Its lonely after taking the pill., Am I doing something wrong?

PurpleSweetz · 2019-01-02T18:22:59+00:00

It gets lonely at the top, brother.

IceColdHell · 2019-01-02T19:52:38+00:00

You were born alone, and you’ll die alone. The world will move on with or without you. You are not a special snowflake.

Realize that even the bond between you and your closest peers is based on mutual transactions. You are technically always alone, in your glory and in your struggle, others are just in for the ride, and rarely if ever contribute to anything.

Part of being redpill aware is to adapt to loneliness. You get no pats on the back for “doing the right thing” and taking a single mum under your wing, and like others mentioned it’s lonely at the top.

80% of people are bluepilled and will join forces to defend the feminine imperative, if you’re unplugged, you’re basically fighting against the whole world. How do you expect anyone to be by your side?

trpboy123 · 2019-01-02T17:11:41+00:00

Well congrats on your run man!

Sometimes in life, shit goes south. I think you are at that phase now. When you come to this realisation - stop giving a fuck about what's happening and let the phase run about till it ends. It's hard. It's fucking to do this.

What I would do now is self improvement. Hit the gym more. Go out more. Approach women more. Find good friends. Enjoy life.

Good luck mate!

Bigblackbuck73 · 2019-01-02T21:28:22+00:00

You were always alone, the fog is just lifted now.

Read, Learn, Lift. Never stop.

como10 · 2019-01-02T20:27:48+00:00

When I was a BP marrying my 3kids-singlemom-secretary there were 100s of people congratulating me and making me feel great for love and sacrifice. There were 100s for telling me how awesome of a man I was though I had a beer belly that looked like an obese old woman's nippleless tits.

You used to derive pleasure from receiving validation from others. Deep down, you still do. Once you let it go, you won't feel as lonely. An alpha man get satisfaction from completing the task. A beta man and most women get satisfaction from other people acknowledging that they completed the task. Other people are dictating their mental state. See the difference?

People will start to pick up on your improvements. Women will check you out that wouldn't have glanced at you before. Take advantage of these opportunities. And going back to the "friends" that would congratulate you on accomplishments, if those 100s of people aren't in your life anymore, it's for a reason. They were never that great of friends to begin with. Find some better friends. Surround yourself with people the new you wants to be around.

Good luck and congrats on your accomplishments. Don't stop improving.

94redstealth · 2019-01-02T19:42:21+00:00

so much good advice in a few short post. It takes time brother. People don't like to see you succeed. They congratulated you for helping someone else succeed. Once you acclimate to the new environment, people will subconsciously notice and then start seeking you out.

Congrats on the run. Keep up the hard work.

vandaalen · 2019-01-02T17:17:31+00:00

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ThinSpiritual · 2019-01-03T01:58:48+00:00

I just started reading The Way of the Superior Man, it's honestly mindset changing and a lot more positive than books like The Rational Male (perhaps due to it's more spiritual approach).

The book talked about the concept of embracing your fears, because your fear is your sharpest definition of self. The feeling you got upon completing the race, is a reflection of you being on your edge... embrace that because only those who lean over it can experience real transformation. "Relax into fearless."

The author talked about peeling through layers of ourselves to get to our deepest quest in life. This 10k run is one of those layers for you, upon completing it you probably feel lost and meaningless, it is actually a sign of growth because you've already conquered this mission, time to move on to the next and take your time to let that calling come to you.

I feel lonely too, because we are all unlearning and unfucking ourselves. And in this process we are out of rapport with our previous relationships. Men are made in pain, poverty, and challenges. Steel sharpens steels. Embrace it!!

AscensionExperiments · 2019-01-03T02:19:38+00:00

In the context of self-improvement;

You're climbing up a mountain top. You start with hundreds of people to your left, and to your right. Everyone thinks they are going to make it. Leaving the parking lot, and peering at the road ahead-

it is cold and steep and slippery. Some people look at the trail and turn back already. Grim-faced, having seen what the journey will look like, the remainder presses forward.

The ones who are ill-prepared mentally and physically don't last for long. They trudge up for a while, then fall over, short of breath. The remainder presses forward.

The ones who were mentally and physically prepared, but ill-equipped begin to pull off to the side, as the air is getting colder and the path is getting more dangerous. The few who remain press on.

Some of the nice views that they were promised begin to show- being so high up already, and having a nice hint of reward, almost all pull off to the side and call it good enough. You press on, alone.

And as you are getting closer to the peak, you pass over the shades of the people you once looked up to. They had made it so far- but now even your heroes remain, and you press on.

What is at the peak of the mountain depends on which mountain you were climbing- I can't see its rewards for you. You're gonna have to go the hard, lonely trip yourself and see.

deltron80 · 2019-01-03T02:12:50+00:00

Same as with the Matrix, it's not necessarily better in the real world. It's harder, and can be more lonely. Some wish they could go back, but once you've taken the pill, it's too late. It's a downer to realize women can't love men, but personally I'd rather know than not.

haraishi · 2019-01-02T17:25:49+00:00

Well done on the run mate, its just a transitioning phase. Out with the old friends/supporters in with the new. Im sure there were other people at the run that would love to talk about their experience plan the next one etc. Get more hobbies, challenge yourself more and socialize my dude! Life is just beggining.

As for everybody supporting you by "doing the right thing" yeah, how well did that work out for you? Are those same people helping you now? If not, they were never there for you in the first place and just wanted to drag you dow to the same hell they were/are in.

Doing the right thing IS hard. Now tell me what was easier, marrying the garbage with your beer gut wrinkle nipple or living life as the best version of yourself and on your own terms?....

VasiliyZaitzev · 2019-01-02T22:35:46+00:00

She told me that she gave the cat to a animal shelter few months ago.

