, so make sure they all make you look good. Take down any unfavorable pics or posts and share only good photos of you looking sharp.

Meeting women is a little more involved like lifting. You can pay for a hooker or not. I don't think that really matters, but what you do need to do is start practicing leaving your comfort zone to approach women, and learn to walk away if they aren't gonna fuck you. Your insecurity about this virginity thing is setting you up to put them on a pedestal, so you need to set it aside. Virginity is not your identity and a woman is not gonna a save you. You still have to create the meaning in your life. If you are really bad with social interaction in general, get involved in some community/social group where you can practice talking to people. You can also start initiating conversations with random people on the streets you aren't trying to fuck including men and women. That mindset of leaving your comfort zone and not being afraid of people is important to build up.

EpCoSpIm · 2018-12-16T18:50:19+00:00

Stop reading rubbish online, go out to nightclubs, talk to as many girls as you can, eventually you'll find somebody who will find you attractive.

Or make a tinder account, and swipe everybody. If you want a more efficient means of finding somebody to have sex with.

UncleChido · 2018-12-16T19:02:29+00:00

Gaming girls is the same as sales. Numbers count irrespective of your game level. Meet as much as you can, try 20 approaches in a week. At the end of 2 weeks, you should definitely get lucky. Most people posting on asktrp don’t approach enough that’s why they’re always asking questions and developing oneitis. Just meet girls and meet more. Also try and improve on your dressing, it’s an attractant.

pacjax · 2018-12-16T19:26:08+00:00

you need to workout. 4/10 in looks makes you virtually invisible. groom yourself nice, try different hairstyles maybe different clothing styles.

[deleted] · 2018-12-16T20:19:09+00:00

There’s no proof of any God that is required to show faithfulness to your existence.

However we’re all connected on this rock spinning about a huge ball of gas we call the sun. TRP will help your disposition.

Not everyone of us randomly generated human beings are going to get lucky on the gene pool department, just like in the animal kingdom... nothing to do with a God. And you may not agree, but women can’t love unconditionally anyway, so you’re not missing out on intimacy, or a real deeper connection with a women.... get a dog if that is what you seek. You are missing out on divorce rape however.

Learn to appreciate life regardless... all women are whores, some just charge cash for their time... pay to unleash some pent up energy on top tier pussy to get the taboo out of your system. Then get down to business improving your life and mindset.

Never let external factors from ruining your day, be happy to be alive and meditate.

[deleted] · 2018-12-16T21:04:46+00:00

Your goal shouldn't be to have sex for now. Your goal should be one and only be just one (besides of improving your SMV) is to seduce a woman enough so that she would want to "date" you. Casually. And I mean by that not having sex specifically in mind, but trying to get her "sort of comfortable with you" and go from there. And when I say comfortable I mean "she won't flake on second or third date on you".

That's all I mean, because in RP philosophy, a man should never try make a woman comfortable first (ask her questions, go slowly, meet her parents, help her move stuff and some other hollywood bullshit), since most sex happens when people barely know each other and only then they start learning about themselves, their hobbies etc. Don't go that route. It is a nice guy/beta route. Not saying it doesn't work, sometimes it does, but most of the times you will be put on a friendzone. And that's why most nice guys are put in a friendzone. They do it to themselves by going slowly and trying to befriend a woman. She's not your friend. She should be your lover at best but not a friend. Men are your friends.

So from start of first date you should escalate. That's the whole magic in bedding a woman. How to escalate, now that's a whole another and pretty big topic so learn for yourself.

Emerald__Faith · 2018-12-16T21:49:03+00:00

No, Dont pay, Dont be like these fake shallow people that throw money at their problems.

that's the easy way out

You need to become a man by

Getting in the best physical shape you can in the next 6 months
Buy new clothes
Join a martial art or boxing class
suck at it
Then try approach and fuck a woman atleast 20 times and check it off dont lie! Do the 20!

If all of that fails then, only then buy an escort. But your selling yourself short, your missing a huge part of what your capable of and you havnt even met that side of yourself yet.

red_matrix · 2018-12-17T00:13:49+00:00

Stop watching porn. Don’t masturbate. Let your nature desire take over. Embrace your masculinity.

chubz4you · 2018-12-17T03:30:52+00:00

Ive been there. Actually built a house there on a mission trip back in my bible days. Place was dirty and corrupt as hell. Maybe its turned a new leaf, but i doubt it. I dont have too hard of a time getting regular girls though so the hooker thing always seemed unsanitary to me in the first place regardless of where she came from.

SKRedPill · 2018-12-17T04:10:01+00:00

I hope at 33, you are not above 20% body fat and have male pattern baldness and poor body language. That matters a lot more than you think. Physical attractiveness is always top of the list. Being in IT, I wonder really what is the state of your body and mind right now. Sitting in chairs all day and working night shifts probably brought your T levels down to that of a 70 year old. It will show.

Cultivate some style and dressing sense as well. I can guess what kind of society you come from, they'll actively counsel you against such stuff. Because it is in their safe interests to stop you from becoming too attractive.

The other is of course mental and emotional. Whatever your conservative upbringing is, it was meant for keeping you safe, but beyond a point it simply sterilizes you at your point of origin where you need to perform. The way of the boy is different from the way of the man.

