My intention with this post is to help guys with their dating life by being as brutally honest as possible - because even this subreddit does not call it out entirely out as it is. However, the thing about this subreddit is that you guys recognize something is not right and intend to act upon it. Hence the reason for my post. This is going to be extremely long. Read it in strides.

Why you should listen to me: Don't. Take everything with what I say with a grain of salt. Don't take what I say at face value, but don't dismiss it until you try it for yourself.

Everything I ever did in terms of dating always comes back to one central idea: whatever you want, you yourself must possess. You like girls with banging hot bodies? You too have to have a banging hot body. You want a girl with a perfectly symmetrical face? You too must have a perfectly symmetrical face. You want a girl that cares for you? You too must care for the girl. And on and on. Obviously this is not always the case, as this is an imperfect world. But use that as your general guiding principal and that solves nearly all your problems. Reflect on what you want, and you'll be able to figure out what other people want.

Another thing. Day game/night game is a myth. Girls decide whether or not you are dateable in a single second they lays eyes on you. How do I know? How long do you decide if a girl is a dateable? In a single second when you lay eyes on them. You either pass or you dont. If you are on a girl's fence of dating (which most guys are) - you need to work on other factors (physical and mentally) to keep you off the edge. (But so does the girl - its a two way street).

The order goes like this: 1) Looks, 2) Sexual Vibe, 3) Kindness, 4) Personality. Most guys are playing day game (personality) before looks. Why do girls go for "jerks"? Because they are hotter than you physically and hold more sexual vibe. This post is going to repeat one thing again and again: gym, gym, gym. No way around it. GET TO THE FKING GYM.

Day game/night game is meant for one thing. To learn to read people desires and give yourself the tools, IN YOUR OWN WAY, of how to navigate those desires. It teaches you the moves. But it will never work all the time, because the decision of the girls of whether or not they want to play the game with you is already decided. If not, then the girl is settling - which is bad situation to be in.

Let us begin, I'll start from the top down:

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Looks:

Imagine the best possible girl that is conceivably possible: a super hot banging supermodel that is loyal, kind, smart, rich and understanding to you. Simple, reverse it: become the super hot banging guy that is loyal, kind, smart, rich and understanding. Is it gonna be easy to do that? Fuck no. A super hot banging guy requires being a fit dude. Thats 2 years of consistent physical training. A understanding guy requires 3-4 years of social training (day game/night game). A kind guy requires of 3-4 years of mental self evaluation. Let's not even begin the smart or rich. None of this is easy. There only exists two paths. Changed and be better or sit and whine. There doesn't exists a middle ground. If there does, you are simply settling. Im here to guide for the best - not guide you to settling.

Now even with those factors, there are some things that will be easier for some and harder for others. That is genetics. Life is not fair. It never was. Best you can do is play with the cards you are given, then build the other cards.

I use this scale: https://imgur.com/dzhPzn6. Its a bell curve so most people are between 4 to 6.

If you are ugly (3/10) - symmetrical face shape-wise, you do not stand a chance. Period. No amount of day game/night game will help you*. The odds are stacked against you. Think about it this way. Why don't you want to date that ugly girl over there? Is it because her GPA is too low? Is it because her personality is bad? No. It's because shes fucking ugly. Same to you. Its cause you're fucking ugly (at least some of you). No offense. Your best chance FIRST and FOREMOST is go to the gym and get jacked like, jacked jacked. You have to get to that additional shredness to even stand a chance against a guy with half of your shredness. Your face is not serving you so your next best thing is your body. The best you can hope for is a "butterface". The other route you can take is get wealthy and get plastic surgery. Look. You can't "daygame" a girl because no amount of day game gonna work - unless she is so desperate that she settles. (Think about the ugliest girl you know by name, now imagine if she hits on you. Are you still gonna date her? Fuck no. Theres your answer.) And thats a situation you don't want to be in either cause she will exit the first moments she sees the next viable thing. If you are FAT and UGLY? Good luck on the climb bro cause thats one hell of a climb. Even if you get jacked, that loose skin after getting jacked is going to be a problem. At this stage of 3/10, if you try to day game, girls will go as far as have a straight disgust on their face or call the cops on you for "harassing" just because you are talking to them. You get no matches on online dating. Luckily most people are not here, and I pray that you are not cause its a tough road. You have to work twice as hard as even than even the hardest workers.

