Hey, so i'm familiar with the term "Alpha Fucks, Beta Bucks" and i noticed that my family was similar to the structure of that situation. I will elaborate about my childhood below. So this may be long.
So, growing up, my mom was what you'd call a "wild child" in her teenage years. She had multiple boyfriends, even tried running off with them at one point. And as a 16 year old, she dated a man that was about 10 years older then her. But, her older boyfriend had gone to prison. He was a real piece of work, spending his life in and out of jails for theft and assault, didn't even finish high school. And after a couple years, she hooked up with my father and had me. Yeah, dad told me it was his first time, he met my mom the same day it happened. My dad was kind of a nerd. Straight A college boy with a good job.
Growing up, i always felt my parents were an odd couple. They never showed any affection to each other. She never hugged or kissed him or anything. There was practically no physical contact between the 2. He bought her cars, clothes and even a house. But she never wanted to move in together. They were like strangers. Mom only spent time with me and my sister. Her and dad never went on dates or anything.
In fact, i don't think they were ever "intimate" together. I mean, i practically slept in the same bed as them up until i was about 5 or 6. Except when dad practically would force me to spend a night with Grandma. I mean, she did get pregnant with my sister when i was about 5, so they had to.
But really, i just feel she didn't love him.
Anyway, after a few years, when i was about 11, her older boyfriend came back. She never gave my dad so much as a Dear John letter. He just showed up one day and she started seeing her older boyfriend again. She split up from dad and he was forced to pay her child support. He always complained about all the money he spent on her. That was the only time i ever saw her talk to him was to ask for money or to buy cigarettes for her or anything
But, with this older guy, mom was completely different. She always was with him. They were much more physically affectionate, i could tell she cared more about him. She took the time to see him. She even had 2 kids with him, only a year apart.
I mean, this guy was verbally abusive, accussed her of cheating for anything, but she kept going back.
I mean, she gave up my educated dad with a stable, rising career for an unemployed convict with not so much as a high school diploma.
So, that is my childhood and my parents. I think that my family could be a good example for Alpha Fucks, Beta Bucks. What do you think?