I was browsing askTRP today and I saw someone ask if he was being an asshole for not spending time with his LTR on Valentine’s Day. He said he told her early on that Sunday’s are a day for him, and he doesn’t change his plans. But Valentine’s Day is a Sunday, so you can see the issue that arises. He doesn’t give a shit about Valentine’s Day, and she obviously does. They have issues making plans, and now she’s mad at him. He now doesn’t know what to do because he absolutely failed in this scenario.

I don’t give a fuck about Valentine’s Day either, so I understand his mindset. Valentine’s Day is a holiday about love, or should I say men buying stuff for women. But I’m also single, so I don’t have to worry about bullshitting this holiday. If you’re in an LTR, you do need to worry about it.

You signed up for the LTR, she is not your plate. If you want plates, then spin plates. I saw someone in that thread call Valentine’s Day a woman’s Super Bowl, and I thought that was a perfect comparison. This is a day women care about, this is when the hamster goes full force. If she’s in an LTR, her hamster is going in rapid circles thinking about you. If she’s single, her hamster is running around in loneliness. If you go all alpha on her and say ”I’m not hanging out with you on Valentine’s Day even though you’re my girlfriend” your “frame” is already broken. If you won’t spend time with her on Valentine’s, she’ll find someone who will.

Now let’s go back to the title. If you have never read the 48 Laws of Power by Robert Greene, this is law 38:

LAW 38: THINK AS YOU LIKE BUT BEHAVE LIKE OTHERS

If you make a show of going against the times, flaunting your unconventional ideas and unorthodox ways, people will think that you only want attention and that you look down upon them. They will find a way to punish you for making them feel inferior. It is far safer to blend in and nurture the common touch. Share your originality only with tolerant friends and those who are sure to appreciate your uniqueness.

So let’s apply this to Valentine’s Day. If you’re in a LTR, what is the smart thing to generally do. Be a chest thumping alpha and tell your girlfriend you hate Valentine’s Day and that you’re not spending time with her? Or will you behave like the rest of society and give in this one day?

I’ll let you decide for yourself.