I Had Lunch with the Chad I Hated Today
Intro:
Picture the worst loser you ever met.
Acne, glasses, hair that looks like his Mom cut it, dyel body...
Now multiply that by 2X and that's me in College.
Now picture my counterpart, let's call him Chang for shits and giggles.
6'2", chiseled jaw, cool haircut, abs, social butterfly
Only thing we had in common is that we were both Asian...
He was good with girls and I hated him for it. Hated him more than anyone else. It was one thing when a white guy or black guy was good with girls, but to see an Asian guy do it, it just brought out that crab bucket beta out of me like nothing else.
I did not want to see this guy succeed. His every success reminded me of my own failure. Kind of like Samuel L Jackson’s character in Django Unchained rofl.
I remember getting super drunk at a party one time. It was my final desperate attempt to take the spotlight away from him.
I approached every girl there like a retard, hammered out of my mind, thinking that I was being the man for being so KAWNFIDUNT but actually creeping people out, now that I look back at it.
Chang used a wire coat hanger to restrain me as he wrestled my drunk foolish ass out of the building.
Body:
So what did I do?
I worked my butt off for 12 hours a day every day for the rest of my college years until I surpassed him!!!
Just kidding!!! Lol
Instead, I took the easy way out and immersed myself in video games for the next 3 years of college.
Meanwhile, Chang was getting pussy left and right, hot girls girls of every race. How do I know? Because his dorm was right across from mine.
I remember sitting there in my dorm playing DOTA like the antisocial phaggot I was. Meanwhile every time I passed by Chang’s dorm room, I saw hot girls playing with his hair (as in actually digging their fingers into his hair and combing it), having flirty conversations...
“Man fuck this guy,” I thought to myself. “He’s not even proud of his race. He’s just a whitewashed piece of shit!”
Now let’s fast forward 10 years after graduation.
I had been working on myself like a mofo
Took a lot longer than others but I finally got shredded at the gym, courtesy of heavy compound lifts (and Testing my Limits Anavar giving up)
Read everything I could get my hands on regarding social dynamics, including everything on RedPill, just about every self help book you can imagine from Think and Grow Rich to How to Win Friends and Influence People.
Even hired several coaches in the opening stages since nothing I was doing in the field was working and I needed guidance to overcome my own blindspots
Finally things started coming together and I got competent at cold approach. Competent enough to spin several plates at the same time.
Competent enough to not have everything be a giant numbers game anymore because I finally figured out how to bring the “Maybe” girls from “maybe” to “fuck yes”instead of only banging girls who were highly receptive from the beginning.
At this point, I decided to call it mission accomplished with girls and start my own business. Ironically enough this just made it even easier to get girls. Funny how working on yourself plays out like that.
Recently I saw that Chang got engaged so I commented “grats man” on his post, while snickering inside thinking I’d finally surpassed him
And you know what happened? “Long time no see Karl, we should grab lunch some time to catch up!”
Fast forward to yesterday and I’m sitting across from Chang, the guy that was always in the back of my mind as this great Nemesis.
And to my surprise, he turned out to be a pretty cool guy.
He’s actually the first Asian guy I talked to that didn’t have a crab bucket mentality and try to drag me down when we got past the small talk and started talking about how we really saw the world.
We could finally relate to each other. Talked about how you gotta tease girls when they act bitchy and their icy exterior will melt right off, how you gotta sexualize subtlety from the very beginning, etc
Topics that if I even began to approach with my old friends would get weird looks...
He was making a killing in CyberSecurity.
And settled down with a beautiful Asian girl.
I asked him why when he was banging so many hot girls of all races in college and he said that as far as he’s aware, every Asian guy who grew up in the west has this fantasy of banging hot whites girls to prove his masculinity
It’s just something every minority goes through, to prove himself “worthy”.
Some guys give up and just play video games instead
Some put in the work and succeed.
But Chang said that at the end of the day it’s about compatibility, finding someone that’s actually gonna support your bigger goals and not just be a waste of time.
He said that he used to be the same way, fucking hot girls for validation from society or even to just prove himself worthy but now he honestly just wants to get married to someone who’s chill and supports his goals (as long as there’s an ironclad prenup lol)
I realized that Chang and I weren’t so different after all.
I asked him how he figured things out so quickly without having to read a million articles on RedPill and he said that he was lucky enough to have a really good high school football coach who taught him everything he knows about masculinity in a western culture.
Damn. I thought you were a Natural bro... is every natural just someone who grew up with positive male role models and learned game at an earlier age than everyone else?
And we both laughed about how Asian guys here just play video games all day and race whine on Reddit instead of actually working hard to improve their situation.
How they have the worst crab bucket mentality ever and all act like Samuel L Jackson in Django Unchained (I was one of them)
Long story short, we became friends and even started planning out businesses we could go into together once we accomplish our individual goals
Lessons Learned
Like a lot of other guys here, somewhere deep in the back of my mind, I had this revenge fantasy of showing former Chads in my life how much progress I made.
It’s the classic “revenge of the nerds” fantasy where the high school jock is now flipping burgers and you have hot girls in both arms.
But life doesn’t really work that way.
Chads tend to get into good fraternities in College and things just snowball from there.
In everything.
Girls, finance, social circle...
Their good looks open a lot of doors that were closed to you, as long as they’re willing to put in the work.
So yes, if that revenge fantasy is gonna help you grind out one more rep at the gym and scream “FUCK YOU CHAD!” At the end of the set, by all means use that anger for fuel.
Just don’t be surprised when you have to cut off all your old friends who keep dragging you down.
And find that you actually relate to Chad more now.
P.S. And no, I didn’t suck Chang’s dick, no homo lmao
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