What was your harshest experience of "She's not yours,it's just your turn"?

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Title What was your harshest experience of "She's not yours,it's just your turn"?
Author BulletFarmer94
Upvotes 178
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Date 19 July 2020 04:00 AM UTC (9 months ago)
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[–]rektum_expander152 points153 points  (14 children) | Copy

Let this bitch crash at my place. Went to work. Came back to her emptying out my big coin bottle so she can go see her real boyfriend and give him my money.....in jail.

Edit: To add to this mistake, she left me before all this for the dude in jail. She had just got out of jail for being his heroin mule. Yeah, so now I'm here...

[–]yungelonmusk39 points40 points  (0 children) | Copy

LMFAAOOOOOOOOOO. feels bro... feels

[–]shyrix22 points23 points  (6 children) | Copy

U let her stay there while you weren't there?

[–]rektum_expander22 points23 points  (3 children) | Copy

Her parents kicked her out. She begged me for a place to crash. I even gave her $20 spending money while I worked all day.... talk about betrayal bro...

[–]shyrix19 points20 points  (1 child) | Copy

Ahh gotta love those street rats. Super great in bed tho.

[–]rektum_expander2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Aint that the fucking truth.....

[–]red__Man14 points15 points  (0 children) | Copy

she belongs to the streets

[–]rektum_expander1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

She was an ex that needed a place to crash. Worst part is there was no sex.

[–]shyrix1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Oh man...

[–]Maxofwarcraft6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

From the streets she emerged and from the streets she returned.

[–]azynporter1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Nigga, HUH?! I just don’t understand.

[–]rickle_pickk1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

what the actual fuck

[–]anticommunistforlife1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Hopefully you kicked her out and didn’t let her have a single cent.... right?

[–]rektum_expander2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yeah, I packed up her shit and just dropped it off on her parents driveway. Let them deal with her shit. Fuck her.

[–]Hellsteelz114 points115 points  (9 children) | Copy

Girl I was seeing for 2 months in my blue pill days. We hang out at my place, I cooked us a nice meal. She proceeds to ignore me for the rest of the night and is burried in her cellphone.

I try to make a move and she pulls the phone away and tells me "What are you doing?" in the most disgusted and suprised tone. She goes out on the balcony, talks to someone and leaves 15 minutes later.

Chick just wanted a meal before getting plowed by some other dude.

[–]Omardumet27 points28 points  (3 children) | Copy

I get how this women be cold and shit...but at least with shit like this they make us better man..from blue pill to redpill

[–]hrm089443 points44 points  (2 children) | Copy

As the saying goes, men don't redpill other men, women do.

[–]Omardumet13 points14 points  (1 child) | Copy

Damn nice...in a way they weed out the weak men

[–]mrmaika109 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy

Well yeah that’s the point of what they’re doing lmao

[–]tee000511 points12 points  (0 children) | Copy

I think they call it carb loading. Same as when you go on a date and drop the girl home around 10pm. 2 hours later she hitting the club.

[–]AJ_KG_JG7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

Same shit happened to me almost verbatim. She came over, we ate, she got on her cellphone and was like, "Thanks for the meal, bye."

One of my standout pre-redpill experiences that pushed me into it. Never again.

[–]BulletFarmer94[S] 10 points11 points  (2 children) | Copy

Tell me you kicked her to the curb next moment you found out

[–]Hellsteelz31 points32 points  (1 child) | Copy

Nahhh dude, that didnt exist in my blue pill days. She broke it off with me 1 week after.

Glad I fucking learned though, holy shit.

[–]BulletFarmer94[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children) | Copy

At least she was kind enough not to turn you into a full time cuck.

[–][deleted] 245 points246 points  (18 children) | Copy

My first real gf. I had a weird feeling that she was cheating. A strong overpowering feeling. I even had a dream of it. One night she was sleeping and I looked through her phone and found a bunch of texts from some guy I never heard about. They apparently hung out multiple times.

To cut a long story short when you got that feeling in your gut trust it and the best bit of advice I ever heard:

Never be afraid to walk away from a woman.

[–]Marteko3111130 points131 points  (11 children) | Copy

"Don't let yourself get attached to anything you are not willing to walk out on in 30 seconds flat if you feel the heat around the corner."

Heat was such a great movie.

[–]19abto33 points34 points  (5 children) | Copy

Mann I can’t tell you how many times that quote has crossed my mind over the years for various matters. Most underrated movie of all time imo. Thanks for the memory.

[–]proactive-defense8 points9 points  (2 children) | Copy

Even though they weren’t so great. He tastes like you only sweeterrrr

[–]misfithustle4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

dur hur hur dats gay

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[–]MrSelfDestructXX2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Not overrated, it’s a masterpiece.

But in what world is Heat underrated? It’s almost as if people don’t understand the definition of the word.

[–]Optionsmfd7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

great movie... and listening to every rich cooper into about

shes not yours...... its just your turn....... that shit kinda hurt until reading rational male and i realizes it wasnt me or my fault...... and hell im not 100% sure its not biology guiding or forcing men and women to do the majority what we do

[–]S3542U2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

"Don't let... not willing..." too many negatives. I don't understand. If I'm willing to walk out on something in 30 secs or less, then that thing is not worth my time and effort?

[–]Marteko31114 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

Yes. It's like in every relationship: the one who cares the least, has the most power.

