Girlfriend of 10 Years Cheats on an "Amazing Guy"

red_tux · 2013-11-13T15:12:30+00:00

The best lesson I learned after a breakup is never let your partner become the proverbial patch that completes you. Become a more complete person on your own first. Your and your partner should compliment each others lives, not complete.

Archwinger · 2013-11-13T15:00:46+00:00

We hear this story so often around here that it's almost boring. You can tell the tale in your sleep.

Boy and girl are together for awhile. Things are great. Girl meets another guy at work, a friend's party, while out somewhere, etc. and hits it off. Girl lacks the willpower or discipline to ignore her attraction to a new man and stay loyal to her boy. Girl fucks the new guy and lies about it for as long as she can get away with it. Boy finds out and is pissed and surprised. Deep down, the cheating is partially "his fault" for becoming too comfortable, stepping down his aggressive game, and no longer being as attractive has he initially was, which opens the door for other guys to seem attractive to the girl.

I've said it before and I'll say it again: Women can NOT handle attraction. If they're attracted to someone else, you're done. The second they're attracted to someone else, their mind is going to immediately rewrite history. Suddenly, they "realize" how unhappy they are in the relationship (they were great 5 seconds go). They immediately assume that if they feel this way about another guy, two things are true: 1) something is wrong with their current relationship -- otherwise they wouldn't be attracted to someone else; 2) this new attraction must be incredibly special to be making her reconsider her relationship, and since it's special, she absolutely must follow it and see where things lead. In the very rare case that a girl ignores her attraction and stays with her man, she eventually destroys the relationship with resentment and contempt -- the attraction she passed up literally nags her to death and eats her alive, while she feels trapped and held back by her current man.

Where I diverge a bit from The Red Pill is that I don't believe this is completely involuntary on the girl's part. You can't help attraction, but you CAN help being a cheating slut.

SouthPorn · 2013-11-13T14:24:50+00:00

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curtainmuglamp · 2013-11-13T15:39:01+00:00

Wow fuck this nothing is worth killing yourself over, take it from me.

IllimitableMan · 2013-11-13T11:31:11+00:00

My girlfriend has some very red pill views of her own. She hates feminism, accepts the differences between men and women, believes heavily in monogamy and while she is still a woman, is often able to step back and recognize when she's running on feeling rather than rationality. She's an awesome girl and I'm happy to have her in my life.

These are the best LTR material girls, she's a red pill woman essentially.

I should mention, about a year ago N's mother died and she didn't really deal with it at all, just buried down and didn't even talk about it with E much. Her dad also starting dating really fast, like within' three months of her moms death.

No excuse for cheating, but it does fuck people up and change their personalities.

About two months ago, she told me about how her friend E's girlfriend; who we'll call "N"; had made a new guy friend at her job. He had started talking to her, and had come over to their house to drop something off. This guy stayed for about two hours and chatted with N. When E found out about it (he was at work at the time) he said that it wasn't to happen again, and his girlfriend said it wouldn't.

I hear shit like this time and time again, a woman is in a solid relationship but some new guy with game, looks and charm comes around. Woman can't resist him/her feelings, fucks the guy and cheats. Women have no fucking self control at all. This shit always makes me think of islamic culture, where they don't let women spend time with men who they aren't related to by blood or married to. Everything is separated, including the workplace/libraries everything, a segregation between men and women - because essentially you can't trust a woman to override her own feelings and not cheat, you have to enforce it. It's extreme, but it works.

Eventually my girlfriend confronts N with a pre-written letter saying that if she doesn't tell E that she's still texting this guy and essentially emotionally cheating on him that she'll do it for her in exactly seven days. N tells my girlfriend that she had started talking to E about how she wasn't feeling as happy in the relationship anymore and that she didn't know where the two of them were headed. E, being madly in love with her and what would be called a beta provider by this point in the relationship buys her flowers and tries to make her feel like she did at the beginning. At this point I knew the timer on the bomb was set.

