Complete loss of Interest

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January 4, 2019
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Girl follows me on Insta, I add girl on Snapchat, she messages me instantly asking for a streak.

She posts on her streaks a GnR shirt, we have a flirty convo about and we hit it off.

Two days pass and I set up a date with her.

Turns out she was actually busy playing a Christmas concert.

A week later I message her, she is all flirty, she sends me nudes out of the blue and we set up another date.

She flakes again so i 'k' her.

For 4 weeks she responded within 10 minutes to all my messages. Now, 2 weeks later she doesn't even open my streaks, it's like she's completely lost interest in me. 100 to 0.

Possible explanations?


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Title Complete loss of Interest
Author Thrawy128
Upvotes 63
Comments 71
Date 04 January 2019 01:47 AM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit askTRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/72474
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/acd0uv/complete_loss_of_interest/
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[–]AshyLarry2796 points97 points  (2 children) | Copy

She just wanted attention and validation. Trying to hit on girls online who you have never met in person is challenging. They primarily use it for validation and attention. That's typically it. If she plays this kind of game with you, that's all it is.

[–]Thisismybot84 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

I need to hear this daily. Most women are a complete waste of time and resources.

[–]AshyLarry272 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

You're looking at it wrong. My response was specifically based off the fact he is hitting on girls online. Those chicks can't help themselves. How is she supposed to feel some type of connection or anything from you through an online app and some text messages.

[–]Senior EndorsedVasiliyZaitzev77 points78 points  (6 children) | Copy

Girls are retarded.

That said, you need to think HORIZONTALLY and not VERTICALLY. You should be gaming multiple girls, and plating multiple girls, not doubling down over and over on a flake.

[–]Kpwn8853 points54 points  (2 children) | Copy

you need to think HORIZONTALLY and not VERTICALLY fish with a net, not a pole.

[–]ArnoldBateman8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

“Fish with a net instead of a pole,” needs to be included in the sidebar somewhere.

[–]mega_kook8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yes! Maximize results

[–]BusterVadge2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Hell yeah. Take what works and scale out. Build a city rather than a tower.

[–]Thisismybot82 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

This is the key. If you already have an LTR, a couple other plates, a good job, hit the gym, and manage your time right, there's literally no way you can lose. Take it as a hobby.

[–]I_love_you_broskis1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Go MGTOW. Hump and dump

[–]cimsoc138 points139 points  (5 children) | Copy

She met someone else. Forget her and move on.

[–][deleted] 54 points55 points  (4 children) | Copy

She hasn’t met “someone else”, she is practicing hypergamy and constantly picking the best offer. Obviously there is always going to be a better offer (there’s 3.5 billion other men out there). This is a game no one can win in game theory besides her. Hard next and don’t waste your valuable time & energy.

[–]desistrategist34 points35 points  (1 child) | Copy

She met "many" else.

[–][deleted] 22 points23 points  (0 children) | Copy

She met “constantly wanting a better offer” else.

[–]Thisismybot86 points7 points  (1 child) | Copy

The beautiful thing is she'll never be satisfied. She'll always be looking for the next best guy. By the time she realizes she needs to stop being a complete slut, it'll be too late.

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Exactly, nobody wins in that game. The man she picks will be disposed of for the next. It’s best to avoid these games as there is no dominant strategy.

[–]ggggggggee44 points45 points  (5 children) | Copy

Texting, in all forms whether Instagram dms or Snapchat SHOULD BE LOGISTICS ONLY! Anything more is just FREE VALIDATION for the chick.

[–][deleted] 21 points22 points  (3 children) | Copy

This is true, but from personal experience I have gotten laid from texting more than just logistics. There’s a lot of gray area in this topic. Obviously always try and stick to logistics, but there is a time and place for small talk.

[–]Thisismybot81 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

At least initially but then you need to calm it down and set up the meet up. I say meet up and not date cause there's girls out there that will literally meet to fuck.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

True. If you’ve met the girl on tinder obviously you’re going to need to discuss more than logistics to make her comfortable with you and prove your dominance and pass shit tests. However, if you meet the girl IRL and she has already seen your SMV you can leave texting to pure logistics. Just depends on the situation in my experience. I have practiced pure logistics on tinder immediately after matching and I have had minimal luck doing it. Very difficult to prove SMV that quickly. Would even be tough for a Chad.

[–]fds_14 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Thank you. Fuck me, have any of you even read the Rational Male? Get off the fucking internet and go talk to girls...

