I'm utterly confused about what actually makes a healthy relationship.I see a lot of myself in the character of JGL in the film. I'm handsome in the same way he is, you know where you're good looking but not in a way that the Norwegian guy at the gym of your girl with the face of Brad Pitt and the body of Zeus is not a threat. Like JGL, I think I have a bit of a problem with girls sexuality. That actually never made sense to me about the Tom character. A girl telling me she isn't into a relationship outright would turn me off. I don't see how Tom kept up the illusion he had of Summer as this pixie girl next door who was made for him when her actions showed that she liked to sleep around and didn't value a relationship. Some guys would love to hear that but a lot of guys wouldn't either. Are we to believe that the guys who just want to get their dick sucked are really more adjusted than the hopeless romantic?

Also, at the end of the day, Summer probably had the same fantasy about the guy she ended up marrying. She even points to this when she's like how does it happen that you are reading Oscar Wilde in a cafe and for your future husband to stumble in if not for faith. Summer too is guilty of hopelessly idealised love. The problem was Tom was too into her. In reality, I don't even see how Summer ended up with Tom if she didn't like him. I think she did like him but she had to meet someone who believed in love to open her eyes to its possibilities. The problem was that Tom was her learning curve, when she met her husband she was ready to feel "what she never felt" with him