[–]S3542U0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Thanks! I understand now.

[–]Snotrockett-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy


[–]Omardumet2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Men always have a choice and that choice is the choice to walk away from any disrespect...

[–]kristuhfur4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Same thing happened to me. For me tho I couldn’t tel if I was just being insecure as fuck so I felt guilty for thinking that or was she the slut

[–]cvbnjk0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy

How long into the relationship was it when you found out?

And were there any signs or just your gut instinct?

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

Maybe a year or so. Not sure.

There were no signs from what I could remember. I just had this overwhelming and overpowering feeling like something was wrong/off and that I couldn't trust her. It was like a sixth sense. Like I said I even had a dream she was cheating on me. Trust your instincts and your gut.

[–]cvbnjk0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Thanks man. Was there anything you did or you said, you think? Or you think it was inevitable that it happened?

I'm considering a relationship, but I found out something recently about this girl (see my post history if you want) by trusting my gut so now I'm not sure if I want to enter into one

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Well, she was my first actual gf and I had not learned about TRP yet. I also took the universally bad advice of 'being yourself.' Looking back I should have walked away earlier.

[–]northernCAgrown230 points231 points  (7 children) | Copy

It wasn't a harsh lesson but more so just laying next to girls after we just fucked and they start texting dudes next to you.

I didn't care but those other dudes had no idea I just came all over her and she's messaging them.

Women always have options and someone else waiting in line.

[–]ironrape12118 points119 points  (0 children) | Copy

Oof those moments are so weird.

Partially because you know you’ve been on the other end of that at some point.

[–]BulletFarmer94[S] 39 points40 points  (1 child) | Copy

I wonder how many guys are on the other end of such calls oblivious to everything and fantasizing about their "oneitis" while she's being plowed by a total stranger.

[–]_Ulan_23 points24 points  (0 children) | Copy

Don't wonder too much, focus on your own aims

[–]Sweatingtoomuch29 points30 points  (0 children) | Copy

But, but, I thought I was the only one?

[–]Returnofthemack342 points43 points  (0 children) | Copy

Lol this is the truth right here.

[–]ExcellentItem6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

I’ve been the opposite in that situation, going for a smoke on the girl’s balcony while she was showering post-sex, and keeping tabs on my dating apps

[–]molded_bread160 points161 points  (12 children) | Copy

A friend of mine who's very good at spinning plates showed me a video once of him fucking a girl while she talked to her boyfriend on her smartphone. She was saying stuff like how much she missed him and how she couldn't wait to see him the next day and the guy responded accordingly. All of this happening while my friend fucked her. That was 10 years ago. That video changed my views on relationships and I swore to myself that I would do my best to never be the guy on the other end of that call.

[–]gayqwertykeyboard101 points102 points  (4 children) | Copy

Similar experience, I was fucking a girl and her BF (who I did not know about, but had a feeling she had one) texts her “hey babe i’m making dinner, when will you come home?” or something to that effect. His name was saved under “Babe” with multiple hearts next to it. Some women just don’t give a fuck at all.

[–]BulletFarmer94[S] 62 points63 points  (2 children) | Copy

Good lord! I do understand AWALT and hypergamy. But these are straight up cold! No mercy nor ethics whatsoever! Absolutely barbaric.

[–]Number1sun32 points33 points  (1 child) | Copy

Savage women, so many chicks have extreme apathy nowadays and are borderline psychotic

[–]Omardumet11 points12 points  (0 children) | Copy

For real that’s straight psychotic...this is the game we playing boys

[–]1Shyrk42 points43 points  (5 children) | Copy

The worst part is that they absolutely love that shit. They love feeling “wrong” and “dirty” so much that if she’s cheating with you, she’s getting off on the thrill, and anything you do to exacerbate that feeling will drive her absolutely crazy.

Want to test this on a “good girl”? Start coyly escalating while she’s on the phone with her parents. I’ve gone down on girls during work Zoom meetings.

They love, love, love feeling as dirty as fucking possible.

[–]MattsReddit2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

It fucking sucks because I as a man hate it :D

[–]AwkwardEmpath1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

How do you get over being disgusted by this?

[–]AwkwardEmpath1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

Honestly looking back my ex mightve done this. She called me at work one time and was breathing heavy and I had an overwhelming feeling even before she was cheating. How do I not let this drive me mad? I have no way of ever fucking knowing.

[–]ToldYouNotToWorry_2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

by knowing that we all got played at some point of our lives, most of us sooner some later, the only men who never got played and hurted are ones who never had girls

It's a lesson, we all went trough it, not a stigma that should cripple you for life

[–]AwkwardEmpath0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Thanks for the insight. Was having a moment when I posted that, glad it happened and was able to grow from it.

[–]MattsReddit3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Like, I don't get it. Your friend is ALSO psychotic for wanting to do something like that :D Like... I could never hook up with someone who had a boyfriend and I've had my chances - when I find out (before I did anything with her), I immediately stop hanging out with her. Stuff like this can make people suicidal. I never understand when people don't have morals - like the reasoning is always "but wuhmen du it tuu!!" You're a fucking man not an animal :D You're programmed to feel like shit when you indirectly or directly hurt other living beings (indirectly, her boyfriend). I hope he at least told him.

