So bit of an interesting story really need some advice/opinions, very long read sorry, lots of parts here. So first off let me say I've been very successful with women in the past, dated lots of gorgeous women lots of lays etc. So I have a friend who told me everyone tries to get with his sister, I didn't think much of it tbh, we'd been hanging out for 4 years and I had never met her, apparently my cousin who is also friends with him tried to go out with her but she flaked on him and nothing ever came of it (probably because he's attractive but a total pussy) Anyway my buddy asks me to go to a concert and I say I'm down, and he says his sister is coming, now at this time I'm not really dating, I'm just focusing on myself, and I'm not hooking up because ffs I was gonna get someone pregnant at the rate I was going. Now I'm assuming even if she's hot I won't give a shit, just how I am. But let me tell you, my god, she was walked in and I've never had a woman drop my jaw like this. Literally an 11/10, and she was only about 5'2 rocking fitness body, Italian incredible fashion taste, literally my type to a t, there is a 10 year gap between us btw. My first thought was "oh yea that's gonna be mine". I can tell her thought was the same, I was in a tight tank and she looked straight at my chest and then my biceps lol. She went straight in for a hug, the entire trip there was a vibe between us I knew she was Into me. So after the concert my bud is plastered drunk and we all go back to his place (his parents lol) we brought another guy who was her friend, because he was kind of drunk, he was mad into her but she wasn't into him. It's about 2:00 AM and both my friend and her want pizza so I pick up some frozen ones, I go to make them and she keeps coming up to "help me" I could tell in her eyes she wanted me and I just wanted to slam her against the wall and make out with her. BUT I can't just do that to my friends sister so the next day I ask him if it's cool if I go out with her, he said he was cool as long as I just don't one night stand her. I call her and she says she thinks my confidence is hot but she's focusing on herself right now and she doesn't know what she wants" I say alright I understand. (Honestly thought she wasn't interested, so I just thought oh well and moved on) Soooo....fast forward my friend asks me to help her move, I do and we flirt most of the time. Fast forward more my friend has a Christmas party and she's there, let me tell you my god she was smoking hot, anyway she bought me a book (we both love reading, so now I know she thinks about me) and she made me some treats, as the night goes on me and her are next to each other all night, really close lots of flirting. Near the end of the night, she puts her hand on me and says, you should stay here for tonight and sleep in my old room, giving me that look. I say I'm not drunk enough I can drive (just testing her) and she persists and says "just don't touch me" while grabbing my leg and shaking her head, now in my head she's telling me to smash. So I agree and stay, we go up to her old room, and she says here it is, and when she turns around I grab her by the ass and start making out with her no hesitation. She was mad into it, I throw her on the bed, go down with my hand and rub her pussy and she says not so aggressive, and we go back to making out, she gets on top and in between making out says "I'm never going to see you again" I'm like wtf (red flag) and stop her, and straight up tell her she's gonna be mine or bets are off, btw her saying that on top of thought of her brother downstairs and her parents who treat me like family are all right next to this room is killing my erection. We go back to making out a bit and I try to escalate to sex, and she keeps saying let's just make out. So we start to stop again, and I tell her basically the same thing again, that she's gonna be mine, she gets this big smile, and says she thinks my confidence is hot. She then asks some shit while still on top, well do you care about God that's important to me and do you have any STDs. This pissed me off, If you don't want to fuck why are you asking if I have STDs? And she also said she was just enjoying being single and she doesn't know what she wants. When women say this, I normally think they're either not over there ex or they're hooking up with a bunch of guys or both. Something that's important is this woman dated a guy for 10 years and he "supposedly" dumped her for no reason, either he was cheating or there is something she's not telling, anyway she rebounded with a friend of hers and now she's been single for two years until me, and she told me she hasn't been laid since then. Now I believe this because my friend (her brother) told me that she admitted the same thing to him and even asked if there was any of his friends she could hook her up with, she also admitted she had only slept with the 2 men she dated, (she did not mention this to me btw, only her brother) now she could just be lying to her brother but idk, this was before me and her met. The whole I'm enjoying being single things is stupid, because she went out on a date with a guy a month before this, I know she didn't hook up with him because he said some stupid shit at the end and turned her off, and then she dropped something off for her brother right after the date. So after she