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I have learned a lot in my life and I want to share.

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I have lurked here for a while and a lot of times I see some great points in this subreddit and sometimes the men here are completely misinformed. I will give my background and history with women.

First, I have no qualms with giving my name. My name is Brandon Gallemore. You guys can look me up or reach out if you are feeling the need.

I was born in 1989 at the very end of the year. I grew up pretty poor, initially in Fort Worth, TX.

I had an older half-brother who lived with his Mom down in the Houston area. I also grew up with an older sister and a younger brother, each of us separated by about roughly a year and a half. I was smack dab in the middle as a kid. By the time I was five we moved out to a place called Weatherford, TX on the outskirts of town. Not sure who cheated on who, because I never got a clear answer before my Dad passed away, but one of my parents cheated on the other during a big period of drug use/alcohol abuse in both of their lives. Everything fell apart and my Mom met my step-father, Steve.

He was a single guy who lived in a place that his Mom had owned prior. Steve is a musician and smoked a lot of weed and did other illicit drugs while we were kids. He never had children of his own and so instead of talking to us, he chose to spank us EVERY SINGLE TIME we did something wrong. This is where I think I became somewhat of a bitch, or a beta as many here like to say.

The neighborhood we were in was right on the boundary of poverty and lower-middle class. We had beat up trailer houses and an old apartment building a few houses down from our house. My Mom's family lived in a place like this while we lived paycheck to paycheck and maintaining a fairly poor diet (another beta move). As a kid I was always up to something. I was skinnier than most of my friends, and goofy. I had to be funny and intelligent to make up for a lack of my own perceived weakness (more on that later).

On top of growing up in a poor neighborhood we also dealt with my Dad being in and out of prison. My main influence on who taught me to be a man was my Mom. In my opinion, that shouldn't ever have to happen. The community around my family failed us. Maybe because we were white, we were perceived as being ok, but we weren't at that time. More apathy from those around me made me angrier. I became more beta as a result. I white-knighted for girls in school and got into fights for them multiple times. It was usually the same few girls dating shitty dudes and then the guys would hit them, so I would feel the need to hit the dude. My Mom encouraged this behavior too. My Mom said to ALWAYS hold the door, PAY for the date, NEVER hit a woman under any circumstances (which I still don't do, but disagree with the premise).

These lessons that I learned along the way didn't help me. They taught me to be weaker. I consistently bowed down to the women in my life and with modern-day entitlement it was a recipe for disaster. I turned to drugs and alcohol around 15, which was roughly the time this photo was taken. I had already had multiple sexual experiences by this point, the first being with my sister's older friend who climbed on top of me even though I had told her I didn't want to when I was 13. Women were consistently crossing my boundaries and even playing games with my emotions at times. I accepted all of it though.

Eventually I met my "true love" my junior year. I was a walking boner my junior year and accepted whatever woman threw herself at me. She was the first one to stick. She told me stories initially of how her first sexual encounter she was rape (which she later admitted to me was a lie). I didn't share my story with her, because mine felt so trivial in comparison to how violent she said he had been. This girl never held a job, never had to work a day in her life, even chores. I had a job from the time I was 12 with my Uncle and as soon as I could work legally I got multiple jobs and held them throughout my high school career. I should have seen that disaster coming from a mile away, but at 17 years old you are bound to fuck things up and boy did I do that.

I was walking through the halls of my high school one day after getting stoned at lunch. My buddy Jarvis turned to me and said, "Look over there, they're doing testing for the military. Let's go take the ASVAB." So, instead of going to class, I skipped it like I always did and took a test, that test changed my life.

A few months later we got the test back and Jarvis scored higher than me. He received a 92 and I had gotten an 83. I was so competitive that it made me feel even worse. I felt like I would always be less than others. That poisonous mindset carried into my relationship as well. I joined the Air Force as an Air Traffic Controller (highest suicide/divorce rate) and within two years we were separating on account of her cheating. She had been cheating on me for about a year and was coming home late at night and sleeping with me after she slept with the other dudes, yes dudes (she had two separate affairs).

As you can imagine I felt ultra cucked and wanted to kill myself. Instead, I got into another relationship, and another, and another. Each kept failing and I got more and more miserable. I was still skinny and decided to start working out. These pictures were supposed to showing progression, but I neglected my fitness still for years, despite being in the military. I would do the bare minimum that was required at our PT.

At the end of 2012 I met someone who I knew I loved. She was sweet and kind and didn't have any expectations of me. She supported my hobbies, which included music and writing. I thought I sucked, but she liked it. Of course, with my life being my life I got orders to Korea within a few months of meeting her. I felt like a black cloud was over my head. Her family had their doubts and I had mine and due to insecurities I cheated on someone that I loved after only being in Korea for four months. I told her immediately, because the guilt ate me up, but she let it ride for another six months before we finally split. My entire first year in Korea felt like a waste and I was the reason. I was ready for a nuke to be dropped by this point.

To fill my sadness I turned to sleeping with women, a lot of women. When I had gotten to Korea I had probably slept with 15 people in my life. By the time I met my next ex-wife I had slept with upwards of 40 people. Plating or whatever bullshit this sub wants to call it won't fulfill you, just going to go ahead and say that now.

We got married! She was this gorgeous woman that barely spoke my language. I was ok with it, because she was pregnant. She wanted an abortion and I didn't so I got my what I asked for. She was a Bridezilla too. The wedding cost us 20,000 dollars and she was a complete nightmare to me the day before and of. I was still being the good husband that would just accept it.

Right around the time I became a Dad I made Staff Sergeant in the Air Force. I remember a conversation some of the younger guys had with me when I was driving them to their dormitory in Korea. They told me essentially that they were glad that I hadn't changed and that they respected me as a leader. Most guys in the military let power get to their heads, but I had literally never even had power over anything so my first instinct wasn't to abuse it. I just cared about the people, and maybe that is why I am writing this post too.

Then my first son, Cason, was born. My wife at the time told me that she didn't love me and she was drinking often while also angry at me for not being more involved. I would come home stressed the fuck out from working foreign pilots as an Air Traffic Controller. By the time I got home she would always be ready to hand the baby to me. I felt used and abused. She didn't have a job, she rarely cleaned and her version of cooking was to let rice sit in the rice cooker and crack an egg in a pan and serve it to me. It was tough, but I gritted my teeth and kept on as I had most of my life.

We found out we were expecting another boy, Jacob. She didn't want to keep him initially either and that was a whole other debate to get her to keep our child, she relented and then sat in resentment for the next few years.