That's a pity. Just shows you can't trust bitches.

I felt lonely. I tell you its a kinda painful feeling. I didnt feel so much pain even when I lost half my shit.

I'd feel worse about the pet than anything. Once you get in shame and stop being a "feels sorry for himself" pity-party throwing faggot, you'll be fine.

TheBunk_TB · 2019-01-02T19:17:57+00:00

You just do when its only you. (Plenty of us are doing it "alone" in our local areas).

RedHoodhandles · 2019-01-02T21:49:24+00:00

There were nobody to congratulate me. Not my friends, not my loved ones, not my pubbuds. Hell, I am not sure if anyone even knows that I participated.

Well did you tell anybody? If yes and nobody came or cared this means that you've neglected your friends for a long time because you build your life around a woman. Now she's gone and this is the lonely price you have to pay now.

Wakawakaheihei · 2019-01-02T23:23:08+00:00

The subtle art of not giving a fuck. Read it. Then join clubs and try hobbies. Make friends there, be active in what people are doing there.

GucciGabz · 2019-01-03T00:05:14+00:00

Go to the gym, lift, this will improve your confidence without you trying to fake it. Remember you are not tied to that woman or her children which are not even yours, so don't feel bad if you don't give them shit they want and don't feel sad for achieving something and no one was there to see you, trust me you will feel better with yourself when you don't give a fuck about people's validation but only yours.

The RP life is a "lonely" one, you will always see the errors or BP conditioning of those around you but remember, we are always here for you.

INNASKILLZ2K18 · 2019-01-03T01:02:55+00:00

Maybe you're in a period of self reflection. Maybe some grief. We don't have to be lonely, though. Part of the pill, is finding g those people we really can count on. They do exist. Continue to do things you love, and don't close off of others.

knuglets · 2019-01-03T03:22:13+00:00

The truth is that you are the only one in control of your own actions and emotions. Before you swallowed the red pill, you probably relied on other people for external validation and would likely accept it with the mindset that "well everyone says I'm doing the right thing so I must be doing good"

The red pill teaches you the contrary and encourages you to seek internal validation. The transition to internal validation from external validation can be difficult. Nobody is there to congratulate you, and if they do, you probably barely notice. But the positive side is that you and you alone are in control of your emotions.

External validation is exchanging short term positive stimulation for negativity in the long run (which I'm sure is one of the reasons why you pursued TRP in the first place). Internal validation is giving up short term stimulation for long term happiness and success. So, congrats on that man. And for finishing that race. But I'm sure the fact that you finished it means more to you than any amount of words anyone could ever say to you.

[deleted] · 2019-01-02T22:43:09+00:00

The path to truth and virtue is a lonely one.

Quigon-Jin · 2019-01-03T01:09:15+00:00

It is a lonely life, but it also means you don't have all of the weight to hold you down. You'll make friends who want to run, and lift, and push themselves like you if you keep hanging around those types of people

Auvergnat · 2019-01-03T04:07:01+00:00

It has nothing to do with you taking the red pill. People will let their presence know when they can benefit in some way from you. When you were married you had a social circle, now you have none, or a smaller one, for now. That’s all. That social circle felt good for you following the script and were perhaps grateful for you doing it. But who gets to benefot when you win a race? None. Win the lottery though, and you’ll see how quick the social circle finds you.

johncillo · 2019-01-03T07:56:02+00:00

It’s kinda sad, but look at it this way: Living as a blue pilled man, you received praise. That same people who “admired” you, is not present after your fall. Being blue pilled still made you fall. Do you prefer to grow in the same illusion receiving those fake “congratulations” for adhering to the system? Or do you prefer a “yeah, we did it!” from yourself. Now that you can see with your red pill eyes, confuses you because you are getting out of the system. You are not alone brother, you have you and you have us as well. Every rightful king should build his empire from the ashes.

Coffeebob2 · 2019-01-03T06:16:54+00:00

Yeah because you are alone make some friends it’s not hard, ffs.

vajav · 2019-01-03T07:15:15+00:00

How old are you?

ainihon · 2019-01-03T07:38:18+00:00

You don’t need people who just leave you man. Just a small circle you can trust. Love but never need.

Sorry about what you’ve been through. Investing in yourself is one of the loneliest time. It’s only when you’re someone to look at and gaze upon that the roaches fester in front of you saying you’ve been friends all along.

erthian · 2019-01-03T12:33:19+00:00

There’s a question you have to ask when you want to gain success.

What are you willing to give up?

For me, it was friends. Everyone I knew was toxic. It’s lonely as hell. Sometimes I lose my way.

But you know what? I’ve been doing this for years, and it’s gotten better. I made better friends. I figured out so many things. The success comes.

What’s the alternative? A lifetime of failure and familiar people who drag you down? No thanks. I’d rather try my best and die alone.

You can’t keep doing what you’ve always done, or you’ll get what you’ve always got. There’s just no way around that.

Deoxyribau5 · 2019-01-03T13:39:34+00:00

Congrats on your run bro! We’re proud of you.

ReasonablyGoodMexica · 2019-01-03T16:04:12+00:00

Wow, how much she hated you to take even the cat. There is lack of attraction an then there is outright malice.

I'm in a similar spot, we just didn't have enough shit for mine to attempt to screw me. She at least left the cat, but I noticed a couple of things here and there that were setup to piss me before she left.

I believe that the lack of attraction breeds resentment in them while in a relationship. Best explanation that comes to mind.

Also, get a pet. Furry friends are a great help for those feelings of loneliness, just don't go crazy. Dogs can love you unconditionally, cats not so much. They do love you to a degree, or at least they do when you feed them bacon.

Title	Its lonely after taking the pill., Am I doing something wrong?
Author	throwawayandwalkaway
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Date	January 2, 2019 5:07 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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