Hello TRP, Any advise for 33 year old Virgin. Its like burning volcano in my mind.

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December 16, 2018

Hi everyone, i found red pill recently. I grew up in a family where there was no male role model. I grew up in a culture where sex is not so common before marriage. I finished my graduation and started working in IT for several years. During my career i never dated anyone at work or outside because of my busy 24/7 work schedule. A year ago i quit my corporate job to travel. During my travel i met so many people from different cultures, i tried talking to girls and hook up. But none of the girls really treated me as a partner for romance. I was always friendzoned, they have always taken me for granted. I was very nice with them due to the blue pill conditioning all my life. And i was needy as well. I started researching how to avoid friend zone topics on internet. Watched some videos on youtube, read books like rational male, no more nice guy, and consistently following red pill forums. At this point of time i am trying to carry abundance mindset when i talk to girls but so far i havent got proper results. I admit I am 4 out of ten in looks and i have average game. And i would like to improve it. Though i wanted to really have sex i never encouraged being with hookers. I really want to live a happy life like others in this planet but sometimes i feel god is unfaithful upon my existense. I am glad i found red pill atleast at this point in my life. I really want to take this pressure off my mind, i feel helpless my brothers.

Edit: I never expected such a great response while posting. I would like to thank each and everyone in the TRP community for responding positively. I have taken so much value from your comments and I will be implementing it in my life from now. My only regret is I wish I had known this community few years ago, but its never too late. I will move forward with positive mindset. Thanks to each and everyone again. Peace!

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Title Hello TRP, Any advise for 33 year old Virgin. Its like burning volcano in my mind.
Author luvu_frndz
Upvotes 84
Comments 105
Date 16 December 2018 01:29 PM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit askTRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/70813
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[–]redbarone172 points173 points  (30 children) | Copy

If you're 33 and haven't had sex before, pay for it. Pay double or triple if you have to. It's your own fault you haven't had it yet, so it's up to you to break the cycle one way or another.

[–]Olram_Sacul88 points89 points  (1 child) | Copy

This. If you just wanna get laid bang a hooker and you'll stop thinking that sex is such a big deal. If you see sex as some kind of validation of your manhood, you are wrong

[–][deleted] 21 points22 points  (0 children) | Copy

Pay for top tier pussy too, so you know you’re safer from catching things, and you’re able to bust a nut more than once

[–]horologist2018 1 points [recovered]  (17 children) | Copy

I second this. OP, if you're 33 and haven't lost it yet; nothing wrong with paying for it. It sounds like you're pretty well-off, so I would say get a profile on Seeking Arrangement, and find a hot girl on there. I recommend that site because although you are definitely paying those girls to have sex, the dynamic is a little different in that they're not professional hookers. They are regular college going girls/etc, and making extra money on the side by fucking for money. So, with that said, you'll get out on some actual dates where sex is already guaranteed in the end.

Work on your game, of course. Do what others have said; go to the gym, get confidence, etc. But just to get it out of the way; pay for sex, get it out of the way, realize that it's a lot of fun, but ultimately not a big deal. Plenty of men have lost their virginity to a hooker, I don't see any shame in it.

[–]luvu_frndz[S] 19 points20 points  (3 children) | Copy

Thanks bro.

[–]RedKepler2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Plus you can game the dates, men age like alcohol, they get better, so keep that mindset with you.

[–]ticklethegooch18 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

Seriously, read the above. Sex is no validation of manhood. Get it out of your system.
If you have an income, make it special if you want to and buy a pretty hooker. Tell her, you want to do it multiple times and make this experience worthwhile. You will pay more money on this but don't damage yourself with a terrible prostitute.

Things said, get it out of your system and improve yourself. After that, hooking up with women by seeeeeeduction.

Good luck man and enjoy some kinks you are having too, but don't press 33 years of celibacy in one night of crazy sex.