It was finally time for us to leave Korea. I got orders out of there after three and a half years and we were going back to Sheppard AFB in Texas. I was excited to finally get back to American soil, my kid's Mom was not. As soon as she got here the entitlement started. She would complain about the fact that we have to drive everywhere and that there were no cities. She would nag about my family not being more involved and coming to visit. Those are obviously all important, but I was being held hostage because of this negativity.

Within a month of getting to Texas my Dad passed away from liver failure. He had been drinking heavily for years and his body finally gave out. I had only gotten to see him one time in four years and he was dying by the next time I saw him. I sat in the hospital with him for five days. My entire family came the first day, then no one came again until he was dead. My ex would text me and tell me how bad of a father I was to my kids because I wouldn't come home at the time. I wanted to be with my Dad. When it was finally his time to go I sat and watched all of it, completely alone. It was something that changed my life and I will never forget. My Dad was taking guppy breaths and had stubs for legs, because of an amputation that was necessary due to sepsis and gangrene and he was alone. The only person in the world who was their for him was me, that's around the time when it all clicked.

I sat in his apartment for 30 days and did every drug in his house. I showered two times during that period and barely remember anything. My ex showed up, obviously upset and reasonably so. I was in a really bad place though, she hadn't been there for me when I needed her, but when she needed me she was screaming and showing no respect to me as a human. I needed someone to reach out to in my life, but no one was there for me. My brother, my sister, my Mom, wife, everyone was wrapped up in their own problems.

At the end of that 30 days I returned to normal life. The military had given me time off to grieve and I had barely done any. I covered my emotions up with more abuse to myself. I started seeing parallels in my life and my father's. We got pregnant with a third child. I bet you can guess what she said. She drank heavily and smoked cigarettes telling me almost every night that she would kill it that way if the insurance wasn't going to help pay for it. She did that for about three months and then decided she wanted to keep the baby and went to the OBGYN.

On that day her entitlement shown through the most. She had succeeded and our baby was dead right in front of both of us on the screen. She began sobbing and screaming at me in front of the nurse and then we got out of there. Within a month her Mom and brother showed up in Korea to support her and simultaneously ruin our marriage. While they were there her brother told me that I needed to do more, even though I was working ten hour days and coming home to take care of children. We almost got into a fight over it. She left the country shortly after, the first time.

I did more drinking and pot smoking when they left and got separated from the military with an honorable discharge. They diagnosed me with major depressive disorder and generalized anxiety disorder. I can't imagine where the anxiety comes from. She came back for a while and I talked myself into believing things would be different. Within a few more months she had hit me quite a bit and I finally caught her on video doing it. I took it a lawyer and went to take her to court, by the time I got back home she was already on a plane to Korea. That was in November 2018 and the last time I have seen my kids. It felt like I had lost everything back then.

I tell you all of this, because I want you to know who I am. I should be the woman hater. I should have every reason to want to disregard them as people and "plate" them as people here like to say, but instead of continuing to get angry, I looked inward. I moved to Denton, TX, a creative city and started over. As I have said, I had always loved music. I told people when I first got separated that I wanted to do all of these really big things. I wanted to write an album and a book and a series. My step-father told me I had delusions of grandeur and needed mental help. I took it as a challenge, again I am competitive and I had gotten it back with nothing to lose. I wasn't scared of pissing people off anymore, what were they going to do, take my kids away? The worst thing had already happened to me. I started working out and working on me.

By the end of 2019 I had written a few songs and played for a group of people for the first time in my life. I had been dabbling with the guitar for 16 years and finally just decided to DO IT!

Now, as of last week we have a full 13 song album.

I also set up a News/Documentary production company as well as a separate TV series/movie production company. We have a cast of 20 people on a series and a full ten episodes written. We start our filming on Aug 16. When I first got to this town people legit scoffed at me and made fun of me behind my back about all of my "ideas". I seemed crazy to everyone, but I just stuck to my own gameplan. I am about halfway finished with a book as well, but I have been stuck for a little while. This is my 30th year of life and it is my best, so far. I am in peak physical condition and have a goal.

The real Red Pill is not focusing on other people. Others will eventually always let you down, but you can rely on yourself, whether that be for securing a "plate" or for actually improving humanity and imprinting your goodness on others. I grew up poor enough to not have had a chance. My older half-brother didn't really get one. He was in prison two times by the age of 22 and dead by the end of that year. I saw those things in my life, most people don't get that perspective, so I am trying to give it to you now. Go check my history on reddit if you want, this isn't a throwaway, I have nothing to be scared of.

Women are equally important in society and if you have a belief counter to that, then that is likely why you are single. Don't get me wrong, that doesn't mean everything about us is equal. Men are superior athletes, while women can carry children, those types of differences do exist, no matter what an SJW might say.

Don't give up, don't lose your stamina. You'll find your luck is only the residue of the work you put into something. Don't stop talking if someone tells you to stop, but also try and be respectful. No one will ever respect an angry child. If someone disrespects you then make sure they don't make the same mistake twice. You have immovable boundaries, things that aren't compromising. You can have soft lines in the sand on some things, but be ready to die on your shield for an important cause. Don't give up your hopes and dreams, guys.

P.S.

I am back with the woman I met before getting to Korea. She and I were friends for an entire year and she was going through a separation. I was actually in a relationship also and we were friends initially, but in the last six months we have gotten serious..

Edit: Couple of grammar issues.


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Title I have learned a lot in my life and I want to share.
Author gallemore
Upvotes 726
Comments 176
Date 07 August 2020 06:39 PM UTC (3 months ago)
Subreddit TheRedPill
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/722715
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/i5je2a/i_have_learned_a_lot_in_my_life_and_i_want_to/
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[–]TRPCops[M] [score hidden] stickied comment (12 children) | Copy

Let's be crystal clear: you have taken a purple pilled stance. However, your contributions and effort taken to write and share a perspective that resonates with the community are noted. As a result, I am not inclined to remove it.

But, audience keep in mind, taking all this advice directly will leave you with....the outcomes in the last paragraph.

More mod input incoming.

[–]SteveLorde346 points347 points  (27 children) | Copy

Sometimes it's not about being a 250lb chiseled six pack monster that fucks married women 24/7... It's about returning back to your senses and saving yourself from doom. THAT is the biggest redpill.

The core of your story (for people who didn't fucking understand), is being raised as a wimpy kid in a dipshit disfunctional society and being surrounded by blue pill men and women (even mother).

