Anyone here went from incel to chad?

Nib-q · 2018-12-27T20:14:28+00:00

I went from top 500 ranked in the world at my favorite video game and not being able to talk to a hb4+ without stuttering to being able to bench my body weight and fucking hb7+s. Dong give up hope.

bluefingerblue · 2018-12-27T21:52:06+00:00

Not an incel. Got laid every once in a while. But didn’t know what I was doing with girls. I always lifted. Was always athletic. But my game was terrible. Most of the time chicks would have to throw themselves at me for us to hook up. I was terrified of “rape” acquisitions. Society fucked me up.

After a year of red pill I’ve fucked more girls than ever before. Girls I’ve met on the street, at the gym, at their work, etc. Now that I know what I’m doing with girls and it’s almost like I can see the matrix.

The other day I went out with this chick who works at the tanning salon. Within two hours there was aggressive kino and I was suggesting going back to her place. Her response was “just so you know, we’re not having sex tonight”. The old me would’ve taken that at face value and never laid (the old me also wouldn’t be there in the first place). The new me did a fist pump in my head cause I knew that meant it’s on.

I’ve come a long way. That said, I still have a lot of work to do when it comes to holding frame and controlling emotional responses with girls I actually like though.

IvyExcess · 2018-12-27T20:29:32+00:00

I'll bite. Not exactly incel, but I just didn't "get it" for a long time. I scored here and there, but once I found TRP and other manosphere sites, read, integrated, and learned real world application - uh, let's just say, it works. I went from being chubby girls' beta to literally banging a stripper on a cliff top, at her invitation, due to tight game and going against everything I learned as a kid. There is hope. The downside is... once you see the truth, you can never unsee it. Which can be very painful. But every man needs to go through the fire before being forged into a blade.

neoda1 · 2018-12-27T20:36:31+00:00

I'm not chad, but I could be in a few years. I used to be a complete incel.

Before: Extremely long hair, acne, skinny, wore baggy clothes normally with gaming logos and shite on. Facial hair was random and not well groomed. Lived on the bare minimum. Wore trainers constantly. Bluepill to the max. Played games and stayed inside all day. No goals. Skinnyfat, had a bit of a stomach and no jawline but otherwise skinny.

Now: Wear nice fitting clothes that are actually pleasant to look at and fit my frame. Been lifting 3 months and eat clean. Short hair and regularly groomed facial hair and eyebrows makes me look put together, masculine and just overall like I know what I'm doing. I try to keep my hair a little messy so it looks more natural and less like I actually try. I have a career, study, hang out with mates and no longer have social anxiety. I have a jawline and my posture is a bit better.

My experiences? I tend to be a bit more fulfilled. I get attention if I go out clubbing and throw myself out there with some preselection (Hb9 or 10 female friend dirty dancing with me tends to rev the engines). Guys treat me with respect. People listen to me more.

I'm no chad though. I'd say I went from a 2 to a 7. 8 with a suit on. If I stick to the gym and diet, pack on some more muscle and improve my posture further I could maybe hit an 8.

MartinVDK91 · 2018-12-27T22:18:20+00:00

Not Chad by any means, but:

High School:

- Had a solid group of male friends who would get GFs and hook up now and then, but I was the one everyone knew never even spoke to girls

- I was so nervous around girls that one time a girl mentioned she'd have gone to a dance with me if I'd asked her, and my adrenaline shot through the roof.

- I was so socially clueless about girls that a girl once offered me to walk her to her car in HS, during a party, and I told her that she could get to her car just fine by herself.

- I didn't go to any prom or anything else because I had no girls to ask besides gross ones and I've always had standards

- The most action I got was a hug

College:

- I am in a fraternity, a pretty good one at a good school to be in a frat

- I chat up girls all the time in class, at parties, with friends, etc. Often times not even to bang, just to make friends. A lot of the time to bang lol

- I don't approach a ton but if I sense interest I close pretty consistently

- I had a one-way open LTR with a HB8 for two years and banged about 15 girls on the side. Between her and other girls I counted over 100 different places I had sex, let alone the amount of times or ways that I fucked. I had 5 or so threesomes too.

- Instead of my friends making fun of me for being the incel of the group, I am usually asked advice on girls. I'm known as "the guy with the hot girlfriend who is never her bitch" (there's another guy with a hot GF who IS her bitch in our frat)

So I'm no Chad. I do, however, have consistent sex with a decent amount of people, all at least decent looking. Compared to HS, my success is unrecognizable. Honestly, I never thought this would be me. So it can be you too.

