She said she’s leaving. I told her to leave then. She stayed and blew me. Why?

Coolrubbings · 2020-07-20T15:50:01+00:00

You held frame and had outcome independence. You showed her you’re high value and don’t have time for her bullshit. That simultaneously turned her on.

VasiliyZaitzev · 2020-07-20T17:47:09+00:00

"Girls want to fight you, but they don't want to win."

-From, The Sayings of Chairman Zaitzev.

Our brains are hard-wired for the world as it existed back in the Bad Old Days of the Saber Tooth Tiger. They shit test us, because if we can't stand up to a woman, how the fuck are we going to protect them from a raiding party from the tribe over yon hill?

You held Frame and reaped the reward.

Her: "Ima leave."

You: "Ok, the door is right over there."

Her pussy: "Ooooh. Me like him! <purrrr>"

Her: "Ima stay", and then she placated you by blowing you in case you told her to get lost anyway.

Statistically, I am sure we are less likely to boot girls out when they are sucking our cocks.

acoltismypassport · 2020-07-20T16:48:19+00:00

Shit test score = 100%

You passed, so she rewarded, as her hind brain tells her to do. If you had begged her to stay like a blue pill faggot, you absolutely would not have gotten dome.

sherlock98 · 2020-07-20T16:18:17+00:00

Shit test. Brass balls. Wet pussy.

Musicgoon · 2020-07-20T20:47:15+00:00

Your frame was stronger. You held your ground and gave her the IDGAF attitude. Great job! Always let a bitch know you are willing to walk away at any moment. That shows high value and moistens her panties.

Bungeeeeee · 2020-07-20T18:14:58+00:00

Good move. Next level: what would you have done if she had stayed but still acted bitchy/pissed off and changed her mood on purpose (basically feeling not valued and demanding change in dynamics)?

teckguy7 · 2020-07-21T01:05:24+00:00

Congratulations! You did great and got a great result. I'd like to offer a different perspective though.

Women to use BJ's (and sex in general) to manipulate men. She may be walking away from this interaction thinking that if she misbehaves, all she has to do it give you a BJ and everything is fine. She'll think that she can maintain control of you that way. The other frame she may come away with is that sucking your dick is the penalty for misbehavior.

Let pretend when she started pulling your pants down to blow you, you stopped her and said, "After the way you acted, you need to politely ask permission if you want to blow me."

There is a risk to this. She may say FU and leave. But, do you really want your future with a woman decided on needing one blow job? The upside is, you've now framed it in two ways. The first is, you can't be manipulated by sex and she knows that there will be some other penalty for bad behavior, even if it's as small as having to ask for sex. And most of all, this frames giving you a blowjob as the reward, not a penalty for bad behavior.

You're the prize! Sucking your dick should be her reward, not her penance. If she sees it as a penalty or as a way to control you, you'll get fewer BJ's as the relationship goes on and the quality will probably go down more than she does.

The_King_Hudson · 2020-07-20T21:34:15+00:00

Seems obvious to me and others why, but be careful with this one... she obviously likes the drama. If this sort of behaviour keeps repeating itself from her, pull out for your own good, man.

wowkwo · 2020-07-20T21:49:19+00:00

On Friday I had a chick over, 3rdish date.

We went upstairs and it started getting hot and heavy, but at some point some how she asked me if I voted for the president.

I told her the truth, she got super defensive so I told her to leave. Next day she is texting me apologizing.

Always hold frame and respect yourself and women will respect you.

ngyuhnang · 2020-07-20T18:29:57+00:00

You held your frame successfully and she found it hot

warthundersfw · 2020-07-20T21:20:50+00:00

I had a girl on a tinder run date be very curt with answers and wouldn't let me kino. I said I was going home. She offered a ride home (I rode my bike from really close). I said no i got and she insisted. She wanted to bang but I was done with her then. Too much hassle. But it's me just saying, bye gotta go that triggered it in her head and switched her from being a frigid bitch.

strongsovereign · 2020-07-20T23:09:39+00:00

It’s called a shit test, and you nailed it brother. When few fucks are given, strong frame is maintained and you have the last laugh. You showed less investment and she rewarded you with a good blow. Good job.

Grave_Heresy · 2020-07-20T18:31:45+00:00

You were being shit tested. Not all of them will do this but many will.

Snowboard18 · 2020-07-20T23:56:27+00:00

Dude this is literally the exact same shit test one of my plates pulled on our first hangout hahaha.

She came over to watch a movie and I was being my asshole self and said something a bit edgy. She said I’m about to leave and I just said okay. She had a look on her face that was so funny I almost bursted out laughing. It was that face someone makes when they have no clue how to react in a situation because they’ve never encountered it before.

The story concludes in me fucking her

Shitcuckedredditsays · 2020-07-20T21:07:07+00:00

I would say above average crazy. Average crazy for an american

Aspanu24 · 2020-07-20T22:39:43+00:00

How did you answer about your past?

RelucBeam · 2020-07-21T05:18:02+00:00

You already know the answer to your own post.

Boring , pointless humble brag.

This sub continues to decline. Like the world itself.

littlebirdhouses · 2020-07-20T22:12:03+00:00

Its because shed rather blow you than not be around you, because she cares about you.

jackandjill22 · 2020-07-20T22:40:53+00:00

2020-07-21T07:34:51+00:00

This sounds messed up on both sides...

klashnikov55 · 2020-07-21T12:23:50+00:00

Has happened to me many times. Sometimes crying is also involved. Hold your frame and don't give validation. 60% of the time it works everytime

otamatonedeaf · 2020-07-21T13:45:37+00:00

Also fomo is at play as well "What...is he just trying to get rid of me? I wonder...if I leave will he just have another girl over in 5 minutes? I better stay..." They're so dumb.

MGTOW_BEASTMODE · 2020-07-21T14:15:32+00:00

You held frame and displayed you had other options.

She had to lock that dick down or she'd lose face.

Title	She said she’s leaving. I told her to leave then. She stayed and blew me. Why?
Author	Coolrubbings
Upvotes	293
Comments	69
Date	July 20, 2020 3:48 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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