I’m happy to see women on social media (mainly TikTok) speaking out about the dangerous glorification of sex work. She’s speaking facts!

Bitchbasic · 2021-02-13T00:28:25+00:00

Yes as an ex-sugar baby all these girls go into it thinking it’s so easy (like I did). But here’s the thing. Even if you aren’t doing anything sexual, just meeting up or even texting and pretending to show affection and adoration for this creepy old man is exhausting. More so than any other job I’ve had. It’s not “fun”, it’s work. It’s exhilarating, for sure, the first few times you get a grand (or a few) dropped into your cashapp, or the first time you get a nice bag gifted to you.

Some of the guys are better than others. None are great. They’re all attracted to two things: your body and the smoke you blow up their ass. They like to have power over you. They like to think they can get you to do whatever they want. Maintaining the balance of not being “easy” while still being alluring is very, very difficult. Very few girls naturally have the sort of personality required for it.

If a woman is in her early 20’s and starving on the street with no other options, I’m not going to shame her for making an impossible decision to get herself out of that position. But for people to tell younger girls that it’s a great thing to do?

Something I’ve noticed is that girls with sugar daddies will post videos of their interactions on TiKtok, and the comments will say “Aww he’s so wholesome. he just wants to feel young 🥺. Protect him forever. You better treat him well!!” When the girls will (rightfully!!) say: he’s an adult, he knows what he’s doing, they’re shamed.

But these men aren’t innocent. They aren’t giving out free money for fun. They don’t want to feel young by going on cute date trips. They aren’t looking for love. They want to exploit a young girl for her body. They are not naive. And to be honest, every sugar daddy I ever interacted with would tell you this upfront.

Sugar life is a transaction. Everyone involved knows this. And recommending it to young girls is misleading and WRONG.

Warm_Ad6994 · 2021-02-12T19:29:49+00:00

What’s really sad is all the young women hearing how it’s normalized and glorified are going to get into sex work and then regret it and never be able to take it back after. Once you’ve put your naked body for sale on the internet you can never take that back. You will lose family, friends, potential job opportunities and more. And for what? Because the likelihood of making actual full time income off of it is very rare.

kittykittywoofwoof · 2021-02-12T19:11:41+00:00

*and glamorization

Forwardgash · 2021-02-12T21:38:29+00:00

Also customer service is already BRUTAL but now the customer can demand to see whatever intimate part of you they feel like. Nothing is off the table because it’s harder to enforce limits. Many sex workers are raped by their johns. Imagine making an intimate act into a marketed package. You’ll never see sex the same way. You’ll always have the dirty, fingerprint smudged lens of all the profane and degrading things said and done to you, or demanded of you. Does anyone ever stop to think that when a woman makes herself for sale that she is giving something of herself away that can never be returned? Some boundaries that you cross change you forever. You, your body, the one thing that is hidden for your own pleasure or viewing or sharing should never be for sale.

Also I cannot even begin to explain how incredibly jaded you get when you realize the men who patronize your photos or your services or whatever are always men in relationships. They have some sweet, cute profile picture of him and his wife but he’ll pay you to put it in your butt because why...why...??? Just because he fucking can. FUCKING UNREAL.

rebel4acause · 2021-02-12T23:08:56+00:00

What's scary is that these girls straight out of high school (or even still in hs!) have NO idea the true impact of what they are doing. I'm in college and I know 18 year olds with OFs. They think that it's easy money and that they can keep it a secret if they don't show their faces. They're playing with fire. Once your body is out there, it's out there. No take backs. They do not have the maturity or cognitive ability to think through the real-life consequences of their actions. They are innocent and naive and misled by ladies like the one on the right.

HighPriestess31 · 2021-02-12T23:25:11+00:00

DAE remember that article where the young lady got fired from her job as a mechanic because of her OF account? This kind of stuff happens all the time. It's so eMpOwErInG to show your body, and yet it can utterly ruin your chances at having a career or a normal life.
Or how about this woman who was stalked and had her photos leaked?
It's so dangerous that other young women are encouraging this and pretending that there aren't consequences.

BlueJeanMistress · 2021-02-12T21:18:43+00:00

This is the one sub on Reddit that actually has the guts to call out sex work. I frequent other subs that validate it and call it a legitimate career. It drives me crazy.