[–]Winterfuzz2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Dm me and I might be able to help. I’m 19, and have fucked over 20 girls this year, lost my virginity at 18

[–]DocPBJ0073 points4 points  (11 children) | Copy

Is Seeking Arrangement like Tinder? never heard the name before

[–]horologist2018 1 points [recovered]  (10 children) | Copy

It's a "dating" website. Men sign up, pay like $90 a month to talk to "sugar babies;" girls who are hooking, but convinced themselves that they're not hooking. You pay them a certain amount, they go on dates/fuck/etc. Not all girls on there will fuck for money, but a lot will. I've never used it, personally, but I know some who have. It would be greatly unwise to every try and find a girlfriend on that site; they're all gold digging whores. But, as far as sex for money, it's the most normal girl you'll get. Those girls don't want to feel like whores, so they'll treat it more like dating, act normal, etc. For someone like OP, who really needs to lose his virginity to get it out of the way, it would be a pretty good option for learning some female language, etc, but having some guaranteed sex out of the deal.

[–]askmrcia1 point2 points  (6 children) | Copy

Geez that $90 a month is a killer especially since you have to pay the girl on top of that

[–]horologist2018 1 points [recovered]  (5 children) | Copy

Oh yeah dude no, tell me about it! The only reason I recommended it for OP is because from his post, he seems to be really well off. For the vast majority of us; total waste of fucking money. Not only do you have to pay the $90 a month just to talk to these trollops, but you also have to pay them their $400 or whatever the fuck to get a night with them.

[–]askmrcia3 points4 points  (4 children) | Copy

Yea i had no idea it was that expensive to use that sight.

If I were op I'd fly to San Diego and drive thirty mins south to the Mexican boarder.

Cross the boarder and take a cab to Tijuana. Plenty of hookers around. There are bars where you can pay $60 for full sex and $30 for a bj. And the girls look amazing.

I recommend this over that sight because at least see San Diego this way

[–]horologist2018 1 points [recovered]  (1 child) | Copy

True. Or take a trip to Thailand.

[–]friendandadvisor2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

I was watching a Youtube vid titled "My Boyfriend is a Sex Tourist-X Country". Somewhere in the Carribean. I forgot the name of the country. Very cheap, something like 200 dollars a day/week. You go down there, get yourself a room and a whore to spend the week with, at their resort, as if she were your woman/gf. The chicks were pretty passable, and the proprietors make you wear a condom, and the girls are checked regularly for diseases.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HKXJnmf3-KM I recognize this guy from the vid that I watched, so, maybe this is the resort.

[–]chubz4you-1 points0 points  (1 child) | Copy

I wouldnt fuck a tijuana hooker with a rubber dock, let alone mine. You know that shit is harboring something the CDC hasnt heard of yet. Poor advice.

[–]askmrcia5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

Spoken like someone who has never been there. They brothels where the girls are tested and you have to wear a condom. They are just as clean as the avg american girl

[–]friendandadvisor0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

Yes, but, wouldn't this just put OP back into the 'losing' cycle that he's in?? These women aren't guaranteed lays; ergo, he'd go out on a date, and, since they're actually doing the ASD thing, they would resist the weak advances that OP has in his arsenal.

Something like Backpage be better, maybe?

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

When did backpage come back? Thought they got shutdown.

[–]friendandadvisor0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Sorry, didn't know about that. My 'backpage' knowledge is at least 2 years old.

[–]z2a1-9-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

Good advise.

[–]luvu_frndz[S] 6 points7 points  (5 children) | Copy

I was conditioned all my life in my culture not to have sex until i get married. Every since i found read pill, i tried hooking up with girls but that didnt help. I guess i have to break that cycle now one way or other.

[–]gisking 1 points [recovered]  (3 children) | Copy

what culture is that?

[–]MadChestHairYuKnight5 points6 points  (2 children) | Copy

Probably Indian/Brown skinned.

[–]luvu_frndz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy


[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

How is it someone’s own fault?

[–]jackandjill220 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy


[–]K04free71 points72 points  (10 children) | Copy

Your post history shows that you don’t lift. Start lifting.

[–]luvu_frndz[S] 4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

Thanks man. Will start lifting.

[–]K04free2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Good luck man! You’ll make it!

[–]maxofreddit3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

This needs more upvotes

[–]NewReligionIsMySong14 points15 points  (1 child) | Copy

I was always friendzoned

"Have confidence" does not mean "have the confidence to talk to her", it means "have the confidence to call her on her bullshit"

I would hope that you learned how to say "no" at your job. Learn how to apply that to women, learn how and when to say "no" to them.