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[–]BriefcaseHead220 points21 points  (1 child) | Copy

Fuckkkk bullet dodged, you probably would have been that daddy if you didn't get cucked

[–]Wulfwinterr52 points53 points  (5 children) | Copy

Dated a gorgeuos girl freshman year in college - first everythings, you know the drill. I was young, good-looking, played a sport, was a member of an elitist social fraternity, all that shit so was unintentionally red pill.

After about a year the NRE wore off and I had slid into blue pill territory and to be honest we both kinda wanted out to play the field so we broke up - it was mutual. I figured she'd disappear from my life and I would go on to slay all kinds of other women.

Within a week she was riding the carousel - with the other guys in my fraternity right in front of me. She wasn't being intentionally malicious, she was just obliviously hooking up with the guys she knew. Un-fucking-believable. I was stunned that my dudes would do that to me, and couldn't believe the audacity of my girl literally fucking a bunch of my brothers a few days after she and I were together.

This was 20 years ago and pre-redpill internet days. Now I understand exactly what happened. I got my turn. Then so did about 10 of my buddies.

[–]gayqwertykeyboard20 points21 points  (3 children) | Copy

I hope you know this, but they weren’t your buddies.

[–]1rad_dynamic4 points5 points  (2 children) | Copy

Dickhead culture in the UK, guys being the biggest cunts possible. Girls like them. No surprise

But it's not that bad, you're all in party mode, what can you expect?

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[–]1rad_dynamic0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Agreed. I think it's only bad when a close mate out right chases a long term ex or a girl you really like as a way to get to you. That's outright disrespect.

[–]woke_wizard13 points14 points  (0 children) | Copy

Good lesson but I hope you were no longer friends with those guys after that.

[–]bruiser1887 points88 points  (2 children) | Copy

Was on holidays for 3 weeks so I was ghosting this plate. She asked me out before I left and I turned her down and in that time she got in a relationship with some loser that worships the ground she walks on. I came home one day at about 5am, texted her to come over and she immediately called a taxi and came. The whole time I fucked her this faggot was texting and calling her to the point I had to mute his ass. I pulled out blew a load on her face and she leans out my bedroom window, calls her boyfriend back and says she’s walking to the bus stop to go to work lmao.

All I could think was damn, how fucking cold is that. Seconds after me busting all over her face she calls her boyfriend and says that like it’s nothing. Fucked up but you’re either the guy cumming on her face or the guy on the other end of the phone.

[–]BulletFarmer94[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children) | Copy

LMAO I wanted to get to know a few experiences but these are absolutely brutal! Glad to be on the "learning from others mistakes" part of the equation.

[–]beardestbird15 points16 points  (0 children) | Copy

These stories are hilarious. Gives me hope I can achieve this level soon if I focus on myself more

[–]empatheticapathetic111 points112 points  (8 children) | Copy

Was a virgin. Met my oneitis who was also a virgin. She wanted to fuck but I didn’t want to rush it and said “there’s no rush :)” and she lost it that night to someone from a club.

[–]swimminginblue26 points27 points  (0 children) | Copy


[–]BulletFarmer94[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children) | Copy

Big oof

[–]strengthenics12 points13 points  (0 children) | Copy


[–]_Ulan_11 points12 points  (0 children) | Copy


[–]Omardumet10 points11 points  (1 child) | Copy

When reality hits you in the face...

[–]empatheticapathetic6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

Oh I learned harder than most because of that.

[–]Sexandswishers1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Not the first time I hear this.... crazy

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[–]BulletFarmer94[S] 20 points21 points  (2 children) | Copy

This went from 0 to 100 pretty quickly!

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[–]BulletFarmer94[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yes sir

[–]thatbadrogue2107 points108 points  (6 children) | Copy

was chilling with a regular fuck buddy at a pool party, dude pulled up in a rented lambo with a 40$ bottle of hennesy and she sucked his dick instead that night. It's whatever, I pulled someone else but girls be...interesting sometimes.

[–]420chiefofZEP37 points38 points  (0 children) | Copy

Shallow as hell and easily impressed? Real fucking interesting yeah

[–]Richard_strokerr20 points21 points  (4 children) | Copy

Just curious but, California or Florida?

[–]strengthenics16 points17 points  (0 children) | Copy

If i were to guess, Miami.

[–]drovid46 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

Los Angeles here, sounds like something girls do around here lol

[–]thatbadrogue26 points7 points  (1 child) | Copy

was in Cali at the time lol, not surprising at all that girls don't know how little a lambo for the night costs. I lowkey hope he worked at a gas station or something it'd make it so much funnier. I meant to ask her where he worked but it never came up.

[–]GiraffeOnWheels2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

They’re still thousands for a night I’m pretty sure.

[–]dunmer_say_the_nword29 points30 points  (5 children) | Copy

Most recent girlfriend uttered "Oh, Matt" as I rubbed her shoulders while we were in bed. I gave her a few minutes to put on her clothes and asked her to leave, seeing as my name is not Matt

[–]BulletFarmer94[S] 13 points14 points  (4 children) | Copy

Dude!!!!!! I'm high as a kite! This sent shivers down my spine! Goosebumps!

[–]dunmer_say_the_nword3 points4 points  (3 children) | Copy

She apologized and left. Haven't heard from her since. At least she realized

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[–]1HurricaneHugues2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

No, she's with the streets.

