I think I'm rather funny guy. I normally have low confidence and can't name too many strengths I got, but I can definitely admit that I have a sense of humour and imagination. I often hear "haha you're so funny", or "haha how do you come up with this stuff", or "seriously you should make a funny blog or become a youtuber or something!".
Sure, I admit that these people can often exaggerate, but the truth is, I'm kind of known in my circle to crack jokes and goof around. And there's the problem in the last part - goof around.
I know very well the difference between goofy funny to women and being suave, sexy funny - the problem is that it's not that easy to implement. I can't just suddenly become sexy funny after simply realizing the difference.
I will admit that I made some progress. I managed to be more bold, cheeky and less silly and self-deprecating. It did help me make out with several girls and even get a couple lays.
However, in the majority of my interaction, the goofy side usually prevails, and it's hard for me to get into that sexual escalation. Women I went out with usually laughed a lot, hit me playfully for making fun of them, and said that they enjoy spending time with me. However, they didn't want to go any further, and just wanted to become friends.
As much as it is literal friendzone, it's far from that typical friendzone, when a girl says "we should be friends" out of pity, and then stops giving shits about the guy - they genuinely wanted to meet up and hang out with me and said that I'm funny and interesting (I'm really not trying to humblebrag, if anything, I'm admitting defeat).
The big issue is, being goofy funny is so ingrained in my personality. That's kind of who I am and the way I've been for many years of my life. It helped me avoid some bullying in highschool (typical "don't gang up on a clown" self-defense lol), got me some really good friends, a socially awkward LTR (ex now), FWB, and make some teachers like me despite having disappointing test results.
Have any of you go through the similar process as me? Any tips? Any resources? (books, stand up comedians, movies?)
Wow, thank you guys for all the responses, I didn't expect such a huge feedback, especially here on r/asktrp, where a lot of questions are ridiculed or treated in a condescending way. I appreciate all your comments and thoughts, really gave me a lot to think about.