I've read the sidebar, the entire redpill handbook, all 3 rational males. When I meet women, I have no problem talking to them and gauging their interest. I've got two plates with high interest and I have no problem recognizing and handling shit tests. I'm never confused with women anymore.

My life is going well. I got a big promotion, I make good money working from home on my own schedule, I live in a great city in a nice house. I have hobbies, I have friends, I'm in great physical shape and I exercise daily. I eat very well. I have a side project I'm working on. I read a lot. I'm taking all the "right" actions and I'm confident.

But I'm fucking obsessed with women and it's making me miserable. My last LTR lasted 4 years and she was a 10 to me. Objectively, a solid 9. I felt a level of fulfillment in that relationship that I haven't been able to replace since the break up. I'm pretty much over her as a person and the oneitis symptoms. But I want that feeling again, and I know it's available with other women. I just haven't met one that I connect with like that yet. Also haven't fucked a girl as hot as her.

There's the issue, I still want a romantic connection more than anything else. I spend waaaay too much time on Tinder, I make sure to look good whenever I leave the house just in case I run into another chick. If you look at my post history you'll see that I understand RP pretty well. I know this is an unhealthy and unrealistic mindset.

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The two cornerstones of a healthy mindset according to RP are a compelling life mission and abundance mentality. The way to get abundance mentality is to experience an abundance of high quality women. But pulling high quality women takes work, and working on my game and putting myself in positions where I might run into these women has turned into an obsession that's unhealthy. It's like I think I'll be miserable UNTIL I have a harem of 8s and 9s as plates. I'm successful in my life. Of course I could always get better, but I've achieved quite a bit at my age and theres no clear area I need to work on besides my mentality around women.

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So, RP veterans, lets go back to your post break up, pre-abundance phase. Where you started to understand women and got your priorities in order. What did you do? How did you stay mentally solid without having true abundance? How did you get to a place where you have true abundance?