Now for the average (4-6/10), I would say a 95% of you reading this stand here. You know who you are. Most likely you have to go to the gym. Gym, gym, gym. For 2 years straight minimum. Then learn to groom, then learn to dress (simple button up and fitted jeans is sufficient). THEN daygame. Or all at the same time. If you can manage. Girls will be on the fence with you. You have some matches. You might get one or two date if you are on the higher end. Rest of you need to step it up.

If you are 7+/10, then day game is a must at this point. You aren't getting girls because you are ugly. You're not getting girls cause your personality is shit and you cant talk for shit and have an emotional IQ of a fking goldfish. You need to approach girls a lot, like a metric fuck ton and learn to read facial responses and body language.

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Day Game:

Most guys can get to a 6/10 if they work on their looks hard enough. Here is the "juicy" part that most of you dumbasses will just jump to and ignore everything else. By far this is probably the most important and least important thing to do. Most important because your view and understanding of the world expands 10 fold but least important because you will soon come to realize that doing this is not about "getting the girl", but about internal self growth.

Day game teaches you fearlessness, it gives balls to simps. Its what most men lack today (and six pack abs). Ability to do anything. I had a gun pointed to my head and that fear is nothing compared to cold-approaching my first girl (now its over hundreds if not thousands - lost count ages ago).

In day game, to get to a base minimum success point, you must do 20 cold-approaches minimum within a 3 month period. This is MINIMUM, like you are still a noob at this stage. If you have done less than 20 cold approaches your entire life, you do not have any game or understanding of what im talking about at all. Period. No amount of reading the text is going to explain or make you understand the experience. Less than 1% of you guys reading this has passed this point. I know this cause I tested this myself in my own life by gathering data from both girls and guys and on average (2-3 approaches to girls) for girls within their life up to around (age 25). And the guys for the number of approaches they did in their life, dont make me laugh. Most not even one.

For day game, in the beginning stages between your first and 20th approach, the first thing you want to do, is control your nervousness. Your heart racing when you think about approaching that girl will be fast, the first thing you do is just go. Just go. Fuck the racing heart, just go. You can have a prescripted line at this stage to get you started. Cause everything is overloaded, you need a clutch to stand on - so prescripted lines are good at this stage. These first few approaches are going to crash and fail so hard but it will be worth it. The thing you want to do is when you first talk to the girl, you job is to control your body to slow down your breathing and relax your shoulders. That physical action of doing it is going to relax your entire mind. A physical response will slow your mental response and will keep you calm and cool headed. If you are sitting it is better to lean back as its a more relaxed posture of the human body. When you are not nervous the girl will not be nervous. Your thoughts bleed out in physical and tonal form, but so does the reverse. Your body affects the mind. Primary goal here is to control your breathing and nervousness, not the number (actually never the number).

Once you past 20th approach, depending on how well/fast you progress mentally, the next thing you should focus on is paying attention to your tonality. How you say certain things. "How are you today? vs How are YOU today?" matters. More important to that: Listen. Ask questions and actually get to know the girl as a person - not as a meat bag. Pay attention to how she responds, watch her face/reaction. Watch her body language. Learn to actually listen (tip: when you ask a question. follow up with a reaffirming question of the exact same topic). Pay attention to her eyes. The talking should never exceed 60/40. So you should not talk about yourself more than 40% of the conversation. I recommend actually not to ask for any number if it is not a girl you are not interested. Don't waste your time. Don't make the interaction about the number, make it about the person. Learn about the person. If you mind is about getting the number, that bleeds out. People can FEEL it being a transactional interaction. If you are genuinely interested in the person, of course ask for the number, that feeling of genuineness also bleeds out. Just watch out for difference between the two. Its very fine line - do not delude yourself of what you are actually after. Everything bleeds out. So i actually recommend not asking for any number until after 50 approaches. You will be surprised - girls will ask for the number in return if you dont - assuming she had a good time conversing with you. So in summary, your primary job now is to pay attention to body language and facial responses.

