This is the forth attempt at making a post talking about something so simple as friendship between men. Every time it went off track because I am still so angry after my recent breakup after five years. Long story short I had great friends before her, I became depressed and anxious before and after my son was born, I expected her to care about my needs much more than I should have, and became a nervous angry wreck of a man and broke my own rules and standards of conduct. Mental illness was a big factor looking back now.
I won't pretend she kept me away from them. She actually encouraged me to see my friends on numerous occasions, but I was too busy to do so, at least I thought. I tend to isolate from friends for long periods of time of depression, and felt embarrassed for my standing in life. It was over the last year I ended up working with a guy who was probably the best friend I ever had. We had some things in common, but a lot of differences, and we could work together for 8 hours, sometimes 13 hours if we had side jobs, and resolve conflicts, help each other out, just get along great. I am an only child and this was when I found out what it's like to have a little brother.
I would feed him red pills about his failed relationship and he would use them to move on. One of my proudest achievements was being the guy he called for over 30 minutes one night when his ex wife was driving him crazy with their divorce, and helping him through that. She was a really crazy one, ended up with an abusive gang member in New York and would call my friend to come rescue her and torture him with the idea of getting back together. He really needed a strong influence to stay away from the pitfalls of that kind of drama. "You should be sooo grateful bro. This is a lesson, and you got out easy. No kids. Nothing to keep you attached to her. You are so lucky, yeah it hurts, but you're going to be okay and now you know the truth about this type of woman."
It was months later when he was back on his feet, dating another girl, and I was the one calling him, overwhelmed with all kinds of shit after my breakup. And he was there to guide me through it. That means the fucking world when you're stuck in your own head and it feels like everything is falling down around you. It's after trying everything else: lifting, running, writing on here, driving around, music, meditation... And you still don't feel okay. You need to talk to someone, man. Someone who has been there before. Your male friends are your most valuable assets in life.
Gym, money, friends, plates, hobbies. There is a real lack of emphasis on friendship and brotherhood on the red pill these days. Alpha wolf is different from lone wolf. Make it easy on yourself. Go out and get some friends who you can respect and trust and build a support system for yourself. Seriously, the benefits of having friends will make a woman so much less important in your life, and we know that is great for your game. The difference between her flaking and you staying home being lonely that night, vs. she flakes so you call your friend and go out to find ten new women to replace her. Or having a full schedule of adventures with your friends for the next week, so you don't have to fake having a full life. Women really don't care if you're learning piano and two new languages Tuesday through Thursday. You might still be forever alone.
If you have a ton of stories involving your friends, it's always easy to have something to talk about. You can even use them in openers, like wave at a girl and say "oh sorry I thought you were my friend's fuck buddy." That right there is enough to keep her mind moving for ten minutes.
Anyways it's been said here before that your woman can never really be your friend. But you can find friends who really fill the need you have for that kind of support. And I recommend everyone to do so if you do not have that. Go get some friends, or upgrade your friends if they are idiots.