[–]JameisBong0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Matt is the streets. Also Matt's friends, co-workers and possibly the bartender at Matt's favorite bar.

[–]__TheDon__27 points28 points  (6 children) | Copy

I had just landed in Poland, and was looking for my Uber at the airport. I saw a young hot chick with dirty blonde hair, and tight body. I needed directions (for real lol), so I asked her how I can get to the upper floor of the airport. Now what made me ask her for directions, rather than the old lady sitting on the bench? Other than her beauty, she was giving me IOI’s. So, she tells me how to get there, and after that I ask her for her number. Long story short, we go out that night and I ask her “where did you land from” she says italy. She goes on about how nice it was, and how her friend there was teaching her how to surf. Fast forward, we’re laying in my bed after we fucked, and the topic of traveling comes up again. She tells me she was in Thailand before the Italy trip, and I sarcastically said “with who, your boyfriend” she flat out says yes with no hesitation. I jump up and start laughing. Then I later find out that the person who was teaching her how to surf Italy, was her EX BOYFRIEND.

So let me break it down to you. She was in Thailand on vacation paid for by her current bf, came back, went to Italy and got fucked by her ex. Came back, met TheDon who laid pipe the same night, and tomorrow she’ll wake up and act like nothing happened.

She also told me that she plans on breaking up with her bf because he’s taking the relationship way too serious. I said, “let me guess he’s maybe 29-30 and wants to settle down already?” She says “ yes, I’m only 21 and still in college, I want to experience life” (aka experience chads). She said she wanted to wait one or two months because they had just recently came back from the vacation, and she felt bad ( at least the bitch wasn’t completely heartless lmao)

In this story, I was able to see “she’s not yours, it’s just your turn” through other men being screwed over.

[–]S3542U12 points13 points  (1 child) | Copy

Every time. Every single time. I read stories like this and always feel so fucking horrified by the lack of humanity (for lack of a better term) coming from women. Are men also this fucked up?

I know AWALT, but I think I need such a reminder like this story every now and then.

Thanks for the share.

[–]empatheticapathetic1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I used to but now I think what’s wrong with me that I am getting so horrified by it.

[–]BulletFarmer94[S] 6 points7 points  (2 children) | Copy

I truly wonder how hard it is getting day by day for men of high standards to find a chick LTR worthy let alone marriage.

[–]cvbnjk1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

It's increasingly difficult. And it's worse with the younger chicks, the chicks now just hitting 18-22, because they grew up with social media and everybody constantly telling them how special and beautiful and amazing they are 24/7

[–]YummyBeemer0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

So true, the 18-20 year old crowd is all nuts/ADD attention whores in my eyes. Yes especially the ones that you see in church every sunday morning in their conservative clothes.

[–]rodgerthedodger192232 points33 points  (0 children) | Copy

My first girlfriend. Had a gut feeling at the start that she was very frivolous with her relationships. I caught her texting an ex fling and she deleted all the messages. I then broke up with her and with the power of the pussy she made me come back. She ended up dumping me the day she graduated college via text and had been cheating on me.

[–]XT3M328 points29 points  (3 children) | Copy

a girl i was seeing years ago was invited to spend the weekend with my fam as we partied all that weekend. on the 2nd day of that weekend i watched one of my sisters friends try to flirt with her if she was alone. whatever he was saying was working cause as that party ended she tried to tell me shes going that that guys house to chill. (which upset my sister since she wanted him) , when she found out what was going on she did something to get this dude to pick her over the chick i wss seeing and took her back to his place instead.

upon realizing she ( my chick) just got left she tried to act like it was all good with us, to which I responded, "your uber is on its way, get your things". she tried to plead with me but i wasnt having it, thats just disrespectful . she got mad and said how you going to make me take a train ( uber is to the train. you got me fucked up paying 50+ from Brooklyn to bronxs) at 1 am. ).

even while in the wrong , trying to play victim , this was as i was first reading up on red pill while also refusing to take people bs anymore and have respect for my self.

[–]MrAnderzon4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

If you been on TRP you learn more about a women’s nature and how to navigate them.

Disrespectful of her to pursue other men in your presence but that’s AWALT in them looking for the next best suitor. Some just have a little more sense than others. You have every right to dismiss her after behaving like that.

But if you had behaved the same way and succeeded you would be rewarded by her.

[–]XT3M30 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

yea i know how to navigate it, so when i see it now i just l augh and what not and have new more fun ways for me to take care of matters now.

this was years ago when i first started my journey.

[–]BulletFarmer94[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

This gave me a redpill erection! A1 brother!

[–]BlondeHornyElf13 points14 points  (2 children) | Copy

> Had bad experience in an LTR that cheated on me - never been cheated on before that so I took it really hard, didn't know what it meant. Was legit naive at the time and thought stuff like that only happened in TV dramas.

> Soon after I found a beautiful blue-eyed blonde-haired 20 year old girl and got into a relationship with her. Told her about my experience with my ex and she said she doesn't agree with cheating either, thinks it was terrible that I went through that etc etc.

> 5 years later, we work in the same building. She cheats on me with a co-worker friend from my office who was married (i.e., why I didn't see it coming). When I confront her about it all she has to say is "omg everyone is going to think I'm a slut". She then proceeds to tell everyone in my social circles and at my workplace that I was an "abusive boyfriend". She gets a month off fully-paid because of the "traumatic experience" she's having, while I'm sitting there like why the fuck did my life just collapse around me?