IncelNoMore · 2018-12-27T21:03:34+00:00

Absolutely.

I mean not incel to Chad, I have a couple Chads as friends and honestly I don't compare. But I went from incel to a good spot in 2,5 years. Was a virgin till late 25 lol. Now I have a 16 n count eventhough I've been in a LTR for 1,5 years, and "only" cheated 4 times. So went from real incel to 11 girls in one year more or less.

It feels really weird honestly, because I remember thinking that I would never have sex, and never find a girl, about suicide and all that shit. Used to feel that deep despair that only incels know. And now I've had sex hundreds and hundreds of times, and I have no doubt that I can find a girl if I have to.

Basically what happened to me is that I went from a video game basement dweller to a very social, physically fit party boy. I went backpacking in Australia and Asia, I had tons of experiences, met tons of girls, and I seized opportunities as they arose. Mind you, I was always gifted socially, I'm not the awkward type at all. I just had other problems.

Weirdest thing is that I turned into a bit of a chick magnet. Like bitches don't flock to me because I'm not a pretty boy Chad, but all the girls I spend time with end up feeling attracted and wanting to fuck/date. Also what surprised me is the quality of girls I got with. I went from 0 to 100, I never had to fuck fatties or ugly girls, the first girl I fucked was just alright, but after her, I have honestly not hit below 7 and I fucked a couple of my "ideals", that I would rate 8,5 (blondes with really pretty faces, fat asses and that instagram hoe vibe/style). My girlfriend is legit gorgeous, and is also of my ideal type aka nordic blonde with a perfect ass.

I'm really glad that I got out of my misery, and I feel really comfortable around girls nowadays. Like I'm flirting for fun.

SidewaysCircle · 2018-12-27T23:51:35+00:00

I was never an incel but I was sort of a lil bitch.

Senior year of HS I started reading TRP. First year of college I sort of went a little crazy but I made it. Second year of college now. I transfered schools I go to a big university now.

Best time of my life. My body is starting to look better, but I still have some sort body dysmorphia or something it kind of fucked me up losing so much weight as fast as I did while not exercising. However exercise is now an addiction of mine and although I am not the most fit I don't fuck around in the gym and I've seen some incredible results.

Coming back from my 3rd semester of college back to my hometown I am now stronger than all but one of my friends (he plays basketball in college so he got a huge head start with lifting and stuff but I am going to catch up to him). My friends don't treat me like a bitch anymore, and I have a pretty easy time getting girls to fuck (sort of difficult with girls who know me from HS but if we are at the same party that goes away as I am way more social than any of my other friends and I dance and don't give a fuck).

TRP and college has changed my life incredibly. This next semester is going to be AMAZING. This summer will be life changing (first music festival EF!!!) and the next school year will be seriously the best time of my life.

I am just so excited for the future and everything that comes with it.

I've sort of been documenting my journey but I am going to start a lot more this next semester (just pictures and dates) but I am so excited to see what I look like for spring break and summer.

My whole life has changed and I am excited for it all.

God's plan.

LiftMeditateApproach · 2018-12-28T01:21:02+00:00

i have a 5'3 balding indian janitor friend who went from being a 40 year old virgin to a mega slayer of white women by reading redpill.

drugtofuck · 2018-12-27T19:49:51+00:00

Aren't incels guys who are really ugly? If so, how would it be possible to become a Chad?

garebear19959 · 2018-12-27T22:06:14+00:00

Used to be 300lbs now 190.learned guitar and boxing and looksmaxed with plastic surgery.

I don’t get laid as much as Tyrone but it’s a lot easier now.pumped and ghosted some old high school roasties who rejected me before.

Fuck a couple college thots ever semester.

[deleted] · 2018-12-27T22:39:06+00:00

Wasn’t ever incel but was very bluepilled up until about a year ago. I went to a Christian high school where it’s taught that god has “the one” waiting for you etc. other romanticist shit. Fell for that hook line and sinker on a girl for about a year before I began studying psychology (ironically in an effort to win her over). About I month in I had red pilled myself and realized what an absolute fool I had been my entire life. Taught me to take myself seriously, grow a fucking backbone, gain respect, and destroy any sense of social anxiety/timidity. Ignored her, focused on my own goals. Lifted a lot too, now can casually rep my body weight as a warm up set.

