The idea around here of, women control access to sex where as men control access to commitment implies that a woman looking for sex will find it easily and have easy access to it, and a man looking for commitment will find it easily and have easy access to it, but this is just straight up totally contradictory to reality.

There are plenty of men looking to get into a relationship and aren't succeeding, and I'm not talking about even extremely unattractive or social retards, any man <7/10 is still going to have to put a considerable amount of effort into finding a relationship.

The idea that simply being a man who showers and isn't physically hideous is enough to get a relationship so long as you want one is just preposterous, likewise the idea that there's this huge amount of women desperate for commitment but totally unable to find it. Honestly I can't see a woman failing to be able to get a boyfriend unless she was genuinely horrifically hideous, like burn victim or someone with terrible physical deformities level of hideous. I see ugly women with their boyfriends in the grocery store all the time.