> Soon after that I furiously got back into the dating market to try and get over what happened, really felt like I lost a special girl that I loved. Am now casually dating a taller fitter blue-eyed blonde-haired chick who performs ballet. I drunkenly show up at her house one night to find another guy there. At this point I don't give a fuck and just laugh. I tell her to kick him out so we can fuck. So she hides me in the bathroom and tells this guy that something came up and that he has to leave. I hear him getting pushed out the door while he's angrily asking her wtf is going on. He leaves and I throw her onto the bed and she swallows my cum later that night.

Not sure I can ever take women seriously again in my lifetime lol.

[–]Zero-Milk24 points25 points  (5 children) | Copy

Had a fiance once. She had a kid from a previous relationship and I thought of him as my own son. He was more like me than he was like his own mother. We weren't a wealthy family by any means, but what we lacked in finances, we made up for in good times we had spending time together as a family.

One night I came home from work and she wasn't there, and neither was boyo. Called her: no answer. When I did finally raise her on the phone, she told me she was headed back home from a town an hour away, and that she had left boyo with her dad. This is the moment I suspected what had just happened. When she got home, first thing she did was immediately lock herself in the bathroom for 15 minutes. When she came out, I said something like "you must've really had to shit," and then she replied that she was just peeing. For 15 minutes. This is the moment I KNEW what had just happened. She wasn't peeing; she was cleaning herself up.

Went through her phone the next day. Saw saved snapchat history of them talking about love shit and hating me. I pretended to be her and texted something like "did you enjoy fucking me last night?" and he replied with an emphatic yes. I even discovered a picture of her giving him the succ.

I packed up everything in the apartment that didn't belong to her son (because literally everything else there except the bed was mine) and moved out. She cried, of course. I asked her to come clean, and she lied, of course. She never, ever told the truth about it despite the chances I gave her to clear her conscience. She somehow got herself evicted from that apartment the very next month and moved herself and boyo in with that other guy.

Fast forward a couple years, a friend of mine called me up one day and said "hey bro, I don't know how to tell you this but[ex fiance's name] just called me asking for money and I strongly suspect it's for an abortion." I thanked him for letting me know and thought little else of it. What I didn't realize is that she would stoop so low as to reach out to my MOM, so when I realized that possibility the next day, I called my mom to warn her too. Her end of the phone went dead silent for several seconds before she slowly started speaking again, telling me she had already given her money because she called and pretended to be desperate to go to the doctor and needed help, of course concealing the true reason she needed the money.

I left her perhaps 5 years ago now, and I've been unable to have or want a functional long-term relationship since then. It wasn't losing her that made me this way; it was losing the kid. He was my entire world.

The takeaway? No matter how picture-perfect the scenario, there is but one truth: she's not yours. It's just your turn.

So, TLDR: fiance cheated with guy from a different town, I found out immediately and moved out. She moved herself and her kid in with the guy and conned my mom into giving her money to abort their accident fetus.

[–]BulletFarmer94[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

Stay strong brother! I can only imagine the trauma you had to go through but more power to you for doing the right thing and not simping even though it meant you losing the world that the kid is to you. Proud of you brother!

[–]LordFa91 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Did you tell your mom that you broke up when you did?

[–]Zero-Milk1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Indeed. The abortion thing was perhaps a year after I had left her.

[–]Dripsonhold1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Holy shit, this ones going to stick with me hope things are better/getting better for you now man.

[–]empatheticapathetic0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Stay strong bro. You’re worth more than the way you’ve been treated.

[–][deleted] 93 points94 points  (5 children) | Copy

Multiple bitches said they cheat on their boyfriends with me. This was back in highschool.

I carryied myself with quiet confidence. Women are addicted to that shit.

They love men who they can fuck and know you wont run your mouth about it.

The guy who talks the least usually gets the most women. It's been proven time and time again.

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[–]beardestbird10 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy

I think it’s partially true. Alpha men in my view talk when necessary. They aren’t always out bragging about fucking loads of women. Maybe at first but it gets normal to them so naturally you feel no need. Almost second nature.

This is what I am aiming to be. That doesn’t mean be a soft beta bitch who acts tough but is shy but command attention when necessary

[–]jm5119 points20 points  (0 children) | Copy

It's true wrt bragging about lays. If she hears you talk about fucking other women, you are off her list of possibles.

It's a different tale if she hears about your conquests from others. That can get her interested. As long as you don't confirm it. Admitting to being blackout drunk and not remembering anything is a good ploy.

[–]MrAnderzon2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

He’s not talking about being quiet around women although just how you talk yourself into it, you can talk your way out of it.

Women pick up on that quite confidence/energy as someone who can keep their mouth shut because they don’t want to be known as sluts and have a reputation for being a slut. It’s common for guys to brag about who they had sex with. Women defend their reputation to extremes and being a slut is something they detest.

You get to have more sex simply because you kept your mouth shut and she doesn’t get to look like a slut.

Besides you want girls bragging about you not the other way around because when a girl brags about you it’s gets other girls attention, curiosity and jealousy. Jealously is a really strong emotion in women.

[–]brunocarlos27 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

Ex gf started texting another dude while having sex. We were at a motel so I just left and went to grab a beer with my friends so she could just keep texting.

