If you hate Captain Marvel then you Must be a misogynist

A man being rejected by a woman becomes depressed, loses his confidence and this failure signals that he does not, in fact, need to continue producing sperm. It triggers a sudden chemical withdrawal. He becomes angry and irritable and dejected, and he wants to take this out on the woman. He hates her, because she wouldn’t give him the next hit he is anticipating (that dopamine rush that is sex). In his mind, she has simultaneously taken away his feel good arousal cocktail, and the ultimate reward at the end.

He thinks much less of women than of men, because society has always told him that men are the best. He doesn’t want to be left embarrassed by this woman, so he goes back home with this sinking into his sex-addled brain.

His anger builds and fuels a desire to regain back his confidence and repair his fragile ego, and he does this the only way he knows how: by reversing the outcome. His anger is morphed into a testosterone-laced cocktail of arousal and aggression combined, as he imagines how he could embarrass her, the way he was made to feel embarrassed.

He uses porn to enact out the scene where he returns back to confront, humiliate and rape her. He returns to win what he sees as a game. He returns to feel powerful within a society where he feels weak. But most of all he returns because he’s a sex addict and is desperate for the fix he feels was denied to him.

And this mixture, of the fragile male ego and libido, fueled by a social hierarchy that reinforces male superiority and porn culture that reinforces male aggression, is the perfect storm for the normalization of violence against women.

But never forget that sexual violence against women was always a threat, because an increase in aggression is an increase in libido.

We’ve just commodified aggression against women as a consumerist culture with no limits and no morality. We’ve sold it as a drug and called it pornography.

Then we wonder why they are so angry at women. Well of course. They’ve been taught that sex is their birthright as men. They’ve been taught that women will perform any depraved act for them. They’ve been taught to expect it. And when they get hit in the face with reality, that expectation that is denied gets twisted into anger. And the anger and porn addictions of men just keeps reinforcing one another in an ugly feedback loop.