[–]Drakonlord28 points29 points  (1 child) | Copy

explanation: She's not that into you.

[–][deleted] 9 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy

She’s only into herself. Classic selfish hypergamy. Can’t really blame her for the hypergamy, but I do blame her for playing games with OP

[–]prrraveen10 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy

Attraction fades. Attraction is all about urgency and tension. Four weeks later she is familiar about you, she knows she can get you. That kills the tension.

Don't reach her(soft next, no contact from your end). Let her reach you. If she text you back, invite her to your place, skip all the dating, taking her out etc. If she is down to fuck, she will come to your place. If not you didn't waste time and energy. You win both ways.

[–]Psychological_Radish8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

She's not that into you.

[–]GiraffeOnWheels4 points5 points  (13 children) | Copy

Holy shit you’re texting some girl you’ve never met everyday for over a month? I don’t think I could do that if I tried.

[–]Thrawy128[S] -1 points0 points  (12 children) | Copy

I never said I messaged her everyday.

I had about 5 conversations, stop making assumptions.

[–]GiraffeOnWheels3 points4 points  (11 children) | Copy

I guess I’m just old then. I only know about the Snapchat streaks.

[–]Thrawy128[S] -2 points-1 points  (10 children) | Copy

Yeah, once a day I send a snap to about 20 people saying "Streaks" and they do the same in return. Sometimes they reply, sometimes they don't.

[–]GiraffeOnWheels3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Oh alright. Yup, I’m old.

[–]i_forget_my_userids1 point2 points  (8 children) | Copy

That's pretty dumb

[–]Thrawy128[S] -1 points0 points  (7 children) | Copy

It's dumb for your friends to send you pics of what they're doing that day and for you to start a conversation off of that whether it's on Snapchat or in real life?

[–]i_forget_my_userids2 points3 points  (6 children) | Copy

For the sake of maintaining a streak? Yeah that's dumb.

[–]Thrawy128[S] -2 points-1 points  (5 children) | Copy

Nobody cares about the number. Send one snap - that literally takes no effort - a day to start a few different conversations.

[–]i_forget_my_userids4 points5 points  (4 children) | Copy

Sounds like a waste of time and energy. You don't have 100 "friends", much less "hundreds." Focus on people who matter.

[–]dream-hunter 1 points [recovered]  (1 child) | Copy

Kinda disagree here. I don’t use any social media other than Snapchat and I have streak with like 80 people, 95% of them being girls that I flirt with. We send each other hearts, and when I’m in bed with my plate and view some of my snaps, almost all of them are pictures with a drawn heart = instant social proof.

It takes me only 3 mins every day to hold up my streaks. When I’m stressed after a hard day, I end it by texting some of my girls on Snapchat and literally feel better (my text game is strong, so it always ends in her liking me a lot). Sure I want to meet most of them, but I’m fine the way I currently am, and I know that most of them will flake if asked to meet, which I don’t really care about.

[–]sagogakro-1 points0 points  (1 child) | Copy

Read above. He said it is minimal effort, and only does it with 20ish people, dunno why you suggested "hundreds". Try removing that stick from your butt

[–]Kpwn8811 points12 points  (5 children) | Copy

she messages me instantly asking for a streak.

"Sure, I'll go streaking with you but I don't think you have the guts"

[–]geo_gan8 points9 points  (2 children) | Copy

You can instantly tell the age range of her/him as soon as this snapchat bullshit is mentioned. Totally alien to us older guys.

[–]cojohnso7 points8 points  (1 child) | Copy

Yeah, wtf is a “streak?”

[–]geo_gan3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

I know that. But if I told you, you’d just realise how fucking crazy the millennial/snapchat circus is. It is total bullshit.

[–]warthundersfw2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

I just looked it up and it’s gay af. No way digital orbiting will do anything but friendzone you.

[–]Kpwn882 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

To me, streaking means running down the street naked and drunk.

[–]AnitaSnarkeysian3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

wtf is a streak? Is that what you call an instagram story?

[–]TRP VanguardWhisper4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Wrong question.

Who cares? On to the next one.

[–]goathunter054 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Only one way to deal with this and that is to sell her nudes to her Instagram followers

[–]A_solo_tripper2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

"I lost my phone!" HAHAHAHA

[–]jackandjill221 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yep.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Outcome independence, then you won’t care

[–]Ghostilluminati1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

The hardest part that we must accept is that there are no rational answers. Perhaps are looking for an answer to chaos? Doing so will only breed further questions and uncertainty.