After 50 interactions, you should not rely on prescripted lines. You should be able to slide into conversations with practically anyone without your heart beat even speeding up. It will be smooth as butter. At this stage, try to work on your physical body language to do the talking. Your smile, your thoughts. The distance between you and the girl to see where she is comfortable. Animate when necessary, calm when necessary. Control your eye. Test out different words, different ways of same thing to fit your style and your intent. At this point you would be able to easily ask her if she wants a follow up genuinely without it feeling transactional. If she declines, you will most likely forget it that interaction has ever occurred in your life by the end of the week. I cannot remember every single cold approach. They are all meaningless now. The only purpose they serve is to improve yourself, your balls, and your emotional iq.

Here on out, keep improving. After 100 approaches, you could practically read girls within the first 10 seconds if they want to date you or not. It is so easy. You can tell what people actually mean instead of what they actually say. You can tell when they like you and when they dont. Its within their eyes, they facial expression, their body language. They tell you what they actually mean. Its like you can make anyone dance between your fingers. Girls or guys. Its as close of a mind read as you can possibly get in this world. The only thing at this point to improve is try a different way of say things, etc to keep testing. This essentially allows you to determine which girls you want to spend your time on and which will end up in a deadend. The reason why I know this is that I have an assumption of what people actually mean, and I ask them honestly, "can I be honest at this moment. Is this what you actually mean and this is actually how you feel about it?" 99/100 times my assumption is correct. So now when I feel a girl likes me, I act accordingly (if i want to). I play when I want to play and don't when I dont. Occassionally, I see a girl fumble so hard I play with it so that she doesnt feel to bad about her efforts, then let her down easy. This is the primary goal you should strive for when daygaming, not some stupid number from some stupid girl who never going to respond back.

Whenever I say "ask for the number" I dont mean literally ask for the number. There are ways of saying to things without asking. Never ask for permission. Take it. An example "Let me get your number real quick, I have to get going. I'll text you more about the scuba stuff after work."

Night Game

If I had to choose between night game and day game. I would say daygame is more important than night game. Night game works on a clutch. The clutch being that "this environment" (the club/bar) is acceptable to talk to people. Its a handicap. Plus add in intoxication, its day game on easy mode. There are things that tend to draw out more than day game, so its not useless. That being sexual vibes/tension. In these settings the thing to work on is not talking, its body language. Your goal is actually to work on your sexual energy transfer rather than talking. Less talking the better. However, its also heavily reliant on your looks already, so if you ugly, you are going to declined hard.

A beginning stage, you can do this: not say anything and stick your hand out and a smile (as if indicating to dance). If the girl dont understand do a twirling motion above her hand showing your intent. She will either take it or not. If she does, dance with her. Enjoy yourself. Take it slow. Watch her facial expressions carefully, she will have a line of where she is willing to go. Watch her body language as well. Her accepting your dance is not a license to bang her. So start outside and work inward: shoulders, arms, back, then hips, then makeout, then sex. If she pulls away, respect it for a little. For example, she may take your arms and you put your arms behind her back (so your chests are touching). She may end up pulling back slightly. Respect it. Then try again a little later when you feel she is more comfortable. If she pulls back again. Don't try again. Shes telling you that is as far as she is comfortable with you. Don't push it. You'll get kicked out of the club. Remember she has her own fears and concerns. Enjoy the dance with her. Smile. You can try and bed her the same night if it goes that far. Take care of her as if she is your girlfriend. Send that vibe to her (its a belief in your head) that will translate to your body language and she will feel it. As for phone number, try to get as far as you can before you ask for the number. Its a buzz kill the moment you "ask". You can probably do it when she and you are ubering back to your place as its a down time where she will look at her phone. Why bang once when you can bang twice? Unless she has STD. Protect yourselves bois.