When you talk to women, are you telling them what you think they wanted to hear instead of whatever you actually think? Being a little abrasive is a turn on, but it's also something that you'll probably screw up a few times. Accept that you will fail sometimes, and start grinding.

[–]luvu_frndz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

you made a good point. I am not good at saying thoughts which are going on in my mind. i am working on it to just say it irresepective of others opinion.

[–]empatheticapathetic35 points36 points  (6 children) | Copy

I paid for an escort at 25. Removed that burning self hatred and I could actually start moving forward with life.

[–]lolrtz13 points14 points  (3 children) | Copy

I completely agree with this way of thinking, OP. I was a loner and a virgin until 23. Every day I was depressed and imagined what sex would be like, and would brood over the fact that no women wanted me. The mental hell you are in is completely understandable, and it is an awful thing to live with.

You need to do whatever it takes to have sex and get your first experiences. I literally posted an ad on craigslist saying that I was a virgin and that I was looking for a girl to take it. I had to repost the ad multiple times, and sift through a bunch of garbage/spam replies, but eventually I found a girl who was interested. I met up with her, and she was one of the most disgusting women I've ever spent time with, probably a 1-2/10 objectively. Everything about her was gross, and she was a smoker. I kissed her in her car and tasted her disgusting breath, she sucked my dick, I played with her tits, and she wanted to fuck me, but I couldn't even imagine wanting to have sex with her, even as a virgin. I rejected her offer, and went home and brushed my teeth for like 30 minutes straight, and kept posting more ads on craigslist.

Eventually I found a woman who was decent looking enough to have sex with, and I got it over with. At that point I learned that yes, sex is fun and does feel good, but the amount I was idealizing it was absurd. Getting laid was important because it taught me how little sex matters, and it gave me the experience I needed to know that if I'm with a woman and things start to get intimate, I at least would have some idea of what to do.

To give you some context, I lost my virginity at 23. I then went on to have sex with 8 more women in the span of less than a year, and I am a totally average guy with no game (thanks online dating!)

[–]DocPBJ007-1 points0 points  (2 children) | Copy

u used tinder then? since u said thanks online dating

[–]lolrtz0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

OKC, tinder, bumble, craigslist. I've had the most success with OKC for some reason

[–]OptionsBoy 1 points [recovered]  (1 child) | Copy

i paid an escort at 18 lmao

[–]empatheticapathetic1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I wish i had done honestly. Wouldn't have wasted so much time.

[–]ReaperX4428 points29 points  (6 children) | Copy

You're looking at this all wrong. Have a purpose. Do something and try to be somebody. Women should just be a nice addition in to your life but not your main goal. Women tends to gravitate to men with that "big dick energy". And do yourself a favor and read The Art of not Giving a Fuck and the go from there.

[–]luvu_frndz[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

Thanks, I bought this book but i havent read it yet. Will read it now.

[–]smolzino 1 points [recovered]  (4 children) | Copy

You are. It's a very easy thing to say but none of us are in the shoes of a 33 year old virgin. I've had dry spells in my life and at first I didn't care but after a couple months I was really really obsessed with girls and sex. I think it's possible to treat women as a side quest but only once you've been around the block and got your basic needs met and your imagination put to rest. I can't imagine how obsessed I would be if I never had a woman before at 33. I would be rabid.

[–]luvu_frndz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

You read my mind man. Appreciate it.

[–]ReaperX440 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Very easy to say? It is. If you're not on your purpose of trying to improve upon yourself and just thinking about getting laid all day then yeah, it's not easy. Be busy, so busy that all you can think of is how to improve on yourself even more and just stroke one off from time to time. TRP is not about getting laid, it is about personal growth and increasing your self esteem. Lift and eat healthy for a year and take your mind off getting laid for a second. Who cares if you're still a virgin. People always got excuses and always try to pick the path of least resistance. You're not entitled to some pussy just because you're a virgin. Man up and quit acting like a little bitch.

