Female promiscuity and divorce risk is a popular talking point in the manosphere. If you're an ex-redpiller, chances are you've seen some variation of this graph from the Heritage Foundation, which represents how odds of being in a stable marriage decrease as number of premarital sex partners increases.

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It's also very likely that you've seen this other graph linking the number of partners to divorce:

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Numbers might not lie, but they're constantly misconstrued by those with an agenda. This is something I learned about this data from reading an unlikely source: the manosphere itself. While I DON'T endorse the author's views, something I'll expand on later, he makes a very valid point after analyzing the data with greater accuracy.

The Foundation defines stable marriage as one that has existed for at least 5 years. As the blog's author noticed, this definition lumps widows with divorcees and ignores divorces prior to women's current marriage. I'd also like to add that marriages that are yet to pass the 5-year mark are also categorized as unstable. Women who married later and shortly after they were surveyed are more likely to have more sexual partners, as they've had more time for other relationships and casual liaisons compared to women who've been married for a longer time.

When the blog's author calculated the correlation between number of partners before the FIRST marriage and the likelihood of that marriage to fail, he found a very interesting trend illustrated in the graph below:

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Although women with the lowest odds of divorcing were the ones who married virgins, the group more likely to divorce or separate was that of women with two pre-marital partners. This group also had a slightly higher failure rate than that of women with 21+ partners. Women who had between 5 and 20 partners had lower divorce/separation rates than those with 1 to 4 partners.

Based on this data, the blog author urges men to marry virgins if they want to decrease their risk of divorce. This is the point where other research might disagree with him.

As usual with the manosphere, too much emphasis is put on female behavior while very little is said about male contribution to divorce and other marital problems. For example, people with more sexual partners are more likely to pair off with those who also have a higher number of partners, and the bigger the the discrepancy in these number, the lower the relationship satisfaction. This means that seeking a virgin might actually increase the chances of divorce for men who aren't virgins themselves.

Furthermore, the more partners the man has, the less likely he is to report being very happy with his marriage. Surprisingly, this also holds true for women but differences between women with only one partner and those with 11 to 21+ aren't statistically significant.

It should be noted that the correlation between marital satisfaction and number of sexual partners is small and I'm in no way implying that people with higher numbers are damaged or that they should be avoided for long term relationships. So what is my advice to men trying to leave the red pill behind? Work on you emotional health and resolve any issues that lead to distrust and toxic relationship dynamics. Attraction doesn't care about statistics. You'll be having a turbulent romantic life and falling for toxic women for as long as you have unresolved issues.