says all that we begin a 3 hour conversation about random shit about each other, honestly we really connected and talked about a lot of personal stuff and we start setting up dates and stuff like hikes and shit we like, and she says she would love to meet my mom and crap, and then we basically go to sleep. (Sorta hard to sleep on that shitty small bed) So moving forward a couple days she has to go on a trip for work, it's like 3 weeks, this sucks because I like to go out with a girl asap before shit cools off. So neither of us like texting and we're both very busy people, so I send her a text every week asking how it is and blah blah, she's very responsive at the beginning. Then I start having to send a second text to get a response. So then near the end of her trip, I ask her when she's coming back and try to set any of the things we talked about up, she tells me she's been back a week! Now her aunt died so that's why, so I let it slide. I was pissed at first. So I tell her I'm sorry for her loss, and she tells me it was more of an aunt she didn't know as well and that it was days ago, now I'm pissed again because she never hmu. Fast forward more weeks we talk ocasionaly she's goes on another work trip and comes back and I basically call her, we talk she asks me how's it going and stuff we do some flirting, and I basically told her I turned this girl down who literally was dtf. (I didn't smash this girl because she was worried about STDs and the plan was that we were going to date) And she says "why'd you do that" I'm like unreal, and I realize I've wasted my time, I'm like because we literally talked about being in a relationship and you even wanted to meet my mom, and she says "I'm not holding you down if you want to fuck other girls you can" and I translated that to "I'm being a hoe right now and I wanted to fuck you and it didn't happen and now I'm acting like I'm not a hoe to preserve my image" so I'm like alright fuck it. And don't talk to her for awhile (I didn't say anything mean to her btw I was not mad on the phone I was nice), we still text ocasionaly after that and she still seems flirty. her brother tells me she was on a date, so I basically call her and tell her listen we're gonna date or just be friends, and I think we're just gonna be friends." I basically call her out (nicely) that she's experimenting and that I was apart of the experiment. She tells me that her brothers wrong and she hadn't been on a date come that guy before me, She's sounds a bit upset, (probably not used to a guy telling her that there gonna be friends) and says that she thinks that night was a mistake and that's she's sorry if I thought she was experimenting on me, and that she thinks my confidence is hot and that there's no guy like me. (She's being genuine, tbh not really patronizing.) Fast forward and she's moving her stuff into her new place (the stuff we moved into a storage before) my friend asks for my help again, I say yes. The day of the move, he texts me and says she hired movers, I say great glad it worked out. I come to find out the stuff they moved is the same shit they needed me for last time, and the movers came the next day to move big stuff. So now I think she's specifically avoiding me, because either shes uncomfortable or if she sees me in person, she wants me, don't know how to explain but that's just how it is, don't know why she's weak to me but I'll take it haha. Anyway, fast forward and my gut will not let this one go guys, my mind/experience tells me it's over, but I know she is still into me, because her and her mom talk about me. I got a new car and show it to my buddy (badass Challenger) her mom tells me to show her lmao, so me and her brother literally just drive to her house, I take her for a ride in it, I can tell, she's still into me the vibe is still there, even her brother could tell. We go in her house a bit, and then we leave, and I tell her we need to go for that hike, and she says definitely. Now my gut is really really going but my mind/experience still says no. Now for perspective my gut is almost never wrong, and her mom did tell me to be patient with her, because she doesn't rush things, "supposedly." I basically throw her out her last lifeline trying to set up the hike, and possibly workout together. She gives me some bullshit, "I'll have to see about a hike in the upcoming weeks" which is code for "I'm not going on a hike with you lol" it's been two weeks, I deleted our message thread, she's still in my contacts because I'm close with her family and it's just petty to delete her. Haven't texted her since, and my gut keeps telling me she will come around and to be patient, her brother told me she's gone on dates with some guys from church, but his info can be shit. So what are your thoughts? Is she sleeping around, is she not and just not over her ex? Both maybe? Should I trust my gut? Or my mind/experience. Now to be clear I've been laid since I told her we would be friends, I'm not exactly sitting around for her, but we connected so much and she's everything I want in a woman, and I'm tired of being a hoe and just want a good woman, and I'm having trouble here I've not been stuck on a girl like this since before I had no game haha. Am I just being stupid af, let me know guys, I need outside advice. Honestly I just needed to type this out, life's been hard lately.