My kids (girl 7, boy 4) like to talk about what they like about their mommy and daddy sometimes... we make it into a bit of a game, but it's an interesting exercise in understanding how your kids perceive you. My wife gets great feedback... she's an amazing photographer, she loves horses, etc. Daddy is "the best worker" and "the best at working out". It's not an unfair characterization, especially from their perspective, but it makes me a little sad that that's the extent of their knowledge to who I am outside of "Dad".
To fight that perception I've taken up learning the bass guitar, and bringing my board with us to the beach, even though I Michigan-white-boy suck at surfing. They're things I'm genuinely interested in learning, so I don't feel like I'm putting up a facade, but my dad passed when I was young, and my stepdad was an asshole, and sometimes I feel like fatherhood is something I'm making up as I go along... but I keep trying to be involved and give them good memories with me, and to be something more than just "the best worker".
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