You may look extremely mediocre and boring to some, but the most amazing thing is that you finally understood yourself and most importantly THE WORLD AROUND YOU that doesn't give a singular fuck about men or children in need (lord have mercy on the things we do to our children, if there is any lord.)

[–]gallemore[S] 115 points116 points  (26 children) | Copy

Thank you for understanding it. That's exactly how I feel now and a lot of people think I'm a dick for it. I am always respectful to people, but I'm not allowed to have too much testosterone.

[–]Longgbottom87 points88 points  (22 children) | Copy

Your RP example is right on point mate. These are the examples we need. Chad Thundercock is cool but this post epitomizes the unyielding will of the masculine nature and highlights real world male problems. You've had your struggles, I wish you well!

[–]gallemore[S] 28 points29 points  (21 children) | Copy

Yeah, I don't think I even had it THAT bad. I am still a decently attractive guy and have some brains. I think that is some type of advantage, so this isn't about me whining. I just want people to be able to see what I am attempting to do and go for whatever it is that they want. I wasted about 10 years of my life on women, instead of focusing on me.

[–]Keith_Valentine-4 points-3 points  (20 children) | Copy

It seems like youre still doing so, pursuing love with a new woman and telling yourself this time will be diff. I hope it is for your sake. Gl though, scrappy

[–]gallemore[S] 11 points12 points  (19 children) | Copy

It isn't just about love. I loved each of the women I was with. If that is what you got from everything then you missed the point.

[–]shawndamanyay3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Heck yes you are allowed to have testosterone. If they don't like it, ask them to fight.

[–]verumvelfalsum6 points7 points  (1 child) | Copy

but I'm not allowed to have too much testosterone

The reason this is the case in our society is because of people like you always white knighting with retarded ideas like

Women are equally important in society and if you have a belief counter to that, then that is likely why you are single.

then in a totally un-self-aware manner follow it up with the doublespeak

Don't get me wrong, that doesn't mean everything about us is equal. Men are superior athletes, while women can carry children, those types of differences do exist

falsely implying there are enough superior traits in women to equalize them with men. The only traits women possess superior to men are bearing children, fine motor skills, and emotional manipulation.

You spew your pathetic moralization, violating rule 2 of this sub, all over this post along with your lack of understanding the nature of women, justified solely by your current emotional contentment and fledgling grasp of an (admittedly genuine) amount of self-worth and accomplishment.

It is obvious you are a purple pill cuck in disguise using this as a platform for emotional expression and validation, fully convinced of your truthful righteousness just because you have taken some effective steps to fix disastrous, bumbling mistakes in your life (which I do not detract from at all).

[–]apismellifera_x1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

'The only traits women possess superior to men are bearing children, fine motor skills, and emotional manipulation.'

I love your confidence there, but unfortunately you are wrong. There are skilled women in many areas, even traditionally 'male' fields. For example, in 2019 one of the three winners of the Nobel Memorial Prize for Economic Science was Esther Duflo, a 47 year old woman. This sub is full of men who probably don't give a shit about that, because she's not 'pretty enough' for you (let's not even start on the ageism). But you won't ever be as smart as her.

[–]TheRedPillRipper47 points48 points  (3 children) | Copy

First thank you for your candid post. It takes a special man to bare low his soul for his brothers to rise up upon. Male Positivity such as your insights help to build men up. Beneficial not just to TRP but society as a whole. Some insights;

I just stuck to my own gameplan

This is one of the biggest takeaways: It's on you to make it happen. Embrace the grind.

You have immovable boundaries

As in your post we often accept the unacceptable. Strength of boundaries is crucial to Resilience. A foundation of Frame.

Don't give up

Taking breaks is necessary but giving up; is not an option. Often we feel down, or subject ourselves to emotions that can get the better of us. Stoicism and cultivating an optimistic mindset can help navigate the darkness.

I looked inwards

Self Awareness is ALWAYS the first step. Acknowledge the problem; critically; then address it. Personally it's my favourite part of growth.

delusions of grandeur

My retort whenever confronted with this; "I prefer it to delusions of mediocrity."

who taught me to be a man

Here lies the biggest insight; it's NOT who teaches us to be a man. It's how open we are; how willing we are to learn to become one. It's obvious you didn't have the best role models along your path. You however were willing to change. To grow and facilitate your own path to manhood. Conversely I come from a family and culture still strong in the rights of the passage of men. I had numerous guides and influences that facilitated my growth. Yet initially I railed against it. Unwilling to learn and initially wanting to follow my own path. I was wrong. You can have all the of best men willing to lift you up, or none at all; it won't matter. Unless you're willing to take that next step.

Godspeed and good luck!

[–]gallemore[S] 13 points14 points  (1 child) | Copy

Damn, you are an awesome person. I can already sense that. You should keep using your voice and writing ability to help other downtrodden men as well. It's great to have people from different backgrounds all come to the same conclusion. It makes me feel less crazy. I'm not a misogynist, I respect women, but I respect myself first.

[–]TheRedPillRipper13 points14 points  (0 children) | Copy

"If I have seen further it is by standing on the shoulders of Giants." - Sir Isaac Newton

Never forget; you sir; are a giant.

Godspeed and good luck!

[–]Balderdash797 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

delusions of grandeur 

My retort whenever confronted with this; "I prefer it to delusions of mediocrity."

I am stealing that one.

[–][deleted]  (2 children) | Copy

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[–]gallemore[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children) | Copy

I struggle with my mind every day. I don't want to be "that" guy, but I am fairly intelligent. I overthink things way too often and it creates some anxiety. I feel like I have a lot that needs to get done in a short amount of time. It is why I am stoking so many fires.

Also, thanks for reading. I literally wrote something to the same effect earlier about how women lift each other up, but men consider themselves an island.

I'll quote John Donne " No man is an island entire of itself; every man is a piece of the continent, a part of the main; if a clod be washed away by the sea, Europe is the less, as well as if a promontory were, as well as any manner of thy friends or of thine own were; any man's death diminishes me, because I am involved in mankind. And therefore never send to know for whom the bell tolls; it tolls for thee. "

[–]shawndamanyay0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I agree with the premise, but disagree on some points. He has sons. If he can he should lift them up as men. You can't think "I only live for me". Also lift up other young men if you can. Speak into their lives.

[–]conkfu63 points64 points  (2 children) | Copy

Good for you brother, Once a man figures out that he can fix his suffering within, his external will show the results.