Off to college 7 moths later and I find (this September) TRP which solidified my suspicions and added more important insight. Multiplied my progress and helped give me even more direction in life. Started spinning plates, finally getting laid, exponential progress.

I expect in about a year or two to reach “Chad” (lmao). I.e. attained physique, solid reputation, expended social influence.

Never would have even imagined I’d be where I am two years ago. It’s work but the rewards are so valuable to me.

freenrich · 2018-12-28T01:57:41+00:00

I consider myself a person who went from incel to Chad.

I was always terrible with girls. I was extremely shy and awkward and would too often become infatuated immediately and drive any girl that I liked away. I couldn't help but be an total "nice guy", plus I was always really nerdy and overweight my entire childhood and high school life.

I would go out clubbing every week with my friends from when I was 17 and I would strike out over and over, sometimes I'd get a kiss or a number of a seriously drunk girl but it would never go anywhere. Girls always lost interest in me. The longer it went without losing my virginity the more it would become constantly on my mind.

On several occasions I'd manage to get as far as going back to a girls place, but I would get so nervous that I wouldn't be able to get or maintain an erection, which made things extremely awkward and embarrassing when the girl was usually less than understanding.

This all changed when I was 21 and signed up for online dating on Plenty of Fish. This was before the days of tinder so there was still quite a stigma about online dating but I thought i didn't have much left to lose. I had no luck getting a date for 6 months but I was determined, and eventually I got a message from a really cute girl who had a lot in common with me. We dated a few times and talked for hours and hours. I told her i was a virgin and she didn't care. When she came over she gave me no pressure and I finally lost my virginity to her. She became my girlfriend for over 2 and a half years.

She ended up moving away for university and ended our relationship. I was heartbroken but by this point I'd become comfortable with sex although I was very overweight. I tried to be friends with my ex but she told me that she'd already slept with like 5 other guys within 2 months of us breaking up, whereas I was having no luck whatsoever.

I became obsessed with working on myself to become more attractive. I joined the gym and started going every 2nd day without fail. I started being very strict with my diet for the first time in my life. I lost 40lbs in 6 months and read books and websites on seduction in my spare time. I bought new trendy clothes, aftershave, jewellery and found a better barber. I spent a lot of time on tinder experimenting with different photos and bios. I started an indie rock band and we had a couple photo shoots and I got some fun photos taken when I would travel that made me look like a fun guy to date.

I experimented with different techniques of starting conversations, and closing dates. The more time passed, the fitter and more attractive I became. Suddenly I was matching with many girls and dating several girls per week. The more dates I went on the more comfortable and confident I became around them. Eventually getting a date and going home with a girl became easy. I've ended up sleeping with over 30 girls in the space of 2 years. It probably could have been way more but I became super picky about only wanting to sleep with the hottest girls who I felt I could also connect with.

6 months ago I met the girl of my dreams. She's the cutest and sweetest girl I've ever met. Easy going and down to earth. She loves everything I love. I was also her first. She is the world to me.

But yeah I'm not gonna lie and say my success isn't heavily resting on the fact I'm 6'3" tall and handsome. But up until I was 21 I felt completely hopeless with women. Building confidence, gaining experience talking to and dating women, and actively fixing my unhealthy, unattractive lifestyle lead me to become what many of you would consider a Chad now.

I do think though that any guy who is determined enough can find love or sex, but you need to put in a lot of effort. My height and looks definitely weren't a free pass and it took me a long time and A LOT of rejection to get to where I am now.

Waikku · 2018-12-28T05:22:27+00:00

Never was an incel, nor am I a chad atm but did a pretty solid change!

I was in an LTR of about 2 years when I discovered TRP (I was 19). Started reading but never internalizing this stuff. Then I diagnoses myself with depression when I, one night, after watching Netflix, went to bed and just started crying all of a sudden. Messaged my best friend who had been in a similar situation, who then urged me to go lift with him.

This friend also notified me that my LTR (we had been dating 3 years by that time) was spending a little too much time with one of my friends, who she met through me. So I "assessed the situation" and told my LTR that she was spending too much time with him.

She wouldn't comply.