[–]ReaperX440 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Oh and for the record, I'm on a year and 3 months dry spell now and have been working on myself. Too busy with work and gym for the past year that I don't really care about getting laid right now. Until summer gets here that is. Lol

[–]hrm08945 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy

Just an FYI, a Fleshlight feels a million times better than pussy. You're not missing out on anything special. But since you're a virgin I'd imagine it's eating you up. Go fuck an escort to see for yourself how overrated sex is.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I think I bought a flashlight about 10 years ago, when I was still a virgin. I don’t remember it feeling particularly amazing, or better than the pussies I fucked over the past three years. Are more recent models better than the old ones?

[–]trpppp12321 points22 points  (2 children) | Copy

Sounds like you've got a lot of work to do. Join a gym, learn some fashion and get some fitted clothing once you have some muscle, start other hobbies that require you to be social, starting reading about and practicing some pua.

In the meanwhile, get some hookers to learn how to have sex and get out of your head about it because you've got a long journey ahead of you

[–]HopeFarmer1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

To add to this idea of having a lot of work. I think it is important for guys like OP just starting to improve themselves that they focus on expecting and visualizing improvement. It's hard to start going to the gym if you just see it as an isolated task. It is a lot of work and it's easy to give up if you see it as some unreliable or uncertain plan that will probably fail. That has been true of all his past plans, so he is probably used to setting low expectations for himself. He needs to set a plan with a clear positive expectation like "I will doubt myself from time to time, but if I keep going to the gym, I will be ripped in a couple years and my life will be better." He can repeat that kind of stuff to himself whenever he's in doubt. Based on the pessimistic tone of the post, I think this growth mindset is probably what he's most lacking, even more than any particular knowledge or skills relating to women or attraction. Without the underlying plan and hope for something better, it's essentially impossible to take any consistent action toward improvement.

[–]jackandjill220 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

That's definitely doesn't solve a problem for a guy who's exceptionally behind & needs an immediate solution.

[–]Rollo_Mayhem34 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

You like to travel, travel to holland or thailand and drop 1k fucking a ton of hookers

[–]Prysefighter4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

Get ripped

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

no shortcuts to chadom, please!

[–]HumptyDumptyFellHard2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

How’s yours physique? If it’s not up to par, hit that that gym. That will increase your SMV drastically.

[–]luvu_frndz[S] -1 points0 points  (1 child) | Copy

I am 5'10 height, 78 kgs weight. Have some belly but not big.

[–]hazaraMoghul7 points8 points  (1 child) | Copy

Phase one: Improve your look.

  1. Buy a fit chino
  2. Buy a fit shirt
  3. Buy a leather belt and shoes

Rock these shits.


  1. Do not masturbate for 5 days
  2. Go and say HELLO, how are you to everyone. EVERYONE..Do not expect a reply
  3. Slowly approach ugly girls, then approach 5 or 6s.

Keep doing this. Out of 50 approach if one likes you, then you killed the game.

[–]depurefymii231 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Or you get sent to feminist jail for being a creep. Your mileage may vary.

[–]macheagle3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy

OP, you sound like many fellow bros that I know from a past life so I can empathize. You mentioned you have traveled. Have you been to parts of Asia or Europe where hookers are straight up legal, abundantly available, and well regulated? Like Hong Kong, Singapore, Amsterdam, etc. If you ever come to HK, drop me a PM and I’ll personally bring you to a good one. Someone once did that for me as well years ago and I appreciated that. Just passing it along.

Any chance you can move? Relocate. Are you and Asian guy in the US? If so, that’s another ballgame to play. Asian masculinity is another sub here you might wanna check out if so. Location matters a ton because instead of learning English/French/Spanish, your native English in Asia or other countries is already by default a boost, and actually knowing some with Cantonese/Mandarin/Japanese etc will be a big bonus on top of all that for your game. Location location location, if possible. I moved out from the US and to Asia, as an ABC male, years ago and it was the difference of day and night. You can change yourself to fit with what’s expected of your environment and the social norms of your location, or you can simply change your location so that you don’t have to “change” yourself.

If this is not an option, then be sure to lift and bulk up. I would advise against learning piano - I’m a concert pianist from the S.F. Conservatory of Music and it did nothing to improve my SMV. However it did improve my discipline and mindset, though more for work. Classical piano is perhaps the least sexy of all genres and instruments for the average person - instead I would recommend guitar and jazz, but those will take a bit of time. Work on them gradually and steadily if you do. Then, use them as opportunities to perform in recitals locally. It’s a great way to meet people and they will often come to you to chat you up if you’re any good.