She apologized for like a week straight. Fast forward after we broke up she ended up being with that guy.

[–]wanker717130 points31 points  (13 children) | Copy

Not harsh for me, but I’m currently fucking a married girl who I’m certain does not give a fuck if I pull out or not.

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[–]wanker717111 points12 points  (9 children) | Copy

Met her on Tinder during college (when she was single) and had a ONS. I fucked her one more time a few years after but then I started seeing another girl more seriously so I ghosted her. Few weeks back she reached out to me and it was on without me needing to put in any real effort. She reached out to me on insta which is how I know she’s married.

[–]Joe_Doblow4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

Does it look like her husband is oblivious or is he on the up and up?

[–]wanker71715 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

He absolutely has no idea. She actively avoids the topic of where she’s living and changed her insta to private pretty quickly after I messaged her back.

[–]WeddingCrasher911 point2 points  (6 children) | Copy

are you well endowed? just wondering

[–]wanker71717 points8 points  (5 children) | Copy

Lol not particularly, last time I checked I was just short of 6”, I think if you’re average you’re fine. Porn sets unrealistic expectations. I’d tie her coming back with how infatuated she was with me from the start, coupled with the fact I treated her the way she feels she’s worth makes her long to be around me again.

[–]WeddingCrasher917 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

Good job there man, youre a real wanker

[–]dzmisrb43-1 points0 points  (3 children) | Copy

"Treated her the way she feels she is worth".

What do you mean by that? Doesn't treating women nicely decease attraction most of the time?

[–]wanker71713 points4 points  (2 children) | Copy

Doesn't treating women nicely

Who said anything about treating her nicely?

[–]dzmisrb430 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Well you said the way she feels she is worth?

[–]wanker71712 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

I did...

deep down girls know they are not special and it's why they treat guys who believe they are like losers. I did not treat her like one of those guys.

[–]MattsReddit2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

Do you feel human when doing something like this? Honestly, I've had chances too (with girls who had LTR-s), but I always bluntly rejected. Even then I just don't feel human.

[–]ohris0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

It's a bad idea, not because it makes you feel less human though.

[–]KeyRepresentative6 points7 points  (1 child) | Copy

Met and went on two dates with this beauty pageant queen. A legitimate professional model. She was too high maintenance for me and she wanted a LTR right away, so I passed. A few months later she calls and wants to start over. I’d moved but told her I’d call her when I was in town. Then every time I’d visit we’d hookup. This goes on for a couple years. Every now and then she’d call and ask if I was ready for something serious, which I declined.

I find out she’d gotten married during this time, so I don’t call her anymore. 4 years later I get a call from her husband, asking for the truth. Turns out I started fucking her the same month they got engaged. Add to that, I was only one of several guys she was keeping as an option.

She’s now married for the third time, with 3 kids by 3 baby daddy’s.

[–]Zero-Milk2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Jesus christ. Talk about a really fucked up individual to accept a marriage proposal and then keep on living the player lifestyle. That's some cold shit.

[–]thestructuralguy9 points10 points  (4 children) | Copy

My last LTR was crazy about me, always initiated sex, couldn't keep her hands off me wants to spend her life with me yada yada..Goes in vacay with friend, comes back and is withdrawn from me. Seeing her like this throws me off completely, however I hold my frame for a month before going complete beta for the next two before she breaks it off with me. Texts me back in a month to tell me how she met someone two weeks after breaking it off with me and tells how she made out with him all while I'm crying on the phone. Fucked me in the head pretty bad. Still haven't dated anyone seriously since then and almost been 15 months. Found two more girls after that but stopped shy of fucking them because this time around I didn't ignore the red flags. Before meeting my ex I used to be an uncaring asshole naturally. But she was so damn manipulative she turned me into a complete beta faggot. Looking back I hate what I had turned into.

[–]BulletFarmer94[S] 4 points5 points  (3 children) | Copy

Stories such as these remind me to stay on top of my game even though my LTR worships me like I'm her god. Always gotta remember "that's how she feels NOW"

[–]thestructuralguy1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

Never bend to the pussy. Atleast she redpilled me. So I can thank her for that. Also made me realise how fragile human relationships can be. A girlfriend is nothing but a friend who you fuck. Friendships end, relationships end. Girls are just people, not so different than the countless you pass on the streets everyday. There is no love, there is only you. Love yourself more than anything else.

[–]BulletFarmer94[S] 4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

I definitely agree that you shall never bend to the pussy. But you definitely need to internalize the concept of AWALT and love women as they are. Once you realize the nature, you look at them like children. Of course there's gonna be an absolute inhuman abomination every now and then but, you definitely love a slut for a slut and a housewife for a housewife while the are in their respective "phase". Enjoy the flavor but never forget to not emotional invest yourself.

Have a great day!

[–]thestructuralguy1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Thanks man! Still in the anger phase.

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[–]ya_stepdaddy15 points16 points  (0 children) | Copy

It’s cause you had feelings for her. And that’s a true moment that confirms your gut feelings and TRP in general. She was for the streets dawg

[–]BulletFarmer94[S] 7 points8 points  (1 child) | Copy

I understand you're hurting and I've been there too! But, trust me brother we've got it easy, read the other comments. Dudes have been to hell and back!

[–]hrm08942 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Lol fuck that whore. She manipulated you into catching feelings. That's what women do. Find yourself a new bitch to get over it.