Shows your girl has morals, that's helpful although if a guy games her enough they probably won't overcome her feelings.

N tells E everything... well not everything. First it's that she's not happy in the relationship. Then after E pushes; that she made out with him one time, but immediately regretted it. Then finally, after more and more pushing that she has fucked this guy at least two times.

Hahahaha it's the infamous trickle truth. Woman words are worth little. She was just trying to save her own ass/reputation, she didn't even respect her man of 10 years enough to give him the truth. Women are inherently selfish.

These two had one of those relationships that all their friends used as a measuring stick against. Literally everybody considered them unbreakable. They were the glue that held the group together.

You all thought she was a unicorn but she wasn't. I wouldn't say she's a hoe, but she's an adulterer/disloyal.

Once E has some time to process everything that's happening (he needs to find a new place to live, and start healing) I intend on slowly introducing him to the red pill views, and eventually this sub-reddit. It will definitely be a case of baby steps.

Why has he moved out? Why has she not been kicked the fuck out seeing as she's the one cheating? TRP will be good for the guy, shit like this happens all the time and TRP has probably helped saved a lot of guys from the demons that are inside themselves. He's lucky to have someone like you show him the sub/be there for him, a lot of men have no guys of quality looking out for them.

Needless to say, I know that this sort of thing can happen to me too, and that I am now firmly red pill for good. I may not be the HVM that I want to be right now, but every day I get a little closer, and there is absolutely no way I will ever allow myself to get hurt the way my friend's been hurt. I love my girlfriend, but I know one thing for sure: You can always trust a woman to be a woman.

Yep. You can always trust a woman to be a woman. A woman is only as loyal as her options (hypergamy), this is why I don't believe in LTRs with girls higher than an 8 - they have too many options and the work needed to put in to maintain them isn't worth the high value pussy/aesthetics. Honestly you're better off leasing 8s/9s/10s and only "buying" 7-7.5s in my opinion. It's good this helped you internalise the pill and that you're able to improve yourself from this bullshit. A thin silver lining is better than none.

2013-11-13T15:45:42+00:00

"figuring things out"

aka my hamster is still trying to determine how to rationalize this. This term is giant red flag that the woman can't control her attraction.

hashtagpound2point2 · 2013-11-13T20:06:44+00:00

I see shit like this so much I was about to call repost. This is why the turkey dump isn't just some high school myth.

For those of you that haven't heard of it, those 2 definitions given are accurate. I'm only a few years out of high school and have a bunch of friends older and younger than me, so I get to hear about it every year. Gf and bf go to different colleges, gf meets a bunch of new guys and gets cock hungry, comes back home in October (November for the Americans) and dumps her bf because she's either got a cock or two lined up or she's already taken them.

If any of you have girlfriends and are in high school, get rid of them before you head off to separate colleges, they're just going to cheat on you or dump you within the semester otherwise.

2013-11-13T21:39:51+00:00

Think about it this way:

From the age of 11-12 and onwards, men spend every single day learning how to control our need to fuck everything that moves; the awkward boners, the filthy, nasty daydreams about every girl that walks; the sexual failures, etc.We learn how to control ourselves and our attractions.

Women never learn this self-control because they never have to. Not only are their boners hidden from view, but women from 12-26 are rarely told "No" by a man. They're attracted and they get what they want.

Once you factor in Honor being a male trait and boom.

ULTIMATE_TRUTH · 2013-11-13T14:24:01+00:00

how old are the people in your story?

_Xi_ · 2013-11-14T00:48:49+00:00

The current 'relationship' I just ended was with a girl who was seeing me behind the back of her "google paycheck with a dick", I mean loving and perfect boyfriend of four years. She told me about 6 months in to their relationship the sex stopped because he got sober and then started 3 years of arguing about money, emotional neglect and general unhappyness, but lord forbid she ever leave him because she is unhappy. Then she might have to actually pay for something in her life.