Text Game

This is a non-factor. You can do without doing this. Don't spend too much time practicing text game. The fastest way to do that is DM 100 girls (50 pretty and 50 non-pretty), primarily to get rid of texting anxiety. In summary, text the girls as if you are texting the your guy friends. Be yourself when texting. Don't do the stupid waiting game. A girl that likes you not gonna do 10-days wait and 30 day wait. Its fking dumb. If they don't text you normally, don't entertain it. Its a waste of time. They are not being genuine. You are also not being genuine. You're playing a meaningless game. In summary, just text normally. Be honest and straightforward.

Fashion

It matters. A LOT. The difference is night and day. That extra earring or extra tattoo matters. People behave differently subtly. Its not as if they are aware of they are treating you differently. But they do. I ran a specific test on this on girls: one where I was wearing a fitted tshirt and a fitted button up. Overwhelmingly the girls are more comfortable, ask for my number, paid more attention for me when I wore a button up. I didnt have to try as much. So for fashion the most important thing is groom first, then find clothes that a fitted, then colors. Brand names are meaningless for the most part. Mix and match for better results.

Sexual Tension & the Mind

Arguably this is more important than talking, body language that is. Sexual tension only works IF the girl finds you attractive. No amount of distance, body rolls, etc is going to matter if the girl doesnt want to fuck you. After you determine the girl finds you physically attractive, then you should work on this.

This is going to take a while to learn and it is primarily determined by how well you can evaluate yourself. Control your belief that you are sexy. You must come to believe it to some capacity. If not, work out until you believe it physically. Once that belief is established, then you will naturally move in that manner.

If you do not have any experience doing this here are some techniques to practice stimulating your brain to believe it. This also should train you how to move your body seductively. See body language tips.

Body Language Tips

In general these tips are meant for you to NOT say anything. Non-vocal.

- When you are dancing with a girl, put your forehead close if not already touching her forward while looking into her eyes. Dont go for the makeout yet. Let it build up until you see in her eyes that she is expecting it and want it. Then go for it.

- When you are walking on the street and you see a gorgeous girl (and you genuinely believe it). Point at her until she looks at you, smile, then draw an hourglass figure with both your hands and then an ok symbol with your dominant hand. What you see in the movies works in real life in terms of body language. 1 of 3 things will happen. 1) She will have a dumbfounded look on her face, in that case, smile and keep walking. Don't say anything. 2) She will smile in a friendly way, smile back and continue your way. 3) She will smile (and brush her hair back) as if she also finds you attractive. In this case, act upon it. As you walk close to her, stick your hand out. She will take it 100% of the time. Twirl her and then with your dominate hand, make a phone symbol with your hand and put it to your ears. Remember don't say a single word. She will pull out her phone and you put your number on it. Text yourself so you have her number. Wink and continue on your way. Remember to not say anything. Shit so fun. Don't do this too much, cause the ingenuineness will bleed out. Its all within your facial expression which is why I stress genuineness when doing this. Only do it to girls you actually think are gorgeous or has a nice style, etc. And if you not ugly.

- Winking. Practice in the mirror 1000 times.

- When dancing, stick your index finger out and walk around her, your index finger on her midriff. At the end of the walk, pull her in.

- Talk in the lowest range possible, enough so you can hear the vibrations in your voice. What this forces you to do is talk slower as you are not naturally use to speaking in that range. And for whatever stupid reason girls find that attractive. The speed of speaking and the vibration of the tone turns them on. Do it whenever you have the chance to speak something directly into their ear. It will give them tingles. ASMR on max moistness.