[–]eatdiz13520 points21 points  (0 children) | Copy

The old monkey branch.

[–]bitesizechicken4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

My first proper gf. I was head over heels. Kinda did me over because it was slow moving and finally got to getting head quite a while in. That week she broke up w me. Shows girls can lose feelings just like that because she was with someone new next month and I was torn for ages.

[–]BulletFarmer94[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Sorry to say that she already had him lined up and was just waiting for the right time to end things. Read the sidebar and other replies on this thread. Your at least took a month(that you know of) to move on.

Learn and grow

[–]variiex5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

First real heartbreak, which in hindsight I am extremely thankful for and is what lead me to this sub. She had connected with me both physically and emotionally more than anyone I knew and fulfilled any requests I had with no complaints and never argued in the year we were together. She began acting extremely hot and cold in waves, and it turns out my gut was right that she was periodically seeing another guy behind my back on the odd weekend when she said she was spending time with friends (I took it as truth as she genuinely would spend time with her girl friends). She told me to leave her alone and blocked me just like that after I confronted her about it and told her I don't appreciate being lied to and she was the last person I expected that from. Based on that incident and other personality traits and actions she has told me about herself, I've come to the conclusion that she has quiet bpd and it's just the type of person she is.

P.S. In case anyone is wondering, you are correct in assuming things didn't work out between her and the other guy either.

[–]Bradyuio12 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

First REAL girlfriend after high school. She was still finishing school. I knew she was a flirt so i never really trusted her. After she graduates we both start working at this grocery store together for about a year (my brother worked here as well). My brother commits suicide so I immediately quit because it was painful and find a much better job. Come to find out after I quit she started fucking her 40 year old Boss, who I was friends with while working there. Or so I thought.

Im so thankful I never got this girl pregnant like she begged me do numerous times. Also her mom most definitely wanted to fuck, as she hated her husband and told me multiple times. Pretty attractive, just never reached back out to her. Need to clap them cheeks.

[–]ironrape122 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Got off work. Bipolar plate texts me to come over (did not know at the time she was bipolar) and do some shrooms.

We go to pick up the shrooms, but she’s embarrassed for some reason. A little kid drug dealer pops out and he’s also a little surprised she’s with a another man. Immediately you can sense the awkwardness, but I’m still not catching on.

He throws the shrooms on her lap, doesn’t really count her money and dips. She laughs her ass off as she’s closing the window up and saying: “OMG HOW AWKWARD he’s been trying to get at me for the longest and always try’s to hang out alone”.

We make our way back to our hotel room and just start trippin and having wild sex.

During one of our sessions, someone keeps calling her over and over. So much so that I had to tell her to put her phone on vibrate. Instead, she ANSWERS and starts talking to this guy while I’m balls deep in her. She didn’t stop so neither was I.

Turns out it was that same drug dealer guy hitting her up for a booty call. I guess they had sex when I wasn’t around and now he was addicted to her pussy lol

Yeah, it is quite literally just your turn.

[–]Optionsmfd5 points6 points  (3 children) | Copy

watched my LTR dump me and then start banging some Alpha (zero red bill info at the time.. never heard of rollo or rational male)(also didnt know she was banging him.......... maybe she was banging him for awhile but swears it wasnt until we broke)

then started banging me once or twice a week for a few months (she came to me expect last 2 times she invited me for booty and badly cooked lunch (while her kids were upstairs)

then ended up with some bottom beta simp (in reality the guy is 4 levels SMV below her and took me reading rational make to understand the wall and beta provider)then the bastard dumped her like 2 or 3 times and she begged him back although he begged her back the last time....... and after 3 months shes about to move her and her kids into his house (later he was honest and said its his brothers house)

i killed myself for it........... mentally tried to get her back (never once asked her to take me back) until i watched a rich cooper video about oneitis and found rational male.........

its really insane how rollo was able to tell me what why and when for my 30 years of dating in 2 books........ the 3rd im about to read after styles method book

its good for my ego and bad for my mental state ......

[–]misfithustle2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

I have to know why the hell you are so in tune with this bitches relationships lol

[–]Optionsmfd-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

We work together.... We have always got along....she just needed a beta provider....

[–]mrmaskfawkes1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

the harshest was when I was dating a girl after I had some interest in her, back when I was a typical nice guy and when she broke up with her boyfriend. We started dating for like a week before she cheated on me with another guy that was another ex of hers. the girl told me to I had to work for it, basically made me wait over and over for just a kiss. That was a big red pill moment.

[–]Omardumet1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

You’ve gained wisdom so you good my man

[–]1rad_dynamic1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Banging a chick for 1½ years.. we would see each other most weeks (I'd avoid seeing her too frequently) but then one day.. she just ignored me after she initiated conversation. Nothing happened to cause this, think she just got bored of my dick or found another shiny new one. Been about 5 months since and it's like I never existed in her life, still my fb message is left on deliverered.

Lol, I'm now onto banging her friends.

[–]Black JesusDerekMorganBAU1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

After I broke up with one of my exes (we lived together) she dated some poor dude 2 months later. He used to drop her off at my place so that she can get the rest of her shit. He told her "I trust that you won't do anything."

Spoiler alert: She did a lot with me just like the good ol days 😂

Then he'd pick her ass up 30 minutes later.