Last but not least, do these not in hopes to score but to better yourself. TRP is about being at the max of your potential.

Again, if you find yourself in Hong Kong, PM me. We’ll go what we call “commercial” where it is all legal and fun. Take care brother.

[–]luvu_frndz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

will message you personally.

[–]TRP VanguardWhisper1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

The fact that you are 33 doesn't make what you need to do any different than anyone else.

Read, learn, practice.

[–]mccaigbro695 points6 points  (12 children) | Copy

Good morning Sir,

My first bit of advice would be to get a gym membership and get into a routine to achieve some gains and stick to it. It seems to me that you are lacking in confidence. It happens to almost everyone, so don’t this as criticism.

If you commit to the gym you will see gains and with the gains come confidence. If you’re mug isn’t great looking, do what you can to make everything else as attractive as possible and the confidence will follow.

Now to the virginity part, I can’t explain or try to relate with you on this front, but I would say stop trying so hard to make it happen. It always seems that you get something you want when you aren’t seeking it. My uncle was a very successful patent attorney (retired now) and when I heard his story it baffled me at first. He only dated two women. One for 7 years in his thirties before they broke up and then my aunt in his younger 50’s who he is now married to. He is STILL a virgin and he is fine with it. He hustled his whole life and never had time for a social life and has more money and knowledge than he knows what to do with. He is a very successful person in life and has never had sex and he claims he never probably will. Aside from not giving a shit about pussy, he is one of the more red pilled individuals I know in terms of world/life outlook.

I mention him because it is a wild circumstance, but to also let you know that where you are in your sexual life isn’t unheard of.

In short, focus on yourself. The pussy will come eventually if you do that and also keep putting yourself in spots to find the women, but you need to find yourself and your mission and enjoy what comes along with the ride of achieving it.

At least that’s my opinion.

[–]PM_ME_UR_1ITIS_SNAP12 points13 points  (2 children) | Copy

I find it sad that he's married but never had sex.

[–]oldertybasterd5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

And they’re probably opening their legs for other men to fuck

[–]jackandjill221 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

That's not as uncommon as you think. If you get married early & never learn how to date. All that it takes is getting trapped in a terrible relationship & paltry experience & you have the recipe for that tragedy.

[–]empatheticapathetic12 points13 points  (2 children) | Copy

This story about your uncle being a virgin is not what this guy wants to hear. It’s borderline bluepill bullshit.

Would you be happy still being a virgin? No? Then show the same respect to OP.

[–]mccaigbro691 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Not my intention.

I wanted to show OP that there are people out there in much more crazy virgin situations than he is. I get that people want to lose their virginity ASAP, but he legitimately seems to be letting it affect his mental health. That doesn’t help him on either front.

In no way am I advocating for staying celibate your whole life lol.

[–]empatheticapathetic2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

I’m sure OP knows there are virgins who exist until they die. It’s not what he is after. He is here for stone cold realistic advice on how to get into the game, not a “it’s ok some people never get laid and eventually they stop caring!”

Your story is inappropriate and shows you lack empathy to OPs situation. It’s not what any man in his position wants to hear or could even appreciate at such a time. He needs rage and motivation to get off his ass and start working on whatever he needs to do. I hope you can appreciate that.

[–]UncleChido1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

How is he a virgin while he’s married ?

[–]hazaraMoghul3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

GYM is the ultimate SMV booster

[–]kellykebab0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

Your uncle never had sex with his 7 year girlfriend or his current wife? So he has no kids?

Are you just making this up?

[–]mccaigbro690 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Not making it up at all.

Him and my aunt just had a kid through invitro, or however you spell it. He’s legit still a virgin. It’s definitely odd.

[–]kellykebab1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I find that pretty hard to believe. The guy maintained both a longtime girlfriend and a marriage without any sex at all. If he's not yanking your chain, I wonder if he's not just a deeply repressed gay man.