[–]gallemore[S] 74 points75 points  (1 child) | Copy

That kind of reminds me of this quote by Socrates,

“No man has the right to be an amateur in the matter of physical training. It is a shame for a man to grow old without seeing the beauty and strength of which his body is capable.”

I think this applies to so many things, not just physical fitness. I think we should be sharpening our minds as well.

[–]odaklanan_insan8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

I saw this quote a hundred times but I'm still upvoting. It should be written in everyones' heads like it's written on a stone tablet.

[–]QuarantineEarbud28 points29 points  (5 children) | Copy

Thanks for sharing your story. Wish you the best for the future. Try not to lose connection with your kids in Korea.

[–]gallemore[S] 16 points17 points  (4 children) | Copy

I will always try to reach out to them. I email their Mom often, but she doesn't reply. I am hoping to be able to find them when I fly out there sometime in the next year.

[–]acoltismypassport12 points13 points  (3 children) | Copy

Your story was a rollercoaster man. As someone who has dated quite a few Korean women, including the longest relationship of my life, I feel a connection to the country even now. I cannot imagine having two little boys and their mother ghosting me into non-existence. How do you feel about that?

[–]gallemore[S] 13 points14 points  (2 children) | Copy

It sucks, but my kids will learn the truth. She has damaged them in an irreparable way now. My goal is to soften whatever damage that has occurred due to her selfish actions.

[–]VOICE_OF_OBLIVION5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

Can't believe the bitch tried to abort them with cigarettes and shit what a fucker

[–]zUltimateRedditor2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

The life of a Hapa, based on what I read on the internet.

[–][deleted] 47 points48 points  (17 children) | Copy

TRP is simply an introduction to the true nature of intergender relationships.

Misogynists do frequent the community, but the archetypal redpill man doesn't harbor hate for women.

TRP is about stoically letting the cards fall where they may.

I'm glad your triumph over hardship brought you here.

[–]gallemore[S] 15 points16 points  (3 children) | Copy

I have no shame in being a part of this community. I want to help young guys figure out what avenues are available to them. I didn't get much guidance, I can at least pass on what I have learned.

[–][deleted] 18 points19 points  (2 children) | Copy

This community is precious.

Because of it, men who have had 0 masculine influence in their lives can get pragmatic wisdom from people decades their senior.

[–]gallemore[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yeah, I was around at the inception of this thing. I was the young guy reading all this shit at one point, although maybe not on a sub like this. I was getting it from some random forum. I am glad that there is a place, even if we are quarantined, that we can share our experience without being judged.

[–]NightTerror62 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Precisely. I don’t think I would have ever gotten out of the fog if it weren’t for the internet and this community.

[–]rptastic4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

I *love* women.

But...I have an understanding of their nature. If I leave a steak on the floor and my dog eats it, I'm not mad at my dog, nor the steak.

If you don't expect a woman to be your Tinkerbell Fairy Princess, your Manic Pixie Dreamgirl, or your mom, you won't be disappointed. That's where the problems start; bloopers idolizing and pedestalizing women. They can't live up to it (nobody could) and they'll resent you for putting them in that position.

If you understand them for the animals that they (and we all) are, acting on their instincts tempered by a thin veneer of civilization, you'll have a much better time.

[–]1empatheticapathetic3 points4 points  (11 children) | Copy

What is a misogynist in your eyes?

[–][deleted] 11 points12 points  (10 children) | Copy

I don't feel like getting into an extensive debate, so I'll skip the semantics and keep it simple.

Misogynists are drawn to TRP for the same reason misandrists are drawn to any politician ostensibly pushing for female equality.

It's the closest thing to their ideology even if it's not actually their ideology.

Such people will use our banner to conceal or justify their true sentiments.

[–]NightTerror67 points8 points  (2 children) | Copy

I would hope TRP ideas help those people let go of their resentment for women. When you start understanding what drives women to do what they do, you lose justification to hate them.

[–]gallemore[S] 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

I went through and read all of your responses and I bet you're a pretty good person.

[–]NightTerror62 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Lol. Thanks. I try to be, at least.

[–]1empatheticapathetic4 points5 points  (6 children) | Copy

I still don’t know what a misogynist is to you.

[–][deleted] 11 points12 points  (2 children) | Copy

Isn't that a type of sandwich???

[–]Balderdash790 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Isn't that a type of sandwich???

Probably a foot long hot dog.

[–]1empatheticapathetic-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

Ok bro.

[–]circedgirlsareclean0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

He did build a very good strawman, though. Most people equate accepting genuine differences between genders that do not favour the feminist narrative to misogyny. I am therefore not inclined write off people that are labelled as such.

[–]1empatheticapathetic0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Can’t believe this discussion is happening on TRP. Why are there people here who are throwing around terms like misogyny. They’re not interested what this place is about.

[–]verumvelfalsum-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

Why are there people here who are throwing around terms like misogyny

My guess is a massive influx of purple pill cucks who are unaware useful idiots used to push the Overton Window continuously left.

[–]DerekMorganBAU41 points42 points  (26 children) | Copy

Not bad we all have our struggles but you mention being a bitch and a wimp but had an n count of 15 still.

Some dudes here can't even do that. So imagine going through everything you did, while knowing you can't get ANY pussy, affection, hug, kiss, nuthin.

Just sayin some dude is gonna read that and just stop and bring it up like most niggas here do.

It's like rich people complaining about mental illness. It's like imagine being broke on top of that.

Still I can relate a bit. Though my lessons in the hood was to always look out for myself and bitches ain't shit. Marriage was never on the table for me, even when I was 10 I just wanted to fuck hoes and get money. I just need money now.

[–]gallemore[S] 28 points29 points  (25 children) | Copy

The number doesn't matter. If you can find one good person that you want to be with, then you are lucky. I feel for those guys who can't find anyone and I want to help them the most, because usually they are their own worst enemies. I had so many friends like that in school. I am studying psychology to hopefully help young men later on.

[–]DerekMorganBAU12 points13 points  (3 children) | Copy

I ain't know niggas struggled gettin pussy until I was in the military. Where it was a free for all for some but not everyone. I was like damn niggas is really helpless....

Then later on I stumbled upon this shit and I was like I gottw help these niggas man. Like my homies always put me on game it's just what you do. I think it's overcomplicated in they minds so they can't let it flow. They'll catch on though

[–]gallemore[S] 3 points4 points  (2 children) | Copy

Yeah, it really is just people overthinking it. Rely on no one, but realize that you are not an island. If someone bad happens to you then roll with the punches as best you can.