We kept this going for months up until they became engaged.

When I lived in the barracks I used to fuck this tall white bitch with a fat ass. Literally as soon as we were done there were days she'd throw me out of her room so that she can Skype call her fiance who was in Japan (a marine who was most likely cleaning up himself overseas).

This ain't "cold" examples it's literally what I expected when I entered the dating world.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Dated this girl for 1.5 months, she told me I was the nicest guy she ever met and talked about a long term relationship. I developed feelings for her. Said if any girl has ever hurt you I wouldn't and then proceeds to ghost me and never speak to me again.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Wife #2

[–]HelloDearWorld223-5 points-4 points  (12 children) | Copy

Was staying at a hotel and this chick passes me by in the lobby and says hi. I follow her to her room and li and behold her boyfriend is sleeping there. I drag her to my room which is just a few rooms away and fuck her brains out. Next day she had a broken hip and he took her to the hospital.

[–]BulletFarmer94[S] 3 points4 points  (2 children) | Copy

LMAO, this very easily could be a good porn storyline!

[–]Drowssap1451457 points8 points  (1 child) | Copy

You never followed a girl to her room after she says "hi", then "drag" her to your room and break her hip by fucking?

More like a rape porn storyline lol

[–]BulletFarmer94[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

The setting was different and I've never escalated it when I knew the chick had a boyfriend because it morally fucked with me somewhere that I wouldn't want to be someone who ruined another guys "life".

I feel that we as men are in this together. However, because of the anger within me I have punished chicks brutally in her who had previously cheated in their relationships. I need to find a way to let go of this pent up anger but as for now I see women who've cheated in their past as useless filth. It was all consensual and with a red crimson face I had sluts begging me to slap them. Smh

[–]WeddingCrasher912 points3 points  (6 children) | Copy

did you break it ? or he got mad and broke it? or she slipped?

[–]HelloDearWorld223-5 points-4 points  (5 children) | Copy

I did from fucking

[–]misfithustle3 points4 points  (4 children) | Copy

This story lol. You followed a chick who simply said hi and drag her to your room? I'm shocked your not in jail

[–]HelloDearWorld223-3 points-2 points  (3 children) | Copy

She was all like « fuck me hard » so...

[–]misfithustle2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

wow like what champ like wow she really said that

[–]HelloDearWorld2230 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

She sure did

[–]misfithustle0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Sure she did*

[–]Zero-Milk0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Fake and gay. Fuck off.

[–]HelloDearWorld223-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

It’s a true story. Why do you disbelieve it?

[–]-Siptah-3 points-2 points  (2 children) | Copy

My most recent ex, she always snooped through my messages, she knew everything about everyone I ever talked to in and out of my life. Meanwhile I let her convince me the only person she had was her mother. She also routinely “played on my phone” snooped through my messages, would question me about certain people particularly any woman I’ve ever talked to and I’d tell her what was up every single time . When tables flipped I knew very little besides her relationship with her mother/family. When it came to friends or any guys I was kept in the dark completely. It came to the point one day I had this overwhelming feeling she was talking to other guys perhaps even cheating. To confirm my suspicions I needed proof. When I asked to see her phone she never gave it to me immediately. When I finally went through her messages I didn’t recognize any names. Girls , guys, no one besides 4 people. It has to have been around 20 different recent conversations. I didn’t care to look through any of them in particular So I asked “ why do you know every single detail about my life and I know very little about yours”. Of course she didn’t have an answer.

Not too long after that we finally broke up. She dumped me of course. The mistake I made was deciding to stay friends rather than cut her off because she claimed she didn’t want to lose me. Since I was usually quick to walk away when relationships were over I figured I’d swallow my pride this time, but that was a mistake. Because no effort was made on her part to reconcile the relationship, unless she needed something like me driving her/ picking her up to/from school or work, that was it. We still hung out at times, but it felt like I was back at square 1. I was the beta provider at that point.

After many arguments she eventually ghosted me like It was nothing. Of course my dumb ass attempted to reconcile throughout the course of several months. When she finally got another guy months later she re added me temporarily just so I would see because the timing couldn’t have been a coincidence. To get payback I harassed both of them via messages then she got a no contact order against me for a year. It would have been a full order of protection but I had a lawyer. Never get attached.

[–]warthundersfw2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

Lol! How did you harass them?

[–]-Siptah1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I added her on fake accounts via Snapchat. Then on Instagram she posted his page in her bio so that was when I found out who he was. I didn’t know him. He didn’t know me so I figured what better way to get payback then to put doubt in his head. It went along the lines of me expressing to him that it was simply his turn instead. That he doesn’t know her etc. I ended up fabricating a fake conversation between me and her as an attempt to get him to break up with her. Which resulted in the restraining order.

Since I had no clue who he was beforehand I was pretty convinced she had him on the side. Maybe it was during, or maybe they met shortly after she cut me off. Either way it didn’t take long for her to get with someone else. Also apparently the dude lived in California. It was said on the written statement on the order. We both live in NY. Remember when I said she added me to show me that she moved on? They were physically together in the video she posted.

The order is over now at least. Been over since the end of April. I didn’t break it, nor have I made any attempts to reinitiate contact to this day. So I have that to be proud of at the very least. Often times in life you’ll never get the closure you’re looking for so there’s no point of trying to get answers.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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