I'm not the first cock she's jumped on behind his back either, it just keeps happening and he never knows because at the end of the day he's too absorbed into his computer and video games to pay attention to all the signs.

This was the last great eye opener for me. Even though I was on the receiving end of some great 'neglected house wife' sex, it really taught me that on a long enough timeline the fidelity rate for any female in a romantic relationship drops to zero.

HeadingRed · 2013-11-14T20:06:57+00:00

Two threats in these type of situations-

She is attracted to someone else.
She's not attracted to you anymore.

Neither one is a definite cheat, but either one can kill your relationship. That's why when we are out together I chat up people all day. It's good for your women to see that complete strangers think you're sharp, and it keeps the idea in her mind that you can get a new one the day after she decides it's over.

Hamster logic #258 - If I think he can't get another woman ever again, I should dump his ass. If he can get women easy I better stick around. Flies against all logic- shouldn't she want a guy with no or little options? He is less likely to stray. Nope, not the case.

Meterus · 2013-11-13T16:05:23+00:00

About two months ago, she told me about how her friend E's girlfriend; who we'll call "N"; had made a new guy friend at her job.

I hope this won't turn out to be one of those things where it's really Opie's girlfriend, and she's spinning a tale to sound Opie on about it.

watersign · 2013-11-13T23:10:14+00:00

your gf should mind her own fucking business

masterrod · 2013-11-13T16:34:41+00:00

Needless to say, I know that this sort of thing can happen to me too, and that I am now firmly red pill for good. I may not be the HVM that I want to be right now, but every day I get a little closer, and there is absolutely no way I will ever allow myself to get hurt the way my friend's been hurt.

Saying it can happen to you is a bit silly. The main thing here is you have no clue why she slept with this other guy in the first place. You don't know what she's feeling, nor do you know how it came about. Yes it could happen to anyone, but you're not in their relationship. It could be something as simple as him not sleeping with her the way she wants, or not "listening".

She's saying the relationship problem was that he was content with keeping things the same. And women in general want things to move somewhere. It doesn't matter where but somewhere. Or in other words the relationship is staying the same, and fucking amazing, but not moving a woman will say her relationship bad. Yes every woman. Women can however silently suffer, but that's a whole different bag. For women passion, is the answer to that relationship problem. Cause it means at least she's going somewhere, even if it will be a transient place.

The beta comment I think isn't really a problem. His problem was is his intent to bring things back to a previous place, versus something "new". If she did something great, and then he hit with some flowers. Then wonderful.

Is she a bad woman for cheating. Well in her mind she gave him a a good 2 months to shape up, so in one way no. There is a possibility however that she's incapable of solving problems within her relationship. Which could make her bad for a LTR. But more likely she thought that her thoughts and feelings weren't heard, cause in her mind if they were the relationship would be going somewhere. (faulty logic) Yes this new guy would "listen", simply hear and spit back to her, cause he wants to screw her.

Could they get back together, likely. Should be up to them...

Should he kill himself? Or harm himself in some way.. He must separate things between what people think of him, and what is really going on . He must also separate his manhood form this and realize relationships are really about skills. And hell sometimes they are hard to learn to do. Man or woman it's hard. The bottom line is she cheated on him cause something was wrong in the relationship. That maybe her coping mechanism. So he must separate from her, and learn about himself. And hopefully his friends will help him. And save the analyzing from much longer down the line.

To your GF. Stopping someone from cheating makes cheating even more awesome or dangerous, which I'm sure happened to be what she was looking for. I'd suggest her to just tell her that what she's doing is wrong. Forcing her hand isn't the best thing. But i say that with a ton of salt, cause i don't' know your GF or this chick either.

Title	Girlfriend of 10 Years Cheats on an "Amazing Guy"
Author	SouthPorn
Upvotes	129
Comments	91
Date	November 13, 2013 11:10 AM UTC (10 years ago)
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