One of the most interesting patterns I've noticed among FDS haters is that their "criticism" for us is usually a projection of their own fears, anxieties, biases, political beliefs, etc.

This is a phenomenon that mods have coined: "a Rorschach test for misogyny"

Right wing misogynists dismiss us as "a sub full of bitter black women" and that we're all obese, ugly, radical leftist antifa female incel single mothers who want to imprison and/or castrate all white men.

Left wing misogynists accuse us of being "white feminists", alt right white supremacists, tradcons who hate LGBT people, and "literal nazis who promote eugenics"

Recently, FDS has been targeted by QAnon, a disproven and discredited conspiracy theory. QAnon claims that Female Dating Strategy is a "democrat deep state psy op" and that we are "a cult that harvests the blood of babies." In the past few weeks FDS mods have been getting a lot of fucked up modmail from the lunatics who adhere to this ridiculous conspiracy theory.

Unsurprisingly, left wing misogynists have been coming up with their own conspiracy theories. There's an FDS hate sub with a stickied moderator post claiming that FDS is a cult and a branch of QAnon. A certain "anti" hate subreddit has accused us of being "an astroturf movement intended to radicalize women into white supremacy" (I'm not exaggerating, that is a word-for-word quote) and "using religion" to oppress others. One of their moderators has accused us of colluding with alt right white supremacists, and has implied that FDS was involved in the storming of the US Capitol building, among other ridiculous accusations. Other posts have suggested that FDS users aren't even women, just incels LARPing as women, to give alt right men a strawman to use as "evidence" to confirm all their paranoid incel thoughts. Still others have accused us of being a front for a "eugenics program" intended to recruit women into "breeding genetically elite soldiers for the US Army" by eliminating men with "low tier genetics" (they link to threads where we discuss our physical preferences such as penis size, height, not being obese, etc. as "evidence" of eugenics).

Needless to say, most sane people who actually bother to come to our subreddit end up realizing that's all bullshit. The truth is that we are a community by women and for women, with the objective of maximizing female benefit in a patriarchal world. Many of our subscribers actually came here under those exact circumstances and were shocked to realize how our actual community is completely different from how we are described (thanks for the free publicity!) Sadly, a lot of people don't bother checking us out at all and/or just blindly believe anything they read on the internet.

Predictably, FDS is scaring the shit out of misogynists, no matter their political affiliation. Misogyny is universal and FDS is challenging misogyny on all fronts. We don't let men hide behind their identity. No matter your race, religion, class, political party, porn addiction/"kink" or whatever else, you don't get a pass on being a misogynist. If you are hurting women we are going to shine a light on it, and expose your misogyny for the world to see.

"When they can't control you, they try to control how others perceive you" this is a very common tactic among abusers and oppressors. Men have been desperately trying to get us banned, and when their plan to silence us doesn't work, they devote their energy to constructing false narratives around us.

Well, tough luck. Women all around the world are sick and tired of suffering from abuse and oppression. What you see here on FDS is just a small component of a global movement of women who have had enough.

We at FDS can't control what others say of us, we can only control ourselves. Most of the time these accusations are so ridiculous that we don't even bother dignifying them with a response. Instead, we just sit back and enjoy the free publicity they give us. We love to savor the delicious irony of our haters wanting to silence us, only for them to inadvertently help drive traffic to our sub.

Dear haters: thank you so much for helping to grow our community! 😊