Nobody owes you a happy existence. You've got to create it. Only then the universe will support you. And this burning volcano in your mind, it's a painful field of vibration. So long as it exists, it will guarantee that you won't get what you want. Don't blame in on god, you've got to own responsibility for your choices and beliefs. Get out of that child that needs their mommy and daddy mode.

Learn to deal with rejections. Work for a goal, but never an outcome (because no one can work on an outcome, one can work only on a process).

Your big problem is that you can't see the impact you make from the outside. If you could see yourself in 3rd person, you would know almost immediately all the things that are wrong with you. But at least, learn to use a mirror.

How you are determines how your life goes. Change your physical, mental and emotional form, and your life will change and people will react differently to you.

classless01 · 2018-12-17T20:01:48+00:00

I can attest to hitting the gym. You should try to get that body fat percentage lower it will make your face more attactive showing of your cheekbones and jawline. Getting my body fat percentage down after getting a bit older I've regained some of the second glances I used to get when I was younger. Good luck homie!

BostonT00 · 2018-12-16T15:52:19+00:00

Women don't care about looks as much as men do, but you MUST LIFT and eat well. Also, go hire a few escorts and have some fun. It's just sex man, plus a good escort will be much more enjoyable than the awkwardness you'll bring to being with an experienced woman in her 30s who's been riding the cock carousel.

Lambdal7 · 2018-12-16T17:18:07+00:00

Improve your looks. Put on 10kg of muscle and dress well
Be a more aggressive, just tell them how sexy they look tonight and see how she reacts.
Work the volume. Talk to 100 women within a month and tell them how sexy they look tonight with a smirk. You’ll get 80 rejections and 20 yesses.

That’s all you have to do.

INNASKILLZ2K18 · 2018-12-16T13:38:55+00:00

Read No More Mr Nice Guy

NickDeez · 2018-12-16T15:44:57+00:00

Don't listen to people telling you to grab a hooker.

Earn that first one.

Level up each day. Work out, start dressing better, get a nice haircut to go from 4 to 6 out of 10.

Get hobbies, find your purpose (not easy to do, read the alchemist to start wrapping your mind round it).

You've got a lot in front of you. Take it a day at a time and you'll be going balls deep in some sweet sugar walls soon.

[deleted] · 2018-12-16T16:45:49+00:00

I was a virgin at 25 and decided to enjoy the company of a professional. It may not have been the ideal way to lose one’s virginity (although, I had a great time) but at least now there is no mystery and I can enjoy it.

The NMMNG self-help stuff helped me a little, but nothing got me to see life quite as clearly as did the Direct Dating DVDs. Look it up. Speakers include David X and Alan Roger Curry. They put things into perspective for you. David X is on YouTube, his long seminars are best, can’t really watch a 4 minute clip and expect to learn anything new.

58021 · 2018-12-17T05:31:01+00:00

Just go out to the bars and talk to people. Don’t try to cruise for sex yet. Do this frequently and for a while til you get the hang of how the rest of the world works.

screechhater · 2018-12-16T15:39:50+00:00

1-- Get to a gym right now and get a trainer start lifting to put some bulk on, and get fitter than fuck

2-- Get to a piano class and learn to play, fully discipline yourself to actually play classics

3-- Go to the local community college and enroll in French, Italian or Spanish in the class. Fuck online engage

4-- Watch comedy constantly and I mean fully engulf, turn your phone off, and watch Eddie Murphy types repeatedly, until that shit is engrained in your head

I would highly recommend you state you are in IT when you meet a chick, and the job comes up, you state "I just make IT shit work" and/or "I can't divulge too much, (long pause) cause I might have to kill you, (with a wink) " Then specifically ask her what she does and engage/listen ask questions back that actually prove you are listening and then ask her opinion on a topic that seems she is interested in

All this adds up to the diverse, being able to talk to and make women laugh type guys. Dead fucking serious. Laughter makes the pussy wet, being able to keep the conversation going with the diverse topics, and not focusing on boring engineering/IT shit keeps you from losing the attention. I would highly recommend you learn to confront people and seriously ask anyone that has a phone in their hand if you are boring them. All the while your phone is in your sport coat

Last night I was at a party, one of the husbands told me his prude acting wife was asking if I was happily married as she bit her lip and twirled her hair drilling he gaze right through me, the hostess tells me another chick wanted my number and another wife wanted to know if me and the SO were swingers

" i have average game""I am 4 out of ten in looks""i am trying to carry abundance mindset when i talk to girls" Take my advice and leave this shit in the dust.

My boys are 15 and 23 they both lift, speak 2 languages, shoot trap, fish, are headed on an elk hunt, play an instrument and make everyone around them laugh. My oldest is pulling pussy at a fast pace the 15 year old is asking his older brother to buy him condoms weekly.

anontgb · 2018-12-16T18:38:46+00:00

Hey Man, Reading your post I could sense that you're Indian. And it took me less than 30 seconds to find out your name is N*****.

Clear your account and ir access trp through a throwaway account. I am also Indian msg me so that we can help each other. 🙂

Title	Hello TRP, Any advise for 33 year old Virgin. Its like burning volcano in my mind.
Author	luvu_frndz
Upvotes	84
Comments	105
Date	16 December 2018 01:29 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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