Is it really not ok to share your problems/past with women? I have heard this but in some situations i have done it with women and honestly my relationships with them seemed to get stronger. I feel like its more about the way you say it then anything?

For example if your telling a girl about your problem or a struggle in the past I can see how its weak. Because if you havent overcome this problem theres no fucking point in talking about it and it would just make it look like your asking mommy for some help.

In the situations ive been in i shared some of my shit about how i acted in the past and how i overcame that... and that i knew i needed to overcome and make a change in order to be happy. The way i talked about it felt pretty masculine and I wasnt getting sad or showing fear or shame i was just speaking my mind and being honest.

Afterwards in all of these scenarios my relationships got better. They acted pretty much the exact same as before but it just felt easier to vibe due to that being lifted off my chest a bit.

TLDR Sharing your past with women is ok if it feels warranted and you tell it from a masculine place.

if you start telling your story then crying like a bitch about how much it hurt then yeahhh... thats not gonna look good. cause all that shows is that you HAVENT OVERCOME IT. It also hints in some way THAT YOUVE GIVEN UP AND NEED HELP and past a certain point that is WEAK.

IF you do share with a woman dont share it in a way to ask for help. Share it selfishly, the only reason you should share something is if its in YOUR benefit. For me it was to get the weight off my chest and put that shit on them. idc about the outcome i shared to make ME feel better.