Maingurl · 2021-02-12T22:58:56+00:00

There was this young girl on Twitter who was planning on starting an OnlyFans account. Mind you the girl was still in high-school!

Multiple people tried to convince her not to do it BUT YOU WANNA KNOW WHAT SHE SAID, "But sex work is work tho? How else am I gonna pay for tuition?"

Like how did we get to this point!? It really is a shame!

🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️

PasDeTout · 2021-02-13T01:48:57+00:00

I’m a 90 Day Fiancé fan (we all have our vices!) and almost literally every single woman on there is on only fans including a pregnant woman who is probably being coerced by her husband. I just can’t get my head around it.

Content-Floor · 2021-02-13T02:57:41+00:00

I said this exact same thing on Webex last semester in my psychology of women’s lecture. I told my fellow classmates that sex work should not be glorified; and to make a long story short, I was attacked. People were saying I’m just as bad as the men for slut shaming women who sex work. Oh, and they also said sex work is liberating...blah blah blah. I’m 23 and it’s devastating to see that my peers feel this way, they have given the men exactly what they want and they simply think they’re liberating themselves.

Magnolia_Mirage · 2021-02-12T21:36:13+00:00

She's completely right. It's not worth it. Nothing is worth lowering your self-respect and love for yourself.

Unlikely-Marzipan · 2021-02-13T02:41:54+00:00

Yes! Tell it how it is. Do not put a price on your energy. These girls who promote it swan around like its easy money because they are attractive, and think these guys genuinely like them. They talk about how sweet these guys are. Yea of course they can be to groom you initially, but what do they say behind your back? What do they really think about you? And no, we shouldn’t care what people think - but we should care if people are manipulating us and laughing inside thinking they are getting one over you.

I watched a YouTube video on psychopaths and the first clip was a guy who groomed his step daughter when she was a baby so she would be the “perfect sex partner” when she’s slightly older. And you know what he said? “The easiest way to get something from someone is to be nice to them. Do things for them. Flatter them.” He blatantly said it’s manipulation. This is what these guys do.

All the money in the world cannot buy you self respect.

kittykittywoofwoof · 2021-02-13T03:57:58+00:00

I bartended for many years part time. It’s so similar to sex work in many ways. You have to look sexy to be tipped. You have to entertain drunk, aggressive men sometimes for HOURS. When I worked at a neighborhood bar I’d have “regulars” who’d want to talk to me about their interests for my entire 8 hour shifts and god forbid if I had to walk away for a second. There were times I had to ask my now exHusband to meet me and walk me out to my car.

The money was great but I felt so hurt and disrespected. Nobody cared about my interests, my accomplishments, what made me interesting. And if they did it was used against you. It’s a lot of energy to put into people who don’t care about you. When you’re feeling 100% it can be fun. But on days you’re not, it’s demeaning.

atreegrowsinbrixton · 2021-02-13T01:30:36+00:00

I made the mistake of commenting on ARAD about why prostitution SHOULDNT be legalized and everyone just downvoted me and told me women LIKE being objectified for cash and that clearly i hate women! Then i unsubscribed because this is reddit and nobody actually cares about women UGH

smol_kitty · 2021-02-13T01:18:21+00:00

I think the allure is so heavily embedded in the fact that young women do not have permission (societally and from themselves) to step into their intelligence, intellect and power, because this would make them undesirable to the straight male. It’s a means of gaining some kind of personal and financial authority without, on the surface, upsetting or making themselves unattractive to men. Of course almost no men would willingly date a former sex worker but once the damage has been done it’s too late for young girls to know.

Voobles · 2021-02-13T01:31:45+00:00

Low key how many other ladies here are radfems? I love all of you for calling out SW for what it is — MISOGYNY!

feiyue-over-converse · 2021-02-13T05:15:54+00:00

Ayyyy!!! I know the girl on the left!! She’s awesome and has a great message 🥰🥰

Title	I’m happy to see women on social media (mainly TikTok) speaking out about the dangerous glorification of sex work. She’s speaking facts!
Author	kittykittywoofwoof
Upvotes	2158
Comments	97
Date	February 12, 2021 7:10 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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