- If you are sitting situation, whenever you meet a girl the first time, sit 90 degrees from them. Never ever, directly across. And never side by side on first encounter. Its sweet zone. On the second or whenever she feels more comfortable, sit side by side whenever possible. Also lean back on the chair whenever possible to relax yourself and her.

Money

- Does it matter? Yes, but thats after looks. The only situation that it isnt is when its transactional. Your looks and body for my money and life style. Thats a suboptimal situation in my opinion. Rich guys who do that and only that are equally as cucked. True power can be manifested without money. But if you are old, then thats a different story. Use it to your advantage.

- If you are ugly but have money, she will look out the door and cheat on you when possible cause you fucking ugly (i.e. dual mating stragety). Everything has to be 50/50 otherwise you are being used.

Sex

- Believe you are a sex god, even if you are shit. Do whatever you want to do, as that will translate to her that feeling of passion. She will emotionally enjoy it more. She can feel you are having fun. Obviously if she is not down, don't force her, unless you want to catch a case.

- Believe she is your sex object. And fuck as such. Don't ask for permission. If she doesn't want to do something she will let you know. Then dont do it. Its more about the energy. If you establish the interaction prior to sex, the vibe to strive for is softboi on the streets, fuckboi in the streets. A balance of both. Safety with hotness is the greatest allure for girls. At the end of the day respect her wishes, she is physically weaker than you. Make her feel safe. But don't let her step all over you. That previous interaction should allow you to fuck her as you like cause she knows in the back of her mind, you wont actually hurt her if she wishes you to stop.

- Slap and choke is a must. All girls like that. Period. Idk why, they just do. Make sure to fill up on all her body part.

- Make sure to touch and caress the lower rib cage while kissing her neck. ASMR whispering in the ear works with the low tone as mentioned above.

- Take it slow if you feel like you about to cum and switch position.

- Practice holding your piss. Training to hold your cum so you don't bust to quickly and make her never want to come back. Be honest if you have difficulties. Understanding is more important than pride.

When Shes Your Significant Other

- Don't view her as end all be all. Nothing in this world is permanent. Treat her with the same respect you give your friends. She should not be treated less than. However, don't let her step on you. Don't put her on a pedestal. Be okay with ending things if she doesnt respect your boundaries (but that doesnt mean you can violate her boundaries either). You have the skills to get another awesome gf/wife. Believe it. If you know how to make money, why are you afraid of being poor? Same situation here.

- Care for her, but don't spoil her. No one wants a golddigger.

- Bring the good out of her.

- Strive for the bliss point. Softboi in the streets, fuckboi in the sheets. Care for her but make sure she doesnt step over you or your boundaries. If she does something that you do not think is right or disrespective, call it out. Bring it up calmly and explain fully how and why it makes you feel that way. Make sure she understands such that she doesnt do it again.

- Make sure everything is clear. Make sure the rules of the relationship is defined. Respect her wishes as well. Its a two way street. If she violates something irredeemable, sever the relationship. She will do it again - she didnt respect your wishes the first time. You allowing it again is not going to work. You need to make everything clear the first time around.

- I truly believe to fuck like stallion and exude sexual energy but soft as a fly when not fucking. She has to know that she feels safe and care for but also get raw dogged when its time. Don't be a jerk but dont be a simp. Take the best of both world and improve upon it. Treat her like a human being.

- Also always do a prenup. Always. What's rightfully yours is rightfully yours. Whats rightfully hers is rightfully hers. Don't screw another person over. Don't let another person screw you over. Always protect yourself. Always.

- Remember you are #1. Everyone else is #2. Even your parents. You are with yourself your whole life. You think about what you eat, what you need to do 100% of the time. You think about everyone else less than 1% of the time in totality. Remember to take care of yourself first - but don't screw other people over.