By then I was living with said best friend, he saw the situation and after about 2 months of them "watching movies" together told me that if I know for sure I'm not going to spend the rest of my life with this girl it's pointless to keep dating her.

So I dumped her. She did not see it coming.

After about 2 months of reading TRP and being single I was able to land a solid 9 (in my mind). Tall, blonde, thin, submissive (literally I would tell her to drop her panties while we were brushing our teeth getting ready to sleep and she would), big eyes, cute. She was the 4th girl I had sex with. Dated her for about a year before she started showing violent tendencies. So I walked away. This was about 13 months ago.

Now, I dress way better, tease girls, have much better game overall. Now, I have an n-count of 23. This is all from Tinder, I don't approach girls, yet.

csawyer86 · 2018-12-27T21:07:43+00:00

I don’t know about becoming a Chad , but I went from fucking 5s and under from high school to my upper 20s to fucking 8s and above by making a few simple adjustments. I grew a beard ( this was almost an instant attractor of women ), started lifting, and started dressing better. At my peak I was able to walk by a woman and have her literally grab my arm and squeeze my muscles and tell me how sexy I am. I’m in an LTR now but I like to think I could still manage that if I was single.

kayfab · 2018-12-28T02:20:12+00:00

As you get older its the opposite hahah i used to be a Chad and now i am mgtow, i am not incel cause i don't hate women, i just can't get the hot ones anymore LOL

Icepickthegod · 2018-12-28T04:20:00+00:00

i went from chad to incel lookswise. now im about low tier normie at best.

Drakonlord · 2018-12-28T06:40:17+00:00

if you where ever an incel then you will never been good enough to be a true chad.

That being said I've gone from 0 interest from women to getting unlimited 6/10's and some 7/10's.

How I did it?

1) Started going the gym. 10% bf. Well above average physique.

2) Invested a few grand into my wardrobe, as well as doing extensive research on what a good wardrobe looks like (been told i dress well by attractive women)

3) grew to 6'4" (a lot of my success is due to this).

4) grew a beard, hides my weak chin. I've been told I'm an 8/10 by some women, which puts me closer to a 6.5.

5) got comfortable around women from lots of exposure.

at 15 I was probably a 4/10 and now I'm a 7/10. My limiting factor is simply genetics, but still a 7/10 is a pretty good life.

tacospitter · 2018-12-28T07:13:48+00:00

Over about 10 years I successfully transitioned from virgin who was anxious and hopeless with women to banging everything that moved to having more meaningful relationships with attractive women to having a (still) incredible relationship now.

I wouldn’t consider myself a chad, but certainly a true alpha. I consider chads more along the lines of a false alpha.

More importantly I developed self-confidence, self-respect, and am happy.

[deleted] · 2018-12-28T07:44:32+00:00

Plenty of people went from incel to someone who gets laid. Your wish to become chad is akin to my wish to become professional baseball player.

But I still can learn to play baseball, you know, even in my age. Just like incel can still learn how to seduce and attract women.

yumyumgivemesome · 2018-12-27T22:54:13+00:00

Lost the V at age 22. Only had 5 at the age of 28, about 10 at the age of 32, about 20 at the age of 34, and over 50 now that I'm 38. I know the numbers are about right because I've maintained an encrypted list because I'm curious how my # has changed over the years. I'm definitely no Chad, but I certainly no longer wonder when the next time I'll get laid will be.

I also note that it feels like over 100 different girls, but my # is certainly under 60. I point that out because when most guys give what they believe to be an honest estimate that is above 30, it's probably fair to assume their real # is half of that. (It's just impossible to remember and it's easy to mistakenly count bjs when giving a ballpark estimate.) Sort of like how a good rule of thumb is to triple whatever # a girl tells you.

Anyway, it started with PUA types of things in order to have a set rubric for initiating conversations with women and to get over approach and social anxieties. Practice practice practice in social settings got me more and more comfortable. I've consistently maintained a decent physique. What I've learned was that being in shape and decent looking (albeit short and shy) meant nothing without confidence and comfort in social settings and around women (i.e., PRACTICE).

theislander849 · 2018-12-28T01:16:59+00:00

I did.

Fuck... you gotta be more specific than "what are your experiences?"

Title	Anyone here went from incel to chad?
Author	123undeuxtrois123
Upvotes	85
Comments	151
Date	27 December 2018 07:46 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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Link	https://theredarchive.com/post/71724
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