It has been established by this sub that kindness and respect are traits that have nothing to do with sexual attraction by a top post in a previous thread...

So then why it common advice to men that are struggling sexually?

Specific the idea that many women and BP people espounge is that being respectful and nice to women does nothing to exert sexual attraction.

If this is the case then why is it common for advice for unnattractive men from many of these same people is largely (not all) "be kind and respectful" assuming that this is the missing link for them?

It seems contradictory to hold the two contradictory ideas that "kindness and respect for women" matter alot for attraction and they don't matter at all?

Let alone the fact that it's a baseless ad hoc judgement of personality based on results alone which in of itself is illogical.

Curious to hear explanations as to why I may be wrong here.