[–]babybopp-2 points-1 points  (1 child) | Copy

Dude... your story is nice but even though you seem to have learnt a lesson or two, you are forgetting the basics.... Especially two major points...

  • AWALT - you have learnt that all women are like that but you still seem to think that your journey is over and you have found your unicorn. You even moved to the other side of the earth and tried to see if the women there were different... they are not and so is she. Be careful, you are not special and she definitely isn’t. You seem to have settled for a post wall woman. Come back and talk to us after a couple of years

  • We’ve all been there. - your case is not special. At first reading it I thought that there was a big reveal at the end. But you have gained a lot but also lost some. You have settled ... we all have stories but we don’t sit to whine about them while our post wall female does a spell check when we are done. Please go back to the side bar and re focus.

[–]gallemore[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

I haven't settled. I'm actually doing exactly what I want and without fear of other people judging me.

[–]1empatheticapathetic-2 points-1 points  (20 children) | Copy

This is a very blue pill response and the antithesis of this sub. And of course the number matters to those who can’t even get on the ladder. You are lacking empathy for those people and what the number represents.

Ftr cheers for writing the post and glad you are doing well.

[–]NightTerror63 points4 points  (16 children) | Copy

TRP is not about sex, that’s a byproduct of it. Getting laid doesn’t necessarily mean you’re chad, OP is a clear example of this. Just depends on what kind of beta you are.

[–]1empatheticapathetic6 points7 points  (15 children) | Copy

You’re missing the point. The guy is pushing oneitis as a success method. Plates are important because everything ends and we’re all, men and women, disposable. This post doesn’t follow any redpill principles at all and the values suggested are hollow. This guy doesn’t empathise or understand anything this sub suggests and doesn’t hold up to scrutiny. He’d rather focus on the content of my character than debunk the question asked.

[–]Camjd104 points5 points  (13 children) | Copy

He's sharing a story about his upbringing, the difficulties he overcame, and his struggle to find self-worth. Whether or not he embodies every red pill sexual strategy is irrelevant because the true core of red pill is possessing an unshakable belief in oneself above all else, and that aligns with his message.

Your concern with his number of lays is blue pill, get the pussy off the pedestal.

[–]1empatheticapathetic3 points4 points  (12 children) | Copy

You’re missing the point again. He can share whatever story he wants but if the conclusion doesn’t align with the values of this sub then why is he here? Wakey wakey.

[–]Camjd102 points3 points  (11 children) | Copy

I'll ask you then, what is his conclusion in your view and how does it not align with the value of this sub.

[–]AshyLarry275 points6 points  (5 children) | Copy

You don't have to ask, it's in the story. He stresses the notion that spinning plates is pointless and then goes on to end the story about how he went back to an ex. The problem isn't the story, it's a wonderful one on his own journey and growth. That said, the concern would be if someone were to read this and interpret it as, "oh man, finally, the guy DOES get the girl in the end. He just had to spin plates and THEN it was okay to have oneitis. I did a lot of reading, and thought there was no happy ending, but finally my BP disney movie confirmation bias was given the approval I've been desperately looking for."

[–]Camjd100 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

I agree it would be troubling if someone new believed that his blue/purple pill behavior was red pill. No arguments there. That's different than calling his story "the antithesis of this sub".

[–]gallemore[S] -2 points-1 points  (1 child) | Copy

You don't know the story of what happened between me and this ex outside of what I told you. There's way more and I'm only replying, because the guy you're arguing with has it right, while you have it wrong.

[–]verumvelfalsum3 points4 points  (4 children) | Copy

In addition to the other comment, he also spews cucked, false beliefs on the nature of women and repeatedly uses leftist "debate" tactics - moralizing, virtue signaling, and concern trolling - to shame anyone who challenges him, using the "power" of attention he gained from this post.

[–]Camjd100 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Yea his replies are getting a bit obnoxious but there's still a positive message to be garnered. I'd prefer if people read his story with a disclaimer(like there now is by mods) rather than people going in labeling him a blue pill cuck. Seems more productive that way.

[–]gallemore[S] -2 points-1 points  (2 children) | Copy

I bet you don't get women at all with your attitude. It doesn't matter if you're a regular poster or a mod telling guys how to get laid, you and many others here are a fraud.

[–]shawndamanyay0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Nothing wrong with being with one woman you want to be with. Nothing wrong with being married. What's wrong is cowering to feminist principles, brainwashing, and cultural standards. A wife who is submissive and a help meet to her husband and allows him to be a the true leader of the home - and allows him to make the decisions for the home/family is great. While some men take the lead by working out and having multiples, other men take their lead by having a family that completely respects his leadership.

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[–]verumvelfalsum-1 points0 points  (1 child) | Copy

Don't be a disgusting concern troll on top of being a white knight - Rule #4

I was just going to downvote and move on

Then do so and stop being an attention-seeking cuck.

[–]gallemore[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I didn't respond to everyone. I reached out to this individual for a reason.

[–]Endorsed ContributorSKRedPill7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

You really needed to give yourself the love you needed. If you don't learn to value yourself how will you recognize that the one who deserves the best of you is the guy in the mirror?

For this particular case, I'd recommend Gay Hendricks "Learning to love yourself". I'd also recommend Adyashanti or Tolle's power of now -- that helped me after I broke out of my own toxic marriage. This is not for improving your SMV, but for you. It's dissolving deep inner pain and dysfunctional patterns.

Also it goes time and time again that all those complaints women have about their man being inadequate is really a problem of attraction and frame. If it was situational, it could be fixed the way we think. Unfortunately this dislike, and the feeling of never good enough, is almost always intrinsic, which means it is (and often only is) an attraction problem. The only thing really inadequate is she's not attracted to you, not in love with you and therefore doesn't like anything you do because she doesn't like you. It's not what you did or didn't do, it's you.

Regardless of what you do or don't, how she feels about you on the emotional spectrum is the only thing that matters to her.

You can of course change the frame by changing yourself and the kind of energy you put out, but when you do, you might have to face the truth that your relationship is really FUBAR.

Doing what she keeps saying she wants is like giving her a pleasure addiction. And like all pleasure addictions, it leaves her even more depressed than ever. The feeling of nothing and no one is good enough all the time is a tell tale sign of an addiction and an addiction is always a sign of deep unresolved intrinsic pain. The only solution then is never to live in such a fucked up frame or even try to appease or satisfy it in the first place.