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[–]HopeFarmer1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Obviously lifting and working out is a good idea and you need to start. That will provide consistent benefits over time. More immediately, you can get a real haircut, focus on grooming, and learn to dress well. There are a bunch of posts about this stuff on TRP. Don't overthink it. Just get it done. Also curate your social media and online presence. Any channel of interacting with the world has potential and will affect how you are perceived, so make sure they all make you look good. Take down any unfavorable pics or posts and share only good photos of you looking sharp.

Meeting women is a little more involved like lifting. You can pay for a hooker or not. I don't think that really matters, but what you do need to do is start practicing leaving your comfort zone to approach women, and learn to walk away if they aren't gonna fuck you. Your insecurity about this virginity thing is setting you up to put them on a pedestal, so you need to set it aside. Virginity is not your identity and a woman is not gonna a save you. You still have to create the meaning in your life. If you are really bad with social interaction in general, get involved in some community/social group where you can practice talking to people. You can also start initiating conversations with random people on the streets you aren't trying to fuck including men and women. That mindset of leaving your comfort zone and not being afraid of people is important to build up.

[–]EpCoSpIm0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Stop reading rubbish online, go out to nightclubs, talk to as many girls as you can, eventually you'll find somebody who will find you attractive.

Or make a tinder account, and swipe everybody. If you want a more efficient means of finding somebody to have sex with.

[–]EpCoSpIm0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Be ready to get rejection and stuff like that, that is part of the trial and error process that is required for improvement.

[–]UncleChido0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Gaming girls is the same as sales. Numbers count irrespective of your game level. Meet as much as you can, try 20 approaches in a week. At the end of 2 weeks, you should definitely get lucky. Most people posting on asktrp don’t approach enough that’s why they’re always asking questions and developing oneitis. Just meet girls and meet more. Also try and improve on your dressing, it’s an attractant.

[–]pacjax0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

you need to workout. 4/10 in looks makes you virtually invisible. groom yourself nice, try different hairstyles maybe different clothing styles.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

There’s no proof of any God that is required to show faithfulness to your existence.

However we’re all connected on this rock spinning about a huge ball of gas we call the sun. TRP will help your disposition.

Not everyone of us randomly generated human beings are going to get lucky on the gene pool department, just like in the animal kingdom... nothing to do with a God. And you may not agree, but women can’t love unconditionally anyway, so you’re not missing out on intimacy, or a real deeper connection with a women.... get a dog if that is what you seek. You are missing out on divorce rape however.

Learn to appreciate life regardless... all women are whores, some just charge cash for their time... pay to unleash some pent up energy on top tier pussy to get the taboo out of your system. Then get down to business improving your life and mindset.

Never let external factors from ruining your day, be happy to be alive and meditate.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Your goal shouldn't be to have sex for now. Your goal should be one and only be just one (besides of improving your SMV) is to seduce a woman enough so that she would want to "date" you. Casually. And I mean by that not having sex specifically in mind, but trying to get her "sort of comfortable with you" and go from there. And when I say comfortable I mean "she won't flake on second or third date on you".

That's all I mean, because in RP philosophy, a man should never try make a woman comfortable first (ask her questions, go slowly, meet her parents, help her move stuff and some other hollywood bullshit), since most sex happens when people barely know each other and only then they start learning about themselves, their hobbies etc. Don't go that route. It is a nice guy/beta route. Not saying it doesn't work, sometimes it does, but most of the times you will be put on a friendzone. And that's why most nice guys are put in a friendzone. They do it to themselves by going slowly and trying to befriend a woman. She's not your friend. She should be your lover at best but not a friend. Men are your friends.

So from start of first date you should escalate. That's the whole magic in bedding a woman. How to escalate, now that's a whole another and pretty big topic so learn for yourself.

[–]Emerald__Faith0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

No, Dont pay, Dont be like these fake shallow people that throw money at their problems.

that's the easy way out

You need to become a man by

  • Getting in the best physical shape you can in the next 6 months
  • Buy new clothes
  • Join a martial art or boxing class
  • suck at it
  • Then try approach and fuck a woman atleast 20 times and check it off dont lie! Do the 20!

If all of that fails then, only then buy an escort. But your selling yourself short, your missing a huge part of what your capable of and you havnt even met that side of yourself yet.