One thing one will learn over time is that to counteract this chaos you must simply learn to be in control and move on to the next girl. If there is anything I have come to understand over time, is that trying to find an answer to a problem involving women will always lead you to more confusion, rather than answers.

Most of the time when people ask for these "possible explanations" they are really asking for what they want to hear. Something that fits comfortably within their own life narrative. I have been there before. Hoping to get my perfect answer from the "community" so that I could be like "that's right! what a bitch"!. But it doesn't change shit and it won't matter at the end of the day.

The most likely answer is she is getting cock left to right and centre and is only contacting you when better options have disappeared (a.k.a guys with their shit together and realised this chick is a waste of time). Of course, on the other hand, she could simply be a shit communicator (like most women). The issue is that none of these answers will really matter, your confusion and uncertainty will continue, whether or not you get 1 or 1000 possible scenarios thrown at you. So to avoid this remove the source of the chaos itself (the girl).

[–]RaughKee1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

With all things digital it's an attention economy. I've become very aware of this over the past year using mostly digital means to initiate dating. You need to look at your schedule, start the conversation about 2-3 days out from when you have time to meet, be fun flirty and light, go for the physical meet up. Have a couple options available for dates/times. If the first meetup goes well, you need to reinforce it within a fairly short (week or less) period to cement anything. All those who say "text only for logistics" are missing out on plenty of opportunity to do some easy gaming from the couch. Invest nothing in it, because until you have something truly established in the physical world you are both just imaginary internet people. Don't be a validation whore, flirt and set up a meet. Have multiple options.

In this case, you lost her attention and are likely not getting it back. Next.

[–]adonis_syche2 points3 points  (7 children) | Copy

Bitches like fishes. Download a stock image of a fish and send it to her. Preferably HD. Wear your creative hat and write a 50 word article on what you think about fish, as in all the negative traits. Like they die when taken out of water, taste bad etc etc. At the end, however, add this "Despite of all these flaws, I'd rather go out with this egg laying monstrosity than with you. P.S : The package is on its way, kindly cook properly before eating"

Mic drop...panty drop....guess where the mic goes. Ofcourse with mic i meant carrot, and with carrot i meant "willy the one-eyed magic monster"

[–]adonis_syche1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Boom laka laka laka shook shook Bomb!!! Don't even

[–]cojohnso0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Wtf

[–]Shirye-2 points-1 points  (4 children) | Copy

Iv downvoted you.

K thanks

[–]adonis_syche-1 points0 points  (3 children) | Copy

Your downvote means very little to me.

[–]Shirye0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

I downvoted this comment too.

[–]adonis_syche0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

But what about this one?

[–]Shirye0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I spared this one- im feeling generous today.

You're welcome.

[–]1rad_dynamic0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

she was laying validation bait and you took it.

[–]EarthAngelll0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Another dude has the juice. Sorry friend you did not have the juice

[–]Opioidus0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I never believed in online game and I never will, for every success story there is 10000 stories like this.

[–]LogicalOlive0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Don’t do streaks, don’t post a lot, focus on other shit, and put up pictures of you actually doing shit.

I use snap basically to show that I’m either doing dope shit or I’m improving myself/ some shit.

Example I went to my father’s homeland last summer so I had my cousin record me on a jet ski.

Another one I’m in college and I’ve consistently made the deans list so I took a picture of all the letters.

[–]josh_e_pants0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Some people fuck off as soon as they get affirmation. They're looking for conquests, and you don't necessarily need to sleep with them to qualify as one. It's a hallmark of immaturity.

[–]YesVeryKewl0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

The medium is the message. Also, why are you doing "streaks"? That's too much comfort, it just dries her vagina. You should have told her something along the lines of that you don't do streaks with anyone and she has to earn it.

[–]Thrawy128[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

And when she says "How do I earn it"?

Bearing in mind all she knows about me is what's on my Insta.

[–]YesVeryKewl0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Don't literally say "you have to earn it". Imply it some way. When she asks you to do streaks say something like "I don't do streaks with strangers" That will built attraction. Then you can talk to her a little bit and build some comfort, then you ask her out.

This scenario assumes she is at least neutral to you.

[–]Chad1738 1 points [recovered]  (1 child) | Copy

Haha what a faggot. You have a lot of learning to do, go read the sidebar. This girl literally told you she “wanted a snap streak” with you, that is another way of telling you I want your attention/validation, give it to me. She was never interested.

[–]SidewaysCircle0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

YeAh wHaT a FaGgOt



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