[–]napsterpepper8 points9 points  (1 child) | Copy

Great post bro. Better to make those mistakes now than at 50. Do you know why she started drinking and smoking? I would have thought that living in Texas would be nice.

[–]gallemore[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

Thanks, man! She didn't want to leave Korea originally. She wasn't the type that was trying to get a visa or anything. She missed her family and she probably never loved me, because she said that multiple times. It took my Dad dying for me to wake up.

[–]CarbonBasedLifeForm65 points6 points  (2 children) | Copy

Thanks for the insight kinda glad I'm seeing stuff like this so early in life

[–]gallemore[S] 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

You're the exact type of person I hoped this post would reach. The world doesn't revolve around women. It revolves around whatever the fuck you want to do.

Edit: To clarify, make sure it is something productive and not harmful to other people.

[–]CarbonBasedLifeForm62 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

I'll take that to heart

[–]1jojojijo33321 points22 points  (0 children) | Copy

Dude I don't wanna belittle your story but you need to lurk some more.

You're actually a textbook example for TRP.

It's good to know you're healthy and alive after all that shit.

[–]SmamelessMe3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Someone with a band and two companies, all three of which depend on the court of public opinion to get survive, has nothing to fear posting on TRP?

Sounds like the cancel culture is over, lads!

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[–]dorballom097 points8 points  (4 children) | Copy

Why did you tried for second and third child in your already poor marriage?

Thanks for sharing your life.

[–]gallemore[S] 7 points8 points  (3 children) | Copy

Because I was trying to make something work that was never going to. That is kind of the whole point of this post. I just worked with what I had and I have improved upon it. Our ancestors did the same, but it could maybe manifest itself in a physical manner like a hut or going to kill an animal and dragging it back home. I line up each goal and try and accomplish them on a schedule. I think we as men need to do that. We need to create our own rules and abide by them. Have laws governing your behavior and don't let anyone cross your boundaries.

[–]TheBloodEagleX0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

Can you clarify. Are you saying you thought more children would "lock" in the relationship and force it to work out? Like the kids were a tool for making sure your wife was attached to you? If I'm reading it correctly, it's an extreme abandonment issue and "solution".

[–]gallemore[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

No, we got pregnant a few weeks into it and abortion is a huge issue there. She was wanting to do it, but was obviously worried about shame. I convinced her to keep the baby and for us to try and make it work.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

"We got pregnant"

Men can't get pregnant. Your use of this pronoun indicates you still have much to learn.

[–]beginner_6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

OK, now you got it out of your system, you should delete it and especially the images ASAP to limit the damage done. Do you want future recruiters to find this post? hell no. DO you want some crazy bitch out to hurt you to find this? hell no. And so forth. You got it out of the system, many have read it, now delete it or it will come back to bite you hard.

[–]rnt2062 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

Im really happy I found this post. I've been having terrible anxiety for the last 8 months to the point where it sent me to the hospital. I broke up with my girlfriend of 4 years and being that I'm only 19, it is still very new to me to not be in a relationship, especially with someone I thought was the one.

You've given me hope, and although this rough patch may end as soon as tomorrow or not end for years, it will end, and I will get on track. The only thing that makes me feel better lately is knowing there's people out there that have been through hell and back as well.

I know what I've got to do now, and I definitely wasn't thinking I'd receive this from a Reddit post.

I wish the best for you and your significant other. Love is what keeps the world spinning so that's all we can do, love.

[–]gallemore[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

I'm so happy this helped you. Don't quit improving yourself. You can impact others. It is a change that occurs one person at a time. That's the real red pill, not the bullshit the incels on this sub spew.

[–]dopexile2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Thanks for your service. Any chance you can leverage your ATC experience to land an airport ATC job?

Some parts of your story are earily similar to mine. I was working a job 10 hours, doing an MBA, and would come home to my wife that would dump the kids on me all nights and weekends.

The woman you are with now sounds like bad news. You weren't good enough in her eyes but then became her backup plan and she monkey branched to you. I'm not sure you learned your lesson.

[–]hashedy2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Many thanks for this perspective man. I live a fairly sugar coated hassle resistance free life and when i stumbled on this post it made me question - who the fuck i am and where am i getting with this..? As a man i think you need resistance be it mental physical whatever, otherwise you become soft pushover donkey who just exists to eat, take shit, get poisoned with degeneracy of porn, video games, drugs, lies to himself and those really close heart people still around you. Stupid meaningless life, got to work on yourself every single day to get something out of it and be aware of course of your inner and outer surroundings in the first place, thats when you get to choose to take off or keep shit as it is and be miserable.

[–]omwtosmashyogirl2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

Hey man, you've been through some shit. Glad things turned out for the better, and you're living your life to the fullest. For a while you felt like life wouldn't cut you a break, and then you realized you have to make your own future happen. Your story moved me, honestly.

My only suggestion is keep in contact with your kids as best as possible. I.e. birthday cards, presents/letters at milestones, etc. You don't have to spend a fortune, but small gestures count. Our digital age makes things a bit easier, so there is that.

If those kids decide to one day seek their father, you'll only be an IM away. Things won't be sunshine and rainbows, because of time, distance, language, culture, and human complexity, but they are your flesh and blood.

[–]gallemore[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Yeah, I'm doing a lot now to make sure they know how much I cared. Their Mom is doing everything she can to keep me from knowing them.

[–]r3art16 points17 points  (5 children) | Copy

Holy fuck... I read this whole thing for a "I am still beta and got into another relationship that will fall apart like every one before asap"-story :/.

You got pushed around by women your whole life and still the first thing you do on every occasion is get another relationship. You even define your whole life story by your relationships and the women in your life. There's not much else. It's almost like the chapters of your life are the women, not yourself. Damn.

Get a life. Or more of a life.

[–]gallemore[S] 6 points7 points  (4 children) | Copy

I am pursuing the shit that I want to do regardless of the women that are in my life. If she leaves tomorrow, I will be fine. I have hit rock bottom, I know what this is like. I wrote this to help people maybe avoid that rock bottom. Don't be a douche.

[–]r3art10 points11 points  (3 children) | Copy

What exactly have you learned? When have you stood up for yourself? When you wrote emails to the mother of your children begging to see them? Or when you kept that girl an orbiter ("friend") and got into another relationship as soon as your returned?

Your whole wording ("if she leaves me") in this reply shows that you are still the passive person in your life story. What I learn from this is just "don't ever be that guy".