[–]DocPBJ0071 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

u sir, opened my eyes and started a revolution within me

[–]red_matrix0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Stop watching porn. Don’t masturbate. Let your nature desire take over. Embrace your masculinity.

[–]chubz4you0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Ive been there. Actually built a house there on a mission trip back in my bible days. Place was dirty and corrupt as hell. Maybe its turned a new leaf, but i doubt it. I dont have too hard of a time getting regular girls though so the hooker thing always seemed unsanitary to me in the first place regardless of where she came from.

[–]SKRedPill0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I hope at 33, you are not above 20% body fat and have male pattern baldness and poor body language. That matters a lot more than you think. Physical attractiveness is always top of the list. Being in IT, I wonder really what is the state of your body and mind right now. Sitting in chairs all day and working night shifts probably brought your T levels down to that of a 70 year old. It will show.

Cultivate some style and dressing sense as well. I can guess what kind of society you come from, they'll actively counsel you against such stuff. Because it is in their safe interests to stop you from becoming too attractive.

The other is of course mental and emotional. Whatever your conservative upbringing is, it was meant for keeping you safe, but beyond a point it simply sterilizes you at your point of origin where you need to perform. The way of the boy is different from the way of the man.

Nobody owes you a happy existence. You've got to create it. Only then the universe will support you. And this burning volcano in your mind, it's a painful field of vibration. So long as it exists, it will guarantee that you won't get what you want. Don't blame in on god, you've got to own responsibility for your choices and beliefs. Get out of that child that needs their mommy and daddy mode.

Learn to deal with rejections. Work for a goal, but never an outcome (because no one can work on an outcome, one can work only on a process).

Your big problem is that you can't see the impact you make from the outside. If you could see yourself in 3rd person, you would know almost immediately all the things that are wrong with you. But at least, learn to use a mirror.

How you are determines how your life goes. Change your physical, mental and emotional form, and your life will change and people will react differently to you.

[–]classless010 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I can attest to hitting the gym. You should try to get that body fat percentage lower it will make your face more attactive showing of your cheekbones and jawline. Getting my body fat percentage down after getting a bit older I've regained some of the second glances I used to get when I was younger. Good luck homie!

[–]BostonT000 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Women don't care about looks as much as men do, but you MUST LIFT and eat well. Also, go hire a few escorts and have some fun. It's just sex man, plus a good escort will be much more enjoyable than the awkwardness you'll bring to being with an experienced woman in her 30s who's been riding the cock carousel.

[–]Lambdal70 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

  1. Improve your looks. Put on 10kg of muscle and dress well
  2. Be a more aggressive, just tell them how sexy they look tonight and see how she reacts.
  3. Work the volume. Talk to 100 women within a month and tell them how sexy they look tonight with a smirk. You’ll get 80 rejections and 20 yesses.

That’s all you have to do.

[–]2INNASKILLZ2K18-3 points-2 points  (2 children) | Copy

Read No More Mr Nice Guy

[–]HltvFanBoy10 points11 points  (1 child) | Copy

Read the topic again.

[–]2INNASKILLZ2K180 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Ah, that's what I get for skimming

[–][deleted] -1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

I was a virgin at 25 and decided to enjoy the company of a professional. It may not have been the ideal way to lose one’s virginity (although, I had a great time) but at least now there is no mystery and I can enjoy it.

The NMMNG self-help stuff helped me a little, but nothing got me to see life quite as clearly as did the Direct Dating DVDs. Look it up. Speakers include David X and Alan Roger Curry. They put things into perspective for you. David X is on YouTube, his long seminars are best, can’t really watch a 4 minute clip and expect to learn anything new.

[–]58021-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

Just go out to the bars and talk to people. Don’t try to cruise for sex yet. Do this frequently and for a while til you get the hang of how the rest of the world works.

[–]anontgb 1 points [recovered]  (2 children) | Copy

Hey Man, Reading your post I could sense that you're Indian. And it took me less than 30 seconds to find out your name is N*****.

Clear your account and ir access trp through a throwaway account. I am also Indian msg me so that we can help each other. 🙂

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Why does it matter? The government gonna come looking for him ?

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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