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[–]r3art1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

And stop justifying yourself to strangers on the internet, too :).

[–]le_artistic_madlad6 points7 points  (3 children) | Copy

Bro, you should have blurred your face on the Imgurl posts, crazy shit has been going on these days...

[–]gallemore[S] 9 points10 points  (2 children) | Copy

I'm already all over every other social media website, I'm honestly not worried.

[–]le_artistic_madlad12 points13 points  (1 child) | Copy

just making sure you're safe

[–]gallemore[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Thank you, seriously.

[–]Tacale7 points8 points  (1 child) | Copy

Thanks for sharing.

I found your story profound.

Deeper than most of what's on trp, you've had some dark experiences in your life. But sounds like more often than not you did the best with the hand that was dealt you, and have grown and become stronger.

[–]gallemore[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

If anyone takes anything from what I have said, it is hopefully your summation.

My favorite quote is by Rashi. He said, "Receive with simplicity everything that happens to you."

I have to remind myself not to overthink these experiences. They all led me to where I am now, and I'm a different man this year than I was last. I'm completely different than the man I was ten years ago. Without the ability to remain cool it can be hard for some to adapt.

[–]4LW4YS0NG34R6 points7 points  (1 child) | Copy

Thank you very much for sharing your story with me, and thanks even more to put pictures of you, I felt I connected more to the story this way. I will for sure meditate about everything I read, and I wish you the best.

[–]gallemore[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Hey, thank you for reading. I need to try meditation at some point.

[–]throwwayhubu5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

Sorry dude, Im sure you are a nice person and I wish you well, but this post is horse shit. No further explanation required.

[–]businessJedi5 points6 points  (4 children) | Copy

Interesting write-up. Glad to hear you’re doing well now, hope your music and video productions take off. I’m curious why you think your Korean wife wanted to be with you? Normally I would say she wanted to go to america, but you said she didn’t want that and that she told you multiple times she didn’t love you, so why did she want to be with an American then?

[–]NightTerror61 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

Maybe for the resources? She carried the kids to term, she can’t just kill them or whatever and maybe she’s kind of attached to them, but she doesn’t want to work, so she needs him to provide.

[–]businessJedi1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Sure, but she could have gotten that from a Korean guy, normally if they go for the Americans it’s too go to America which she didn’t want, just seemed odd to me.

[–]gallemore[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Bingo.

[–]PoorBoysAmen2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

Awesome brotha! Glad got yourself out of the circle of negativity into a positive life and mindset. Curious if you are an open book with your current girlfriend? Did you share your entire past (or most) with her - to the extent of this post?

[–]gallemore[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yeah, she knows everything about me. She's legitimately my best friend and as I said before we even started dating we were friends again for a year. Legitimate friends. I told her I wouldn't be there for her when she got out of the relationship, because I was already with someone. That relationship failed spectacularly and hers did within days of mine failing. We said we were just gonna hook up and then we just kept hooking up. Now she helps me choose which songs to get produced next and edits my story. She's critical in the function of what I want to do. I think that is the purpose of finding a partner. Red Pill has got it backwards from the original intent. The original intent was to not make women the sole focus of your life. That is how you become miserable.

[–]dadudenines3 points4 points  (3 children) | Copy

Did you ever have to go to a psychiatrist and get checked for Borderline Personality Disorder?

The story line, drug use, volatile relationships, delusions, etc. fit fairly well with Cluster B traits in general.

But good on you focusing inward and taking accountability. Really the only way to deal with things.

[–]gallemore[S] 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

I could easily have something else. The military did the bare minimum in testing. I somehow got through my early years without dying so now I'm finally seeing the benefits of having that rough life.

[–]dadudenines1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Borderlines are known to actually be fairly high functioning in structured environments and are known to even work in the military, law, etc. Really, the problem is when they get into open ended situations (romantic relationships, stress) where things are more likely to not go their way or become unpredictable, they will inadvertently do things to exacerbate the situation. But not the forum for diagnosis for sure. Just something to consider.

[–]gallemore[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I know a lot about it. I'm studying psychology. I could likely have any of those things, but none of it ultimately matters. At the end of the day the most important thing is how you think and act.

[–]tikitheman21 points22 points  (16 children) | Copy

Maybe something useful was in here but no way I am reading through all that whine fest to get to it.

[–]StripRip22 points23 points  (5 children) | Copy

If men can't air their dirty laundry here, where else are they going to be heard?

[–]shawndamanyay0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

And why do men have dirty laundry?

[–]facestab13 points14 points  (0 children) | Copy

It's all about women and drugs.

[–]daddysash18 points19 points  (2 children) | Copy

It is worth the read you should give it a go.

[–]NightTerror6-1 points0 points  (2 children) | Copy

This thread and comment are so misguided. This guy is not bluepilled, and he’s not whining. He’s learned valuable truths that have made his life better, and he’s started valuing his goals over those of the women around him.

[–]tikitheman3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy

Yet he dug through the trash and is in a serious relationship with an ex shortly after leaving his wife.

[–]NightTerror62 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

He clearly has no problem pulling women. That relationship could have been great, but he cheated on her. So it’s not as if he’s setting himself up for another Korean wife. It’s hard to find virtue these days, so I don’t blame him. The real test is whether he breaks it off if he needs to or not.

[–]WakeUpAlreadyDude1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I can relate to some of this. While life isn’t as dramatic, the challenges of growing up without decent direction or role models is real. Keep working on yourself and remember that knowing yourself and relying on yourself is the most important thing. Thanks for sharing

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[–]shawndamanyay1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yes. Get involved in activities with men. Hunt, fish, shoot. It's not about "how much I'm laid", it's about not allowing the world around you to diminish the masculinity you were created with. And don't eat soy. (LOL) it gives you estrogen.

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[–]gallemore[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Haha, I was just doing it to hopefully make it not as boring to read.

[–]centaursg1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

The thing that impresses me the most is your resilience. Despite all the challenges, you are positive and looking towards bright future. This is mental strength that is seldom seen in folks and this is stronger than the physical strength.

In the end you found yourself. You got back to your inner self and there is no bigger victory than this. Wish you luck !

[–]gallemore[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

You made my day. Thank you very much.

[–]PFD_21 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Idk why people find this post to be so controversial, its a genuine RP post. Young man trying to be on his purpose; pussy won’t help that, in fact it might throw him off. I’m 20 years old and completely over casual sex rn due to the fact that I like sex but banging some random broad brings me no fulfillment. It hit me when I witnessed the death of multiple associates and friends and the streets and made me realize “I could be one of them tomorrow and I’m spending time spinning plates and fucking girls who don’t give a FUCK about me.” I know if a lot of these fallen brothers were still here, they probably wished they would’ve left these hoes alone and get themselves all the way together first.

[–]ChurchOfAnimeFeet1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

You are strong brother happy for you , good read

[–]InternetNull1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Thank you for your incredible share, great writing skills indeed. I must say that I am very surprised you did not take the Monk lifestyle, and even picked up yet another "serious" relationship (not doubting you, mostly doubting her).

Fool me once..

[–]RVCFever1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

One of the best posts I've read on here hands down

[–]digitalEarthling4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

This is the sound of a beta blue pill simp so delusional. Bad shit happens to everyone and they learn. Your beta blue pill mind still worships women. Gtfo

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[–]gallemore[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Responses like yours are seriously the entire reason I wrote this. Thank you so much.

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[–]gallemore[S] 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

I am perfectly adept at attracting women, I have never had that issue. I sincerely feel bad for guys that do. I am with the person that I want to be with right now. I don't have any issues saying that. These dudes in here trying to talk to me about a relationship when they likely don't have one isn't gonna just fly. I'll defend my experiences and the thing I know to be the truth.

Edit: I do agree with you on that last paragraph. I figured that out at a pretty early age, but continued for longer than I wanted to.

[–]z2a1-91 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Great story and wish you the best brother!

[–]Andgelyo1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Major props for actually stating your name, posting real life pictures, and telling your story. I just turned 30, born in 1990. I have no kids yet, and I slept with a decent amount of women. I do have a stable great relationship with a girl who would literally do anything for me. I make pretty decent money and had a great education growing up. Reading your story just makes me thankful I didn’t have to go through any of that (no offense). Even though I had a father who was borderline physical/verbally abusive, he still taught me how to be a man, and that women literally do not give a shit about you. Thanks for sharing your story OP. It’s a great example of how it’s never too late to turn things around.

[–]ryder0041 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I was excited to finally get back to American soil, my kid's Mom was not. As soon as she got here the entitlement started. She would complain about the fact that we have to drive everywhere and that there were no cities.

This is why it's bad to bring women from other countries over here. I moved to the US from Eastern Europe at age 7 because some dude brought my mom and I back and she married him. I remember how effin depressed my mom was for about 4-5 years adjusting to life in USA.......and this is SoCal we're talking about!! I could imagine how much worse it would have been had my moms husband lived in a middle of nowhere Utah, Nebraska, Wisconsin...etc.

If you want to travel overseas and get a "taste" for the local women, then fine. But just know that if you bring one back to marry or for a long term relationship, you're fighting an extreme uphill battle.

[–]1redhawkes1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Classic, doing the same thing and expecting different outcome. This is prime example of using TRP for bp goals.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I read this entire story and don't think this guy really learned anything in the end.

[–]mr4kino0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Read about parental alienation mate, and well, grab a book like the DSM, this will help you out in your life. You are moving on quite well but you need to understand the why. Which is... why you are still in the "purple pill" zone.

Also, you should be able to invoke some international law for your kids, as if they are Americans, she can't take them out of the country like that. I'm no lawyer but in all cases, keep strong and you might see them someday.

As said here, you are "purple pill" but coming from far far away. Stop the sh*ty alcohol and drugs and all that disgusting stuff. Keep it up.

[–]gallemore[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I'm studying psychology, I know what the DSM. I'm not purple-pilled. I'm a grown man that is going after everything he wants in life, it isn't centered around women. That is the real red pill. Spinning plates and all that shit will eventually just turn into you treating women like shit. Focus on your weaknesses as a man, because everyone else sees them. After that, move to whatever you want to do.

[–]rpleo0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Why do you think Air traffic controller has one of the highest suicide/ divorce rates ?

I found no research backing your statement.

[–]gallemore[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

You seriously found no research on it? You are bad at using modern day tech. All I did was type in my job and suicide and this link is at the top:

//www.cbsnews.com/amp/news/these-jobs-have-the-highest-rate-of-suicide

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[–]space1974-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

Well that's not very smart judging people by the year they were born. Would you read it if some boomer wrote it? Eh? Didn't think so.

[–]Vancopime-2 points-1 points  (0 children) | Copy

these are words from an ignormaus.

[–]Electro_Cut0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

What an inspiration. The way you speak shows how persistent you are and how good your heart is. I like that. Thank you for sharing your life story, I'll make sure to keep going back to it whenever I need strength and humility.

[–]Helpcalculus0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Not sure if even Jesus suffered this much.

[–]noobish_senpai0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Reading your story made my heart crack a little. Its crazy how you went through so much physical and emotional turmoil and still managed to turn your life around or at least start.

This is why it's the duty of redpilled men, to be aware and focus on their purpose to honor those who never found out about it and still live their mediocre lives, forever abused. It is by improving ourselves, one by one, that we can change shit for the better.

[–]xDoshyx0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Jesus christ nuke the thread lol. This shit is going to fuck you in the ass in the future atleast once. Nice story. Feels like you know a lot but don't apply very much of it.

[–]Fabulous-Craft0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I don't know how you can talk about "misinformation" while living a complete catastrophe of a life.

Stop repeating the cycle.

[–]zUltimateRedditor-1 points0 points  (3 children) | Copy

What’s up Brandon. Glad you’re doing better. Not to be racist. But I didn’t think white people suffered the way that you did.

How did you meet most of the girls you spoke with?

[–]NightTerror611 points12 points  (2 children) | Copy

Lmao. The most unprivileged thing about being white has got to be that everyone thinks you’re privileged.

[–]zUltimateRedditor2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

I was thinking about this story this morning. Like literally just know. The resilience of the make spirit. It’s a cool thing to think about.

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[–]gallemore[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy

If you don't want to read it, then it's not for you to read.

[–]NightTerror6-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

Thanks for dropping the red pill on plates. This sub focuses a little too much on game and getting women instead of the core concepts that lead to sexual success.

[–]zhadyx-1 points0 points  (2 children) | Copy

I’m glad you were able to find the woman you loved in the end. Hopefully she’s supportive, caring, and brings out the best version of you - no matter how bluepilled that sounds.

[–]gallemore[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

She does I think and I wouldn't accept anything less at this point.

[–]shawndamanyay0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

HE needs to bring out the best version of him.



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